Hi, I needed to share with someone to get an objective assessment and I think this was the most appropriate place. It's a mistake I made and I can't forgive myself. I slept with a boy only because of sex and the thought that I did it burns me, I feel so guilty and unworthy, ashamed, dirty, that I do not know how to continue and how to forgive myself. And the stupidest thing is that I did it not because I enjoyed it, but because I wanted to prove to myself that I am strong and I can overcome it (who knows why). I wanted to go through this too, because all my life I tried to do everything right and not make mistakes that I would regret and I realized that I lived like in a bottle without experiencing anything in life. After all, we have learned from our mistakes and I don't know what other theories. Yes, and now that I have done it? Nor do I feel better, nor wiser, but I feel only guilt and disappointment in myself. I would be very grateful if someone who went through this, and not only, would give me their point of view.
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hey hello from me :) personally I have not been through this but my very close friend did it I can not explain why there were not many feelings .. I honestly do not know .. sometimes I like you want to prove to myself that I do not care that I will do it, the next moment I think -maybe it should be special .. my advice is calm down, do not think it's a mistake .. you tried, you learned a lesson next time already think about whether there will be feelings because this can leave a mark in your psyche in the future :)
Apparently something has greatly influenced your thinking on this topic. If you may have been convinced some time ago that sex should be done after marriage only with your husband :)) In general, you have not committed a mortal sin, especially since this is the regular number of many people :)) * Syndrome
Lots of reproaches and torments, and it's not that weird! Stupid maybe, but it's not such a sin. And by the way, was it worth it at least in terms of sex?
You have nothing to feel guilty about. That's what you wanted and that's what happened - it was just sex. It's not a big deal, especially since you're obviously not engaged. There is no point in one night affecting your life in this way. Sex is sex, whether for one night or more. Don't think about it, just take it as an extra experience :) Meg *
From the author: Thank you very much for the words and reassurances. I really try to accept it as an experience from which I have learned a lesson, not as a mortal sin. When asked if it was worth it in terms of sex, I can say that it is not. I used to think (sometimes because of my upbringing, sometimes because I'm more shy) that I'm one of those people who don't like sex-only relationships, but now I know it more than 100%. Well, at least I didn't go down without explaining myself first. Maybe someone more relaxed than me would find something attractive, but I definitely didn't. And as you say, a big deal has happened, one has to go through the mistakes in order to know what not to do anymore :) So I advise, if someone ever wants it - it's not worth it, great nonsense: D
Hello, you have been writing for 15 years. Christian - Evangelist. "Mangalche" Of Roma origin! (It would be nice if my comment was approved). There is a saying: Learn from every mistake. This does not mean killing someone and asking for forgiveness, because as ridiculous, surprising and clichéd as it sounds - there are laws in this country! You did it, not because you felt he was the man, but simply because you were tired of living by some principle. You did it, there is no going back. I will not say anything deeper than that it is likely that most readers of this story, including the author of the story, will one day not go where no sane person would want to! Know that my living God is ready to forgive everyone. And since it is likely that my comment will not be published, I will be as short as possible!
Do more than live, live for Jesus Christ! There are many researchers who claim that the Bible and Christ do not exist and all sorts of things of this kind. Only he has the feeling that you have not lived in vain. I am convinced of that. You can hardly take me seriously, not only because I am of Roma origin, but also because I am only 15 years old. And at first I wasn't sure, although I felt and felt it, but now I'm convinced because of everything that has happened in my life. Because of all the miracles I witnessed! God accepts you for His own sake. Because of who you are. He does not reject you and loves me as much as he loves you. Unlike you, I found the truth. Nothing would make him love me more, and you less. He makes no difference, and now he is waiting for you, at any time. He is everywhere. Everything will pass, both we and Boyko, (of course, in his place will come someone else to tell us, I will fix you, and it will be the same garbage). But his word will not pass. I don't know, but I think it's very likely that what I'm writing right now won't reach you. Not for anything else, but because the comment may not be approved. But if it is still approved, I really want to see you one day. I will ask you to do something very simple and easy. When possible, you are alone.
Get on your knees and put your hand on your heart. Pray as you please. I didn't understand the real reason you felt guilty. Probably because you think it wasn't right. Not because someone is going to scold you or because you're going to have problems. The path you take determines the place you will reach. Do what I asked you to do. Pray, look for him. Ask him if he really exists and if he is really alive, let him find out. I wish you from the bottom of my heart. He who seeks finds, sister! (I will ask the editor / administrator to approve this comment, what I write in these brackets you can delete, I write it for you! Please approve it. God has a plan for everyone, and there is something better for everyone! )) If you want, write me an email: cchumata @ abv. opensubtitles2 en I would be happy to have questions! There is another truth, and it is one - it is in Jesus Christ Tseko ;-)