Hello. I am a man of 30 years. The story is long but I will try to tell it to you briefly and in a way that you understand me. 3 years ago I had a relationship with a girl I left. We loved each other. I left her because I saw a chat with another boy. The things they had written to each other. There has been no infidelity on her part, but there is betrayal. And I think any sober-minded man will do the same. Let me emphasize here that I am also to blame. I always admit my mistakes. A few months later, she began a relationship with another boy for about 2 years. A period in which we had no contact because I realized that he was restricting her in almost all social networks. She also told me that she had stayed with him several times. They separated earlier this year. The middle of March wrote to me. She unblocked me and wrote to me. Accordingly, I answered her immediately and immediately something ignited in me. The only girl I have quite strong feelings for and I think for. I have not had any other like her. We have seen and continue to see each other to this day. We are intimate, make me 2 gifts. I would say I even love her. The only thing that confuses me a lot from the inside is that I'm super hesitant. We talked about trying again, but somehow it's like there's something in me, another voice telling you: Don't start again with this girl. I have hellishly strong feelings for her, maybe they never disappeared. She tells me the same thing. There's the thrill again. But I didn't feel so hesitant. Has anyone else been in a similar situation ?? Can you love someone and wonder if you stay with the person in question? We have seen and continue to see each other to this day. We are intimate, make me 2 gifts. I would say I even love her. The only thing that confuses me a lot from the inside is that I'm super hesitant. We talked about trying again, but somehow it's like there's something in me, another voice telling you: Don't start again with this girl. I have hellishly strong feelings for her, maybe they never disappeared. She tells me the same thing. There's the thrill again. But I didn't feel so hesitant. Has anyone else been in a similar situation ?? Can you love someone and wonder if you stay with the person in question? We have seen and continue to see each other to this day. We are intimate, make me 2 gifts. I would say I even love her. The only thing that confuses me a lot from the inside is that I'm super hesitant. We talked about trying again, but somehow it's like there's something in me, another voice telling you: Don't start again with this girl. I have hellishly strong feelings for her, maybe they never disappeared. She tells me the same thing. There's the thrill again. But I didn't feel so hesitant. Has anyone else been in a similar situation ?? Can you love someone and wonder if you stay with the person in question? Don't start again with this girl. I have hellishly strong feelings for her, maybe they never disappeared. She tells me the same thing. There's the thrill again. But I didn't feel so hesitant. Has anyone else been in a similar situation ?? Can you love someone and wonder if you stay with the person in question? Don't start again with this girl. I have hellishly strong feelings for her, maybe they never disappeared. She tells me the same thing. There's the thrill again. But I didn't feel so hesitant. Has anyone else been in a similar situation ?? Can you love someone and wonder if you stay with the person in question?
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I wish I had such an opportunity, I made the same mistake and to this day I am sorry. If you love her, give her back, man, we are human and we make mistakes. Start anew, leave the past and watch your life!
She may have the thrill, but keep one thing in mind: She left you for someone else. She has broken what you were and when they break, she comes back to you. Think seriously before giving yourself a second chance.
Enclose, brother. Some people don't even have a second chance with the love of their life. And if it doesn't happen, what will you lose? A little hurt feelings? What if it happens?
Are you also a backup, or did she really appreciate you? It's not good to play with your feelings like that, or do something or not.
If you have arranged your life and feelings after it - do not go back, but if you have ideas about a common future with her - try again, but not with high expectations, so as not to hurt yourself, eventually.
Your hesitations are justified, because betrayals are something that, if we forgive, we feel disgusting, we can't just cause such self-trampling of the personality. Let's say that this woman is not perfect and will not be like any other in fact. Don't expect big things, be emen and enjoy your brilliance with it, but don't expect everything to be okay. See this case in which there is a problem or pre-ejaculation before your relationship - how this woman will behave and if you can resist them and solve them and want stronger and more cohesive than ever, then this is the way that maybe she is woman, if the opposite happens do not regret giving yourself a chance. Accept that your relationship has no future and move on to a new one with a new person and so on.
You have 2 options - to reject it and then regret or accept it for the rest of your life, after which it will ruin you again, and in a far more difficult way. The probability of continuing together in a normal and happy relationship tends to zero. Throw away everything old and start with another clean - this is my advice.
No sense in trying, same job as you, we broke up over a chat, 8 months later we got together after things didn't work out with the chat hero, it was all there. Lost months, remember one woman is your wife until she is with another man, then it's like you're with another man. It will all end the moment you return to everyday life together. At least for me it was, lost trust will destroy you. If you have read the same book, you will understand that it has the same ending, the thing that has not happened to you is that you have not found another girl for this period, or so I think from what is written. Just to explain to you what hypocrisy we talk about to women when they want to achieve their goal. He loves you very much, gestures, sex and because we think about that job and we don't see the whole picture, it's been almost a year since our separation from "
From the author: Thank you for the advice dear people. I made the decision. There is no way things can happen by force. My constant internal struggles drive me crazy. I decided to leave her and look ahead. The last comments are very true. I will just trust the internal ones. my voices. At least I know they never let me down.
To 9 It is the same when a man quickly finds another, and his ex-girlfriend is alone and hopes to return. If a man wants another woman, he is no longer the same. You can't spend his daily life with another woman, his nights, and you think he'll be the same. And then, when the new one dumps him, run to you. I have experienced it and the feeling is not good. It's not just about jealousy, it's about the fact that he chose to try his luck with another instead of trying for us. And when the new one doesn't work out, some regrets, explanations of how he was a fool and so on begin. And my heart was broken. Because he remembered me when his new love didn't want him. If a man goes through another woman's bed emotionally, he is not the same. And trying to come back will not be the same. The other will have changed him both in bed and as a person. And I don't think that I would bear to be a reserve. Author, think carefully about the real reasons this girl wants you again. Is it because he knows you will accept it, or is it just a temporary consolation?