Hello! First of all, I would like to point out that the story I will share here is completely real and I would like to take it seriously. So, let's get down to business. I'm a 16-year-old girl (I don't think my place of residence is that important) who's really starting to break down mentally. There is not only one problem, but the main factor I guess is the family I live in. And don't think that I live in a sick environment ... No. My parents are people with opportunities who have always wanted the "best" for me, although our opinions often differ. From an early age they bought me expensive things, dressed me in expensive clothes, I was always with the latest models of phones and so on ... In general, unnecessary things for vanity. At least in my opinion. This is the main reason for the negative attitude of others towards me. I don't have any friends, the only contacts with people my age are with my cousin, with whom I rarely see. Absolutely everyone in my class shuns me, thinks I'm bloated, and discusses me by talking nonsense and spitting at me. I tried to get close to a girl a few months ago, but it was all a mockery. It's hard to speak in front of people, everyone thinks it's because I'm bloated, but the truth is that I'm a pretty shy person. On the other hand, my parents are completely dedicated to their work and I hardly receive attention. Now you can call me a bastard, maybe I really look like that on the sidelines, but the truth is that I'm super sensitive, and I've been enduring this since I went to school - I've always had minimal or zero contact with people and I've carried negativity and hatred, because I'm not guilty, that I have. About 2 months ago, I started getting something like seizures (I don't know the correct term for this condition at all), but it is justified by this - at some point in the day, no matter when, I start to feel hellishly sad, as if I get depressed and burst into tears, which last for several hours (almost every day). I decided to write here because I really need advice and I don't have anyone to share it with. I hope I get a serious attitude. Thanks to everyone in advance! because I really need advice, and I don't have anyone to share it with. I hope I get a serious attitude. Thanks to everyone in advance! because I really need advice, and I don't have anyone to share it with. I hope I get a serious attitude. Thanks to everyone in advance!
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How much wisdom in a 16-year-old girl. I want to think that way at your age, because I was in your situation, only I was one of the crazy and the poor. I fell asleep with tears in my eyes every night. I learned to cry without a voice so that no one would understand. I cried for many years, I had a hard time accepting the rejection because I didn't understand how I was provoking him. In short, terrible school years. Much later, only when the whole world collapsed with a few events did I realize my mistake. One can never, and should not, try to please others. Whatever you do, evil people will never accept you. Here is the key, do you need them to accept you? The most important thing is to evaluate yourself, to accept yourself. Realize that your happiness and joy are more important. Others, if they want to accept you. They lose valuable contact with you, because you are very wise. Your peers can only learn from you!
People dream of being in a situation like yours - luxury goods, wealthy parents, probably able to cover a good higher education. If they are busy with their work and can't pay attention to you, they will earn more and don't have time to confuse you (others complain that their parents annoy and disturb them). In general, rich children like them at school (money is fashionable), but if you are in a less populated area and everyone else is poorer, they may hate you. It is really absurd to have seizures for such harmless things - that you do not have classmates. Are they good company and is it worth being friends with them? If your behavior is passive (you don't flaunt money or insult the poor) then they are vain, as long as they judge you only by what things you have. And if you are not vain, then you will not like yourself. Use your opportunities for useful and fun activities, create interests and hobbies, and meet new people along with them. Appreciate what you have, because it is much easier to find good friends than to make good money (so that you can even think about expensive clothes and phones).
More or less so am I. I don't talk to people, which is why I talk loudly at home without realizing it. The children in the school are used to this - I am the girl who studies and is silent in class and at school. I feel bad. I don't open textbooks lately, it's good that I have a memory. They give as an example, which makes me sick because I don't like it. I will try to change, you try too.
Lack of attention and love is something really devastating. I will pray for you, child. I know another being in the same situation. People like you - with qualities, with thinking, with morality and a measure of who they can get together with and with whom, no - such people irritate the "normal", who subconsciously feel their superiority. It is very difficult, really ... You should only beware of unhappy falling in love, because in this way many people have gone against their principles. You need strength and endurance to withstand the effects of dislike and humiliation; I can only pray (I consider this to be the most important and successful), because good advice, at least in my opinion, is useless. You have my support!
Share with your mother. It can make you feel better. I am 29 years old, I work and live alone. At work I am insulted by big women, with families and opportunities. How could they not call me. I even received threats of physical violence from colleagues. I decided to leave because I was going crazy. I was crushed for more than a year. I had been accused of being arrogant, high-spirited, an idiot, a peasant. I decided to end it on my own if no one protected me. I applied to leave. Such a burden fell from my shoulders. I advise you to change schools as soon as the environment oppresses you. Don't be crushed right now. You will grow up as a complex and mentally unstable woman. Change the environment when you can't change it. You are not what others tell you. You will find another company. Get away from those energy vampires who drink your energy. Good luck. Write what happened. Caramel
I know your story and I am in a similar situation. There's always a way to do everything, but I don't know how we can handle you. I want to help you, so I will give you a suggestion: if you love animals, ask them to take an animal (cat, dog, hamster, etc.). But if you like the idea, you can move to another school and try to not many people understand who your parents are. I'm sorry if I didn't help. Success!
No, darling, you didn't lie down! It's just that your parents are jerks ... and probably complexes, for which everything of value in the human world has only financial expression ... Unfortunately, despite all the vanity, work and money, they have missed something extremely important - communication with you . That's why you can't communicate with other children - you just don't have the skills. You also don't have love and support from your parents ... probably every attempt on your part to communicate with them ends with the words: "Oh, don't bother me with nonsense!" Or "I bought you something. - it will solve your problem! ". It doesn't happen that way. We have two children - the eldest is a daughter your age. We have been communicating with them every day since we were babies - for at least an hour a day. When we were little we told stories, then we talked about birds and bees, Life, the universe and everything else. As they got older, we began to tell our daily lives - we to them and they to us. Then to learn lessons, to test ourselves, etc. Every day ... during the weekends and vacations we are somewhere together - on a trip abroad, in the mountains or as guests. They are now older and go out on their own with friends - you always know where they are, when they will return, is there anyone to accompany or send them (they inform us without reminding them or arguing with them - a matter of habits, communication , trust, built relationships ...). We even smoked hookah together. And we have "opportunities" (say - a little above average), but we have never flaunted this - we live in an ordinary neighborhood with ordinary neighbors. We don't buy them the most expensive things, we make them think about whether they really need this and that, or whether something far more unpretentious would do the same to them, if not a better job ... And all the work "pays off" for us - the children wear sixes, communicate fully with their classmates at school, one they even chose for " president of the class ":) they go back and forth all the time, do projects, rehearse plays, do various competitions ... without us pushing them for it. Well done, I like the way you think, what your value system is. Not everything is lost - after 2 years you are an adult ... You will leave the mediocre school, you will go to college, university or you will start some work where people will be open-minded to you and you will gradually start to form your environment, which will be much more to your taste and preferences. I wish you success. if not a better job ... And all the work "pays off" for us - the children wear sixes, communicate fully with their classmates at school, one of them was even chosen as "class president" :) they go around all the time, they do projects, rehearse plays, do various competitions ... without us pushing them for it. Well done, I like the way you think, what your value system is. Not everything is lost - after 2 years you are an adult ... You will leave the mediocre school, you will go to college, university or you will start some work where people will be open-minded to you and you will gradually start to form your environment, which will be much more to your taste and preferences. I wish you success. if not a better job ... And all the work "pays off" for us - the children wear sixes, communicate fully with their classmates at school, one of them even chose him as "class president" :) they go around all the time, they do projects, rehearse plays, do various competitions ... without us pushing them for it. Well done, I like the way you think, what your value system is. Not everything is lost - after 2 years you are an adult ... You will get out of high school, go to college, university or start a job where people will be open-minded to you and you will gradually begin to form your environment, which will be much more to your taste and preferences. I wish you success. one they even elected him "president of the class" :) they go back and forth all the time, do projects, rehearse plays, do various competitions ... without us pushing them for it. Well done, I like the way you think, what your value system is. Not everything is lost - after 2 years you are an adult ... You will get out of high school, go to college, university or start a job where people will be open-minded to you and you will gradually begin to form your environment, which will be much more to your taste and preferences. I wish you success. one they even elected him "president of the class" :) they go around all the time, do projects, rehearse plays, do various competitions ... without us pushing them for it. Well done, I like the way you think, what your value system is. Not everything is lost - after 2 years you are an adult ... You will get out of high school, go to college, university or start a job where people will be open-minded to you and you will gradually begin to form your environment, which will be much more to your taste and preferences. I wish you success. Not everything is lost - after 2 years you are an adult ... You will get out of high school, go to college, university or start a job where people will be open-minded to you and you will gradually begin to form your environment, which will be much more to your taste and preferences. I wish you success. Not everything is lost - after 2 years you are an adult ... You will leave the mediocre school, you will go to college, university or you will start some work where people will be open-minded to you and you will gradually start to form your environment, which will be much more to your taste and preferences. I wish you success.
I'm like you at school, everyone hated me. I tried not to care, if they were angry I cursed them a lot too. I think you need to move to another school where no one knows you to keep your psyche. Once you have endured, know that you are strong and good and you can handle anything.
Hmmm, yes, wealthy parents pay for not taking parental care with expensive items, which is a pity for them. So you want to get out of depression, but since there is no one to take care of, give yours yours, you can get satisfaction to help a classmate, perhaps, or someone in need, and those in need, just look around!
Oh, again, the girl with the theme about the Serbian gypsy and the shoes for euros 1,000 ...
Sign up for dancing, sports or something summer for teen, join Facebook interest groups and try to make acquaintances, join the Red Cross in your city - actively look for an environment for communication and you will find friends, guarantee! A smile and interest in the person will do the job! It's not that hard, believe me! Don't think that you are shy and that you are worried, but just smile, say hello, it's me ... and ask a few general questions, after which everything will be fine. And share with the man against you! Say honestly what you think, be interested in his opinion and you're done! It is not so difficult to communicate. You have no problem with being wealthy and not being able to communicate. It works in this direction. Depression is clearly due to loneliness, but if you sit at home it can not happen.