Hi, I'm a 21 year old boy. In December 2016, I met a girl I fell head over heels in love with. We were together 8, then in August 2017 we broke up for nonsense (small, standard quarrel) and out of stubbornness no one looked for the other anymore. We live ... we lived close and at first we met often, but at a distance of 2/3 months the random meetings stopped. I didn't feel like 17 months had passed since our separation, but last night I dreamed of her, I dreamed that we met and arranged to see each other in a park nearby, and we planned to run away somewhere together, she went and waited for me, and I as much and to run I still could not reach her. When I woke up the feeling was very nasty, I cried. Thinking about how some such important things take a turn in such an elementary way, and change so many things in our lives (for the record, I have been living abroad for 12 months). I miss her so much, I miss watching the flame shine in her eyes after we made love. Our relationship is lost, and I wanted to marry this girl one day. I hope this will be published because I really need advice from people with more experience than me.
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About the author: If you really want this, you swallow all the pride and write to her, put the cards on the table and hope she doesn't decapitate you. It's probably all over, but there's a chance she'll feel the same way. It's small, but it's there. If you don't want to pursue the dream, you just learn a lesson, and if fate blesses you with another girl you feel so strongly for and with whom you ever share a strong love, you don't let her go for anything in the world. For readers: Ego
If someone can do without you for 17 months, then they will be able to do it for the rest of their lives. It's sad, but everyone in their path is a good option.
Stop sleeping with your legs twisted and share phantasmagoria on this site.
Contact her and tell her everything you feel and think!
If you haven't done anything about seeing each other, then you don't miss it so much.
It's your own fault that you didn't look for her and didn't show her how much she means to you.
I will not lie to you, such love, namely the unfinished one, will never fade, even if you do not see it, sometimes such memories and dreams will creep in. The best advice to move on is to look for her, to talk, I'm sure you have something to say. Then you will be able to move on with your life.
Out of stubbornness, no one looked for the other. If you didn't look for her, then you didn't want her enough. What do you expect to happen, should she pray for you? You're your boyfriend, look for her, tell her you can't do without her, why don't you do it right away? !! All couples quarrel over some things. I once had a very bad argument with my friend, some of his actions repulsed me so much that I told him that I could not live with him and that I wanted to separate. He didn't start talking to me just to be together. I was angry with him for a few days, I even told him I didn't want to see him again. He met me from places where he knew I was passing just to tell me that he was very sorry, that he loved me and could not live without me. This definitely had an effect. I also admit that I told him a lot of bad things and despite everything he wanted to stay with me, it's love. So it's not too late to correct your mistake, tell her all these things. Say that since you broke up, you keep thinking about her, you dream about her and the fact that she is not next to you torments you. Say that she is the love of your life and you want to grow old with her.
Look for her! See how life goes and if there is a person next to you ... if something is going to happen, it will happen. This stubborn person tells you the game, hey ... Come on, live with him, are you happy?
Contact her. It is unknown at this time what he will do after leaving the post.
You pick up the phone and call her to see you :) Even if nothing happens, at least you'll know you've tried. Missed chances are the things that one regrets the most afterwards. Act :)
It's strange how, despite knowing the fact that at any moment we can lose the opportunity to talk to the person we least doubt we love, we don't, mainly out of pride.
Swallow your ego and just look for it! Don't be like my ex, who just didn't do anything about it and let me go. And that hurts like hell. It hurts to see someone who has sworn love to you let you go with the slightest problem. It hurts how he doesn't want to fight for you, for you. It hurts how he erases you so quickly and with such ease. There is no woman who would not want her boyfriend to look for her and show a desire not to quarrel, or that he wants to get her back. A lot depends on the reason ... Don't be like my ex, who also wanted to marry me, but easily gave up on us in a quarrel. You lose nothing if you look for it. It may cut you off, but you'll know for yourself if you have a chance.
(Author) The reason I haven't looked for her so far is that only 10 days after we broke up I saw her walking with another boy in a park (she wasn't a relative or friend as I know them all).
Author, I also went out with someone soon after the breakup. It was an attempt to forget my ex and get distracted. So that still means nothing. There is nothing wrong with a walk (you haven't seen her press with him, have you?) You better clarify your relationships and feelings. So, if you don't get together, at least you can keep going.
In my opinion, 17 months is too long if no one has looked for the other. You are young friend, this feeling will subside, you will overcome it. You will meet another, life is in front of you. PS Until №13, when someone has to "fight" to get back into your life, I think it's humiliating not only for himself. You wanted him to pray for you. Ah, that speaks of a lack of respect for the person you've been with.
I'm number 13. It's just that his ego wouldn't let him fight for me. His ego did not allow him to apologize for some things, but only blamed me for everything. His ego did not allow him to take the blame. He preferred to cover himself in a mouse hole, but not to face me. After a while, I realized that he just didn't know how to deal with conflicts and ran away from problems. And he wasn't a bad person, just quite confused and proud. I tried to look for him, but after his obvious refusal, I gave up. But at least I tried first, which he never mustered the courage to do. I didn't want him to pray, but just to admit his guilt, or at least take a step toward making things right. To show that he cares. What's wrong with someone fighting for you? I have fought, I have made compromises because I have loved and wanted the person in my life. And it happened, because the other is also fighting and we have overcome our differences. The result is that we have been happily married for 7 years and have a child. So sometimes it makes sense to fight. Author, too much time has passed in which you could look for her thousands of times, she may already be married with a child. He may not even be in the country. As someone said above, pride and stubbornness bother both people a lot.
Nothing would have happened if either of you had just looked for the other, whether you or she. If only you had tried, if you come across a rejection better. But this inaction in conflicts and differences destroys many relationships. He may not even be in the country. As someone said above, pride and stubbornness bother both people a lot. Nothing would have happened if either of you had just looked for the other, whether you or she. If only you had tried, if you come across a rejection better. But this inaction in conflicts and differences destroys many relationships. He may not even be in the country. As someone said above, pride and stubbornness bother both people a lot. Nothing would have happened if either of you had just looked for the other, whether you or she. If only you had tried, if you come across a rejection better. But this inaction in conflicts and differences destroys many relationships.