I lost my job a few months ago and since then my boyfriend and I have only been living on his salary. We do not pay for accommodation, our bills are small, but we still rely only on his finances. Fortunately, they are normal - about BGN 1,000 per month. Despite my attempts to find work for these months, I am rejected everywhere. I am a 30-year-old woman with a university degree and a lot of skills in terms of the positions I am applying for, but I am not hired anywhere. I started applying at some point for any position - even for a hygienist, no result. In one of the interviews I was told directly that I did not look good enough and they hired a 19-year-old girl who has no competencies. If the girl is alive and well, it is not her fault for our system, but it just hurt me from the words of the interviewer. I fell into a real depression. Even now it is difficult for me to somehow pour everything, I can barely find the strength to lift my head from the pillow ... I feel like a person not second, but fifth hand ... Things can't go on like this. I have been working since I was a child and the fact that I am not working at the moment, but depends on the person next to me, kills me. And most of all, I'm killed by the fact that I'm not hired because I'm "old" and "I don't look good enough." I also realize that I am a burden. I don't work, I gained weight because I don't go out at all, I started to shrink more and more in my shell and to move away from my partner. It was obvious that this time it would be difficult for me to get to my feet. I just don't have the strength for anything. I have the feeling that just about anything - going forward is not possible. I feel like a person, not a second, but a fifth hand ... Things can't go on like this. I have been working since I was a child and the fact that I am not working at the moment, but depends on the person next to me, kills me. And most of all, I'm killed by the fact that I'm not hired because I'm "old" and "I don't look good enough." I also realize that I am a burden. I don't work, I gained weight because I don't go out at all, I started to shrink more and more in my shell and to move away from my partner. It was obvious that this time it would be difficult for me to get to my feet. I just don't have the strength for anything.
I have a feeling that just about anything - anything, moving forward is not possible. I feel like a person, not a second, but a fifth hand ... Things can't go on like this. I have been working since I was a child and the fact that I am not working at the moment, but depends on the person next to me, kills me. And most of all, I'm killed by the fact that I'm not hired because I'm "old" and "I don't look good enough." I also realize that I am a burden. I don't work, I gained weight because I don't go out at all, I started to shrink more and more in my shell and to move away from my partner. It was obvious that this time it would be difficult for me to get to my feet. I just don't have the strength for anything. I have the feeling that just about anything - going forward is not possible. and depends on the person next to me kills me. And most of all, I'm killed by the fact that I'm not hired because I'm "old" and "I don't look good enough." I also realize that I am a burden. I don't work, I gained weight because I don't go out at all, I started to shrink more and more in my shell and to move away from my partner. It was obvious that this time it would be difficult for me to get to my feet. I just don't have the strength for anything. I have the feeling that just about anything - going forward is not possible. and depends on the person next to me kills me. And most of all, I'm killed by the fact that I'm not hired because I'm "old" and "I don't look good enough." I also realize that I am a burden. I don't work, I gained weight because I don't go out at all, I started to shrink more and more in my shell and to move away from my partner. It was obvious that this time it would be difficult for me to get to my feet. I just don't have the strength for anything. I have the feeling that just about anything - going forward is not possible. that this time it will be difficult for me to get to my feet. I just don't have the strength for anything. I have the feeling that just about anything - going forward is not possible. that this time it will be difficult for me to get to my feet. I just don't have the strength for anything. I have the feeling that just about anything is possible.
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My friend was in a similar situation - a master with experience, wanting to work in his specialty, but either he was not called, or he was told that he was too young (?!), Or the ad says one thing, and the reality - quite different and so called He searched for a long time and still couldn't, so he had to work low-skilled work to support himself. This lasted for about 1.5-2 years, which was quite difficult for him because it felt like a failure. Well, in the end, after a lot of searching and nerves, he succeeded and now works exactly what he wants. I know it's not easy to find a job, it depends on a lot of factors ... even pure luck, but it will happen someday. Yes, it's bad to be cut off, but if in an interview they call you old and unattractive, you should even be glad that you didn't get caught with them. Guess what the attitude is there. Let go of the CVs, there is no way things can't happen.
You don't have a business, but they hire some long-legged girls ... You started blaming yourself! This is the situation at the moment, and it will NOT get better ... ever ...
Darling, let me tell you my story. A blessing in disguise. I am 33 years old and have a child. I was 24 when I was fired. I was a student. I was fired for the second time in the last 2 years. I lived with my friend. I was uncomfortable, our people sent me BGN 100 per month. They did not have the opportunity. My friend was not rich either, but he played an important role in my life. A key in my life. He was always by my side. He never blamed me. He studied and worked. And he always told me about his fellow programmers and their work, he was studying to be a programmer, he hadn't started a job yet, but he was telling me, "I know you're going to find a better job than theirs." I couldn't find a job for two years. During this time I studied and decided to take two years for one. To take all exams for 3rd and 4th year. I didn't work anyway. We also enrolled in language courses that our parents paid for. We had also decided to leave when we finished. Time passed. He kept telling me that it wasn't for me to work in a store late. I was also a student and they still didn't hire me, he himself told me not to get caught, that I deserved something better, that it wasn't for me, that they couldn't make fun of me like that. I invented temporary things, sold paintings, tapestries, but you couldn't live with that. We graduated from university. We decided to get married and leave. We didn't have a big wedding and asked for money from ours. Instead of a wedding, we had money. I told my husband what business idea I had. He supported me immediately. It was a business in which not much was invested. I was only 26, with little money. I rather became a freelancer. I started offering my services on my own and people liked them, they started looking for me again and again. I started making money, we bought new things, a more powerful computer, software, website, advertising, and work increased. So every evil for good, and it is very important how the person treats you. I felt the same way as you, burdened, unnecessary, I felt like an expense, I was depressed ... Today my husband often tells me to go and congratulate my ex-boss for firing me. Keep your head up!
I don't know, in my opinion, retrain for something more sought after. There is a saying that when one door closes, another opens for you. At one time I wanted to work in a bank, but I didn't get a chance and in the end, pressed by the circumstances, I had to start a job after a long search, which I didn't like at all. Later, years later, it so happened that this job turned out to be just for me and I overcame some development. My wife graduated in computer science, but never found a job in the specialty. He was forced to work in a sewing company, because there are many of them in the city and they take lame and crippled people. Needless to say, how bad he felt. I can write a whole book about the conditions and the payment. It lasted 1-2 years, the woman endured, she didn't complain, but I could see that it couldn't go on forever, but we were young and poor, and this money, though a little important to us. At one point, our daughter was born and the situation became very bad financially. And I said in despair, we will be miserable anyway, whether with your BGN 200-300 or without them, as long as there are humiliations and after motherhood I did not let her return to work. I also told her that she should study a second higher education and this time study something that is close to her heart, and not again because it sounds prestigious. So the woman studies, my mother fucks me for 4 years to support three people with my dirty salary. But we did it. Now she is honey. sister, I make decent money and we're doing fine. Not that her salary is high, but at least she works, whatever she wants and the conditions are many times better than the sewing companies. I'm telling you all this so that you understand that there is nothing wrong with having difficulties at some point in life, no one has had honey and butter all their lives. But perspective is important. We could just despair and stop looking for development. Second - all evil for good. If the conditions in the tailoring companies weren't so bad, he would still be sewing now. If I had been taken to a bank, I would not have developed my potential. Third, it is important to have a real person by your side in such difficult times. If the person has not told you anything and has not insulted you, then he is literate. In this life it will be difficult for you once, once for him, this is normal, but the important thing is not to tease and blame yourself, but to support yourself. You will always find a job, but a decent person is not easy to find. In my opinion, the fact that you can't find it is not accidental at all, you just have to feel what fate wants to tell you. Maybe this what you are looking for is simply not for you and you have to find your calling. It is very important from what point of view you will look at such difficult moments, which you will certainly have another time. If you start blaming yourself and feeling bad, it will get worse because you are blocking yourself and your potential. There was a psychologist who did research on the successful and said that the difference between the 15% most successful and the rest is that the former never ask why. Ie they don't ask "why me", "why am I like that", Why are you what you are. They ask "what". They say to themselves, for example, "OK, I'm in a difficult situation, but what can I do" or "I won't work anyway in the next 1-2 months, what can I do during that time". This is much less stressful and much more provoking in you the search for a solution. When a person is stressed and blamed, it will be difficult to come up with a solution and stay in shape.
author, to say that you are old at the age of 30 is ridiculous. Of course, life is in front of you. There will always be younger and prettier, this is not a reason to go to bed and die, and you do not apply for a model. However, it is entirely up to you to get out of the hole you have fallen into. Once you have gained weight, start a diet and exercise, among other things, you will feel more refreshed and tighter. Get a haircut, dye your hair, make up. However, your weight is only part of the problem, and the visible one. There are many obese people who are excellent professionals, so this is not a criterion. However, you most likely radiate apathy and despair and that is why you are not hired. Remember, no one hires a person out of pity, and to get him out of a hole, they hire you to do their job. You obviously don't look like a problem solver, and to a person with a lot of problems and it's no wonder they don't hire you. Those who told you you didn't look good were rude, but apparently decided that both candidates didn't look reliable anyway, at least take the young girl to teach him. And a lot depends on the job, in some positions where you work with people, appearance is important, there is nothing to lie. I also don't know what your education and experience is, but you can always upgrade and improve your skills - a foreign language, additional courses, additional software to work with ... you haven't written anything about the field to give -specific advice. Tighten up and good luck! to learn it. And a lot depends on the job, in some positions where you work with people, appearance is important, there is nothing to lie. I also don't know what your education and experience is, but you can always upgrade and improve your skills - a foreign language, additional courses, additional software to work with ... you haven't written anything about the field to give -specific advice. Tighten up and good luck! to learn it. And a lot depends on the job, in some positions where you work with people, appearance is important, there is nothing to lie. I also don't know what your education and experience is, but you can always upgrade and improve your skills - a foreign language, additional courses, additional software to work with ... you haven't written anything about the field to give -specific advice. Tighten up and good luck!
If you are in a big city, you will find a job. Everywhere they are looking for sellers, waiters. At least until you find something better. You can also try in a nearby town.
4, for the first time I hear some computer scientist have retrained as a nurse! Don't get me wrong, but your wife obviously didn't have any IT skills to stay unemployed and end up being forced to become a nurse, which is generally very poorly paid. If nothing else, if at least one teacher had become, it would still be better. Not to mention that there is remote work, a lot of freelancers work that way. Otherwise, well done for doing it. I don't know in what branch the author worked, but she may need retraining
7, I'm not affected, just her dream was to study for a sister, but when she finished high school, her father died and there was no one to support her to study for a sister in another city. She decided to study in ours and anyway she didn't like anything, she wasn't a sister, she decided to study computer science because it sounded prestigious. Of course, it was a mistake, and in the end she finished it somehow, but she didn't know it because she neither gave in nor liked it, but she ended up hoping to find a job. Of course, they didn't approve of her, because she didn't understand anything and she said it to herself and never hid it. Abe made a mistake in a nutshell, but who isn't wrong. But more importantly, we ended up sticking together and working together to get out of the situation. In the meantime, they discovered such a specialty in our city as well. She's happy with her job now, and our daughter has grown up and we are very happy as a family. I am also proud of myself that, no matter how hard it was for me, I managed to support them only with my salary, which was not big. And I am proud of her that she can stand to look after a family, a child and study at the same time, without muttering for a moment. We always give this as an example to people, not to brag, but that there are no incorrigible things, as long as there is desire and support from loved ones and that it is not scary to make mistakes and have problems, as long as you do not despair. Mostly we give it to our daughter as an example. It was very difficult for us, but I can't describe to you how proud we were and how relieved we felt when it was all over and how strong we became and united. And of course, the most important thing is to have health, if there is nothing else is not so scary and there is always a solution. After so much misery, which we pulled now with 2 salaries and we just feel like lords hahaha. We even go on holiday abroad every year.
You had to tell those who told you that you didn't look good, that you didn't go to a beauty contest, that they should look at your appearance. They want to choose from mannequin catalogs. If you were clean, well dressed and normal looking no one has the right to talk to you like that, just file a complaint against these killers.
8 I don't know why I thought there was work for computer science schools. By the way, I am also a nurse and I think it is a bad choice, the salary is the same as in a store. Although there is a lot of work and it is immediately available. At times, I thought I didn't need to study.