I'm Tired Of Hiding Behind My "mask"

   This is a mental problem. You instill that you are like that. Just forget that thought. Homosexuality is NOT proven to be innate. The more you think you are, the worse it will be. You have to continue your family and GAYS DO NOT GIVE BIRTH TO CHILDREN. I'm not hating you, I'm telling you you went the wrong way.

   Hello :) I'm not a boy and I don't have your problem, but I have 2 good friends who are like you .. I don't think it's a shame nowadays for a boy to fall in love with boys. It is accepted strangely, because you are different from the others, but there are many like you ... That is why you should not be ashamed of what you are. Honestly, if you hide all your life ... it will be worse. Parents always love their children, so I'm sure that even if you confuse them at first .. they will get used to it and they wouldn't kick you out or something (after all, it's not your fault .. a man is not the master of his heart after all) And this to have a girlfriend when you don't feel anything for her is stupid .. your life is yours and you decide for yourself, but everyone has problems and difficulties to go through, so don't give up, but get out of your shell and reveal yourself as you are. you .. who respects and loves you, will accept you .. Good luck

   and there's another possibility .. just don't find your girl (if you're not sure you like boys) think about it

   Up to 1 You're right, I'm straight. But now I realize why I'm like that - at 11 I realized that I was straight and suddenly, oh, miracle, I became like that. Before that, I was asexual, on reflection.

   For a little while, just allow yourself to hear me and look at the whole problem in a whole new way, that in fact your sexual orientation is not a problem at all. Why I say it - because we live in the 21st century, damn it really doesn't matter. it's not your problem that you're like this or that, it's that you desperately need to define yourself. Why the hell don't you send the stupid definitions that, apart from division, I don't know what else they achieve and you don't look at your life - dreams, career, work, love, development, hobbies, travel. You don't have to be who you are, to define yourself as ... in order to be someone. You are and that's enough, you know? There is you, you, your individuality ... you who are, who exists and has a chance to live. Point. You are - what you put after this construction does not matter, because it is just an attempt to torture your individuality. Or to put it simply: Watch your own pleasure, be healthy and happy and enjoy life. Hugs!

   Read N 5 several times. Which of your parents is closer to you, do you feel freer? Now walk and talk openly, without detours, if you are unsure of what you are saying, the parent will most likely think that you need "pointing in the right direction". to be happy) you will have the moral support for the rest of the family. Naturally, it will take time for assimilation, acceptance. etc. But, they will accept it, always in the end, for the parent it is important, the happiness of their child. For the rest of the world, don't sleep at all. You know, for those who will talk behind your back, they will be in a perfect position to kiss your ass, and for others ...;))) Heads up, kid, you're okay, everything will be fine

   You look great, smart boy. It would be a pity if you were gay. I PERSONALLY, I don't approve of these people, it's just not normal for me, and I think they instill it in themselves somehow. FOR GOD, we are created MEN and WOMEN, so, different sexes, to create new and new generations ... how suddenly people started to like people of THEIR SEX, AND WHAT DOES IT HAVE IN COMMON, for God, that we are in the 21st century? !! OUR NATURE IS NOT WHAT we are in. We WILL NOT BE NORMAL EVEN IN 300 YEARS .. it's just that for me it is somehow impossible to accept it, I'm sorry, I didn't want to offend you in any way! I just expressed an opinion, and honestly I don't know how to help you, given that I am firmly against it. I've never treated homosexuals badly or insulted them, but I don't accept it. I can only wish you good luck in your endeavor, and sorry if you were disappointed with my comment. :) J. 16g.

   To number 5 Congratulations! Your comment is very relevant, but I do not think that at this stage the author is old enough to understand you. One day he will realize it, but it is unlikely that this day is today. Today, he is more likely to be annoyed by your comment than to open his mind to a new point of view.

   In this situation, the bad thing is not that you are gay, that you are suffering, or that you have a girlfriend who is lying. The worst thing is that you are FEAR! If you overcome this, there will be no problem that you cannot deal with. And think about what's the worst thing that can happen when you share :)

   From the Author: Thank you for your time. Up to number 5, 6 you are right for everything! By number 7, yes, unfortunately I'm gay and don't offend me, you're not homosexual and you don't understand how we feel, but thank you anyway.

   God, how can there be so many uninformed and blinded by ignorance ... Homosexuals instilled in themselves that they are. How did you understand that, if I may ask? What nonsense? Learn to understand the foreign and the different. Just because you can't imagine a boy being attracted to other boys doesn't mean it's necessarily impossible. Accept it - just as heterosexuals have a primary attraction to the opposite sex, so homosexuals primarily like people of the same sex. It's not that complicated, but it takes a little intelligence and generosity. As for the author - man, it's not worth killing yourself. If you have to get something out of your head, it's definitely that thought. Life is the most wonderful gift, learn to enjoy it. Don't waste it because you are different from the others. You're 18, you have all kinds of rights already. Learn to be independent, do not rely on your parents. So, if you decide to tell them, you won't care if they kick you. Not to mention that if they are real people, they should accept their child as he is. It will be harder for you to "reveal" yourself to your friends, but I think only those who do not like will start avoiding you. they really care about you. If they really are your friends, they will accept you. Be happy, do what you do, take care of yourself. If you do all your life what you expect others to like, you will end up disappointed and unhappy. Listen to me! It will be harder for you to "reveal" yourself to your friends, but I think only those who don't really care about you will start avoiding you. If they really are your friends, they will accept you. Be happy, do what you do, take care of yourself. If you do all your life what you expect others to like, you will end up disappointed and unhappy. Listen to me! It will be harder for you to "reveal" yourself to your friends, but I think only those who don't really care about you will start avoiding you. If they really are your friends, they will accept you. Be happy, do what you do, take care of yourself. If you do all your life what you expect others to like, you will end up disappointed and unhappy. Listen to me!

   From the author: To the number 11 I sincerely thank you for your understanding, and I gave up the thought of suicide, but it will be harder for me to reveal to my parents not that I have nowhere to go if I am kicked out of the house I have somewhere to I go to my grandmother and I know that she will accept me no matter who I am. The nasty thing is that I will ruin them, my mother will accept him up / down, she loves me very much and will be happy to be happy, but my father is homophobic and will never talk to me again (not that he doesn't love me, but he hates gays) I know this because his friend's son confessed to his family and my father told me (if he was my son I would throw him out of us and I wouldn't talk to him). As far as my friends, some will accept me, and most I'm not sure, but whether they will accept me or not, I don't care so much from them, I just want my family to accept me as I really am, not with this "mask". I know that I will be disappointed and unhappy if I still live with the "mask", even now I feel that way, even among many people, as I am still lonely, no one understands me. If there is a way to write number 11 I will be glad you sound smart and a good person.

   Пак съм номер 5, тук в сайта се подписвам като Плам, но рядко коментирам вече. Мой близък роднина е гей. За мен сексуалната ориентация на човек не е особена интересна тема, защото, както казах и по-горе, живеем в 21 век. Когато нещо нормално от нашата действителност се сблъсква с мирогледа на предишните поколения, е много ясно, че ще има напрежение. Ако мислиш, че при теб напрежението ще е непоносимо - не им казвай. Кой те бие през устта да застанеш чинно пред тях и да кажеш: Мамо, тате аз си падам по мъже! Остави ги - те сами ще се досетят. Но се измъкни ако можеш от този спектакъл, който играеш. Имам един приятел, който само и само да опази лъжата си се ожени и накрая жена му го хвана с друг мъж в леглото. Станаха едни скандали, разправии, войни за детето. За съжаление в България, дори младите хора сме все още отчаяно тесногръди и не приемаме различните. Просто прекалено много сме свикнали да сме възпитавани по модела на балканския субект, който определя мъжа именно като мъж, тип - баща ти. Е живеем в насметено време - какво да ти кажа, но това не е причина да се опитваме да се напаснем с него. Та - остави ги вашите. с времето, първо ти ще станеш самостоятелен мъж с кариера, собствено жилище, финанси и така нататък. Когато си на 25 е съвсем друго отношението на родителите. Може би още ти е рано да застанеш пред тях и да изплюеш камъчето. Времето ще оправи нещата. Но ако не изпитваш любов към приятелката си - по=-добре скъсай с нея, остави я да си намери някой, който ще й предложи пълноценна връзка. Грубо е да я използваш за параван на собствения си страх. И пак: учи, запознавай се, работи, прави секс, излизай, развивай се, твори се. Всичко друго ще се намести с времето. Имаше един филм - някакъв американски сериал, мисля, че беше преведен "Клуб Веселие". Ако си падашп по такива - изгледай го. Няколко от героите там бяха хомосексуални и беше много ясно показана разликата между това, когато се крият и маскират и когато се чувстват уверени със своята сексуалност и тя не ги притеснява. Успех малкия! Ще следя темата. Пиши от време на време. И дано пишеш все хубави неща, неща с които да ни е хвалиш. Плам

   It's not fair to your girlfriend! If you love let her find a heterosexual man, don't waste her time.

   http://spodeli.net/7/story-56826.html Did your girlfriend write this topic?

   Hello. I want to tell you that I can't understand why they don't accept you. It's stupid. It's stupid. It's true that some parents are just used to it. For them, this topic was not so "widespread" and they were raised and eventually taught it. And even if your father or mother doesn't accept you, you live life. If they accept, then they love enough. But I can't figure out exactly what they care who their son sleeps with. And why when you're gay do some friends abandon you? So what do they care about YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION? What should interest them and others. We are all human, but very few are human and understand. Everyone is born and has the right to life. There is no point in getting married and having children if you don't like it. In the end, you may hate your wife and lead an empty existence. This life is for you, not for others. You will live it not your mother or your father. Not your friends. It's not someone on the street, it's YOU. After all, we are all human and we have the right to live our lives.

   From the author: To number 5 (13) thank you very much! For now I think not to tell them what I am I will watch my education and have fun with friends, I will tell them when the time comes I am still 18 years old all the time is in front of me. And this movie I watched it "club fun" very nice movie I even watch it. Too bad we can't write to you! Until number 14 I don't want to part with my girlfriend because she feels perfect with me and she loves me. I satisfy her sexually so that I don't see what heterosexuals are more than me. Until number 15 NO, my friend did not write this story above. As I mentioned, no one knows I'm the other way around. I'm not 11th grade, I'm 12th grade. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years and we have sex often (I don't count them) and I don't dye my hair and I'm a contact person and I don't stay with us all day.

   Number 5-complete nonsense is that with narrow-mindedness. The Russians are a great nation and DO NOT even allow pendulum protests. I didn't know there were gay males: D: D, anyway ...: D

   From the author: Up to number 18 your comment is very inappropriate, it is not complete nonsense "narrow-mindedness" but it is so. And we are not in Russia, and in Bulgaria I did not go to protest and show off that I am homosexual. As a great nation, the "Russians" catch the plane and go right there. There are gay men, my boy doesn't think that we are all "mollusks" (we are divided into active / passive), if you envy me is another matter. If you have nowhere to kill your complexes, this is not the place, maybe you are gay and you are annoyed that you are a "mollusk" (nothing personal), but I can't help you ok.

   18, just using the word "pendulum" is enough to easily describe yourself as narrow-minded. You can't turn sexual orientation into a weapon of oppression using offensive jargon and tell me that you lack narrow-mindedness. Have male homosexuals. Let me explain. A homosexual man (or woman) experiences a sexual need for intimacy with people of the same sex, just as heterosexuals are attracted to the opposite sex. The "pendulums" you are talking about for one reason or another put a certain amount of theatricality into your behavior. Most often, to show that they don't care that people like you will call them in any way. For active and passive you explained the author already, but the author I think that in view of the fact that we humans are terribly curious, as we get older we want to try different things. So to strictly say that you are active does not mean to be a man. It's different - you're a man, you normally behave like one. The fact that your sexuality makes you look for partners of the same sex does not in any way affect the fact that you are a man. Now ... number 18. Men who feel the need to behave, dress, etc. as women are called transsexuals or, more commonly, transvestites. They feel like prisoners in a foreign body. This is definitely not a reason for someone to blunt and say that they are pendulums. You are an exact example of narrow-mindedness. Flame in the specific topic 5 that your sexuality makes you look for partners of the same sex, in no way affects the fact that you are a man. Now ... number 18. Men who feel the need to behave, dress, etc. as women are called transsexuals or, more commonly, transvestites. They feel like prisoners in a foreign body. This is definitely not a reason for someone to blunt and say that they are pendulums. You are an exact example of narrow-mindedness. Flame in the specific topic 5 that your sexuality makes you look for partners of the same sex, in no way affects the fact that you are a man. Now ... number 18. Men who feel the need to behave, dress, etc. as women are called transsexuals or, more commonly, transvestites. They feel like prisoners in a foreign body. This is definitely not a reason for someone to blunt and say that they are pendulums. You are an exact example of narrow-mindedness. Flame in the specific topic 5

   How did you have sex with a few girls but you were gay? No way, just no. You should only have a friendly attraction to the opposite sex and nothing else.

   From the author: To Plam (5) bravo very well explained to number 18 who spoke unprepared and if he hates homosexuals just do not bother to open, read and comment on my things not to pretend to be the big "male" because with nothing more than me. I know that it's too early to define myself as active, because I haven't had sex with a man yet, but just thinking that a man can give it to me or give him a blowjob makes me kind of disgusted, but when you're I thought about fucking him and my spirit getting a hell of a lot of excitement. It is strange not to know about the future, I may change my desires.

   From the author: Up to number 21, well, I'm gay and I don't just have friendly feelings for the opposite sex. Strange as it may sound to you, I had sex with several girls, if you want to believe me, I don't make you shine on me: D. I even have sex with my girlfriend for 2 years regularly (I just think about other things) and I succeed. Alas, some heterosexual boys are unlucky and wonder how to drive something and I'm gay and I do it.

   My best friend at school is gay. He told me about his experiences. He is 16, he told his parents when he was about 12 and he, like you, always knew it. I don't know his parents. I only know his mother who is very cool and behaves quite normally with him. She says that he and his son and she accepts him as he is. The class also knows that he is homosexual at the beginning of the school year when they found out and the class treated his friends differently and I accept him as a very decent boy and we like him what if there are others. Orientation your choice is his. Most of the class and their school were more interested in how he understood how his parents reacted than to harass him, there were 1-2 where they teased him, but he didn't care, he was just himself when they asked him something about it. he just answered them and after 2-3 weeks they stopped the class, he didn't even find it strange after a while and the questions stopped and he wasn't so interesting and didn't bother him. I think it's high time you were even late to take off your mask. Tell your parents when you are 18 to be serious. Break up with your girlfriend have a little respect for the girl yet she deserves someone who likes her just stay friends with her. Reveal everything to everyone and you will feel better, you will not be constantly under any pressure. And your parents are the most angry at the beginning, but then they will accept it, they have no choice, they are your parents. Just tell everyone it's high time.

   From the Author: I'm right, I decided to reveal myself, I'm already tired of this "mask", I'll tell them that I have a different sexual orientation, if they really love me, they will accept me if I'm not independent. I'm sure my mother will accept me, it will be a heavy blow for her, but she still wants me to be happy. My father can kick me out of us, but I'll be fine one way or another. Well thank you for help number 24.

   of 24 SUCCESS!

   Good luck and write what happened :)

   From the author: I wanted to tell you what happened after the confession I told them. My mother cried and started asking me questions about homosexuality, I naturally explained everything she wanted to know, then she calmed down, hugged me and told me "I'm your mother and I love you whatever you are." The next day I told my father (my mother was against it) but he reacted as I expected, he shouted, started crying and kicked me out of us and told me "there is no room for pedals in my house". My mother intervened and started arguing with my father so as not to evict me, but I said stop, I can't stay in this house anymore since I'm not wanted here. I called my grandmother and explained and the whole situation she told me only "I love you no matter how you come to me" my grandmother is 55 years old. I also told my friend what I was like, she accepted it very hard, we broke up and remained friends. Thanks a lot to everyone who gave me advice you helped me a lot. Now I live with my grandmother, she wants to transfer her house to me to deprive my father of an inheritance, so that she doesn't evict me from here after her death. Now I go to 12th grade school, I have my own house and I started working part-time as a bartender restaurant next to us in the same city where my parents are. I haven't talked to my father since I confessed to him, and my mother comes to see me often. Thank you! I have my own house and I started working part-time as a bartender in a restaurant next to us in the same town where my parents are. I haven't talked to my father since I confessed to him, and my mother comes to see me often. Thank you! I have my own house and I started working part-time as a bartender in a restaurant next to us in the same town where my parents are. I haven't talked to my father since I confessed to him, and my mother comes to see me often. Thank you!

   From number 24 to the Author! I think it's time I told you that fathers never accept it. I didn't tell you in the beginning because then you would continue to wear your mask. I'm sure you feel better after you reveal yourself. You should not stop trying to communicate with your father. Try to get along, or at least keep in touch and talk to your father. I'm glad at least one parent is on your side. Congratulations on your work but don't forget to study. Be yourself - you can now breathe. Now that you've been kicked out of the house, you know what responsibility and freedom are. Tell me where you work as a bartender will pass on congratulations on the occasion of the new beginning. May your grandmother be alive and well, I am very pleased. Does she know that you told your story here? What can I tell you you're a super dude!

   I am No. 6, congratulations !!! I'm glad you decided, despite everything, to take off your mask and be yourself. your father will accept in time, only his pride can stop him, but when it comes to our children, we parents finally come to terms, we want them to be healthy and happy. Where I live, homosexuality is as normal as it is heterosexual. on the streets everywhere you can see homosexual couples of all ages, holding hands, hugging, kissing. I am talking about Madrid, Spain. maybe it will come in handy if you can afford a walk during a gay parade, for example. To feel in "your own waters". If you decide something like that, there is a newspaper "Nova Duma" for Bulgaria in Spain, there you can find ads for the room, for 1 month. about 150-200 euros. otherwise the food is cheaper than Bg. I think that it will be good for you to see, to feel that you are like all of us, with different sex. orientation, but for example, if I like beans and you like lentils, that doesn't mean we're not equal. I sincerely admire you for having the courage in this closed society to still come forward and claim happiness. And ... leave the road to your father clean, let him have the opportunity when he decides to look for you. do not forget that he is from another generation, petrified and will need time. Good luck, little one, life is in front of you, the hardest thing has already done it, from here on out, only good moments and a lot of laughter! that you have gathered the courage in this closed society to still go forward and claim your happiness. And ... leave the road to your father clean, let him have the opportunity when he decides to look for you. do not forget that he is from another generation, petrified and will need time. Good luck, little one, life is in front of you, the hardest thing has already done it, from here on out, only good moments and a lot of laughter! that you have gathered the courage in this closed society to still go forward and claim your happiness. And ... leave the road to your father clean, let him have the opportunity when he decides to look for you. do not forget that he is from another generation, petrified and will need time. Good luck, little one, life is in front of you, the hardest thing has already done it, from here on out, only good moments and a lot of laughter!

   From the author: Until number 24 I knew that my father would not accept him, but if he was healthy when he was ready to accept me, he would look for me alone. As much as my mother is wonderful she has always supported me in everything she wants me to be happy even in this way she told me she wants grandchildren one day. I said that I also want children, I am even ready to pay a woman to give birth to me and give me the child without her being responsible to him, and my mother supports me in this and I will do it in time. And learning is always my first priority, but graduation exams are waiting for me, my work helps me to be independent, not to wait for ours, of course my grandmother and mother help me financially. I am a bartender in Montana I will be happy to meet you and you are very cool. And my grandmother is a very open and positive person and she accepted me with open arms and does not know that I have written here. Until number 6 I have the opportunity to go to Spain, but just for a parade I do not like to flaunt my sexuality and I know that in other countries homosexuality is better accepted. I have been to Italy on holiday and I know how it is received there. Thank you for the advice, I know it won't be today, but everything will be sorted one day.