I am offended by all men and I would say that I have become a man-hater. For years, I have been forced to do so because of the common belief that well-groomed and good-looking women are empty-headed and mercantile dolls. I have cried a million times why no one understands or trusts me. Men have no pleasure. If you try to look good, then you are a bitch, if you weigh 150 kg. your fever and freak. So what do you have to be to be valued? I'm tired of being looked at like a piece of meat everywhere. Various rich turkeys should be ashamed of me, and modest boys should look down and stay away from me.
The other day I was offered money to become someone's friend. I was so killed, I felt like a prostitute. Behind my back I've heard phrases like "I guess what it takes to dress like that." How can anyone who doesn't know you to spit on you? Each of my relationships turned into hell because of the insane jealousy of how I would find myself richer. My great love has long been denied to me because of the manipulations of his friends and the problems he got into with me. When we go out somewhere, the evening has to end with a fight or a fight with one of my exes. So how could she want to be with me when our relationship turned into a nightmare even before it started? I consider myself an intelligent person,
I do not cheat, I do not look for money and I am vulnerable and shy at heart. How come a man doesn't believe this and doesn't care who I really am, instead of reading in his eyes how he takes me for an empty-headed and bloated bitch? I have noticed that people like me are wanted for lovers, but never for wives. What's wrong with me? And I can love, be a housewife, etc. I can write a lot more on this topic, but I will stop here. Men, don't stigmatize women who try to keep themselves like dolls, bitches, muffins, etc., because you can't recognize anyone on the package.
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It may sound strange, but in life ... what you think is happening is happening. Our thoughts materialize, and as you repeat, "I'm tired of being seen as a piece of meat," they won't look like a piece of meat. Your first job is to get to know yourself better, to stop blaming the world around you for your feelings and emotions, and to look for the solution in yourself. I have your "problem" too. Men play leagues after me, but no one wants me for a wife, and whoever wants me is afraid of the power of their feelings. but is this the peak of life - to become a wife and a housewife, not to be alone ... No, it is not! And I suffered like you ... I was just a sexual object in the eyes of men ... and I didn't want that. I am beautiful, but I do not consider myself a beauty, I have charm, I radiate sex appeal, but I also have my belly and small breasts, and my small imperfections ... apparently I'm just too liberated and it shows, which instantly acts like a magnet. I even did experiments ... I intentionally dressed crumpled, I didn't put on make-up and said - the same thing again! I don't even know why it is. A man told me before that it was because of my look, he invited me and because of my language ... my jokes and my temper are open and that makes people think that I am almost a whore. And I've been with the only man in my life and I'm still sick of him and I can't even think of another. Just don't be offended by the fact that it will get worse and move on! Dig a little deeper into your inner world, look around and become more friendly to shy boys ... they are a native gold ... and those others ... they are looking for a whore. If you want to be like that - with them! Not bad. Your life is yours and you will live it as you made it! Good luck and hugs!
OOook ... Just don't get together with pieces .... There are a lot of men who behave like that (AK And the bad boys) and girls stick to them more often .... But there are men who will look at you as goddess only if you smile at them (A. K. A mollusks) who often happen to be left alone for this very reason .... How can we please you ??
Darling, I understand you very well, but I will tell you the following: with the means so far you will achieve nothing different from the results so far! The problem is not in the men, but in you - how else would you explain the fact that there are millions of walking women who find decent men and are happy with them? So you have to change something - whether this will be the environment (in chalgoteka you will hardly meet a poet, bohemian or professor), whether your appearance and clothing - are not so challenging, whether any elements in your behavior, whether your expectations .. - this is what you will have to judge and decide. And if you are an unconscious lesbian who is just looking for an excuse to get angry and officially "break up" with men - then ... just realize things and take off this stupid mask that someone is to blame for something ... So way there is not one.
That they look at us like a piece of meat is clear, but you are also to blame for your situation. It is not necessary to keep a woman looking too provocative, to say the least. Also the movements, the look are very important. There was a topic for a girl here, after which they constantly shouted at her and it was "unpleasant". The truth is that she provoked them, many other women had similar moments. Of course, this is not necessarily always the case, but if everyone treats you this way, there is something in your behavior. Besides, what does it mean that you will come across one of your ex-boyfriends? How many do you have? Where are you in these battles. I also had such meetings, but it came to a warning painful handshake during the greeting and so on, and we were small. It is terribly humiliating for the person next to you to engage in fights with exes. If he starts it, how can he not get to know you with his time with you, if you are really true? I'm not as attuned as you, but I look good too, guys have tried and continue for more serious things, but I trust them. Of course, my friend doesn't like it, but he really trusts me. How does this work? He just watches how I behave, what I tell him, if I'm lying to him.
You say that the shy avoided you. Well, you talk to them, preferring them. Why did I always have to wait for you (the men) to talk to you? Life is yours.
Beauty cannot be hidden. And no one can tell you how to dress. Once you've decided that you want to support yourself, to look good, I can only congratulate you. The bad thing is that the Bulgarian mentality is such that, as you mentioned, if you are a well-groomed woman, you are a bitch, a paid whore, etc. I advise you, if you have acquaintances abroad, or you have a dream, to go somewhere outside Bulgaria, go and see how they will treat you there. Believe me, I have lived in another country for 2 years and men appreciate their appearance there. They're not like the rubbish here. This is my advice! Good luck, darling! :)
The author: Dear readers, some of you did not understand me or I did not specify. I want to assure you that I am not an unconscious lesbian, as Number 3 convinces me, I do not attend chalgoteks, let alone look for a man there. At this stage I can afford nice clothes, but my style is not naked and too challenging, nor my demeanor. As for the exes he asks for Number 4, they are counted on the fingers of one hand, but my city is small and the restaurants are not many, so frequent meetings cannot be avoided. I don't think I'm guilty of male behavior and I don't provoke it. I do not deny, there are decent men, for sure. But the majority for me are vulgar men with a rural mentality and no matter how many qualities you have, they will stare at your cleavage like hyenas and you will be a bitch in their eyes.
Then try to look at men who do not look at you like a piece of meat. They are very easy to recognize by sight, right?
And I'm offended by your gender, and I feel like a misogynist. Why, because I see everyone looking at those with more money or those who don't stop talking nonsense or drug addicts. It doesn't matter how simple it is or whether it will explode from a fight, but these are preferable to one of the more shy or a little more educated, who knows how to behave, unfortunately I fall somewhere in these categories. I'm not saying this about you, but what everyone sees as "meat" is your gender's fault, because of the facts I listed above. Probably 95% of the young women in Bulgaria watch these things and they do not care at all whether he is a drug addict or a drunkard or whether he has caught a job for a lev. Well, I'm already 22 and just looking around I don't see any quality. I'm just used to being alone and that's it,
I will probably recognize it by sight when I see it, if it exists at all.
Number 10 is right. I am of the same opinion. Pay attention to the shy one, listen to him, get to know him. I think that all those traffic jams are below my level - what do they mean by love? nothing. Gentlemen? -Not thinking. I, in my opinion, and looking at others, am the best in love. I understand from love;) and when I say love, don't understand me sex, because those of them have it in their heads;) Understand Love, mainly L;)
Both among women and among men there are different, it should not be generalized.
That's right and you have a price, no matter how high it is, why are you waiting for them to talk to you and pay attention to the more impudent boys, and the modest dogs ate them. Someone modest spoke on the street and it is certain that such a boy cannot break your heart. These guys know how to appreciate what they have, but most of them find a girlfriend for the first time and would not want to lose her. So act more boldly, and if you like a modest young man on the street ... I don't see why you shouldn't talk to him. :)
Eeeh stupid people one mind can not find: X -Death_Blade ^
I'm also a good looking woman, but I don't have this problem. Everyone wants me as a serious friend. All my relationships have been long and monogamous and I have been in one for 2 and a half years now. But I'm super communicative, positive, I don't think appearance is that important. In a sense, I support myself a lot, but to make me feel good. I have hobbies, interests and men have never been my goal in life. I don't cling to a man, I'm not a leech or a shadow, I'm just myself. I dress creatively and express myself through clothes, I follow fashion trends, but I take only what I like. My high heels are for special occasions, outings or occasions, I am natural and smiling. I consider the person next to me and the people in general and I try to understand them. I say this not so much to boast, but to emphasize it,
The author: You talk a lot about modest boys, so I decided to say something about it. They were generally preferred by me, but here's what happens ... the so-called modest boy at one point gets proud and decides what an amazing playboy he is when I want him. I am no longer worthy of his "divine essence" and he becomes another turkey. It turns out that the decent ones aren't decent either. Number 16, if you like, don't give me characteristics. You don't know me to know how I look and how I communicate with people. Yes, I may have become a cold woman, but life has taught me that if I am not, I will be crushed. It is very good that you came across those who appreciated your good attitude. To know that you are a big exception.
Beauty is a gift of God ... and you have been given this gift. The ancient Romans believed that under the beautiful appearance usually hides a beautiful soul. From what I read I am convinced that you are a wonderful girl with a beautiful soul, with principles and moral values. That's why my advice is to continue to value yourself highly and not to pay attention to various drummers ... when you are very beautiful you have the opportunity to choose yourself and be the first, and not to let yourself be chosen.
Number 16, something sounds like an open "Great Russian Psychological Encyclopedia" to me ... everything is fine, because you love and respect yourself a lot!
I'm number 16. To love and respect myself as I love and respect the person next to me. I don't have a problem with "I'm very cool but nobody wants me" Not that I'm always fine. Life is simply not like that, but I know its principles and I enjoy the small and the big, I know how to appreciate it, to smile and to enjoy what I am and what surrounds me. When I'm in a bad moment, I know that the wheel is spinning and that only if I have bad periods can I appreciate the really good ones. It's all in your mind. You just have to look real. I learned a lot from my grandmother (a wise woman) she said ... "Do you enjoy life and it will make you happy." To the author - do not be so cold. You just stumbled in that direction because maybe you were at the other extreme before and they crushed you. Extremes are harmful. Find the balance and it will have an effect.
You answered the question yourself - you should be valued with dignity, not on the packaging. Apparently your packaging and demeanor create a false impression of your nature. Lily
Hello! I'm 28 years old. I was all sorts of thin, full, beautiful, ugly, sexy and not so much, challenging and irritating. I'm not married, and I'm not in a hurry ... I keep getting to know men and women, and whatever happens. There is everything in this world ... the fact that at some point we encounter disappointment in someone's face is not a reason to stick a label on the whole sex, for example. AUTHOR, if the important thing for you is to be beautiful, be beautiful and do not be angry about the consequences. Of course, every action, behavior, etc. meets its counteraction, reaction, etc. When you are beautiful it is so ... when you are ugly it is otherwise ... Unfortunately, the appearance of any it is taken into account from others. We should not judge them, because for someone else you will be one of those around you. The character and essence of man is what can warm someone's heart, not long legs. or big tits. Very little is needed;) just a little attention to those in need. All creatures suffer from chronic inattention. Everyone fights for him who as they can ... some pretend to be beautiful ... others experience themselves as victims. I advise you to treat every living thing with respect ... don't judge men for being men ... try to see their essence ... when you touch it ... you will see what will happen ... GOOD LUCK! I hope I was helpful. you will see what happens ... GOOD LUCK! I hope I was helpful. you will see what happens ... GOOD LUCK! I hope I was helpful.
I am a man and I will tell you why ... Most men are afraid of beautiful women (me too). It has been proven to be a mild mental problem. They don't think every good-looking woman is a whore or anything, they just think they're inaccessible because they're worried about having a beautiful woman in front of them and wondering what to do with her. They are afraid that if a good-looking girl cuts them off, their problem will get worse. But here you are beautiful (so you say) and you are not a bitch and you are looking for a serious relationship and you want to share your life with someone. DO NOT PUT ALL MEN UNDER ONE DENOMINATOR
to 10: and I'm like that :-( Either we don't look where we should or the girls really got dirty :-)
I read a lot of things that I can think about. I hope one day I meet a man who will prove me wrong. The author
From number 10: The author, where she answered 17, I will say that not to put all under a common denominator, the fact that it did not go with the one in question does not mean, "that the decent are not decent," as you say.
1 and 23 are in my opinion right. Thoughts materialize, read Liz Haley's books, especially Heal Your Life (there's also a movie in the box). By the way, I was impressed by this sentence of the author "I guess what works to dress like that." How can someone who doesn't know you spit on you? ... Dear author - I am a beautiful, even beautiful woman. It wasn't until I went to study in Western Europe that I realized that I was dressing like a light woman ... a peasant. Grab and start shopping only for western brands or best second-hand clothes, because even without wanting to, you can look like a light woman.
To number 27. I'm very glad you understood that about dressing. I also do not live in Bulgaria, but I saw him there, as a teenager and now I am sure. Most women in Bulgaria think that they dress well, but they really look like simple peasants. I apologize if I offend anyone, but the truth seems so.
№25, author, no one is obliged to prove anything to you! Do you remember that if you keep flirting you will be left alone and the problem will be yours, not the men's? And without that in Bulgaria and Russia (there - as a consequence of the Second World War) women are more than men, so you can safely be left alone without any man suffering from it ...
Interesting. Don't give up easily and everyone will learn that you are not easy. It is not so important what they think and what it looks like, it is important what it is, the truth is important.
What can I say that I had two marriages, I did not look at another woman and they gave me reasons for sex and both cheated on me as if it were worldly, but I did not become a misogynist. Should I also start spitting at women, that they are flirts, whores, scoundrels, scoundrels ... So please measure our stories. There are decent women, I guess there are decent men. There are also whores and there are hoikadzhii. If I have offended some, I apologize!
I see myself as if in the position of the author. Exactly the same situation with me. I started dating so-called decent men and I can say that none of them end up staying with me. I don't know why, really, I behave nicely, we talk, we get closer and at one point they run away. I'm trying to figure out what's going on, but I can't. It is true that I am also from a small town and an ugly gossip degenerate can always reach every ear. The last two I went out with distanced me after a week or two, without any intimacy between us, and I spotted them both with their new girlfriends, pretending they didn't know me. Sometimes I wonder - what's wrong with me? Why don't they want me for their girlfriend, serious and persistent? I think the city will have to change, maybe the state, it's not life, just rubbish coming at you,
Girls, I have noticed that men in BG lack self-confidence. Women are no exception. Looking good forever just because you're in a woman's body is a little annoying. After all, it is important to be healthy and happy. This is not about beauty, which I guess is clear to everyone in theory ... but it is important to achieve in practice. This can be done by dear girls, pay attention to the smile and calmness and everything for which a man would stay with you. Men who want to get married do not look for the doll after which everyone turns ... or they can look for such a woman but with the knowledge that she can always go with someone who is better at something. As I said at the beginning, low self-esteem. For this just girls look for men with confidence. Not with MONEY! Look for calm men and they will see what you are like inside and not only outside. :) ONE at 28 years old.