Hi, I'm a 9th grader (I'm 14 and a half because I started school a year earlier). My problem is that whatever boy I liked, he never responded to my feelings. In most cases, it didn't pay attention to me, but none at all! Here - there was one I liked for 4 years, at first we were friends, but then he became a big bastard, started insulting me, finally separated from our company. I was very tormented by the fact that he did not go out with us, because of him I moved to the school where I study now (applying after 7th grade). In the new school he paid no attention to me, and I was dying! I started crying every day, I just suffered a lot ... anyway, I met another boy and somehow forgot him. This other one was as shy as I was. I was barely introduced to him, finally I started writing to him on FB, I always wrote to him first. But I didn't see any interest in him, I gave up. I had liked each other, too, but there was no need to write about him - I didn't dare push myself on such a boy at all, but come on, I didn't like these two as much as the first one, for example. But here's the worst: This year another boy came to my class and I liked him almost immediately, which automatically provided me with suffering for at least the entire 9th grade. I just don't believe that someone like him can catch up with someone like me - I'm neither very beautiful nor the smartest, and I'm very shy and closed. Don't think he's one of those bloated, battered-looking, muscular bodies, blah-blah. He's not like that at all, he's the most normal. In the interest of truth, none of those I liked were like that, they were all the most normal boys, not some who thought they had some tiles and could have any girl. This one doesn't pay me any attention, no matter that we're in the same class. In principle, my class doesn't like me at all, only 1 girl hangs out with me more often, there are 2 other girls who sometimes come to ask me something, but that's it. And the one I like hangs out with the ones who most they hate me. I am very angry, it is possible that he was told nonsense about me. In fact, no one in my class (almost no one) has known me, that's why they hate me so much. At the beginning of the year, they caused me problems, lied to the class and I had to show myself in the worst light in front of him. I'm really angry. On top of everything, I realized that he likes one, but God knows who it is ... I only know, d / d, which class it should be. Now I suffer from it every day, a kind of repeat of that story with the first boy I wrote about. When I see that he is hanging out with someone, he comes to throw himself from somewhere, I am really sick. I just can't take it anymore, I'm even starting to look for the mistake in me, because no one I like can't help but respond to me for no reason. Yes, I'm not the most beautiful, I'm not the smartest, but I'm not that bad. I think my biggest problem is my anxiety. Well, I'm overcoming it, but it's a very rare phenomenon. Yes, there are other guys who like me, but I just don't accept them that way, I want mine and that's it. I know some will say my story is complete nonsense, but come on now, wouldn't I? a little unpleasant if almost everyone around you had shared love and your chosen ones don't pay attention to you? I know that I have to lie down over the lessons, but put yourself in my place :). Thank you for reading my story.
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Darling, you are still a little too desperate! It is true that every girl has her student love, but there are still many years ahead of you during which you will meet many different boys .. Do not despair, there will be many boyfriends that you will even get tired;)
My story is the same, I have nothing to tell ... I will just follow the advice, because I need it too. I'll just tell you that if nothing better happens so far, stop hoping for this one from your class, because I had the same problem. I am absolutely the same job ... only now I am in this school for the second year, because I went abroad for a few months and I had to repeat this one and I have a new class, but they are better than my previous one. I talk to most of them, but there are still some that I find bad. You don't care .. we'll just have many more chances .. read more and prove yourself constantly and in time they will accept you as you are and find more friends .. through them you will meet some cool boy. .. don't have any illusions about this one from your class .. until a month ago I loved a boy madly, but I gave up on him ... I saw that he didn't care about me. Do the same and give up if it's not worth it ... don't think I'm a person who doesn't pursue my dreams ... I had done everything about it, but I saw it didn't work out. If you ask me, don't catch a boyfriend from the class, because then when you break up, some things happen ... good luck, guys, and remember one of me ... Love both comes and goes.
Hello, 2! Yes, I know there is still a long time that I will meet a lot of guys, but I'm just tormented a lot at the moment. It's just sad to see almost all the other girls around me paying attention to their chosen ones, and whoever I like ... they just won't look at me. And now something like this is happening again, I don't feel like going to school anymore, because I have to see it there. Yes, in principle I want to see it, but I realize that it affects me badly, because whenever I look at it I am initially happy, but as soon as I remember that it will never be mine ... the smile instantly falls, I start to suffer again. Just at the thought of what suffering awaits me at school ... my desire to go is killed instantly, but I can't help but go to school. Yes, suffering,
from 2: Darling is different for everyone, for example, when I was little I also didn't get along with my boyfriends. Over time, however, everything changed .. Now I'm big and I even live with my boyfriend :). Don't bother about such nonsense, if this boy doesn't pay attention to you, then he doesn't deserve you :)
Up to 3 - Hello! Yes, I want to give it up, but I can't yet. I have to like someone else to forget it, but to tell you the truth, I'm already afraid of liking someone because I know I won't like it and I'll suffer again. I don't know, I have the feeling that when I like someone ... I automatically push him away from me, as if I radiate some energy / I don't tell them about my feelings, it doesn't make sense to see that the boy in question is not interested in me /. Yes, I say / for myself, of course /, I don't think I'm such a stupid girl. There were guys who liked me, but I always accepted them as friends. In principle, I find it difficult to like (but I really like, not to be deceived) a boy ... I choose, I choose and in the end I hit a rock again, I always hit those who would not even look at me. Maybe there's a problem with my broadcasting because I'm more shy. I don't know what's going on anymore. To 2 - I know there is a chance that things will change, but I still find it strange that whoever I like ... no interest on his part and I think that there may be some problem in me that can cause me interferes in the future. The author
FROM NUMBER 3 Chick, I know what your problem is ... I have the same. Like I told you ... forget it, or at least tell yourself that you have to like someone else! I gave up on him like that .. I started looking at the other boys .. I stared at them, I challenged them with my eyes; I don't care anymore, but don't think that they don't notice you ... exactly who you least expect notices you ... how do you know that they don't like you too? To me, the one I liked drove me crazy ... if you are more interested, read my story "I continue to torment myself by loving him". I was depressed, but I said to myself, I have to stop ... if you read my story, you'll understand what it's all about, and so then he started looking at me all the time, but I don't care anymore ... I don't go back in the past. Like you, accept it as the past and it's a chick. :) I won't tell you to go to him and tell him what you are and all sorts of nonsense, because it's not so easy, but in words we can do everything. So to fuck him and that's it, don't think it's hard, just a little perseverance and you're ready.
To number 3 - I think I read your story; dd. Well, I like others, but they don't pay any attention to me either. How do I know they don't like me? Well, very easy - they never gave me any signs, they didn't even look at me. In most cases, I understand that they like other girls or have girlfriends. Yes, there have been cases where I liked someone, but at that time he did not like me, but after a while this one likes me, but I don't like him anymore .. I know I have to give up this one as well as the others 1 -2 guys / rather 1, which I don't like so much /, who also don't pay attention to me, but I can't. I keep saying to myself, "No, I have to stop, otherwise I'll just suffer ...", but no! It's just that this feeling is stronger than me, I can't control it. The only way to forget them is to like someone else I guess
FROM number 3 Time is the best treatment, I have nothing more to tell you! Here and even virtual friends only gave me advice ...! I was told to stop watching him do what and when I saw him at school not to watch him at all, it was as if he didn't exist. I told myself I should try. Well, I did it! I started to be interested in other guys and now I'm even used to not logging in to see him. I forgot it, as much as I loved it ... it's all in time so good luck chick. :) All you have to do is stop dealing with it and I give you a max of 2 weeks and it will have faded from your consciousness ... listen to me no matter how hard it is for you and you will see for yourself that it has an effect.
To 3 - I know I have to stop doing it, but for me it's always like I have to like someone else first to forget the old one, but I've said before - I'm really afraid to like someone, because I always think that he won't pay attention to me, because that's always the case. The author
From 3 Stop thinking like that and you will see how everything will be fine. This is the only useful advice that will help a lot. :) Forget about the one you like or possibly make friends with him and that's it. becomes.
Up to 3 - I wish I could make friends with him, but there are a lot of obstacles, the biggest is my class. We are in the same class with him, he came this year, in the ninth grade. I've been in this class since the eighth grade, my classmates didn't like me in the beginning because I was too quiet and closed. I didn't let anyone near me, they still hate me. I only have 1 girlfriend who they also hate. And that's how the trouble happened - he came, and he knows them, because he was in a school until the seventh grade with them. One hundred percent told him nonsense about me being bloated or something, and that's not true at all. On top of all that, the class caused me problems at the beginning of the year, some lies were told to the class, I had to deal with my stupid class and therefore I had to show myself in front of him in my worst light. I see that he is constantly hanging out with those who hate me the most and that's a terrible obstacle. He doesn't pay ANY attention to me, I wonder if he has already hated me ... I have a Facebook account, we never wrote to each other. He sent me an invitation, but I know he sent it to the whole class. I'm just terribly angry! It all happened mainly because of my stupid class, who not only got to know me, but also didn't allow others to get to know me. The author
Well, you see ... at least he sent you an invitation to fbto! Come on, this is your chance. If you are a more open person, just write to him on Facebook, for example, tomorrow you will come to the teacher and ask him what he is not talking to you and wait to see what he will tell you. If he tells you you don't like him * he'll like his mom.
By 13 - He sent it to me a long time ago. Otherwise, now I really decided to write to him when I saw him on Facebook, because he really doesn't come to school xD, but I still can't detect him. The author
Mazo, you and I turned this into a chat here; e I'm telling you one last thing! Go to Facebook and spend the whole day waiting for it and if you see it online, act. ;) Good luck and as long as you whine; e if you want a man you will strain a little and he is ready .. remember that all men are easy .. you just need a little trick and know how to make him interested in you.
Hello! It turned out that he really hated me, unfortunately ... yes, I barely had the courage to write to him, when we wrote we behaved completely normally, but we wrote a lot of things in common, I just asked him why he didn't come, we wrote a little and in the end I told him "I hope you get better faster", he answered "thank you", but then something else happened .. In English class he chatted a lot, the teacher got angry and told him to sit next to me and another girl / in principle we are the outsiders of the class with her, they hate us /, he was very angry and said that he prefers to expel him, in any way he showed that he would sit next to anyone else, but not next to us .. and in the end really he left the class because he didn't want to be with us, but anyway. A few days later I heard him slander me again, because I had more than him at one checkpoint, and I see him constantly with other girls. Yes, after this incident with the hour I cried a lot, during the hours I also cried, as well as two or three days after this incident .. I suffered a lot, but now you can say that I am better, even when this day of the hour comes out because of us, even then I decided to forget it, but still I could not contain my emotions. I'm still trying to forget it, although I'm still very sorry about it. I also know why he hates us, the whole thing is because of the class, they obviously really talked him into it, as I guessed. I am angry that they did it, I am angry that he listened to them, but hopefully I will overcome it soon. I just don't want to see or hear about him at the moment, but it's going to be hard because I'm in the same class. At least he didn't come today (and better) because I was very upset to see him. I try to avoid it, not to look at it either. I try to deal with others, just so I don't think about it, it works for me to some extent. Thanks to everyone who tried to help me :))! The author