I have a relationship with an older woman than me. Everything is very nice ... the conversations, the flirtation, the experience. But looking at things realistically, everything is against us. It was really cool for both of us at the beginning, but after people started to doubt and talk, I decided to end it. She was very naughty, I couldn't stand looking at her like that and after a week I told her that I loved her and wanted her to be with me in spite of everything. And we started seeing each other again. I've been jealous of her lately and showing it, though I shouldn't. Colleagues keep talking and everything reflects on her, they blame her for not cutting me off. He told me a few days ago that we needed to break up and end it. I love her very much. I cry like a small child and I wonder why this is happening to me? I am too weak and young for such a relationship. I think that it will affect my psyche and my peers will not impress me the way she does. I don't know how we will drive like this after seeing each other almost every day, that's just my job. I'm 20, and she's so much older than me. I ask for your understanding and advice! .
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Once you allow people's opinions to guide you in your personal life, you will suffer not only in this situation, but always. Your life is yours! Live it the way you like it, not the way others would like it. She told you that you had to separate because she saw how immature you were, and she, believe me, needed a determined and stable man. Everything that happens to us is a consequence of our own actions.
When you have to have children, she will be 50. When you are in the prime of life and you need a young and energetic woman next to you, she will be a pensioner. When you retire and you need a friend to support and help the elderly, she will have rung the bell. You decide, but I think it's better for both of you to split up now
Man, you're 20, she's 40. I can tell you that 40-year-old women are furious in bed. With them from 37-38 to 45 somewhere they get some inspiration with sex and it is very possible that you have fallen under its influence, especially when you are 20 and do not have much experience in sex. Now the other more interesting part of my comment follows which you have to think about a lot. Now you have fun with her, she looks good and you feel a little proud that you managed to have such a woman by your side. But old age will inevitably be felt by her after 50. Then you will be 30. When you turn 35, she will be 55, and then you will begin to feel ashamed to appear with her in front of people. Believe me, if you used to be like a mother and a son, now you will look like a grandmother and an aging and son-old bachelor. But on the other hand, your life is yours and no one has the right to tell you how to live it. Decide for yourself whether or not to be with this woman, I just tried to tell you the good and not so good side of such a relationship. I wish you health and good luck in life
Have fun and when you're tired just drop it. Or offer to be friends privileges (if you understand me) so you will do each other a favor :). Good luck.
I don't think you have a future together, the sooner you end the better.
I don't think you're old enough and have the courage to date such a woman, look for a young boyfriend.
Животът е експеримент! Не се страхувай да експериментираш! Животът и нещата в него се променят с по-голяма скорост, отколкото може да си представи човек. Все повече двойки избират свободното съжителство пред брака. Хомо-връзките и браковете вече съвсем не са такава шокираща екзотика, каквато са били преди време. Според статистическите данни, населението непрекъснато "застарявало", та кой знае - може и безсмъртието или вечната младост да открият в един момент! И тогава всичките тези приказки от по-горе, дето ти си щял да бъдеш на 35, а тя на 55 отиват на кино! Ти ще си на 105, а тя на 125, обаче и двамата ще изглеждате и ще се чувствате като 30 годишни... Това е само един възможен, макар и малковероятен сценарий, но има и много други! Не слушай "съвети" - слушай ума и сърцето си, интуицията си! Никога не спестявай на човека, когото обичаш, да му кажеш колко много го обичаш и колко много държиш на него! Казвай го не само с думи, но и с жестове, с поглед, с любене, с грижа... Защото утре може тебе или нея да я блъсне кола, и тогава?!
Such a relationship in principle has no future! Which doesn't mean there is no present! Enjoy the moment and your love! Let things fade on their own in time, this will happen. I was in a similar situation, the woman was 12 years older. We spent a year and a half in a relationship - the craziest and happiest 18 months in my life. Then things started to get cold and everyone went their separate ways without much drama. But I do not regret a single moment of these 18 months, on the contrary, I still think that I was peacefully in love and happy. God bless everyone!
Do you say "mom": D Don't expose yourself - with older women only for a short time and for fun - what kind of love, what kind of love?
I fully understand you and I will tell you why ... A boy your age to rule a mature woman is an achievement and very different from everything. Only at the age of 20, you don't have much experience in life, until before that age you had childhood relationships, while with this woman it is different. You feel more masculine and strong because you control her, and she shows you her femininity .. I experienced the same, I didn't look at other women .. Until I turned 28, then I fell in love with a girl at 22 until now .. Already are married. Don't despair and move on. She knows what she wants and feels. She pushed you up, just keep going ... In time I'll be right. Don't be sorry. Success!
Number 10 - the question of who rules whom is quite controversial, I think that she rather rules the little boy, but in general I don't think there is a loser in the situation, the boy will get wiser, the girl will scratch and then everyone in their path .
Number 11 This also happens with "normal relationships" Do not lubricate the boy with negativity. There is no point in commenting if you have not had such an "experience" in life. He is currently obsessed with this woman, the day will come and he will see for himself. Nothing personal number 11. There are always exceptions :)