People, please help !! I am 19 years old. And I think that if I continue my youth like that, my life will pass without feeling the pleasure of it at all !! :( I am terribly shy, I find it difficult to communicate with people, that's why there are almost no people around me, I am full of complexes about my appearance, about that, not to say something stupid and what not. When I'm in a big company I just blush and swallow my tongue when I'm in a nightclub instead of having fun I freeze on the spot out of worry. I just can't relax whatever and to do so, I miss every chance for fear of failing, so every Friday night I sit at home alone while my acquaintances have fun outside, and so I want to feel good in the big and noisy company, and at least once whirl without hesitation in a disco until the morning! But no matter how much I want it because of my damn huge worry, it doesn't happen! I want to know if there are people who have had my problem and dealt with it. If there is please tell me how !
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Hi, I'm a boy. I was the same at your age. I'm not much different at the moment, but that doesn't bother me at all. I don't like big companies. When I decide I can not worry, but I personally think that this is a good quality and I'm happy to keep it :). There is only one way to go to your fear. This applies to everything, not just your shyness. The more you are afraid, the scarier it will be :). And there is really nothing scary. You may have experience from other situations where you are afraid of something and it seems impossible for you to deal with it, but when you stand in front of it face to face you are just amazed how it was possible to be afraid of such a weak thing. You may fail on your first or second attempt (depending on how determined you are to overcome it), but you will surely overcome it and again you will be amazed at how easy it is. And one more thing ... If you pay attention to how you will look in people's eyes and this is above what you want you will have problems in life in general. Each person is individual, each person is beautiful in his own way. Do not accept the opinion of other people to lead you in life, it is yours, your opinion is important! I hope I helped you. Success!
Calm down. I was like that 2 years ago, but over time I got better, don't worry and everything will be fine on its own :)
I was too, but I got better with time. More precisely, my friends helped me, because in addition to being cool, they are also very natural, open and without restraint. Maybe you should communicate more with such people. Forget about your complexes, there are so many people in the world full of flaws and I am CONVINCED that you are much prettier than most, and those in question are walking around with their noses up and they don't care at all! That's why they are attractive to the opposite sex, because everyone likes more people with self-confidence (not too much, of course) - they are just like a magnet! The complexes will only hinder you, believe me. And as for the fact that you can say something stupid, do you think that others never say? And even if you say a big job, the world will not end! I often sprinkle them and so I make my friends laugh without even wanting to. I even find it cute sometimes .. As long as they are your friends, of course, if they make fun of you, then you just don't need them. So go ahead - you are beautiful, fun and natural! All you have to do is get out of your cage and let others understand it !!! Success!
Once you live, so stop worrying about people's opinions and just have fun. :) Find friends with whom you can feel good and behave freely. Don't worry about your appearance. Everyone has something beautiful and unique in them. Don't think about what you are doing or saying. Let others think what they want, it is important for you to like and feel good. They are young and I am sure that the people of your age will like you as you are, not when you sit alone at home instead of partying or when you are always silent like a stump. Well, it's from me. Have fun and success in everything. :) :) :)
Wow, it's like telling my story - I'm the same, only I'm 17 and I'm a boy; (well, I personally let time show.
I'm a 16-year-old girl and I have the same problem, I'm really worried, I can't relax in front of people, I can't speak freely and I don't know how far this will go, it's not easy for us and how to overcome it, so no you are the only one in such a situation. However, I wish you that everything is fine with you and that you start living fully and enjoying every moment, because life is too short to waste it in nonsense. Good luck darling!
Just knowing that number 5 is absolutely right - you need to relax and live. Sooner or later you will always come out of your shell. Do you want to be an egg or hatch?
I have always been an open person, I have a beautiful appearance and a cheerful character, but my neighbor, with whom we grew up, was friends only with me and was very shy and even crazy. It took me a long time to change it, we went shopping, I also chose the clothes, I also gave my shoes with heels and it started to look good. But that's because she had decided to change. Call a friend, drink 1 for confidence and get together with "cool" people, not outsiders