Hello, everyone. I am pregnant at a relatively early stage. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He has always been irritable, angry, picky about complete nonsense, etc. If we talk a lot of times, it is good for 2-3 days and then again. I thought that would change, but no ... I got pregnant and the story is the same. We don't live together yet, but we plan to rent a separate apartment. I'm annoyed by complete nonsense like: Why am I sitting in line with him when he's lying on social media ... thinking that I'm writing to someone, which is absurd for me, because I've never given him a reason to think such things and even more that we are expecting a child and I love him. Why am I sitting next to boys (friends) with whom we are in the same company .. he doesn't let me communicate with people he doesn't like, why are you on the phone and he is on it almost all day when we are together, and I caught answering someone if he wrote me an end .. I just sit on this phone and start a miracle. I'm not talking about average for 15-20 minutes. And for average for 2-3 days or more and usually I'm the one looking for it. Then one starts hinting at how guilty I am of something. He is always right for him, but he is always right. I do not accept other people's opinion! There is simply nothing wrong with this man. I watch how other couples are happy, fly with happiness when the girl is pregnant and take care of her. While I can not boast of exactly the same. At one point he is kind and caring and at another he doesn't have such a donkey and I have the feeling that he does it on purpose ... I would never mind eating such nonsense, let alone doing it to a big problem. I no longer know what to do and how to approach it. I don't think it's normal for a 24 year old man! Will he be so angry about nonsense when the baby is born? I have spoken countless times, his own cousin too, because I have shared, but the effect is "Yes, yes .. I know I am wrong sometimes" and after 2 days a new 20. Just these negative emotions, nerves, nagging and mean on his part they come to me more. It soon brought me to a nervous breakdown, and I don't even know how it affected the child. I don't know if anyone will understand me, but I just like someone to constantly make sure I make a small mistake that he doesn't like and turn it into a big problem and constantly "you, you, you" I'm to blame for everything. If I tell him something in spite or say that he is guilty I am brazen. I want my child, I want him to be alive and healthy, I also want us to be a family, because despite everything I love it, but I don't know how this dream family idyll will turn out! From a positive to a smiling person ... I became almost depressed, sad and desperate instead of flying with happiness. I am asking you for advice on what to tell him, what to do to stop this mental harassment for me and the baby! During this period I am very irritable and sensitive and without it, and he clearly does not care how it affects me and the fetus. I've also tried threats ... it doesn't work! Help me dear people :) Thanks PS (sorry if I have spelling mistakes, but it was written quickly). what can I do to stop this mental harassment for me and the baby! During this period I am very irritable and sensitive and without it, and he clearly does not care how it affects me and the fetus. I've also tried threats ... it doesn't work! Help me dear people :) Thanks PS (sorry if I have spelling mistakes, but it was written quickly). what can I do to stop this mental harassment for me and the baby! During this period I am very irritable and sensitive and without it, and he clearly does not care how it affects me and the fetus. I've also tried threats ... it doesn't work! Help me dear people :) Thanks PS (sorry if I have spelling mistakes, but it was written quickly).
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You can try drugging him. There is no other way. People don't change like that in one day. You haven't managed to change anything in it in 2 years. Either split up or drug him. There is no other option.
The man may have been breaded :) Men also go crazy when they become fathers. Focus on carrying the baby calmly. Walks, healthy food, peace of mind. You are already pregnant, give birth first. You will invent the rest with your father, he writes. ;) Good luck.
Haha, he made me laugh, a 24-year-old man. :) These men under 30 have not yet realized where they are, what they want, and a valuable man who wants a stable family is looking to be insured, to have grown in every aspect, and only 5-10% have it up to 30 years. F29
If you and the baby want to be okay, you get up and leave. Why did you allow yourself to get pregnant by this man at all? You thought he would change? There are no such movies darling
At 24 it is normal for a man, he is still a child, he will grow up, but men settle down later. And my husband did not take care of me as a pregnant woman, but what to do, the important thing is that everything is fine.
"I thought that would change, but no ..." Is there anything that made you think that or just like that?
One changes in the first seven years, then not anymore! When the child is born, the situation will worsen because he will already take you for granted. On his part, there will be no change for the better, except for you to break down and acquire the mentality of the Muslims, that is, to become its shadow. You decide what is better for you and the child you are expecting, or eternal obedience or freedom without him!
You also pack your bags with your parents! I am 39 and have been living in a similar film for 6 years now. When my wife became pregnant and realized that she was in the second month, everything turned upside down. From an understanding, friendly and considerate man, he became a beast. I was patient and I continue to be patient, but everything fell on the child. He is 5 years old and suffers from psychosis. He lives and shuts himself in his fictional world. He refuses to talk and does things that his peers can do. Grab your luggage and you're gone! If he loves you and deserves you, he will come to roar at you. Don't agree! Think very well if you want that. To please him and doom an innocent creature to such a life. If he decides to grow up and be a parent, don't set rules for him. Tell him everything that weighs on you and why you do not want the child to live in such an environment. There are enough sick and dying children! Grow up people! This is the MOST BEAUTIFUL event in people's lives! To raise your own child! Don't ruin a life!
Okay, was this the best of all the men who took you down to get pregnant from him? According to the case - the mandala has burst. The "man" will not change. Find someone to take you with the child or look after him alone. Otherwise you will have two children - one at 25;)
Get used to the idea that you will separate. Whether before or after the birth are details.
People do not change. And a child will not fix the relationship. On the contrary, it will make them a little worse, because it is difficult to grow and you have to be level so that you can reach it later. If you do not want to have an abortion with him, believe me alone with a child you will not be well if this is not a commodity. My husband always carried me in his arms and while I was pregnant, and after that and long before that, he always drove me to work with the car, never let me use public transport, shop alone or together, I don't carry shopping bags. When I was pregnant, even a vacuum cleaner wouldn't let me let go, although I took a broom behind his back and swept the floor to keep it clean. She came to work every day by car to bring me ready meals while I was pregnant and while I was giving birth she came to the hospital half an hour ago and tried to get in to see me. Then he came to visit twice a day,
A very difficult pregnancy is waiting for you with this one ... so you are pregnant and he is with symptoms. In my opinion, he is not yet a man, but a little boy with no experience and is very complex to think that anyone who looks at you will steal you.
As you start to get caught up in these years ... I personally don't know a person, no matter a man or a woman, who changes radically when they turn 30 to say either 40 or 50. Whores and whores or people who behave badly , like that of the author, they remain like that for the rest of their lives, I know men who have been "gamblers" all their lives and even at the age of 60 they still go after foreign women. I also find the phrase "he / she hasn't made a living" very funny. So what if someone makes 20-30 pieces, will someone make a living and stop thinking about more, or at 30 will he get an insight that he has to stop with women / men? Or will the insight be that he must behave well with the person next to him? If you don't like the people next to you, don't wait for them to change for the better, it won't happen, at most it won't even get worse.
Hello. I have been with my friend for 6 years, we have been living together for 4 years. He is 29 years old, I am 27 years old. At 24, most are not men, but boys. They still have mom's gold, most likely they live with mom and dad, even if they have a working day in their life is not certain. So, this guy who probably hasn't faced real problems like work, bills and lodging, how do you think he can be serious, be a good husband and a responsible father? After reading your story and the reasons he points out to be angry with you, it becomes clear to me that he is a jobless man, still immature. Who the hell is angry because his wife clicked on the phone after he stopped tickling ??? This is not serious! And until he feels the weight of life and the decisions he makes, there is no chance to change. It is very important before you have a child to live with this person to see if the characters can fit or not. Because more or less everyone has chips to cut, but if one is considered perfect, the relationship is doomed. It is pointless to tell you that the child had to be created after you lived together and were financially independent. My advice is to move out immediately, alone !!! Not to apply to theirs, because there will be no escape from there! And you start helping each other, building a home. To help and adjust, because in order to change a little, one must realize that there is a problem. Are you planning to rent? When? In the ninth month? Start looking right away so that he doesn't end up telling you: Why don't you come home? We will not pay, and ours will help. to see if the characters can fit or not. Because more or less everyone has chips to cut, but if one is considered perfect, the relationship is doomed. It is pointless to tell you that the child had to be created after you lived together and were financially independent. My advice is to move out immediately, alone !!! Not to apply to theirs, because there will be no escape from there! And you start helping each other, building a home. To help and adjust, because in order to change a little, one must realize that there is a problem. Are you planning to rent? When? In the ninth month? Start looking right away so that he doesn't end up telling you: Why don't you come home? We will not pay, and ours will help. to see if the characters can fit or not. Because more or less everyone has chips to cut, but if one is considered perfect, the relationship is doomed. It is pointless to tell you that the child had to be created after you lived together and were financially independent. My advice is to move out immediately, alone !!! Not to apply to theirs, because there will be no escape from there! And you start helping each other, building a home. To help and adjust, because in order to change a little, one must realize that there is a problem. Are you planning to rent? When? In the ninth month? Start looking right away so that he doesn't end up telling you: Why don't you come home? We will not pay, and ours will help. It is pointless to tell you that the child had to be created after you lived together and were financially independent. My advice is to move out immediately, alone !!! Not to apply to theirs, because there will be no escape from there! And you start helping each other, building a home. To help and adjust, because in order to change a little, one must realize that there is a problem. Are you planning to rent? When? In the ninth month? Start looking right away so that he doesn't end up telling you: Why don't you come home? We will not pay, and ours will help. It is pointless to tell you that the child had to be created after you lived together and were financially independent. My advice is to move out immediately, alone !!! Not to apply to theirs, because there will be no escape from there! And you start helping each other, building a home. To help and adjust, because in order to change a little, one must realize that there is a problem. Are you planning to rent? When? In the ninth month? Start looking right away so that he doesn't end up telling you: Why don't you come home? We will not pay, and ours will help. To help and adjust, because in order to change a little, one must realize that there is a problem. Are you planning to rent? When? In the ninth month? Start looking right away so that he doesn't end up telling you: Why don't you come home? We will not pay, and ours will help. To help and adjust, because in order to change a little, one must realize that there is a problem. Are you planning to rent? When? In the ninth month? Start looking right away so that he doesn't end up telling you: Why don't you come home? We will not pay, and ours will help.
The population is just stupid. So how do you decide now that you're pregnant by him that these things of his irritate you? And before that 2 years did not cause you a problem? Abe, are you normal, only I have the feeling that most people are just stupid? Well, when they irritate you so much, you do abortions and you break up.
My ex was the same. After the last time he didn't talk to me for 5 days because I answered a colleague in a messenger, I realized that we have no future. Too bad for the child ...
Drink your vitamins, eat good food and get together with people who bring you pleasant emotions. I hope you can count on your family because you will need solid support after the birth. If Dad doesn't come to his senses, he'd better stay away. You need peace of mind. Secure it!
I don't like your lover's behavior. You are not describing to me a mature, responsible and thinking individual, but a kid. As in the other comments they wrote, it would be better for you and the future child to end the relationship with this person! How do you even think that he will change and suddenly, hop out of nowhere he will become a new person after the baby arrives? Many women think they can change a man, and movies (romantic women's comedies) and magazines drown him out all the time! But no men's magazine, forum, book or whatever says "How can I change for my wife?". Why? I don't want to be a bad prophet, but once your man limits you from now on and isolates you (and you're not even under one roof) .. at a later stage you can post a topic - "he touched me" or "beat the child". How you don't light a light, I don't understand! You loved him ... you deserve respect, care and a normal attitude! Everyone deserves it! Why are you resigning? !! Yes, it may be difficult for you to give birth and raise a child on your own (God forbid you wear it), but is it better for your psyche to be constantly strained because of "your great love"? Yours, whatever he TELLS you, don't believe him! Ask for ACTION, not words! Don't move to a room with him, things will get worse! F, 26
I think it is jealousy and a desire for power over you. Look at his family or ask him if the boy grew up in a family where the father tells the mother that he is a "dumb cow" and there is a good chance that his wife will be a "dumb cow". You have not lived together I have no idea if it will happen and I have no right to be confused. You need to be careful not to be physically or emotionally abused. For a baby, if you are not sure that it will happen by the third month, you can have an abortion. It is not right for me for him to tell you who to see or not, when to go to bed and who to sit next to.
I would not allow such a "man" to become pregnant. Underage.
I was a girl like that more than 12 years ago and I'm still with this man and the situation is the same and they come worse one after the other why don't you shut up, why are you so clairvoyant and at one point I relaxed I went out alone and came home happy and broke my nose to know what was right and what wasn't. Children are their children, but the nightmare is big and there is no change, it gets worse and in the end the worst.
And don't you really give him reasons for jealousy? Your answer is definitely - NO. But ask a man what you look like - inaccessible or naughty? Women love to belittle their flirtations. Almost everyone attacks your friend, but the truth can be quite different.