I am a 16 year old girl! I'm the only one in my class who doesn't drink any alcohol, doesn't smoke, and doesn't do anything "wrong." I'm not saying that drinking and smoking is something wrong or forbidden, but I just don't like things like that, because I know how harmful cigarettes are to the body. Alcohol - too. I also don't go out to bars or discos, nor do I have sex. I have no intention of doing anything with my body 18 years ago ... I'm stuck, I realize it. I go out for 3 or 4 hours a day, and the rest of the time I'm at home listening to music. So today a friend of mine said to me: "Let me tell you, it's bad that you're congested. Because that way everyone will avoid you." However, I like it and I have nothing to change. I think it's great to be congested. Hah I know, sounds weird. I'm just sharing.
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And so. A normal girl. These cigarettes stink terribly, you get poisoned with them, and alcohol spoils your stomach and is not tasty to drink.
Marry me: D. Be happy that you are a rarity, "congested" girls like you like a lot of boys, more than you think. M15
I'm 17, I have sex (with my boyfriend, of course, not with everyone, he's my first), I smoke cigarettes, but I don't drink alcohol, I don't go to discos and I don't sit outside until late. that now is the time for us to have fun, go out, etc. but everything is within normal limits. I was never attracted to smoking weed and getting drunk at discos, which I think is currently most relevant for teenagers. I would go to a disco to see what it is, but nothing more and for sure I won't shake like a pig, as even the 05.06 sets already do ...: D I really feel "congested" sometimes because I don't do a lot of the things that entertain my peers, but to be honest I'm proud of that I'm not one of those girls who walks around with much bigger guys in cars, they drink them with weed and take them to discos every night and get them drunk beyond recognition. For me it would be much more pleasant and acceptable to gather company at home, where of course you will probably drink alcohol, but not to such an extent that to make picks. We are not so big, and even if we are 20 and a few years old, we should not overdo it, especially we girls, for us I think it is ugly to behave like lost goats. There's nothing wrong with being different, and everyone has fun in a different way, and if your fun isn't like most kids our age, it's not bad, it doesn't make you congested, and to be honest, watching what they do most to be "current and liked" and not to be considered congested ... but I prefer to stay congested and be picked up before 9 o'clock ...: D For me, it would be much more pleasant and acceptable to gather a company at home, where of course you will probably drink alcohol, but not to such an extent as to make picks. We are not so big, and even if we are at 20 and a few years old should not be overdone, especially we girls, for us I think it's ugly to behave like lost goats. There's nothing wrong with being different, and everyone has fun in a different way, and if your fun isn't like most kids our age, it's not bad, it doesn't make you congested, and to be honest, watching what they do most to be "current and liked" and not to be considered congested ... but I prefer to stay congested and pick me up before 9 o'clock ...: D For me, it would be much more pleasant and acceptable to gather a company at home, where of course you will probably drink alcohol, but not to such an extent as to make picks. We are not so big, and even if we are at 20 and a few years old should not be overdone, especially we girls, for us I think it's ugly to behave like lost goats. There's nothing wrong with being different, and everyone has fun in a different way, and if your fun isn't like most kids our age, it's not bad, it doesn't make you congested, and to be honest, watching what they do most to be "current and liked" and not to be considered congested ... but I prefer to stay congested and be picked up before 9 o'clock ...: D where, of course, we will probably drink alcohol, but not to such an extent that we make picks. We are not so big, and even if we are 20 and a few years old, we should not overdo it, especially we girls, for us, in my opinion, it is ugly to behave like lost goats. There's nothing wrong with being different, and everyone has fun in a different way, and if your fun isn't like most kids our age, it's not bad, it doesn't make you congested, and to be honest, watching what they do most to be "current and liked" and not to be considered congested ... but I prefer to stay congested and be picked up before 9 o'clock ...: D where, of course, we will probably drink alcohol, but not to such an extent that we make picks. We are not so big, and even if we are 20 and a few years old, we should not overdo it, especially we girls, I think it's ugly for us to behave like lost goats. There's nothing wrong with being different, and everyone has fun in a different way, and if your fun isn't like most kids our age, it's not bad, it doesn't make you congested, and to be honest, watching what they do most to be "current and liked" and not to be considered congested ... but I prefer to stay congested and be picked up before 9 o'clock ...: D especially we girls, for me I think it's ugly to behave like lost goats. There's nothing wrong with being different, and everyone has fun in a different way, and if your fun isn't like most kids our age, it's not bad, it doesn't make you congested, and to be honest, watching what they do most to be "current and liked" and not to be considered congested ... but I prefer to stay congested and be picked up before 9 o'clock ...: D especially we girls, for me I think it's ugly to behave like lost goats. There is nothing wrong with being different, and everyone has fun in a different way, and if your fun is not like most children our age, it is not bad, it does not make you congested and if I have to be honest, watching what they do most to be "current and liked" and not to be considered congested ... but I prefer to stay congested and pick me up before 9 o'clock ...: D
You are great! I'm just like you and I'm not sorry :)) Don't change ^^
So am I. If you are not "cool" no one invites you and avoids you. But I also don't want to be poisoned by anything. Many people require you to smoke, drink, etc. If you do it from the cool you go to discos, etc. Who wants to smoke and drink, this is his body. But it's just necessary and people avoid them. But after a year of hearing about university or a job, no one will care about it. Since I'm in a small town, I'll tell you how things are and how they think "cool." There is a disco where they sell fakes. All 14-15 year olds go there as well, 5th grade, etc. And when you walk and when you get on, you do the big job. But not ! If one thinks about things, one will see that it is nothing. Their parents know (supposedly most) and give them 7-8 leva and that's it. They take from their savings and buy a common box of cigarettes. They go to some tables because they don't have 60-80 leva for a booth (including alcohol) or they stand around the bar, where it's not ok. They buy Coca-Cola or juices and put it on a store because it's very expensive to get alcohol and then show off. Here and there is a glass of vodka and they drink it all night, but rarely. They load boxes of cigarettes and alcohol on stories, two of them empty and one with only one cigarette. And so I already went to a disco, etc. It's not bad for them to go, who am I to forbid them. But a parade begins, and so on. It is bad that a standard is being created that does not even exist, but is with their money. For expensive phones. There are parents whose opportunities are high and others are not. These acquaintances almost drink the soul of theirs for an expensive iPhone, which they cannot afford or any of their relatives gives it to them. (I don't want to judge anyone, but sometimes I do. Most of the time). They take it on installment, and it's an older model, which is supposedly cool, but it's cheaper (600 leva, not a little money, but). Some can get more modern phones, but those who show off get an iPhone 6, 6s. And we're already cool. By parading that they are rich not taking an iPhone X. But if they break them, what happens to theirs, will they buy them a new one? On whether. It's not cool for me to torture your parents for something they can't have and to be cool. I feel very sick when they discuss how some are dressed as if they were passers-by, etc., and they themselves cannot buy "branded" clothes. For clothes and accessories. Everyone brags about having nike, puma, Adidas, etc. sneakers. OBag bag and here are the modern ones. Again, it's like phones, it's not bad to find it on promotion, because they are quality, but to show off that you only have such branded shoes is questionable considering what income (Not that someone gets a job, but a small town and you know who works where and you know what money is taken for these professions, considering that most of them have a high school education. Not that it's bad to have one, but to wonder. . They take their bags, but when they pull on the handles, they return to the old backpacks. The most interesting are the make-up. How do they buy expensive palettes for 80-100 leva and how much foundation do they have. These are in most cases not real, fake or their mothers'. See, I know it sounds nasty, but in most cases it is. I don't affect anyone in any way, but there are people who find it funny to see them pretend to be rich. If there are people who can afford it, ok. Now you will say that I may be someone who has envy or can not take my expensive things, it is not! I have clothes, a decent phone, a roof over my head, food at home, shoes, I travel, etc. I live normally, but there are things I can afford. I invest in quality work, but I don't show off because I know what I or my parents gave. People, after a year, no one cares whether you have the latest iPhone, new sneakers, expensive clothes or expensive cosmetics. If you succeed in quality people, they will appreciate you for your own sake, not for things that are some matter. This is only in high school and when it's over you will see who will go where. Good luck to everyone ! Girl, 14 years old, 9th grade.
Well yes. It's only in high school. Believe me, even when you turn 18, no one cares if you smoke or not, what phone you have and so on. Things take a different direction and when you finish you will probably feel it. I smoke cigarettes and smoked them in high school, but that's where I found true friends and we are still friends today. We collected pennies for cigarettes and coffee. Believe me, this nonsense will pass so quickly. You're just that age and you're comparing who does what.
Number 5, you think well, but it's not true. After school, all these things are looked at even more. Everything has to be branded or a pariah. I thought like you, but life disproved me. J. 33
I'm the same way you are. Only where I was stupid and wanted to be like them. I started smoking just to fit in. But I realized that I was only harming myself. Otherwise, well done for not being influenced by others. Be yourself and continue in the same spirit :)
To be honest, I was the same as you. And I kept telling myself that this was for the good and that it was not right to change in order to please others. And this is true. But years later, I realized the downsides of being "stuck." When you are constantly avoided and do not create your own company, something very naughty happens. You realize that you don't have the same experience as the others, that you "lived" for us when you were young, and that you didn't create enough happy memories. You realize that you have not allowed yourself the right to "make mistakes" while it is time for you, that you have not developed the skills to communicate with others and that you will always be different. There are people who are congested at school, there are those who remain congested in life. The second one is already naughty, believe me! I see how far behind my peers I am. They used to do whatever they wanted - they drank, they smoked, went to discos, boyfriends. After graduating from high school, they got closer and found a job, already having relationships and company of friends. And now they are happy and mature people. While I feel like a loser to this day, even though I have a boyfriend. What can I tell you, it is paradoxical. On the one hand, you stay true to yourself and manage on your own, but on the other hand, you lack many things. I know it sounds crazy, but it's part of growing up. It is ironic because we have chosen our destiny, but after a while we wonder what is wrong with us and why we are unhappy. This may not be the case with you. But, believe me, you did not choose an easy fate. In such situations one must choose between two evils. One is to change to please others. The second is to stay true to yourself, but alone. Staying home alone doesn't do us any good, because life outside is boiling and we are trampling on one place. At 16, I thought like you, now I'm 23 and I feel damaged by my own decisions. Because things are not one-sided, as we often think. Yes, when we make decisions, we think they are right. But over time, we realize how wrong we have been. The fun of teenage years is greatly underestimated because even they are part of growing up. Dramas alongside boyfriends and friends also help us grow mentally and understand many things. I did not allow myself to grow as a person and to this day I regret it. But over time, we realize how wrong we have been. The fun of teenage years is greatly underestimated because even they are part of growing up. Dramas alongside boyfriends and friends also help us grow mentally and understand many things. I did not allow myself to grow as a person and to this day I regret it. But over time, we realize how wrong we have been. The fun of teenage years is greatly underestimated because even they are part of growing up. Dramas alongside boyfriends and friends also help us grow mentally and understand many things. I did not allow myself to grow as a person and to this day I regret it.
Номер 8 разбирам, че не трябва да ходиш със скъсани дрехи и че по дрехите посрещат, а по ума изпращат. Но никой не ти гледа дали чантата не ти е Fendi, обувките Christian Louboutin , роклята Versace и бельото Victoria Secret. Парите са важни, но не е ли по - важно човек да се превръща в каквото и да е, само заради другите. Вярно, че като отидеш на интервю за работа и трябва да изглеждаш прилично ама работодателя няма да те пита какво е бельото ти, нали? Съжалявам Номер 5, но не мога да се съглася. Не всичко става с пари, но не значи, че не са нужни. Скъпи дрехи, повярвай ми има хора, които дори не знаят кой са скъпите марки и се правят, че знаят, а изглеждат все едно идват от битака. Винаги ще се гледа доброто облекло, телефон и т. н. Аз самата го усещам. Нямам iPhone, нито скъпи маратонки и маркова clutch чанта. Говоря как стоят нещата и наистина, аз намерих приятели, които ме приемат такава каквато съм, не им пука колко ми струва телефона или дали маратонките са ми от нова серия. Винаги ще го има, това е! Говорих, че се налагат стандарти, които ги няма. Много думи мога да изпиша, но не знам дали ще ме разбереш. Нищо лошо към теб. И аз искам скъпи работи, но се сещам, че няма как да ги имам, колкото и да си мечтая. Все ми е тая дали вчерашна кифла ще ми говори за мода, защото знам повече от нея и ще ми говори за телефона ѝ, който само камерната му е добра, но друго. Ако я питам кога е независимостта на България, нада ли ще ми отговори. Така че! Всичко ще е важно на тоя свят! От номер 5!
It doesn't sound strange, you're not the only one. There are many people like you, but you have no place to know them, because they probably stay at home listening to music.
I am 25 years old and I have never smoked cigarettes in my life. Many of my "friends" have offered me to smoke, but I have always refused, I have not felt the need to fit in this way. As a teenager, I tried a hookah because it smells nice and was ok. I drink alcohol only if there is an occasion. The important thing is to feel comfortable in your own skin and not deny yourself!
Hah, I'm 12 and I'm the same. It sounds strange and you will probably say to yourself "Who smokes and drinks at 12" is ... there are a lot of people who think they are cool when they do that. They sit outside until 1 o'clock in the morning. They smoke. They swear like the world. They even cursed teachers in front of them. But I wanted to tell you that you are not the only one. Even when I come home from school I sit at the computer or listen to music, then a little homework, in general I do not like to be among people and be influenced by them. I don't know if it's normal, but I feel good, and I don't really care what my peers or others at school tell me. I haven't posted a comment another time and I don't know when it will be shown, so I will hope it will be published.
Abe, calm down. I was like that too. All in good time. You don't have to be like everyone in the herd.
"Some can get more modern phones, but those who show off get an iPhone 6, 6s. And we're cool now. By showing off that they're rich because they don't get an iPhone X." "They go to some tables because they don't have 60-80 leva for a booth (including alcohol) or stand around the bar, where it is not ok. "You are too obsessed with the environment. I suggest you stop doing this before you lose your mind. I was in the group with the "rich kids". It's good that my parents didn't suffer from the mania to put me to sleep with money and so on. I just want to tell you that whether you have or don't have the latest phone model, whether you pay for the booth, stay at the bar or they let you on the "VIP" because you know the owner, whether you wear expensive clothes or imitations is the same nonsense as you parade and think them. Don't think that when you spend BGN 3,000 iPhone XS Max with the largest memory, and go to school with a MacBook and iPad Pro for a total of BGN 8,000, will you be very good, successful or busy? This is nonsense! Get rid of this thinking, because if you get stuck there, you will be cold all your life, and if you will throw money at it.
Your topic is completely redundant. Although you say you like being "congested" if you really were right you wouldn't point out how fair you are with all this description of a "super" healthy life, waiting for motivational phrases like "finally a normal one". And the fact that you don't drink or smoke can stop you associating it with the word "congested."
I can't figure out exactly what you mean by a traffic jam. Not that you don't have friends and you sit at home, but that you don't go to the bars to drink? Is this it?