Hi Let me tell my sad love story In March I met a boy in the badoo app. We were both looking for a serious relationship. We exchanged numbers and started writing on whatsap and messenger. He wanted to see me the first week, but I was a little reserved because I don't have much confidence in online dating. He got angry and blocked me because I refused to see him. A few days later he texted me that he was very sorry and wanted us to continue writing to each other. I didn't answer him. It wasn't until the end of March that I wrote to him again in badoo jokingly that he was always online there. He did not answer me immediately, but only after 4 days. Well we started writing again and on April 6 we met. We liked each other a lot and became boyfriends. So I went to him every weekend because he lives alone and I didn't have the opportunity. In June I went to visit him for 2 weeks, but in July we quarreled fiercely, because his friend had come over the weekend to sleep with them and his girlfriend, who has two children of some kind, and until 1:30 this crazy woman never put her children to sleep. I had to remind her it was time to go to bed. The next day he didn't talk to me all day and went out at 5 pm and didn't return until after midnight he was with friends. I don't know anyone in his town and I was really upset that I was alone all night. The next day I left and told him it was over. He didn't call me for two months. It wasn't until September that he reappeared to tell me that he hadn't forgotten me and that I missed him a lot. How did he last two months without looking for me if he loved me? So he asked me to try again together. I didn't agree and refused for a whole month, but I accepted in October. He said , that I can go there for a month to see if we can live together this time. I packed my bags, but things still didn't work out between us. We were always arguing about nonsense. I only stayed there for three weeks. He was very rude to me, insulted me, went out lucky. When I asked him where he was, he replied that it was not my job. For 3 weeks he never went out with me or gave me a key to the apartment. The last few days he gave me a key, but when I tried it I realized it was fake. For my birthday, absolutely nothing happened to me ... I was really angry and decided that it didn't make sense. I told him I was leaving. He didn't say anything, he didn't try to stop me ... the same day he came out angry without saying anything, I then wrote to him on whatsap that he was a liar and he didn't fulfill everything he promised me. He immediately blocked me there and everywhere. Then, when he returned, he said nothing, and I prepared my suitcase. Last night I decided to give it back to him and insult him where it would hurt him the most .. I told him that my ex was better in bed ..
Not that I really think so, but out of anger I said it. I told him that I was not pregnant and I would be very happy if that was the case ... I left. He sent me to the train, cried and stroked my head. He said he would never forget me and that he would always think of me, and that we would never see each other again. I could barely keep from crying. When I got home I did pregnancy tests - positive. I couldn't call him to tell him because he blocked me ... so my aunt called him. He told her that he was not sure I was pregnant and that he would call me the next day. He didn't call for 5 days. I do not know what to do . He told my aunt that he would take care of the child, but then why didn't he call. I really can't figure out what he wants. And I have until Monday to decide on an abortion. Help me. Shouldn't I go to their house?
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I'm so sorry about what happened to you. Let's say he doesn't call you - are you ready to take care of the child yourself? In your story, you talk mostly about your boyfriend, and I think you underestimate your pregnancy. At the moment you have to think about yourself no matter if you will have an abortion or not. At the moment, he is the person who should call you. I would keep the child in your place, but I don't know how the situation is with you. Do you work, will you manage financially and the most important thing is - do you want the child? If the decision for the child is dictated only by a telephone conversation with him, it is too unfortunate. Now the important thing is to be calm and make an important decision for you and your future. I advise you not to be humiliated and not to look for it. Success!
You didn't write how old you are, but you're obviously quite young. Listen now, the child is a huge responsibility. Even with two parents it is difficult, let alone if you remain a single mother. And believe me, you will be a single mother with this so-called man. Exclude him from the picture, but really, no matter if tomorrow he will bloom with a tirade how much he missed you. Exclude him from the picture and then imagine if you will be able to look after the child alone. Do you have side help, what do your parents think? This boy is blowing in the wind. Your relationship with or without a child will not last. A person who holds on to you will never, but never behave the way he does. It comes to me, it came to me. This person is not suitable for a family, don't even think about it. Finish it now, you will save yourself a lot of suffering. And I tell you thoughts about the child again! This is an innocent creature, which, if he came into this world, would not be guilty of anything. But it will deserve care and love, won't it? Will you be able to provide him with a normal life? If the answer is no - abortion! Think sober, now think that it will be too late !!
For me, you can't count on this person, no matter what he tells you, because there's obviously nothing certain about him. His actions are immature and selfish. Judge for yourself if you would look after the child.
Go, go ... stay on d .... oh, don't you have parents? A pipe in the head? And he didn't write how old you were, not that it mattered much.
Not him, you have to block him from your life, forever. He does not know who he is and where he is. Have an abortion, maybe a medical one, breathe deeply and move on on your own. And don't deal with virtual people! They are liars and losers for the most part.
This is not the place to get such important advice as whether to have an abortion or not. There are too many trolls on this site, not seriously. Consult with people close to you and decide what you will do.
You can't live together for a month, you have a child. He blocks you, he doesn't want to talk to you, you fight, you don't think about taking measures to protect yourself and get pregnant by him. No offense, but these are gypsy things. You do not have a stable relationship, you are certainly not well materially, you will watch a child, complete irresponsibility. The way out is abortion. And be careful with the next one.
After a few years of experience as a single mother, start writing about how all men are rubbish, and give other women a reason to act. Examples here in this forum like you as much as you want. You bury yourself, then ask what to do. Answer the questions, why do you go to this person? Why did you let you get pregnant from him? Why do you keep deluding yourself that she will change when you are pregnant and take responsibility? If it's not too late, have an abortion and forget about it. In your case, this is a correction of a mistake, then be very careful who you sleep with and what protective equipment you will use.
Don't you see that this man has mental problems and is emotionally unstable? Abortion, because it can be given to the child. And far from it.
From the Author Mina for a whole week since she knows I'm pregnant. He hasn't called me yet to tell me what we're going to do. I think all I have to do is have an abortion. I don't think I can handle being a single mother. I feel very sad. He seemed to love me very much. He said he would never leave me
Author, anyone you meet and become his boyfriend in a month can promise you eternal love. And if you believe only in words and do not insist on using protective equipment, then you are irresponsible to yourself. The guilt is as much in him as it is in you. But the consequences are only for you. I hope it's a lesson.
You are emotionally unstable and unable to take care of another. Therefore - abortion, and from now on - contraceptive measures !!!!
It is a lesson for you to look at a person's deeds another time, not his words. Just read the story from the side: you wrote, then you stopped, then you saw each other, but you quarreled, you didn't write for 2 months, then you met for a month, but you lasted 3 weeks ... here I stopped with the saga ... Is that it do you have an idea of a normal relationship? A person you can't stand for a month? No child from him, and a dog should not be taken together. Even if he looks for you, block him, dump him, forget him. I see you've decided on an abortion, so it's obviously the best. You cannot expect this person to be a father, and if you are not ready to look after the child alone, it is best not to give birth to him. However, take a serious lesson for another time - do not listen to sweet talk, but watch what the person does. Everyone can say they love you, and do his actions above show it? And don't allow yourself to get pregnant by a person you haven't lived with for at least a few months, have a stable relationship, decide that you both want a child. Success!
From the Author I am 25 and he is 31 years old
Author, that's why people think before they have children. They think and judge. Anyone can take stars off the sky, but if you don't get upset as a person, you don't have unprotected sex. People judge the partner, his genes, the family. I can't imagine creating a child with someone whose family I don't know. It doesn't matter whose child your genius will take. Such sites are either female or abnormal. And don't live with someone in the future if you don't know them well.
Do you know his parents, relatives, friends ?! So how serious is he then ?! You were just the cleaner and on hand for the bed. How would you live together? With marriage or without? Would he recognize the child or not? I don't know how old you are, but this is a very irresponsible act. The child better get rid of him, there is no need to carry the genes of such a person. And for this to be a lesson, children are made with intelligence and with full confidence, not empty talk.
You have an abortion, you leave, you start your life anew. Otherwise, along with your confused love life, there will be an unhappy child. And most importantly, it should be a lesson for you.
He is not a father, he will not take care of the child, he does not love you and you have a future together. Your options are either to have an abortion or to raise the child alone. I would not condemn him for paternity, because at the expense of the symbolic maintenance he will pay, you will be obliged to comply with him for anything - for example, you will not be able to leave the country even for a short time with the child if he is not. agree.
Why do you all advise the author to have an abortion, it is a sin to kill an innocent creature, she has to make this decision herself, to consult her parents, and how are you sure that the boy is abnormal, as if you were with him? This is an important decision and should not be made spontaneously, and not everyone on the site is abnormal or users, it depends on the person, he may be scared and insecure, but this does not make him abnormal, the author was with him, he should if she had known him and judged, but better not to hurry to have an abortion, a friend of mine did not, although her boyfriend went abroad and left her, but her parents helped and after a while found another man . You need to think carefully and then take such a step, talk to your loved ones and do not despair, you will not be just a single mother, good luck and write :)
23, Because we are realistic. She lived with someone who was not a commodity and to keep his child. And watching this child remember what the father is like.
23, do you see a normal thing in her story? There is obviously a delay in development. She is emotionally and cognitively unable to raise a child.
From the Author I had a medical abortion. Everything went well. And the person in question never contacted me to ask what decision I had made .. Apparently he really doesn't care and it's good that I got rid of him .. Thank you for the comments. You helped me a lot to make the right decision.
Girl, such a decision may not be right from the child's point of view, but from the mother's point of view - yes, I think it is right. 23 years ago I had an abortion by a minor (like me then) and he really didn't call, didn't ask, didn't know if one of his children was going anywhere in this world. 20 years later, life met us again. We saw each other next to mutual friends twice. He didn't ask. When I saw how his life developed and how mine developed, I took a break. It was right for me. At least that.