I have a question, mostly to the female part of the audience of the site, but I will be happy for men to say something if they have an opinion. I'm a man a little over 30 years ago:) ... I don't know how to describe the problem because someone might have to know me to give a specific answer, I'll still try to explain. The whole point is that so far in my life, apart from a fleeting relationship, I have had no contact with women. I can't find a specific reason for what is happening and I ask. Here is the description of the situation. I'll start by describing what I look like. It's a little hard for me to do something like that because I can't judge it on my own ... I've never been able to judge this in a man, but let's say I don't look like Beckham, but I'm not Quasimodo, tall, normal physique, I've been training for a while.
I don't wear cheap clothes, but I have a style. I maintain my body and clothes as much as my time and finances allow. I am interested in computers and this is my profession. I'm not rich, but I earn 1000 leva a month. I can't say that I have specific problems in communication, my colleagues respect me as much as I respect them. I try to be of benefit to the people around me. I think I can have dialogues as long as there is contact from the other side. I treat women with respect and I don't have very high expectations of them. I have interests in many areas, from martial arts to physics. Sometimes I have a sense of humor when I'm in a better mood. Abe, everything is more or less in place. If I don't count the fact that I still don't have a girlfriend ... I accept that the problem is in me and I am ready to change what I need, but I don't know what is this thing that is hindering the work and I don't know how I could find out. The other thing I would love to know is where do you think I can look for new contacts and connections with the opposite sex ... (don't recommend dating sites). I will be happy for any answers, if someone wants to know something more specific about me, ask and I will be happy to answer :)
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most likely the problem is your access to women or something we can't know without knowing you. At least that was the case with me. Dating sites have solved my problems. Male 28
We women want to have fun with the man next to us and have fun. Maybe you need to bring in more sense of humor. You can have all the good qualities in the world, but if you are not a good company, everything loses its meaning.
As you describe yourself, you are the perfect young Bulgarian, but there must be something in your character that repulses women. I have an acquaintance of your age as your situation, his problem is selfishness and stinginess, of course no one tells him, but women run away. I'm not saying that you're like him, but it's hard to judge your appearance and 100 times harder to judge your character. Seek judgment from a person who knows you, a close friend, it may be difficult for you to hear bad things about yourself, but you better know them and overcome them.
dude as described is very normal, and today's women do not know what they are looking for you remember money riches and especially someone who is nasty with them, after all I am a woman and I'm glad that there are those like you, although they are rare my support, however, be careful not to burn that we women are insidious
from the author: I am far from thinking that I am perfect, and my description cannot be objective and I understand that. The point is that whatever this thing I have to fix, I just don't see it, there's no way - my own assessment is subjective. I have friends (only men), I can't complain about that, but everyone doesn't tell me anything, they answer - everything is fine, I don't know what you mean. They may not be sincere and this is an option, but hey, since I have no reference, how can I correct myself? I thought to ask the question to a woman, but it is very clear to me that no one will give a direct answer to such a question, so I decided to ask it here. The truth is, I'm starting to feel ridiculous not to say stupid.
As I read you you look bored at first reading. I am convinced that if a person gets to know you, you are not bored. But, I have the feeling that you leave such a first impression. You fail to intrigue women, to motivate them to want to get to know you. The solution, of course, is not to pretend to be an "oligophrenic." This way you will lose the respect of the people around you. Maybe you'd rather be more mysterious. Not to know much about you, to be interesting to people, to start rumors ... My friend has a lot to do with you. But because he is super secretive, he is interesting to women and he has never lacked suggestions, although he does not train, he is quite thin and dresses poorly. Otherwise he is a great person. I also think you don't know yourself well enough. Therefore, I would seriously advise you to talk to a psychologist. There is nothing shameful, I did it myself and it helped me a lot. When you have a real self-esteem and you are super aware of what your strengths and weaknesses are not only in your own eyes, but also in the eyes of people, then you will know how to properly realize your potential. You could meet women if you sign up for something that interests you. Many couples get together this way. Another option is to take a dog and talk to the owner of the other dogs while walking him :) This last one is a bit of a joke :) Good luck! PS Be sure to be yourself! A lady hates demonstrations! Boronia if you sign up for something that interests you. Many couples get together this way. Another option is to take a dog and talk to the owner of the other dogs while walking him :) This last one is a bit of a joke :) Good luck! PS Be sure to be yourself! A lady hates demonstrations! Boronia if you sign up for something that interests you. Many couples get together this way. Another option is to take a dog and talk to the owner of the other dogs while walking him :) This last one is a bit of a joke :) Good luck! PS Be sure to be yourself! A lady hates demonstrations! Boronia
Boronia gives you very good advice about the dog - otherwise I do not believe that a psychologist will tell you how to get rid of the ladies. I will list things that irritate ladies - to live with your parents - to talk too much about your work - not to have good hygiene - to talk more than them or to talk on the phone ... How can you contact ladies - well find hobbies, go shopping alone - there are a lot of ladies in the shops If you see only a girl, look her in the eye, if you smile - act straight, introduce yourself Otherwise - there are dating sites and agencies. If you have good living conditions, why not - you can look for a foreigner - I'm very serious. Russians may not have a good image, but they are not vaps - there are also very good, modest girls who would appreciate what you offer them. In addition, Russians are quite educated unlike other ladies. The Russians from Moldova are especially bad. Yes, it sounds a bit like buying a bride, but the truth is, if you haven't found ... what do you have to lose? I have Russian acquaintances, they are very grateful for any opportunity to get out of their miserable existence and yes - for them 1000 BGN + a good boy who does not drink, does not beat them is worth it - they would sell both their kidneys for this. You need someone who can appreciate you - the bad thing is that if you have not won the girl, she will look for another as soon as she gets on her feet in Bulgaria. Decide for yourself, but I tell you one thing - there are girls outside our country, and outside your city ... there are a lot of girls who are like you - look for them on the net ... that if you haven't found it yet ... what do you have to lose? I have Russian acquaintances, they are very grateful for any opportunity to get out of their miserable existence and yes - for them 1000 BGN + a good boy who does not drink, does not beat them is worth it - they would sell both their kidneys for this. You need someone who can appreciate you - the bad thing is that if you have not won the girl, she will look for another as soon as she gets on her feet in Bulgaria. Decide for yourself, but I tell you one thing - there are girls outside our country, and outside your city ... there are a lot of girls who are like you - look for them on the net ... that if you haven't found it yet ... what do you have to lose? I have Russian acquaintances, they are very grateful for any opportunity to get out of their miserable existence and yes - for them 1000 BGN + a good boy who does not drink, does not beat them is worth it - they would sell both their kidneys for this. You need someone who can appreciate you - the bad thing is that if you have not won the girl, she will look for another as soon as she gets on her feet in Bulgaria. Decide for yourself, but I tell you one thing - there are girls outside our country, and outside your city ... there are a lot of girls who are like you - look for them on the net ... You need someone who can appreciate you - the bad thing is that if you have not won the girl, she will look for another as soon as she gets on her feet in Bulgaria. Decide for yourself, but I tell you one thing - there are girls outside our country, and outside your city ... there are a lot of girls who are like you - look for them on the net ... You need someone who can appreciate you - the bad thing is that if you have not won the girl, she will look for another as soon as she gets on her feet in Bulgaria. Decide for yourself, but I tell you one thing - there are girls outside our country, and outside your city ... there are a lot of girls who are like you - look for them on the net ...
I don't think the author is boring, rather it may be difficult for him to relax in front of a woman he likes. He says that he can have a conversation, as long as he has contact from the other side, which may mean that if he does not feel the interest of the woman against himself, he himself becomes an uninteresting and unattractive interlocutor and everything starts from here ... And a woman does not always can be intrigued immediately. Otherwise, as you listed number 7 - if really none of the 4 irritating things are not present, I see no reason why women do not like you. And as for where you can meet women - the internet is not the best place in my opinion. I have been alone for some time and I want to tell you that for 1 year I was registered on a dating site and during that time I did not see a normal person. And for my part, I wonder where to meet a decent man ... But that's another story. Otherwise, there are options with shops, various courses, sports or through friends, but I'm a little over 30 and I know how the social circle around you shrinks over time. However, I wish you good luck in the future!
Maybe your very behavior betrays that you are desperate for a relationship. Drive it slower and whatever happens - that's it. You sound like a decent person to me. Success!
Hello, author :) All the writings like that maybe you're bored, that maybe you live with your mother, that you need a sense of humor ... it's not true. Do you have a social environment is the question? An environment in which to meet and choose or she chooses you? I am a woman with a similar history. 170, 67 pounds, blue eyes. I'm not beautiful, but they look at me. I haven't had a relationship for several years ... because I don't have a social environment. Because when I like someone, I act like I'm under stress - stupid. And I have a sense of humor, I know enough to have a decent and interesting dialogue. Or maybe some people just don't do well :) :) And I think like the ones commented above: Go to a course, a dating site .... the more people you know, the statistically the chances increase. And I don't think the sites are all bad people "not normal." I also went to such a site,
So you just can't do anything and your ass to burst from lessons and various nonsense to catch them easier will not happen. And I'm in this hall, this is a vicious circle and there is no way out of it, you can't do it and give it up so much.
dude reconcile you will never find a wife and i am like you all women are very bloated can even hurt you all the worst can be expected from them i for example tried to find a serious girlfriend for many years and I was convinced that they are terribly crooked and inflated only money they are interested in nothing else there are no decent women remember it from me accept what I tell you you have no idea how many women I tried to meet to make friends all say the same thing these are the facts you and I are ugly nature so no no state i can tell you last don't hope that you will find a woman this is an unfulfilled dream goodbye
Purely statistically, not everyone can do well with money or women.