Hi, I'm a 19-year-old boy, I don't have a girlfriend. Unfortunately I haven't had one yet, but I feel pretty lonely. In general, I am very worried when I have to talk to a stranger, even on the phone. I myself am quite closed and do not communicate much outside. I'm thinking of going to a bar or a disco and if I meet a girl I like there I would try to talk to her, I even think about what I would say: "I'm sorry, can we meet ..." So far I've only thought of that. to begin with, do you think I think correctly? I hope the editors approve of what I wrote, this year I'm 20, I just don't have experience with women and I need advice.
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Heh, how sweet you talk, maybe you're cute, even I would talk to you, but otherwise don't be ashamed to talk, we girls don't bite.
Hi, I'm sorry to tell you, but you will suffer a lot if you go to try. Women are not at all tolerant of insecure and rigid men, in fact they can be quite cruel. This: "Sorry, can we meet ..." is a terrible way to start a conversation and guarantees you failure and terrible rejection in 99% of cases. I just can't really describe to you what a terrible attitude you would get if you tried this way. The girl will look at you as if you were a criminal, shake her head and won't even answer you or anything like that. You will feel rejected, humiliated and infinitely offended. Here are some guidelines that will increase your chances. You have to be in an environment where you do something together. You need to be careless and confident and never approach "sorry" or direct the conversation to her. The conversation should focus on the common thing you are doing. For example, if you are as you say in a disco or bar, talk to her by expressing your opinion about the music or the atmosphere by comparing them with other places or something similar. Whatever I write to you here will hurt you. It is like sending an untrained man to war. Women can be extremely cruel to a man who does not know how to approach.
Don't apologize for wanting to meet her. Go bold, believe me.
"Excuse me, can we meet?" In 90% of situations it only works if you are beautiful and charming or you seem to be rich (in case you are looking for such a girl). Otherwise, you go directly into the "creeper" category and risk being brutally cut off or delicately ignored if the girl is kinder. My girlfriends and I have had a lot of such dating offers and the results are always the same - unpleasant for both parties. Then from a beauty you suddenly become a dumb bitch, but that's another topic ... It would be better to look first to see if you won't meet a girl's eyes more than once. Only then can you go and get her something to drink and start a conversation. Try not to look desperate and worried, and keep your expectations to a minimum. I don't know why people are filmed so much ... Once you don't have a girlfriend, you think it's some great mystery and you put it on a pedestal that will keep you from communicating normally. Not so - there are billions more of the same kind, we are the most ordinary people. There is nothing so scary to happen, just do not idealize them and do not cling desperately to the idea of a partner. Success!
Many people say that watching too much porn makes you a cowardly depressed and insecure. So stop him. Then comes confidence. Your condition is not normal but it does not mean to worry. Fight and don't watch porn.
I'm exactly the same, I'm 19 and I haven't had a girlfriend and I won't have one soon. If you are braver than me, go to a prostitute, your life may go up later
“Excuse me, can we meet?” Is great. I hope you don't come across a lot of rude people, though. And beware of liberated (understand, "checked out") girls, as there are many today!
"Excuse me, can we meet?" - No, brother, that's not great;) It starts with a sense of humor, if you remember what I'm talking about ... Something light and non-committal.
From the author Thank you for commenting and advising me :)