Hello! I am 17 years old and my boyfriend hints that he wants sex. I explained to him that I did not feel ready and that one should be prepared for the consequences of sexual intercourse such as unwanted pregnancies and diseases, and we are not. Besides, we both live with our parents and we don't have space, and I don't want to go to other people's apartments or hotels. We have been together for 6 months I forgot to say. He frowned at me, which made me wonder if he really cared about me, especially after statements like - I can't wait too long. What should I do and ask men how to interpret his behavior? And women, have you been in a similar situation and how did you react?
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I'm a girl of 16, it hasn't happened to me, but if he starts to put a lot of pressure on you, dump him. If he really cares about you, he won't press you, he'll wait for you to be ready. In principle, a boy, if he really feels something for you, would wait even a year.
Hello. Well, when you're not ready, don't do it. That he has to is absolutely his problem. If he likes you, he will wait for you until you are ready. To do it only because you have to and because he wants to, and you are not ready ... is not worth it.
Sex (inserting a penis into the vagina / anus) is not necessary at all, unless it is vaginal for the purpose of conception, because the woman or couple wants children, otherwise you can have "sex" without the man with whom to insert your penis. you are. You can do anything ... having fetishes is even more interesting. People are very black and white thinkers when it comes to sex, and there are so many types of sex that a man doesn't have to put his penis in you. Just think about how lesbians do it, it turns out that they do not have sex if we proceed from the definition of normal sex.
Regarding your boyfriend and similar men, for whom sex is the only reason to have a girlfriend / wife - do not deal with such, they are not worth it. There are men for whom sex is not leading, or even so, are prone to many options as I wrote to you in my previous comment.
Rotate the number. I once had sex with at least 5-6 girls, I passed with the sultry November - But you don't love me, do you hold on to me, do you accept me as a human being at all ... And such :) M, does something lie to you. He wants to punch you and run.
Honey, today the times are such that no one is waiting for anyone for anything. It is neither golden for you to wait for a lifetime, nor is it multiplatinum. If you are not ready, then another is long ready and will displace you in an instant.
What's so complicated? If you don't want sex, you don't have sex. Can you ever be ready with diseases otherwise: D? Do not prove anything to anyone, if you are something important to him, he will wait a while. At this age it is very easy to convince someone of sex in principle.
It's like liking a cool dude, get used to it. Come on, let him go faster, then I'll run to another.
When he can't wait, go to another! He has to wait for you.
I think you're both right. I hope you understand me correctly, because I am a woman and, like you, I wanted to feel mature and ready, but it is normal for a boy this year to want to have sex with his girlfriend. These are hormones, this is attraction, this is normal, but not to oppress you. The more years go by, the less they will wait for you. You do not have to comply, but it would be good for you if you understand such desires from your boyfriend after 6 months of relationship. My advice is, if you're not ready, don't do it. It also depends to some extent with whom you will share this moment. With one boy you may not feel the desire for a year, and with another you may succeed in a negative short time. It is important that you have a pleasant memory, not a trauma. That's why it's not good to hurry. I am glad,
I was in the same situation and nine months later my daughter appeared. I'm not saying it will be the same with you, but if you're not ready, just don't, if he really loves you, he'll be waiting for you to feel ready. If you are not on the right path, you will meet another young woman who will respect your decision. I wish you a lot of happiness Calvito and to always decide to defend your dignity, do not let them play tricks on you. Woman of 23
"how do I interpret his behavior?" - interpret in the literal sense! Your boyfriend is not made of wood, and he has a reproductive system. When he is aroused, he must release the tension, otherwise it is harmful to his health. It has happened to me (in my younger years) to unload on the street. My boyfriend and I hugged and kissed for hours, I was so pissed, but she didn't even dare to do it with her hand and after I sent her to them, I couldn't walk on the street, my balls would be scattered, it's a terrible condition , I'm sure other men have experienced it. This is the worst of the sexual revolution, girls have become sexually liberated, they think they are grown up, they start relationships with men, and they are afraid of the act itself. They don't even think about how a man feels in such moments. It's easy for women, no matter how aroused they are, they don't have anything to inflate as much as men. If you are not ready to unload the boy completely, do not deal with boys at all, they are not toys for little girls! To the author, - you take the right measures, that's how it should be, but nothing prevents you from unloading your friend at least by hand (even if he soils his pants), but in such cases he should relieve himself, otherwise he hurts himself! He therefore hints that he can no longer tolerate. Sex is not just in bed and between the legs !? that he can no longer tolerate. Sex is not just in bed and between the legs !? that he can no longer tolerate. Sex is not just in bed and between the legs !?
You will have sex when you are ready. The other (whether he will wait) is not up to you. This is his personal choice, to which he is also entitled. Whatever happens. The important thing is to be in harmony with yourself. F31
If it matters, I'm a man of 33. When I met my current wife years ago, she was also a virgin and I waited a long time. If I had to, I would wait that long. I just knew this was the woman for me and I was ready to wait for her as long as I had to. So don't tie yourself to him. If you don't feel ready, don't do it just to keep from getting drunk. As for him, it's perfectly normal for him to want to. His hormones are raging, the tension is huge, I know him from experience, maybe he has feelings for you. I understand him, but he still has to show understanding and patience if he cares about you. Don't let him press you. And if he wants so much - to break up and look for another.
To number 14: / I am a woman / I do not agree that there is no problem with women as with men with balls! If I'm in the same situation, and I can't have sex with the boy / for example, cycle, lack of terrain, many options / I'm sick later, my stomach hurts and it's not strong at all. And if I don't finish, or I don't have sex, I can't sleep, and it still hurts. For other women, I don't know if I have this problem, but I do.
If he wants you, he will be waiting for you. I have heard many times from men that someone has been playing it for months, that it has been kept dry and the like. It's as if that's the only reason he's with her. Some women need more time because what is the guarantee that after sex they will want to be with you again, that they will not say goodbye to you? I'm not saying it takes a long time, but at least wait a while so that it doesn't come out later that all his talk was just to get you to bed. You are a virgin, and I think everyone would understand you. Especially if you're more shy. Never go for hotels and other people's homes. Yes, it's not nice when you're with your parents, but what kind of boy wouldn't take his girlfriend home and pay me? They may not always be at home like his, and they don't graze grass, they know it will happen someday, whether with you or someone else. They are prepared to have such things, have not fallen from Mars to bother you, or enter the room. And they were like you at the time, and they must have been in pretty comical situations.
Thank goodness it lasted 6m. Otherwise, if you don't feel ready, don't do it. By force, beauty does not happen.
"I can't wait a super long time" - but he tells you directly that he is more interested in fucking someone than dealing with you. Either you give or you will look for another. You are too green, otherwise you can safely tell him that you will not see him again to see how he will run to anoint you and will wait a long time.
You know, your arguments seem ridiculous to me, but for some reason I understand you. Maybe on this topic you look a bit like my girlfriend and with a little luck in about a month and the future bride. We met when she was 16 and I was 18. I was then lying down with an apology. I've done such nonsense that I'm really ashamed when I grow up. I was used to just throwing a smile at someone and now taking off my pants. I smoked weed and pretended to be very strong. One day I met her at a library where my mother sent me for something. I started teasing her, teasing her, chasing her lightly and accusing her of following me, and I was angry that she was just pulling at me. One day I realized that there was a problem with German and I drastically improved so I could explain it to her. And little by little I won it. Good, but it got to the point that I wanted sex. And she was like a frightened sparrow on this subject. And so weeks passed, maybe a month in which we just talked. I put her on my lap so she could snuggle inside me and we talked .... about everything related to sex. And so little by little I started stroking her legs, etc. Finally, when I undressed her months later, I just stroked her, after a while I made her oral. And so on until he relaxed. She began to retaliate. I helped her. I put her hand and moved it. We took a shower together. And we talked again as in the beginning. And so, when he was about 17 and a half, we did it. I'm telling you this as a suggestion. If you're still scared, because at least my girl was just scared when she said she wasn't ready. So my advice is always with a condom first. Second, try some of the things I do. And last. If you love him, don't let him go. I'm not saying you have sex for him, but you can try to caress the ball. That way it won't be sex and it won't hurt. You'll get used to these things. You will satisfy him at least a little. She offered it to him and let him act. Good luck. M25
Most men are like that. They lose patience from waiting because they want sex and the rest is the same, there are many women. Maybe he will cheat on you or find another, a pity but a fact.
Honey, the first time is remembered forever! So if you're not sure you're ready, don't do it! You will have nasty memories for a lifetime. The first time should be very special, with a very special person and it is best to have a lot of time to relax and really enjoy the moment. And not in a hurry, for fear that, for example, yours will come home from work. So it is entirely your right to ask him not to hurry. If he loves you and is important to him, he will wait for you, but he will not insist. Yes, I know young boys are so impatient, but for us as girls it is such an emotional moment, both wonderful and scary. So it takes a long time to decide and relax. You better not do it just for him. Guarantee that you will regret it later. And as you know, you only have one for the first time! Let it really be memorable, not in a hurry, fear and pain. Talk to him, explain to him that this does not mean that you do not love him, but that you need a little more time and you really want it to be special and wonderful for both of you.
Number 21, it was a pleasure reading your comment. It is obvious that you love your girlfriend very much and that it turned out like a book for you - love has made you a better person. Always love each other and have great kids!
Just a dude wants sex - normal! You are almost an adult, and 6 months is not small at all, unless you plan to be honest until marriage. Imagine what's wrong with him! Surely a lot of people ask him if you are intimate and why not? At least he is uncomfortable and a prerequisite for jealousy and doubt.
№17, does it matter what you put inside !? This is tension, and itching, which is easily scratched by various means. And another thing, when you are in such a state, can't you tell the boy about it and not arouse him, or if you arouse him, why not relieve him in other ways - there are many? Is it fair to light his wick first and then let him struggle? Remember what Georgi Minchev sang about love - "let's love each other without undressing, yes, but I'm not made of wood". So, as you do not want to bring the boy to the end, it is better not to deal with p "U" shki! There is a luff, is there a rifle on the stage, it will definitely explode, so it is in love, after each meeting, the rifle must explode, ie, to empty! The author should not write on forums, but learn something about the male psyche and then make love,
God, people still live in the 15th century and in fairy tales ... It was a very special moment !!! Very wonderful experience and at the same time terrible ... what a drama !!! ! Due! is to wait for her. Trauma could remain! What are you funny about? At the age of 17 she trembles as if she were 7 and she won't be fucked, but her intestines will be turned over, I had to wait for her, nobody has to, nothing in those years are knocked out. And it's perfectly normal. Or maybe your boyfriend doesn't particularly appeal to you, or you're frigid like the one on top with the special moment. Both waiting and not waiting can still dump you in both cases. If you are wondering, like some in the comments, how to twist it so that it stays tied to you, just to pretend that you have a boyfriend, then the topic should have a different title. "Special" a person in 99% of cases sooner or later becomes a former special person. The special moment turns out to be not very special. Get out of the fairy tales, the reality is completely different. And to mention that I am a woman.
When you're not ready, just don't do it, you decide for yourself. But here's the question, if you don't want to have sex, why did you catch a boyfriend? It is normal for him to do it, in these years it is leading, and also in the future, a healthy, young boy - quite naturally. And 6 months is not small at all, it's not like he hasn't been waiting for you ..
Have you heard of condoms? With them you will not catch any diseases, you will have nothing child. Being ready means wanting to do it with this person, and about the consequences I said there is a condom solution. I cut only those who do not want a condom. Believe me, there are many such men. Otherwise what, will you wait for the marriage?
To number 28 I'm a woman too, but I still don't think this moment should be so depersonalized. It matters what the first man is like, it matters what impressions the girl will have from her first sex. It matters whether they love each other, whether he knows what he is doing, whether he is wearing protective equipment or not. Who says anything, but the first time is not accidentally remembered, and the first man. It doesn't matter if it's just to get it right or because you really want that person. Yes, nowadays it is not who knows what, but no one can convince me that it has no value.
Number 28, yes, probably teenagers think like you en masse and that's why we are in the first place in teen abortions. Because it's a big deal that we're not ready! The important thing is to have fun! And don't let our boyfriend dump us! And then when he gets white, we'll think about him. No one claims that this will be the only man in the author's life, nor that she should be careful for the first wedding night. We simply advise her not to do something by force, something that will remain a bad memory for her, because she will do it not because she wants to, but only to please a kid who is most likely guided not by love but by raging hormones. And if you want, at 11 you have sex every night with a different one. It's your right! As the author's right to refuse to do something that obviously worries her.
Up to 27 It's funny to read you. Tell her, after every greeting with a beautiful woman do you ejaculate? Or do you make her touch you :-D How long have you not had sex that you so pitifully ask to be touched? Seriously, stop writing your tanned nonsense that little girls will seriously decide that they have to satisfy everyone who's upset so it doesn't hurt, poor thing. Find a wife and stop grumbling, no one is obliged to fix you on the first, second or tenth date!
When I hear the argument "if he loves her, he will wait for her" and it always comes to my mind, "if he loves him, he will let him go". Grandpa Torbalan
Number 34, to a scumbag like you, only this can come to his "mind" ...
35, he has repeatedly proven himself on the site as Ganyovets, thinking only with his lower head and suffering from a mania for greatness. He left the village of Zavala, went to Norway, but the village did not leave it. If you read his slop from other sites, which he calls "prose" because he experiences himself as a writer in his mind, you will think how sick his brain is.
I wonder, if you're not ready for sex, why do you have a boyfriend at all? Separate, you're obviously not ready for a real relationship yet. No one has to stand dry and wait for you. You can only be ready at 30 ... Don't take it as "you have to have sex". Rather, split up and find a girlfriend - a woman to gossip with until you're ready.
37, if I were in my friend's place and I would offer alternative forms of sex or be boyfriends with her, but to loosen without commitment until she is ready. That will be fair to both. Grandpa Torbalan
“I can’t wait a super long time.” This is a sure sign that this boy DOESN’T LOVE YOU! He just wants to count you now. If you are not ready for so long, then this is not the person for you! You just haven't figured it out yet. If he was your man, you would want to be with him, but you don't. Get him out, if he tells me that, I'll tell him to go to another one if he can't wait for me! Safe from brokers. In my opinion, he is not serious and does not love you, do not give in to him.
39, if the girl agreed, she would not write here. It would be insulting to her and a mockery of her feelings. Not everyone thinks only of fucking without respecting other people's feelings. Typical perverted geek thinking.