I have had some mental problems for many years and lately I have been thinking about them. They are expressed in the fact that I am always in a hurry. Probably in 90-95% of cases this rush is pointless - I will arrive somewhere 15 minutes earlier or I will be 5 minutes earlier at work or at home. However, I'm in a hurry again. I will give examples. When I drive somewhere despite the fear of cameras and radars, mostly on the highways, when someone bothers me, I start to get very angry and then I want to get it back. So soon I would fight with some Turks in Serbia because they interfered with me and after I passed in front of them and I started to interfere with them, they went crazy. Another example is the rush to work - although I walk the subway, I still rush up the stairs and corridors. For example, when I have to get out of the subway and people are moving up the stairs moving at the same (slow for me) speed, I start to get very angry again, because they really hinder me. I think you got the picture. In general, I want to get rid of this behavior. I don't think it's useful at all, and if I become like most people, everything will be much calmer and more pleasant. I don't know how you can help me, but I am writing in the hope that if anyone else has gone through this, they will share their experience of how they handled the situation.
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And do any of your parents hurry in a similar way in certain situations? I ask because I was the same (always in a hurry), until one day I realized that this was a behavior I had copied from my father. My father, when he is especially nervous and which is often, very fast. He is always looking to be ahead, to be in front of people in every respect, he is spurring and so on. Otherwise, this perpetual rush stresses the body and deprives you of magnesium (there are many studies proving how stress leads to excessive release of magnesium). You can try to take magnesium as a supplement (any form without magnesium oxide).
It's a problem for the whole nation, not just yours ... haven't you noticed that everyone does it? The traffic lights turn green and if you haven't left for the first second, they start playing behind you. And at the checkouts in the shops .... I noticed this absurd rush mostly in Bulgaria, and I have traveled a lot around the world. In England, for example, things are completely different, people are super calm, they whistle, sing in the car and drive .. At the store the cashier asks you .. how are you doing, how is the work, and behind you the people in line are not nervous at all . Then when I came back from England, somehow I had become as calm as they were. And at the bus station I was talking to the ticket seller and behind me I heard, come on quickly .... and I realized that I'm in Bulgaria: D .. The problem is complete, in general we are quite a negative nation and in my opinion this is explained by the not easy history we had and especially the lack of finances, and not the few idiots. :) Travel a little, see the calm peoples, ask yourself where I'm in a hurry and just enjoy life.
To overtake someone, because you are hindered by driving at 5 km / h slower than you want anyway. But after you overtake him, to start interfering with him is a very gypsy number. I would recommend something to you, but they will censor me - in general, you should ... relieve yourself. If that doesn't help, take pills.
This is an anxiety disorder. I recommend psychotherapy.
From the author: To comment 1: My parents are calm. My father is generally a person who gets nervous sometimes, but I've never noticed he's in a hurry. Even when driving faster, it is still within normal limits. To comment 2: Everyone is in a hurry, but I am a difficult case - I am in a hurry more. Mentioning England, I can say that I liked it there, because everything is done so that you don't hang around. The subway comes every minute and you don't have to hang around here for 5-10 minutes to wait for the train. In grocery stores there are 10 boxes, another 5-6 boxes for self-charging and almost no one is waiting. I went abroad and really people there are not in a hurry. I even recently traveled through Austria, Germany and Switzerland and I was nervous about how slowly these Western Europeans were overtaking with a difference of 2-3 km / h between the left and right lanes. It wasn't until I entered Italy that I liked it and calmed down, because there the drivers moved as vigorously as here. I also saw clearly why it is not good to buy a used car from Italy :) Having mentioned the queues in the shops, I can say that this also makes me very nervous. Whichever big grocery store I go to, there are always so many cash registers open that you have to wait in line for at least 2 or 3 customers in front of you, and I have to dig inside to wait. As I said - I am a difficult case and I wonder how to change and calm down. that you have to wait in line for at least 2 or 3 clients in front of you and I have to dig from the inside that I am waiting. As I said - I am a difficult case and I wonder how to change and calm down. that you have to wait in line for at least 2 or 3 clients in front of you and I have to dig from the inside that I am waiting. As I said - I am a difficult case and I wonder how to change and calm down.
This is a problem for many people. It is known as burnout. I was like you. Once I realized my problem, I started visiting a psychiatrist, who helped me a lot.
Try to find the reason for this rush - is it an escape or is a model copied from a parent, friend? One day as I was going to work, I realized I was literally running and clenched my fists. Gradually I realized that this was something normal for me and a symbol of escape and fear of being noticed.
You noticed very well that in England they are not in a hurry, but you did not make the right conclusion. I was waiting for a huge queue at Gatwick. Well, how no Englishman wondered how to rearrange himself! 3, rearranged the whole tail, just stood in front and said he was with me! Well, your problem is a lack of upbringing. How will you change more easily, as someone more nervous than you breaks your bones in a queue. Or more precisely, a bigger village where you think the sun is rising because it has taken to the streets.
I think the author has too much ego. It is evident from his reactions when someone "hinders" him. He is fast to be first in everything and to be ahead of the others, and although no one competes with him, he competes with everyone. Apart from the fact that he lacks one of the most important human qualities, which are nurtured from early childhood - patience. He is suspicious, takes revenge, obviously does not control his impulses - all the features of a very emotionally immature person. It's great that he realized that he has a problem, but he will also have to work hard on himself ...
Number 8 is right! I am bulgarian! I am a patriot! But most Bulgarians are idiots !!! If you recognize yourself in comment number 8 or in the author's description, at least think about it!