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Impossible Love-racerboy19

By racerboy19 September 29, 2020 14 answers Last updated September 29, 2020

Hello! Let me start with the fact that so far I have not written on such sites about my problems for the first time, but I decided to share my problem boy I'm over 18 I had a relationship with a girl that lasted a year and several months, but we are no longer together ... I am of Roma origin and the girl is Bulgarian. Now, when I say that I am from the minority, you will immediately think that I am one of those gypsies with legs and I live in the gypsy neighborhood, I don't pay my taxes, etc ... well, no ... my family is not one of those .... the problem is this ... the girl and I fell in love, we broke up because her parents are firmly against our relationship because of my background ... the second, however, will be hellishly difficult. thanks in advance

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sofy_llano answered · September 29, 2020

   I am very interested in how people from minorities start a relationship with people of Bulgarian origin. You Roma are not a small number, it would be attractive for a girl from your ethnic group, you describe that you are not one of the thieves, the smelly ones, etc. and I wonder why you start a relationship with Bulgarian women at all. I don't want what I wrote to sound racist to you, I have never been against people from your ethnic group, I even know Roma people with whom I drink brandy, but that's it. Such a relationship is very difficult to exist in our society, even less that your boyfriend is small and depends on his parents. I recommend that you leave her without any problems, the girl, no matter how much you love her, start a relationship with a person of your ethnicity after a while and you will not have problems of this nature.

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cherryxlolitaxpop answered · September 29, 2020

   That is why there should be no integration of minorities because of such "connections". There must be an "expulsion" modeled on Erdogan's Kurdish policy.

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nicolleddiaz answered · September 29, 2020

   Find one of your origins, I don't think a normal Bulgarian family would allow you to marry their daughter, no matter how smart, beautiful, wealthy, etc. you are.

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quellegeixes answered · September 29, 2020

   Your relatives have done a good job, and continue to do their best, to make their relationship with the communities they parasitize on wonderful! Yes, you may not be "one of those gypsies", but what is the guarantee that your children will not be after carrying their genes? The girl's parents are absolutely right - it's like giving their daughter to the son of a famous criminal, and hoping that their grandchildren will become doctors of science ... It and a horse and a donkey cross, but more importantly, what is the result?

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ajarnadam answered · September 29, 2020

   Look ... If you don't get together, end any contact with her. That will be better for you. Otherwise, I know such a family - she is Bulgarian, and he is of Roma origin. They already have a baby. Very nice family! But the beginning was very difficult, and her parents did not even come to their wedding. Her father had not spoken to her for several years and they had not seen each other. Everything is now normalizing. BUT !!! She had the courage to choose to be with him! Not everyone is like her. And not every man deserves this sacrifice on the part of the woman! So if you get together - make every effort to be the right man! But if not, as I told you - distance yourself completely. It's for your own good. And yes, hers. You are either together or moving forward. The middle option is to everyone's detriment. Success! F32

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derekbrunson answered · September 29, 2020

   If he loves you, he will be with you in spite of everything. My friend is of Turkish origin and I love him very much, but he died recently. His bright memory - this is our impossible love. You just don't have the desire to make it happen. That's what I see.

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chartbustersid answered · September 30, 2020

   A friend left these Bulgarians! Don't you see how evil they are ?!

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repbrindisi answered · September 30, 2020

   I can't believe you're attacking the boy like that. I'm not a racist, but I don't know what ... I'm surprised, that's how we humans are, vicious and inhuman. I understand you boy, but I think you're the only one trying to get something. I know it will be hard for you to give it up, but this is the best option for you. Show her that you care about her, offer her to try, prove yourself to her parents. If she refuses - you know, she is not ready for everything for you and run. If she agrees - do not disappoint her - neither her nor her parents. I am glad that there are still people who, despite the difficulties, do not give up, I am one of them. Do what is in your heart - I will advise you. :) Good luck and head up! F20

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danii_rosse answered · September 30, 2020

   8, marry a gypsy, and come here in 10 years to describe your flourishing life with him! :)

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shantydenny answered · October 01, 2020

   No giving up, boy! The origin should not matter if the love between two people is real. The situation puts your girlfriend to the test - if she loves you, it should not matter to her whether you are Armenian, Gypsy or parental opinion. Do you know what happened to me? My husband and I are getting married. I had noticed before that he did not look like his mother, or his two younger brothers, or his late father. I watched family albums - well, he doesn't look like his grandparents either. All blond with blue eyes - only he ant with black eyes and hair. We finally decided to have a child, but I was worried because his father had died of an autoimmune disease and I was worried it wouldn't be hereditary. When my mother-in-law realized that this was stopping us, she told the truth: that my husband had been adopted. It turned out, that he is a child of a young Roma family, the father leaves the mother and she leaves the baby at home. From there, his new parents adopted him in the first month, because they had no children for two years and were already desperate. He understood this at the age of 34. And what should I do now? To divorce my beloved man because he is a gypsy? Or get pregnant by someone else? On the contrary - it became even more interesting to me because it carries the genes of another culture. I explained to him his energy, his temperament, his passion, his passion for music, many things ... Yes, our children will be half Roma. And what? !! They could be half Italian, English, and so on. So don't feel like a second quality person because of your background. Those times are long gone. The mood in Bulgaria against the gypsies is due to the non-observance of the social rules by them, and not because of their origin.

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gone answered · October 01, 2020

   Number 10, may have turned out to be rum, but raised by Bulgarians. Tolerance is one thing, these are purely civilized on another level, unfortunately.

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narinnarinrak answered · October 01, 2020

   Number 10, you write it yourself - what can I do now, well, you can't do anything anymore, you're in love, you're used to the gypsy and that's how you'll drive her. And there is definitely a difference from Italians, Englishmen, etc. in our country. I would not have imagined having a gypsy child and hearing this child every day about the raids, jokes, beatings of Bulgarians and remaining silent. Who wants to put his head in the bag, I do not want

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erickalee answered · October 02, 2020

   Dude, it's over with this girl. If you want to be like other people and not like gypsies, you will forget this sense of ownership, you will forget about jealousy and you will leave the girl. You are young, you can have many more women. Do not limit yourself to the ethnic group, love can be with a gypsy, a Bulgarian, an Asian. But if you don't want to be like other gypsies, you have to give up all the bad traits of your upbringing. №10, your husband's story is very strange. He is childless until the age of 34, supposedly very kind, lives in a fictional world. Then you get married, you get the idea not to have children, his stepmother intervenes at the critical moment and reveals the culminating truth, just like in a Latin series. Accordingly, your husband accepted what was completely normal and did not particularly notice that he had been lied to for 34 years, that his father was not his father, that his mother is not his mother, etc. Sounds like soap, concocted in a hurry. If I were you in that case, I would run away from the inevitable storm, but you are happily expecting children from your preserved 34-year-old husband. What an idyll!

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unloadmycum_ answered · October 02, 2020

   I do not want anyone to be left with the impression that I am against love between a gypsy and a Bulgarian woman. I think it would be completely normal, like love between an Englishman and a Bulgarian woman, for example. But, author, how are you so different from the gypsies in the neighborhood, when you "have her as your own" about the girl. If you had lived together, maybe you would have started locking her up? I do not believe that you are different from the other gypsies you distance yourself from, for the simple reason that one cannot escape from one's roots. I wish you success, if not with this, then at least with another love.