Hello .. I'm a girl of 16. I've had a friend for a long time and as you know we start on the topic of sex. But I'm a virgin and he knows it. So far, I've allowed him to penetrate me with two fingers, but when we're about to get to something more, I just can't and can't ... for two reasons: pain and fear of getting pregnant. I can't stand a lot of pain and I'm scared of that because when it penetrates with one finger it doesn't hurt but when it penetrates with two I feel pain and what is left if you insert your penis it will probably hurt three times more. But the main reason is the fear of breaking the condom and becoming a nuisance ... that's what I'm most afraid of and that stops me ... and I want to do it too. But I don't know how to be sure that the condom won't break .. Please give some advice ....
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Well read how condoms work. They don't break like that out of nowhere. You can also drink contraceptives.
If you're so scared of getting pregnant, let me just tell you not to watch condoms break so easily in the movies and suddenly you're pregnant. The condom is quite strong and difficult to break ... it is true, but it is really MINIMUM! But if you do not want to take risks, even though the risk is negligible, you can try contraceptives. For this you should consult your GP or at least study the issue, consult a pharmacist, after all they are half doctors, so I think they will help you a lot and so you will use both a condom and after intercourse you take a pill for insurance. And the fact that you are afraid that it will hurt ... it's not just you. The first time it may hurt (depending on the person), but each time it will hurt less and it will get cooler. You can ask your boyfriend to be more gentle, to insert it a little slower and if the pain is unbearable to ask him to stop. But anyway, there is always a first time ... the important thing is to look at this moment not as the most painful and nasty in your life, but as a wonderful moment in your life, which you will always remember and turn from a girl to a woman. . It's all about the attitude ... you may not be prepared for it, if your boyfriend is understood he will overcome it, it's all about the mental attitude! Good luck! :) it's all about the mental attitude! Good luck! :) it's all about the mental attitude! Good luck! :)
It is very difficult to break a condom. If it has not expired and is careful in its manipulation (not to peel with nails, teeth ...) there is no reason to break. The best are Durex. Regarding pain, it's all a matter of self-suggestion. At the age of 16 you are already a developed young woman. Your vagina is big enough for a penis to get inside without hurting. If it hurts when he puts two fingers in it, it must be because he does it more rudely. He may scratch you with his fingernails. Men are a little rude when they insert their fingers. They think that the stronger the better, the better it will be for you. It also hurts me if they put a finger in me and they are not careful. But I have no problems with sex. Talk to him, show him exactly how you like him. If you don't show him, he has no way of knowing. And when it comes time for real sex, it is most important to have time and a comfortable place. We are afraid that now someone will come and catch you. You have to relax. If you are nervous, the muscles of the vagina tighten and it will hurt. Your friend has to be patient, wait for you to be wet enough. When you are wet, your penis slides and will not hurt. You can also buy a lubricant. It must be water-based and it can be written that it can be used with a condom. Any baby oils and Vaseline can break the condom.
That it hurts like that. It hurts a lot the first time. There was no blood, but no pain. But that's how it was created to be. The first few times it hurts. And after the act it hurts and pulsates with pain. Because your vagina is not used to stretching. And it hurts from stretching and rubbing. But if you love someone, you trust him. If your relationship is serious. I personally started at 18. And I'm not sorry that not earlier.
You have to have the slightest worries about the condom, because they don't break easily and you don't have to end up with anything, because with a condom you can finish with an oral or manual one. And the pain is not so terrible, there are girls who feel almost no pain and there are those who hurt more, but you will see that after 2-3 times you will forget even what this big "pain" was - just be calm, because if you are worried you will tighten up and it will hurt you you have to relax and there is nothing scary. And most importantly, you are with the person you love, you can stop at any time and try another time, you have nothing to worry about, after all, children are born from there, don't think so, it's not a pain to die.
If he was in you with two fingers, then you are no longer a child.
The first time was very strange for me. In fact, it happened by accident and the boy convinced me that he had not opened it for me. He pulled me sharply towards him to hug me and I felt quite unpleasant pain, and when I came home I had a few drops of blood on my underwear. Don't worry, it's not a pain to die and you'll forget it quickly. But after a few months I made him check and I was not a virgin. Things developed quite slowly, first with one finger, then with two, and finally as it should, because I was really scared of the pain. But the mental pain is stronger and make sure he stays with you after that.