Hello! I will drive straight. I am a woman of 25 years. I have had a mental and nervous problem for two months. I have a friend for half a year / he is my age /. The first 4 months it was all a fairy tale. We were inseparable, it was a pleasure to be together all the time. One weekend I had to work, and he went for the weekend to pick up his mother and sister from the sea. He kept writing to me about how boring it was without me and he couldn't wait to go home. I didn't suspect anything was wrong. Two days later I found out, I received a call from my friend, who told me that she had seen my friend in Burgas for coffee with his ex. I asked him, it turned out to be true, he hid from me so as not to get angry / blah, blah - the usual clichés say /. I've had a problem ever since. Something in me broke. There was a heaviness in the chest, constant anxiety, daily headache, I sometimes experience panic fear, but I also don't know why, lack of appetite (I force myself to eat), insomnia, which affects me worse every day. I took measures and started taking Sedative PS - homeopathy. For a month and a half, I recovered imperceptibly slowly. I even started smiling at last. Until I realized he had lied to me again. Then all these symptoms returned in full force, increased tenfold with a bonus - hysterical crises. I have already been in crisis several times. I'm going crazy from nowhere. The only thing I want is to be as rude to him as he is to be rude to me. I start talking nonsense, with a clear awareness that in 5 hours I will be sorry. I throw objects ... horror. And I can't control myself. I don't know what's happening to me. I'm scared. I've always been calm, and for the last two months I've been acting crazy, sometimes as hysterical. I'm asking for help. If anyone has been through something like this, please advice. I can still say for myself that I am a stupidly proud person. Out of pride, I have not yet shared my problems with anyone. Pride and shame ... Shame that I am so weak. Just one more line I would like to draw. Please, no hate. I need help and support. I am unstable at the moment and negative comments would not help me. Thanks to everyone who read my story. I follow the topic and look forward to your advice. If you have any questions, I would be happy to answer. I need help and support. I am unstable at the moment and negative comments would not help me. Thanks to everyone who read my story. I follow the topic and look forward to your advice. If you have any questions, I would be happy to answer. I need help and support. I am unstable at the moment and negative comments would not help me. Thanks to everyone who read my story. I follow the topic and look forward to your advice. If you have any questions, I would be happy to answer.
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Don't live so much! You will ruin your health because of nonsense! If you can't stand such moments, you better not deal (for now) with relationships and men at all. In the meantime, start drinking not some fictional homeopaths, but highly concentrated and purified fish oil - at least 3 grams of pure substance (DHA EPA) per day. You will live for a month and no more depressive states and panic attacks will happen to you anymore.
I will ask you not to say that you have mental problems, because those we have, we really know what it is, no - you do not have mental problems, just rest and termination or clarification of the relationship with the person - will help you. But never call this - mental problems, you better not know what it's like to have deviations and not be able to live adequately, although - what is adequate, some norm or, simply, to be able to get out of bed , and to have a desire for life. It depends.
You have mental problems, so seek a psychologist. The young man is not to blame for what he drank coffee with his ex ?! You have a problem with yourself. Leave him, heal yourself and then look for another, without obsession, without control, without a sense of ownership. Success!
Your problem is that you hide negative emotions in yourself. You say yourself that you are a person who is not willing to share - you have not yet told anyone that your friend is lying to you. The solution is only one - to break with it. Today. Right now. You don't need any medicines, no pills, no homeopathies and whatever. You have to learn to express your emotions in a way that is appropriate and profitable for you. And I suspect that not only with her men, but in general. When you have something to say to someone, say it immediately, or at least as soon as possible, when it will be convenient to talk. Also, start sharing about yourself with someone close to you - a friend, for example, or a sister / brother, if you have one, who must be a person your age and preferably also a woman. Call such a close person tomorrow to go out for coffee and tell her everything about this man, but first break up with him as I already told you. And to know that many women and men have had their halves lie and use them, you just have to move on.
Are you standing with a man who makes you a penny? Ruin your health? Were you proud? Are you sure you're not bipolar? , Sorry, but if you were proud to have dumped him by now. Not for them to see what is causing you and to continue in the same spirit. In my opinion, this man hates you for some reason ... Go to him, beat his jester and then you will see how your problems disappear. Not to become a drug addict and while crying for him, let them sleep with someone and have fun. Get tight and find a normal man - the man must have morals, yours does not.
Honey, for your reassurance, I guarantee you that most girls go through that too. Finally, as a gift we receive the remark "you are hysterical". You are terribly young and I will only tell you that there are no irreplaceable men. This one feeds on your misfortune, otherwise if he was a real man he would have warned you in advance and asked for permission. He's actually a doormat boy. Let him go for coffee with his ex. You will put it in its place by dumping it and showing indifference. Life goes on, dear girl! Give yourself a chance to meet the man from whom you can learn something good, not how to take antidepressants.
I'm in the same situation, from a meek girl I turned into a monster, but I literally go crazy, I just get hysterical, I don't think what I'm doing, what I'm saying, what I'm throwing. After all, I can literally say in these moments that I'm going crazy or turning into a monster. I make it for everyone, without thinking, without wanting. It's just that there are no terrible dramas of life and death, because in reality I can no longer control myself. I scream like a hysteric while my throat hurts, often my family tells me that the way I push myself, I will fall. I would advise you - far, just far from this person, your problem is related to him. Remove the irritant to continue, what unlocks these negative emotions - just remove it from your life. Don't believe that something will change or at least for me, nothing will change, for over 3 years I got to the end of my nerves. One, two, three ... five, six ... and so on, and it never stopped, it never will. Man is what he is, sometimes we give too many chances to be fooled, while there are thousands of men on the spot, but after such relationships we lose confidence in everyone, and even with these emotional instabilities that leave lasting traces we begin to we repel people. We create the impression of eternally grumbling, unstable and even crazy - eternally dissatisfied, nervous women. I can say for myself that at this stage I can't have a relationship, and if I have I will just drive the person crazy, he will leave with 200 on the first scandal, and for me they are everyday. Darling, I sympathize with you and advise you to leave while it's time, before totally, to fuck your nerves and psyche. I'm just trying to control my hands, but I seldom succeed, I beat myself, I push, I shake - I can kill, I just get hysterical. I would never share my problem, but I want you to think, is it worth it? Is it worth ruining you? What's special about him doesn't actually make you happy, it ruins you. Relationships are to make us feel good, alive, in love, in the seventh heaven of happiness. This is missing here, there are lies, there are betrayals, you screw up your psyche, your health and why? Find a person who will make you happy and never, but never believe his words again. "Sorry", not sorry - to have thought in time. Chances are the opportunity to fuck you again - as soon as there are several. Lift your head, get rid of it and everything will return to normal in time, and it will fall into place. Seek if you want a psychologist, it's nothing special, you sit down talking, but you get into a situation and have the right advice, which can bring you back to normal life, but the first step is to lose it. Love it or not, put yourself first, if you don't think about yourself there is no one to think about and no one to help you. Some time ago, after such a relationship in which I ate a fight, and the fool gave a chance, I had come here again. In time, things calmed down, but now a man had reappeared and ruined me. Chances are here is an example with me, I gave, I gave and nothing has changed, except that I have become a radically different person. A man I can't stand myself. Calm down life goes on, a little time and positive emotions will quell the negative ones. Just lose it at first, everything else will fall into place. You can't be indifferent, you can't get nervous in such situations, it's normal,
Hello! Thanks to everyone who commented. To number 1 - thanks I will try the fish oil. I checked on the internet and there are really good reviews. To number 2 - sorry for the wrong statement. The truth is, I didn't know how to describe it - psyche or nerves. I guess my ignorance of the matter was evident. To number 3 - I 100% agree with you. My problems come from myself, not from him. I would never blame him. I am looking for a solution and the guilt in myself. If a person is stable, no one can influence him in that way. I did not want to leave the impression to the readers that he was to blame. Reading the other comments, I realize that this is exactly what I did. To everyone else - I did not mention anything about the person next to me, because I thought it was unnecessary information. I was obviously wrong and I left the wrong impression. Let me tell you a few stories about him. He didn't say a wrong word to me during the time we were together, he didn't raise my voice once. He shows every day that he cares a lot about me - with small and big gestures. We became a support for each other. If I have problems at work or I am angry about something - I look for him to share. The time spent with him is incomparable. He has always been understanding and patient with me. A very smart and intelligent man. I would also like to add that he is a terribly good person. About his relationship with me, I would like to add that he treats me like a princess. He carried me in his arms when my legs ached. I don't know how to actually describe to you how great a person I have next to me. Of course, he is human. And as such, he is not sinless and he is not perfect. He has a past and I respect him as a person. I also don't consider myself perfect. Of course, that I am sometimes confused, that I do not always realize the consequences of my actions. This is something normal and human. The last thing I want is to part with him. There is no way a relationship can be just happy moments. I don't want to end my relationship. I want to deal with my problems. I don't want to throw away something so nice. Just like number 3 wrote. The problem comes from me. I can't lose control of myself over coffee. Number 4 - thanks, but I'm thinking of going to a psychologist. I love my loved ones, but they love me too. Thinking well and subject to emotions, people do not always give objective opinions. Number 5 and number 6 - thank you for the comments. I hope I have described a little better now what my friend is. My personal opinion is that he has morals and does not make me a penny. By simply shortening the story and saving details about it, I have unknowingly created a negative image of it in readers. I hope this comment corrects the mistake. Number 7 - thank you for the comment. I'm sorry you have such an experience with relationships. What I keep saying (sometimes it helps) is that losing control and getting hysterical only hurts me. They don't help anyone for anything, they just ruin me, they lead me to states I can't stand, and to top it all off, I'm sincerely sorry afterwards. I'm ashamed that I took it to someone innocent and I wonder how to apologize. And when I start "picking" from nothing, I say to myself "stop, you hurt yourself, you won't achieve anything". I go out, walk, play music or get distracted by something until I feel that the moment of weakness has passed. I sincerely wish you to find someone who appreciates you and to get through this difficult situation safely. I apologize for the long and probably boring comment. I hope the situation is clearer now and again I ask if there is anyone who has gone through similar symptoms to share. I forgot to write that sometimes I have a strong heartbeat. I will take fish oil as advised by number 1. PP: I wanted to put my topic in the "Health" category. I was obviously confused when I published it. I will be grateful to the moderators if there is a way to move it. The author I forgot to write that sometimes I have a strong heartbeat. I will take fish oil as advised by number 1. PP: I wanted to put my topic in the "Health" category. I was obviously confused when I published it. I will be grateful to the moderators if there is a way to move it. The author I forgot to write that sometimes I have a strong heartbeat. I will take fish oil as advised by number 1. PP: I wanted to put my topic in the "Health" category. I was obviously confused when I published it. I will be grateful to the moderators if there is a way to move it. The author
Interesting… I press comment number 7 and it's as if I wrote the first paragraph. Except that I rarely scream with a full throat, and in an outburst of anger I break and destroy. The solution is probably a psychologist, because things can get worse. And I'm not just talking about myself, I'm talking about everyone in this situation. This condition can develop into something more serious. Author, if this person doesn't make you feel good, leave him. Wait for the time to pass and overcome the feelings so that you can start again with someone who will make you feel wonderful. Maybe you are afraid of infidelity and betrayal and this provokes your conditions. And don't worry, everyone has moments of weakness. It is not a shame to seek help from a loved one, on the contrary. Your Black Saturday
Girl, there are 3,500,000,000 men in the world, you're shocked by a scumbag. I bass on a box of Turkish delight with walnuts, that's just it! Is it so irreplaceable? !! Go to a psychiatrist, tell them what your diagnosis is and offer treatment. After a little treatment, say 2 weeks, you can go to a psychologist. If you don't have the finances for the sessions, you will have to grab your hair and pull yourself out of the swamp. You will need to see a psychiatrist every 2 weeks to let him know how you are feeling with the medication. Good luck, you have the strength, believe in yourself! But, please, dump this fool, and let him go to 2 exes, if he wants!
From n6 He not only did not say a wrong word to you, but he is obviously lying to you without having to speak. Because in order to see your ex, you must first ask your partner for an opinion and how he / she would possibly feel if he / she eventually drank coffee with a person from the past. ;) All this, of course, if you care about the other side. The rest is kill me - I love you plus planting guilt. You composed the topic to justify your friend's actions. Either you forgive and continue with the wrong words and accept yourself as you are, or you forgive and continue somewhere.