As the title says, I am surprised that I decided to write about one of my problems on such a site and ask complete strangers for advice. But since I started, let me at least finish. I am a 16 year old girl and I am in a slight impasse. To some of you, my problem may sound silly and childish, but at my age, it's like the end of the world. :)) Let me tell you. Together with my best friend, with whom I have known since I was 11, after 7th grade we happened to be in the same school, even in the same class. Then it was like a dream come true for me. But in the middle of 8th grade, she moved to another school. I felt very betrayed by her then, because 2 weeks before she moved, I had the opportunity to move to the same place, but I didn't do it because of her. Anyway. Once you move, I felt lost in my own class. When we were both, we had a small world, ours, but once it moved, I went back to reality. In 9th grade I became very close and quite fast with a girl from the class. I can now call him Best Friend. We are super close, and we kept in touch with the other girl over the phone (we talked for 4 hours) and saw each other when we could. And here is the problem. This year, 10th grade, the first girl by coincidence, returned to class. And then a war broke out between my two friends. They are very different characters and cannot breathe the same air. Both are wrong, but both are right. One is a little bitch, masculine and likes to buy VERY harmful food, watch movies and talk, a kind of housewife .. The other is very feminine, likes to go out, go shopping and comment on people. She is a very social person. And right now I'm literally torn between the two and trying to keep both of my friendships. I get attached very easily and forget about people. Please give me some suggestions, because I'm crazy here. Thank you, however, for bored me with my problems and hope that one of you will be able to help me. :)
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Hello, my name is Mitko, I'm a little older than you ... I think the best thing is to sit down and talk at length and widely, calmly and thoroughly, until you solve the problem. Your position should be honest and sincere - you like (and maybe love) both, you are attached to them and you do not want to lose them as friends. If you admit it to them and if they stick to you - they will try to somehow tolerate each other and, God forbid, ever like each other ... If it doesn't happen - and one of them, for example, gives up your friendship at the expense of your enmity with the other - it means this girl has never been a real friend of yours and you do not lose anything significant. Maybe you know the saying: If you love someone, set them free. If he comes back to you - he will be yours forever, if not - then he never was. This saying describes love,
Hello! My only advice is to be with the one you have more fun with. What do you love. And not what they like. I also had a girlfriend I would even die for, but she betrayed me and I dumped her. I was 10th grade then. It was quite difficult for me. If they are your friends, they should not make you choose. You have to choose which one to spend the day with. The other should not be angry at all. The fact that one is a bumblebee is not bad, it can only benefit you. And you to feel the sweetness of knowledge. Knowledge is power! It makes you feel good. I would deal more with my new girlfriend.
Thanks for both comments, but unfortunately the idea to get together and talk to the three of us as big people can no longer happen, it's too late. I tried to explain it to them, but it didn't work out. :( And even if they want to (which I doubt now), it won't happen. They are too different, and I can't and don't want to choose. And I honestly don't know what I prefer. I'm very happy with both in two different ways, for now I'm just thinking about going with the flow and keeping my fingers crossed that things will work out :) Although I doubt it will happen ... Thanks again for the advice! From the author
I have such a problem too. Even one of my friends called the other a thief of girlfriends. They fight all the time and I don't know what to do. and I don't want to give up either.
I'm the same! My two girlfriends are just arguing over small things! During the breaks I don't have time to look at myself! I only deal with them. However, recently one of my friends got angry and I started going with her more. However, she started blackmailing me. She is a poor student and I am an excellent student. She wanted to copy her homework from me and started asking me for a lot of things (like throwing her garbage, going to buy her things from the store, etc.). She told me that if I didn't do these things, she would be angry with me. The other day she wrote to me on Facebook that she did not write 3 homework and when I told her that I would not let her copy from me, she said "Now I will have a couple! I hate you!"! My other girlfriend started behaving like that with me too! Now I dropped them both and I'm very well! To the author: Gather them and tell them that you are torn between them. Or they may get in your way. Success!