Hello! I want to share that I recently started a new job with the help of my loved one. The thing is that I have been in this company for two months now and I can't do anything, I don't understand anything, I'm constantly under stress, I go to work with fear. I expose myself to my colleagues and my relative as well. I don't even know how I agreed, provided I didn't even study for such a position. I even lie to my family that I can handle it. I want to leave, but I don't know how to do it, so as not to offend my relative, and on top of everything, my husband tells me that if I give up such a good job, we would break up, lately things are not going well with him. . Not to mention that my mother is in the hospital at the moment, all this is ruining me, I am under constant stress, I gained 42 kg. Please advise me how to get out of there without offending anyone, I just don't feel well and I think
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Do you live for yourself or for the opinion of others? Explain how you feel and find another job if you can't handle it. In fact, then how do you still do this and what is it if it's not a secret?
Look now. I will advise you a few things. Do what makes you happy and makes you well. You have this man today. and you may not have it tomorrow. He manipulates you. If if you leave work he is ready to separate just because of that, then he does not love you. You feel bad there and you can't handle it, and yet he pushes you to sit there. If he really loves you, he will prefer you to be well. and not some work. I advise you to first go to your friend who has arranged your work and share it with her. that it's hard for you and you can't even tell her the truth. Tell her you don't want to offend her. but it's just not for you and it doesn't work. I think she will understand you. Then talk to the boss and tell him the same thing. Leave this job as soon as it makes you feel this way. This disturbs your psyche. Tell your husband. that they fired you. because you can't do it. Don't tell him. that you left. If he tells you well, then he is fine. if he tells you. that because of that he doesn't want you then dump him. You do not need such negativity in life. When I had a friend, he treated me like that and I felt terrible and I was 45 kg and when I left him and started doing things that make me happy, he became 55 kg. Man eats as he is happy. Now I have bigger breasts and I am much prettier. That's why my boyfriend is on antidepressants right now. I take a handful of pills every day because of the stress. And you will get there if you do not leave him and do not find a job to deal with. When I had a friend, he treated me like that and I felt terrible and I was 45 kg and when I left him and started doing things that make me happy, he became 55 kg. Man eats as he is happy. Now I have bigger breasts and I am much prettier. That's why my boyfriend is on antidepressants right now. I take a handful of pills every day because of the stress. And you will get there if you do not leave him and do not find a job to deal with. When I had a friend, he treated me like that and I felt terrible and I was 45 kg and when I left him and started doing things that make me happy, he became 55 kg. Man eats as he is happy. Now I have bigger breasts and I am much prettier. That's why my boyfriend is on antidepressants right now. I take a handful of pills every day because of the stress. And you will get there if you do not leave him and do not find a job to deal with.
Depression has gripped you for a long time. I have no idea what kind of friends, men and employers you have, but I advise you to be open with them. I would talk to everyone individually about the real problem. Ask your employer how you handle the responsibilities he assigns you. From their answers, make the final decision. Whether you stay or not - your conscience remains clear. But if you do NOT talk about your problems with the right people, the problem will deepen and you will fall into an even deeper emotional hole. May your mother be healthy and blessed!
Once someone has arranged for you, you can't help but offend anyone, and think about whether your husband is under stress, that you will let him take care of your finances on his own, and whether it won't be easier to make an effort instead of giving up a well-paid job.
I went through that. I left. Go to your boss, say it's hard for you and you don't understand anything. Ask for help. They may invent another position or training. And this man next to you is for support, and they are crushing you.
Thanks to everyone for the answers! :) Unfortunately, I talked to my acquaintance and shared that I can't do it and I want to leave, and she still pressures me to stay, I would have learned, but it doesn't work. How can I explain to her that I can't just not for me, please give advice I will finally lie to them something I want to get rid of, but how? I'm going to die of anxiety now, and I don't want to offend her, I'm going to stop going to work in the end, no matter what.
Do not give up, persevere and you will learn. If you give up now, you will disappoint the people you care about and many things can fall apart!