Hello, moderators and readers! I have a problem with my boyfriend. We have been together for almost a year and so far I have never finished with him. We have sex regularly, but it doesn't work. For the first six months or so, it ended super fast and I, as soon as I felt pleasure, it all ended ... then it started to last longer. We do it in different poses, there is variety and everything is fine, but I still do not finish. Either I'm thinking nonsense, I'm thinking somewhere, or I'm starting to think it's going to end because he's fast in that regard. And so ... I haven't finished for almost a year. He finishes and asks me why I'm not done ... another time I lie to him that I'm done and he can't recognize if it's true or a lie. I'm embarrassed to tell him I'm not finishing. Before the act, there is oral love on both my and his side, but it doesn't work for me at all. I don't like her giving me oral ... We also tried anal ... Nothing. What to do? Why is that. I always end up alone, haha. Thanks in advance to everyone.
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Talk to him. Nothing will change if you keep lying to him. How do you want to solve the problem if he doesn't even know you have a problem? It will obviously not happen by itself. Success!
It just depends on the man to be a little more resilient - say 20 minutes ... and to arouse you, but a day suggests that when you are together it is so. From you - everything else. You have to know what you like and want it. For example, I end up with a slower penetration, and I can end up in certain positions - missionary or I on top, adjusting my pelvis so that when he enters he stimulates me as I like. That is, my friend has been instructed that the last 5 minutes are a missionary variation and that they are my 5 minutes, and the beginning can be anything that excites him. Just what you do while you're done, you tell him you want it and you insist. If he finishes faster, you tell him that you will repeat anyway :)
Emmy, change it ... What are you doing with it then? You are if you don't make yourself cool when?
And when it's over, don't you repeat? Besides, if you can do it yourself, then he can do it with his hand. The question is do you get aroused? If you get aroused, you should be able to finish with both an orial and a hand, if you can't, with penetration.
I'm the author, hello. I talked to him, tried to tell him in the most careful way. I found out that he watches porn quite often ... he didn't tell me himself, he even started to deny it ... almost every morning before work. He said that he was just watching the video, getting angry but not masturbating. Complete nonsense and lies in my opinion. What do you think? Otherwise he said nothing else, just kept quiet. What to do? I told him that everything was fine, but he seemed to be depressed ... I don't know. When it's over, we repeat, if I get lucky and repeat, but from this stopping and starting again, my desire somehow passes ... and you understand that things still don't happen.
Hello! How old? You sound like you don't have much experience with sex. You see, for good sex, in addition to love, fitting, etc., it is necessary for the man to have the necessary physical data. Is your boyfriend small? If so, don't look for guilt in yourself. Objectively, with a small penis, of course, there will be less stimulation. It is not easy to finish, it requires a lot of muscle tightening. If you can cum on your own when you masturbate, then the problem is in him, not in you. F 30
I am the author again. :) I am 18 years old and he is my first. I have no experience, that's right. Otherwise, his penis is big, sometimes it even hurts a lot when he puts it all in, but be careful. Physically it is more or less good. I'm getting fat and my attraction to him is no longer the same, but I try not to stick to these things.
Drava, I'm a man of 38. My wife and I had the same problem in the beginning - she was 19, I was 22. My penis is a good length, and in the beginning I had to be careful and never insert it completely. This situation lasted a long time. Over time, however, it turned out that it ends every time we do it from behind (not in the ass). This pose even needs length. So she started to like that now we always do it that way. Already when he gets very aroused, he jumps on other poses and even recently took it all the way from the top, which surprised me and aroused me terribly. Also, in the beginning I taught myself to last a long time. I have several ways. One is when I start to get closer, I start to enter more shallowly. If necessary, I stop, continuing to act it with my fingers until I control myself. I also don't let her touch me too much in the prelude. On the other hand, I started to stimulate her not only with my fingers. She stands with her back to me with her legs together, and I put it between my legs and start stimulating her on the clitoris, but without inserting it. This excites her a lot. I guess because it is warm, also with my hand and I press it hard to the clitoris. Already when she gets aroused enough she inserts it herself. Also, when we do, I let her lead the rhythm. She gets it at times faster, at times slower. At times deeper, at times shallower. When I feel that it will end, I loosen my reins and we end at the same time. I don't understand that with porn. I've never been particularly attracted to it, except when I was a teenager. After I started having sex, porn seems ridiculous at times. And why the hell is he watching porn? Do you have different needs (such as quantity)? My wife and I have a different need for sex in the first place. I compensate manually. And she compensates me on the manual, which is incomparable to my own. So in summary - do not stimulate him too much, he must be crazy anyway. Let him stimulate you more. Try exactly what you like. You guide the rhythm. And don't think about other things. Work and school are not for bed. And don't think about other things. Work and school are not for bed. And don't think about other things. Work and school are not for bed.
Hello, number 8! :) I need sex more than the two of us. It happened when we finished masturbating while he was sleeping ... Sometimes we get so tired that he doesn't have enough air and just splashes on the bed and "dies". And accordingly, this is the end of sex. Otherwise, he always has an excuse for a quick end - I aroused him a lot, he was worried that someone wouldn't hear us, his mother was worried that he wouldn't hear while we were doing it, his sister wouldn't be in the room, he was tired, etc. n. There is always an excuse. But when we were completely alone in them, locked up and it ended quickly again. So what is his excuse? I aroused him a lot, of course. I told him to stop with the chicks or at least reduce them, but he didn't think he would finish quickly because of the chicks. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm tired honestly. It disappoints me in every way, be it even paying attention - it doesn't require giving money or spending a lot of money ... It's just his fucking attention. It just disappointed me ...
Hello again, It's a little unclear - if you get so tired, it hardly ends very quickly! An 18-year-old man doesn't get tired of sex. If it's just a prank, you need to change the game. You already have ideas. If you excite him so much (it's really possible - it's still the case with me), then you shouldn't have a problem for the second time right after the first one. Just change the tire to prevent it from bursting and move on. There should be no problem for the third time in a while. What do you fall asleep, even now my wife, if she lies naked, has no sleep, but we already triple very rarely. Manual processing generally works in such a way that it should slow down the first time, and there may not really be a second. If he overdoes it, he may prolong himself a lot for the first time, and he may even go so far as not to have sex at all. But I haven't heard of anyone preferring checks to sex. And you say he watches porn, obviously shines alone. You say that he doesn't pay attention to you ... ... Isn't he in love with a colleague, but only relieves the tension with you? I don't want you to get involved in movies unnecessarily, but it's not bad to look around. Good luck
I don't want to tell you what to do, compromise or look for a more suitable person, because if sex is very important to you, you will look for another, and if it is not important, you will reconcile and find love in other endeavors besides