I have been married for 10 years. But it so happened that last summer I met a friend of my husband. At Christmas, he admitted to me that he liked me a long time ago. I don't know how it happened, but I fell in love with him. He claims to love me, but doesn't show much of his feelings, and tells me he's just like that. Otherwise, he looks for me when he can, we see each other and when I ask him if he still loves me, he says of course! He told me that he wanted us to be together like I did, but it was difficult or impossible. Does he really love me I wonder He lives with his ex-wife, who does not love his son either. Now he left for his city on holidays and I suffer a lot. He says I'll call and don't ring. The explanation is that he has a job, but when I look for him and ask if he's bothering me, he tells me, as long as you've talked nonsense, I'm glad, "I don't want a divorce, but I really want to be with this person." I love him and he says so, but why is he behaving a little cold ... What should I do? I know there are men like that. But I'm more sensitive. Does my friend really love me?
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Don't believe it.
This is an irresponsible person who, in addition to not caring about his responsibility to his own family, is about to ruin yours. You yourself have doubts. Why? This is your instinct for self-preservation. Listen to your inner voice - we know all the answers ourselves. Get rid of it before it's too late.
I don't think so. Don't ruin your family for him, no matter how much you love him.
He doesn't love you, he just lies to you. Actions always speak much more than words. A man who loves a woman always finds a way to be with her, and if he can't be with her temporarily, he calls on the phone to at least hear her. Having a job is just an excuse. It is not worth breaking up your family because of him, because he will shrink to his wife and you will be left alone. Believe me, I have been with many men and I know their psyche well, I know all their numbers and actions, only when I hear a line I understand what it is about.
I love a woman very much. I want to see her every day. I also turn phones. She's fine and I can feel her spinning. It is normal for me, but after reading a lot of letters it became clear to me that I was wrong. People saw each other once a week, seven times a year. What is this love. For example, I have sex with my wife, normal regular fucking. I'm waiting for her to fall asleep and I'm on GSM. I'm a full hook. Do you want such a lover? I do not believe. Yours is probably from the heavy cavalry. HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU.
He's lying to you, believe me! I have been in such a situation as a witness and I know how difficult it was for my girlfriend after that! Do not take the bait of kind words and vain promises, then you will be very sorry that you ruined your family because of him. It is not worth suffering anymore after that - he will leave you, as he did with his ex-wife! And the fact that he tells you how happy he is when you call him is a kind of slight delusion to keep you available longer, a kind of insurance that you will not leave him! Get away from him so you don't suffer! You will still judge for yourself, but this is my opinion - you are lying !!! Good luck, whatever you decide!
Thank you for giving me advice, friends, only if you know what's wrong with me ... He still can't hear my phone when I look for it, and then when we talk he tells me that he loves me and wants us to be together, but he's just like that. Life had beaten him and even treated his parents that way. Yesterday I asked him if he intended to continue like this, if he wanted us to be together, and he told me that I knew very well that he loved me and wanted me. Tell you what, it's not about sex. We had opportunities and we didn't. Not that it's something great in bed, but I like how I sank so I don't know ... Now how to treat myself ...
Let me tell you, there are men who do not share or talk about their feelings. Temeruti in general. If he didn't want you, he would hardly bother to lie to you. He may love you, but his pride is stronger than anything. It is difficult to live with such people.
Hello darling, live as long as you can, don't ruin your family with your husband because of this man, but if you feel good with him, life goes on, it's short.
I don't think it will be easier for you if you continue with your friend. So far, it seems to me that you don't even know if he loves you. No matter how proud a man is and no pathos in his words, he would like to be with you at any moment. Probably he is also passionate, but he is afraid of the turmoil of your feelings. He may even be responsible to your family and your husband. Excuse me, but I don't think you're really in love and blinded, but rather flattered. It will pass.
№ 10 is the most accurate answer. I think that you have already experienced the flattery, the attention. So often we take this for love.