Don't get me wrong, I love my parents, but I HATE the way they raise me. Sometimes I even start arguing with them about it. They try to convince me that the opinion of others is important, while I think in a radically different way. For example, I'm the type of person who wears the same clothes every day. I am a student and I don't care at all what they say behind my back - I save money and I learn not to be controlled by the opinion of others. To think that I have no money for clothes, while with my saved money I can have fun on three consoles at the same time - only mine. I'm not trying to impress the light girls in DSK, who I'll never see after school anyway, and on the other hand I have more money saved than them. Let's go back to my parents - every day they ask me how I will dress tomorrow and when I tell them "
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Tell them you don't like it and you want them to relax a little. You can tell them that you have low self-esteem and you can't find a boyfriend because you are worried that they are too strict and that affects your confidence. But in the end, they do it out of love and for your own good.
If you are not interested in other people's opinion, what exactly are you looking for on this site?
Yes, they don't respect your personal choice and space, only I can't give you any advice. Mine are even worse in this respect and I could not change anything while I had to live with them, then when I moved away for about a year I was gradually left alone. Now we hear each other every 2 months and see each other once a year and when they tell me what and how to do I just smile and then I do what I want.
I respect your philosophy. Indeed, for the important things that concern only him, one should not be interested in the opinion of others. But there is something called "social acceptability." We live among people and we have to take this into account, not for them, but for ourselves. As the saying goes, "in clothes they welcome, in mind they send." Yes, people judge superficially, but that's the way it is. It is easier for the well-dressed person to open the doors. If you don't look socially acceptable, you risk not being appreciated. If you do not care about your appearance, it seems that you do not respect yourself, and in that case you may encounter disrespect from others. This may seem very dumb to us when it comes to us, we may be angry that we are worth much more than our appearance, so that we can be judged only by it. But at the same time, we judge strangers in the same way and decide whether we want to get to know them at all. Your parents understand this and are afraid that someone will label you because you are wearing the same clothes and will not see your merits because of it. It's not just about the girls, it's even about the teachers. Of course, that doesn't mean giving all your money for clothes. More important than the price of the garment is whether it is suitable for you in terms of color and cut.
I'm a woman and I also don't understand people throwing ragged money at rags. I buy small but quality clothes that I can wear for years. I prefer to invest in travel and real estate. It is very good that you are not influenced by people's opinions. In most cases, it is not relevant, they adjust to the situation exactly how to intoxicate you, and in the end others are not more important than you - it is important what you think and what makes you happy. Thank you for realizing it back in school. However, from a hygienic point of view, it is necessary to change clothes every day. Buy 2-3 pairs of jeans and 2-3 t-shirts and change them so that your time has to wash them. You will not spend much, but it will be ok for you to have clean clothes. Do it for yourself as a man. Good luck :).
Maybe, they don't mean, to be interested in what others think, but because of your personal hygiene? Does being a student wanting to save money mean you have to walk dirty and unwashed every day? Are your parents trying to hint to you that because of hygienic habits it is good to change your clothes every day and not to follow fashion trends?
It is written - I was convinced ... When you go to earn a living, no one will ask you if you bought 3 consoles, but how you present yourself and connect in the team. It doesn't matter if you're "tired" or not. When you turn 18, and you can work, you will be able to try out your own "theories" about life. Until then, you only show that today's children eat a little fight ...
Do you wear the same clothes? In a sense, don't you wash them or?
From the author: Of course I wash my clothes and keep myself clean, but I just wear the same clothes. Until number 8, my only mistake was there, but you will still find a way to criticize me. . Well done! We need such people.
On the stick number 7 I want to say that it is written UNTIL. I also bet he got pollution while writing the last sentence of his notebook.
Sorry, but this is not saving, but laziness and lack of hygiene! Nobody says to wear branded clothes every day, but not to wash your clothes and wear them until they become rags ... OK, you don't care about buying clothes and you don't care what you look like, but at least hygiene is MANDATORY! It's just not okay to wash your clothes until you start to stink and wear them until you look like a tramp. So I'm sorry, but your parents want to teach you hygiene and a little self-esteem, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Fix your spelling, student. It is written Convince!
To number 2, did it occur to you that he might have been fed up and only wanted to share with someone, and not laugh at his friends, for example, and for choosing an anonymous site like this?
I don't think it's so much out of consideration for people and their opinions as it is for elementary and completely normal human norms like being clean and tidy, and not giving the impression of a slacker. You can always get at least one more pair of jeans or whatever you wear, even from the second use, 2-3 T-shirts or blouses, which believe me will come out terribly cheap, you can literally get 1-2 full ones for 10-15 BGN. visions to alternate every day. You save money again and save, that's great, but do it for yourself, not for others. In what condition (purely hygienic) are these clothes after you wear them every day? When do they wash? When you take a bath, a lot of questions are raised here, and I imagine live ... One day you will start working, and the school is also an institution where you have to come in a decent way. Of course you can always go to a construction site, no one is interested in your clothes there. :) Good luck!