Hi, I want to share my story. You know, there's no one to tell, and I'm so heavy. I have been married recently. Before I got married, my husband and I were boyfriends for a year. This one year was the best thing that ever happened to me. I am from a small town where we all know each other. Everyone I wanted to have a serious relationship with wanted only one thing - to sleep one night with me and then dump me. I met my husband in my city but he is far away. Before I go on, maybe I should say that I'm quite romantic at heart. My husband was the greatest when we were boyfriends, he showed me that there really is love. It made me feel good, safe while I was with him. We had romantic dinners, pleasant moments just for the two of us. But reading cannot make a person happy. I got married and seven months later we had a little angel. A daughter. Connoisseurs, I am happy and my husband is happy that we have a child, but if we have something between us ..... We do not have time for each other. He is constantly at work coming home tired. He is always angry, he is always arguing about something, something is wrong with him. I'm staying at home, I'm not the perfect wife, I don't think there are perfect people, but I try to cook, to clean. Now the little one and I have a cold. He says it's my fault. And when something is bad for me, I want him to be by my side, nothing else but to hug him and tell me that he is with me and that he understands me. When we go to bed he turns his back on me. It's hard for me. And I love him so much. He loves me too, I feel it, I know it. But why, when he has to calm me down, does he get angry in vain Someone will probably reproach me, but I had to share. but if something happened between us ..... We don't have time for each other. He is constantly at work coming home tired. He is always angry, he is always arguing about something, something is wrong with him. I'm staying at home, I'm not the perfect wife, I don't think there are perfect people, but I try to cook, to clean. Now the little one and I have a cold. He says it's my fault. And when I feel bad, I want him to be next to me, nothing more than to hug him and tell me that he is with me and that he understands me. When we go to bed he turns his back on me. It's hard for me. And I love him so much. He loves me too, I feel it, I know it. But why, when he has to calm me down, does he get angry in vain? Someone will probably reproach me, but I had to share. but if something happened between us ..... We don't have time for each other. He is constantly at work coming home tired. He is always angry, he is always arguing about something, something is wrong with him. I'm staying at home, I'm not the perfect wife, I don't think there are perfect people, but I try to cook, to clean. Now the little one and I have a cold. He says it's my fault. And when something is bad for me, I want him to be by my side, nothing else but to hug him and tell me that he is with me and that he understands me. When we go to bed he turns his back on me. It's hard for me. And I love him so much. He loves me too, I feel it, I know it. But why, when he has to calm me down, does he get angry in vain? Someone will probably reproach me, but I had to share. I'm staying at home, I'm not the perfect wife, I don't think there are perfect people, but I try to cook, to clean. Now the little one and I have a cold. He says it's my fault. And when I feel bad, I want him to be next to me, nothing more than to hug him and tell me that he is with me and that he understands me. When we go to bed he turns his back on me. It's hard for me. And I love him so much. He loves me too, I feel it, I know it. But why, when he has to calm me down, does he get angry in vain? Someone will probably reproach me, but I had to share. I stay at home, I'm not the perfect wife, I don't think there are perfect people, but I try to cook, to clean. Now the little one and I have a cold. He says it's my fault. And when I feel bad, I want him to be next to me, nothing more than to hug him and tell me that he is with me and that he understands me. When we go to bed he turns his back on me. It's hard for me. And I love him so much. He loves me too, I feel it, I know it. But why, when he has to calm me down, does he get angry in vain? Someone will probably reproach me, but I had to share. When we go to bed he turns his back on me. It's hard for me. And I love him so much. He loves me too, I feel it, I know it. But why, when he has to calm me down, does he get angry in vain? Someone will probably reproach me, but I had to share. When we go to bed he turns his back on me. It's hard for me. And I love him so much. He loves me too, I feel it, I know it. But why, when he has to calm me down, does he get angry in vain? Someone will probably reproach me, but I had to share.
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Darling, I understand you very well. We women are such that we always want everything to be fine and to feel happy. Believe me, it is very difficult for our men. They go to work to support us, and we sit at home and look after our children ... and somehow we don't think about these things like: to pay for electricity, water, cable, etc. Not that it's easy for us, but think about what's wrong with men. It's hard, but ...
Um, I'm in the same situation and I want to say that looking after your child without any help is also not easy .. And housekeeping and babysitting men have nothing for it .... I'm just mad that they are such idiots! !!
What if you explained everything you shared with us? Maybe he'll understand you. Give yourself a day off, just you, him and the child and go everywhere. And yet try to talk, to share ... it is honesty that supports a relationship. Tell him that sometimes you need a touch of him, albeit unintentionally, that you miss his physical presence and if there is a problem, ask him what it is. Approach with understanding .. This would help you. Most importantly, DO NOT DESPAIR! Fingers crossed. puntina
Number 2, I just want to tell you that I have been divorced since I was 8 and I look after my child alone !!! It was 1st grade when I got divorced and so far / now it is 8th grade / I watch it completely alone! Why are you just roaring? She was alone at home with the child ... But your husband brings money home, doesn't he ?! And do you know what a man with a child is? We were idiots, I don't know what's going on there and ... You're very open!
Мислех да не пиша, но не се стърпях! Мило момиче, искам да ти кажа че в началото на семейния живот винаги е така. Ако не сте живели заедно преди да се ожените, то сега ще са ви нужни 1-2 може и 3 години, за да се пригодите на към характерите си и без думи да се разбирате. Мъжете са си по-глезенки и ние трябва да си ги гледкаме и да си ги гушкаме, и да си ги лигавим. С една дума те са нашите големи дечица. Така че, ако твоето момче не е в настроение остави го малко да му мине, а после когато сте само двамата го поглези дори и да не ти е до това. Отиди в някой секс магазин купи си еротично бельо, заведи малката при баба и дядо, запали свещи, купи сметана и го поглези. Опитай!!! Успех ти желая и го давай по-мъжки!!! Не се отчайвай всичко ще си дойде на мястото търпение се иска. Чао от мен!!! М>М>М
I am 30 years old. At first I was like you, I have two daughters, I deal with them, but honestly now I work and I feel valued. Go out, meet friends and over time you will stop paying so much attention to these things. You will still love each other. That's life.
Sounds like he's too tired ... then someone is still angry about something ... or does he feel "displaced" by caring for your daughter? Send the child to your mother for one or two dinners, if possible and make another romantic dinner, it can help a lot! Good luck darling! Dana
I am a 28 year old woman. I don't understand you, honestly! I am happily married, my husband and I have a wonderful son, we live well from everywhere. Our son goes to kindergarten while his father and I are at work. We both do our best for the financial stability of our family. When we have the opportunity, and we arrange our responsibilities so that we have, we go on vacations, albeit small from Friday night to Sunday with the child, we find time just for the two of us, leaving the child to my mother and spending pleasant weekends together. Why don't you balance things out so that you can understand each other more easily and get into a situation? You can start work and your husband can take over some of the household chores. Somehow things get easier that way.
I AM MAN AND DAMAGES told to tell him, what you read cease to be angry for the youngest because if CONTINUE quarrel gradually will pass AND INAT And when it comes to INAT sex starts to disappear and reach SEPARATION THAT IN A MOMENT NO RETURN.
Let me tell you, I don't know, I hope it doesn't get there because I love him so much.
She is right 5. Men should be pampered. The woman is the one who models her husband - with a lot of wisdom. The results come slowly, years later. Be loving and dedicated - it's like losing it tomorrow. He will gradually adjust to this stereotype. Remember - love begets love, alienation-alienation, etc. When one day he realizes that he can lose all this, then he is yours. All you need is love and patience. Go without waiting to receive and be happy about it.
Darling - if someone really loves you - it will just make you happy at any time!
I am a married woman of 28 years. Look, darling, it's best to leave the child, even if it's for a day with his grandmother, and spend a day with his husband. To forget the problems and the child and to talk - what is bothering you and what is bothering him and so together to fix these relationships that are now. The same story happened to me and believe me this is the solution. And when you get better, don't let the same mistakes happen, just spend more time together, help each other share what is bothering you, because as they said in a comment above, it can lead to separation! Don't leave things like that !! Then it will be too late! Don't stay so timeless! We all see that you really love him, if that's the case you won't let him go, will you ?! Come on luck baby :) I'll keep my fingers crossed :)
They were babies, they have to be pampered, and when will it be our turn to pamper us ???? .... years later .... who has such patience and such nerves to give, to give, to give and to live with the hope that eventually in years he will return !!! What is this nonsense!?!? Sit down and talk - who wants what, who doesn't! If at the end of the conversation you both feel satisfied and you both decide that you can compromise to move forward without being dissatisfied and angry! Okay! Live and enjoy life thirsty! If you do not better separate, so as not to bother each other, and not to live your child in such an environment! The children feel everything! And when you are not happy and your child will not be! I wish you success !!!
Every family is for itself. People are very different and it is difficult to say what is right and what is wrong. However, it is true that the first few years are the most difficult. But I am sure that with a lot of tact and patience, as well as with a lot of compromises, you will find the way from one to another and things will go well. Don't despair ... The most important thing is that you love each other, everything else will be in order .. Good luck :)
Explain to your husband that his behavior weighs on you. He may not have meant that it was your fault that you were sick with the child, but he wanted to show you that he was worried. It's just that people are different. Talk, talk, talk. Explain how you feel, ask him how he feels, does he like this, does he like that, tell you what you like, etc. Have communication. When he turns his back on you in the evening, hug him, tell him you want him, etc. Finally, is there a reason for him to mutter?
You have to talk to each other if you wanted to keep your marriage - talk about everything and what you like and what you don't like! Otherwise, if you just fight and keep quiet, everything will fall apart. I am 53, divorced with two older children, suffered and made many conclusions!
Hello! I am 21 years old, I am not married, but we have been living together for 2 years and we have a 1 year old daughter. And most probably consider me small, naive and inexperienced. But, I can tell you this: I am also very romantic at heart and my mood depends on whether I get enough caresses and everything I need. I am often sad because he comes home from work, lies on the couch and watches TV. And I, I need attention and caresses, because all day I was only with the child and I cooked and cleaned .. I understand you very well! And very often I try to talk to him and he listens to me and shows that he understands, but after a while everything happens the same. And we love each other a lot, since we were children. But now that we are a family, things have changed a lot. I hope you find a way to be both happy. Lots of love and strength for you! And by the way, I don't think that if you spoil him, he will have more understanding for you. On the contrary - he will think that you are very happy and so you show it. I hope you get better and so do we!
Dear ladies, as I read you the stories, I am becoming more and more happy to live alone. F28