I don't know what to do anymore, my story is quite confused and I have no one to share it with. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 5 months. Half a year ago he asked us to have a child and I was very happy, we started trying and 3 and a half months ago I got pregnant. Until now, neither I knew theirs, nor he mine, I told my mother (I live at home) and he told theirs. I want to clarify that I am 22 and he is 28. They were well received by them, but we still do not live together. He doesn't tell me, he insulted me when he's crying, he's never by my side, he walks around with his friends (obviously he prefers them to me). He tells me that he loves me, that he would do anything for me and the baby, but I don't feel it. I wonder if it's from hormones or now I'm looking at things from a different angle. Even our money is not common, he doesn't want us to get married and I don't know what's going on. I can't tell my mother, she asks me where we will live, and I told her that after my session I will move in with them. It's too late for an abortion (it's been 12 years), and I don't even want to think about it, but I'm not sure I'll manage on my own. I am a child of divorced parents and I do not want to doom my child to the same thing. Please give me advice on how to fix things and create a healthy family. Thanks!
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There is no recipe for a healthy family. The fact that you don't have money in common shouldn't bother you either, I've been with my husband for over 20 years and we've never had money in common, mine is mine, and supporting your family is his job. But wandering with friends is disturbing. I can't tell you to try, because it's too late to give you advice, you should have discussed all the details when you decide to get pregnant. But no matter what happens, I hope you are a good mother and everything is fine.
You're fucked, he doesn't want you. The best trick is to be with friends. During this time he walked on other women. You are terribly naive, how can you get pregnant before living with him. Don't you have enough culture that you have to live with someone first to get to know him fully. If you grow up, you will realize or you will be a dumb duck all your life.
Marriage is marriage, but the really serious step is the child. Well, the boy wanted to have a child, but did he think about where you would live, with what money, would he be able to live with his family and not with his friends? When he lives with his parents at the age of 28, it is clear to me. He told you that he loves you ... I vomit from American movies in which every second line is "I love you", and 70% of their marriages end in divorce, because while they love to fuck as he returns to them - and that if it's not hypocrisy. Well, there are serious moments in these films in which the girl's parents ask the candidate-son-in-law how he sees his future and how he will support a family, otherwise marriage through a crooked macaroni. It's easy here - come on, let the old people think of him. It happened - it happened, but make it a meeting you and your parents together and clarify your positions,
I will split up to make friends
What you write is not very encouraging. To want a child means not just to do it, but to make serious commitments to you and the child. If now, the beginning of the relationship is not up to you, what is left for the future. I hope he realizes, but if you write here for advice, then you realize that something is not right. What will happen when the child is born and he goes out with friends and does not remember you.