Hello, writes a 15-year-old girl. For a long time now, I just want to invite a friend or a friend to visit me at home, to talk, to watch a movie, to listen to music together. It's just that sometimes when I'm alone, I need to be able to invite someone home. What worries me is that if I do it, anyone will be disappointed in me, because I don't live in a nice and luxurious apartment, like some of my peers, but I personally live in what I have. I am grateful. I don't have wealthy parents, but they do everything in their power to have everything I need and to be good and I appreciate it very much. We live in a very ordinary apartment, without expensive furniture or expensive decorations and nice decorations to make it beautiful, but there are the necessary things for every resident, even if it is not beautiful, etc. The possibilities of my parents are so many. We are not hungry, we are not thirsty, for which I am grateful again and most of all that we have a roof over our heads. I just worry about friends not saying something behind my back, discussing me, and getting away from me. I'm a little confused and I don't know what to do. What do you think about that? What would you advise me? If there is something unclear or you have any questions, write so that I can clarify and answer. Thanks in advance to anyone who has read this. What do you think about that? What would you advise me? If there is something unclear or you have any questions, write so that I can clarify and answer. Thanks in advance to anyone who has read this. What do you think about that? What would you advise me? If there is something unclear or you have any questions, write so that I can clarify and answer. Thanks in advance to anyone who has read this.
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If they are exact friends, they will not even notice, if they move away, then who needs such "friends". Be an individualist, do not try to please others, because people will always find a reason to discuss you.
What you wrote shows that you are a good girl. If your friends decide to distance themselves from you because of such a thing, it means that they are not your friends and besides, they are not valuable people. Congratulations on respecting your parents and their work. Rarely are there children your age who are so understood. Well done!
Hey, I'm a girl your age, I can say I'm a poor girl, ours barely make ends meet. I was ashamed to make friends with us too, but I said to myself that if they stuck to me they wouldn't leave me for such nonsense and I started inviting a hell of a lot of friends and we had fun, nothing that was miserable and messy. It's just that they are people who will understand you, and much more important is your character and attitude towards people, so if they care about you they will understand you. At least that's what my friends, whose parents are extremely wealthy, did. Come on, I'll give you a thumbs up and then write what happened.
Hi, I want to tell you that you worry in vain. After all, you invite friends for fun to have a good time, not to inspect your apartment ... if you are really judged by your abilities, then you are wasting your time with these people! I would say you are lucky, I have the opposite problems, I have a nice apartment, decorations, LED lighting and so on, as I have so few friends with whom I can watch a movie, talk all night or play video games! So don't worry, I can promise you that no one will express a negative opinion about your apartment! Have fun and enjoy what you have! Success ^^
And our apartment is ordinary, we have no expensive furniture. Our corridor is even carpeted. But I invite guests and they enjoy being at home. They always come willingly. I don't know, I don't have such worries. But maybe, I know my friends and I know they care about me. When I go somewhere, I never look back. I would not be disappointed by anyone's poverty, not even if it is messy. Nor would I envy it if it were a luxury. People are important to me.
I was the same way until I was 14 years old. We lived 5 people in a studio, and I shared a room with my mother and my two brothers, my mother and I slept on the same bed. I was also ashamed to invite people home because all my friends knew we were a big family and I thought they would feel sorry for me if they found out we lived in such a small space. I even lied that we have 3 rooms and other nonsense. For the first time I invited someone to 8th grade and not that I was scared, but there was a situation that I do not remember and my girlfriend had to go home. Shame, not shame ... he came in and after everything went well, I somehow calmed down and gradually overcame my shame. I'm telling you all this so that you understand that you are not the only one who experiences such feelings. However, you should not care. As long as you are clean and tidy, no one will make fun of you. You are not. thinks that all your friends and classmates live in complete luxury. Probably their homes are similar to yours, but even if they are not, you do not have to worry - they will come to visit you to share your time and have fun, not to appreciate the furniture and decorations. One tip - learn hospitality, how to predispose people, make them feel good when they are with you and want to come back. People remember the attitude they received, not the sofa or the lamp. One tip - learn hospitality, how to predispose people, make them feel good when they are with you and want to come back. People remember the attitude they received, not the sofa or the lamp. One tip - learn hospitality, how to predispose people, make them feel good when they are with you and want to come back. People remember the attitude they received, not the sofa or the lamp.
If the friends you invite to your house are real friends and are close enough to you, they will not care what your home looks like, and they will not gossip. They will come for you, for your company. It's good that you appreciate what you have. If you are still worried, make your home look fresh. Clean well, tidy, try to ventilate, spray the rooms with fresh fragrance or perfume / deodorant. Of course you don't have to overdo it. Prepare or buy something tasty to eat to treat your guests. (It doesn't have to be expensive) A well-maintained and clean home always looks good, and brings pleasant energy - whether it's old or new furniture.
Do not think that most of your peers live in some super luxury apartments. As far as I understand, your parents are in the middle class like mine. I also didn't invite friends home, but it was with me because I don't like inviting guests. If you want to invite someone just invite them. And if someone starts making fun of you behind your back, then he wasn't a real friend.
Invite your peers! If your friends are arrogant and overrated, and you invite them to a palace, they will still poke their noses that they are the best.
Hello author, you have nothing to worry about. True friends will never measure you by your abilities. Like you, I lived in a modest and old apartment when I was a student. I had many wealthy friends who took this for granted and often came to us even to sleep. 20 years have passed since then and we are still friends and they still love me. Those who do not appreciate you, and what you have are never and will never be friends. They are little souls. From the bottom of my heart I wish you real friends and pleasant moments with them!
If they are your real friends they will not talk behind your back!
Hello, first congratulations on the way of thinking. Second, it's a great way to weed out real friends.
Don't worry at all! The apartment of one of my friends looks great, but the door handle is somewhat broken and every time you close the door without care, they break off (the handle). One of the best friendly memories in our group developed when an old friend came in trying to pretend to be very scary, but the handle came off, completely killing his persona. To this day, we grin at the memory. My apartment is quite monotonous and, thanks to my (un) masterful painting skills and the reluctance of our people to give 50 quintas for a painter, the paint in my room is darker in places, and pale in others. we are talking. But that's why I have a terrible sound system and almost every day we all break down at the expense of the neighbors. Abe, after all, people don't care about paint or wallpaper, nor for the neighbor; They don't care if you live in the palace of Simeon 2 or the refugee camp in Harmanli, as long as there are friendly moments and fun.
If your friends really care about you, it won't matter much whether you live in a palace or a copter. If they dump you for not living in luxury but as an ordinary person, then they are not your real friends.