Hello ... I want to ask you for your opinion, because honestly I don't know what to think. This is what happened - I have a girlfriend who has been dating a boy for 1-2 months. However, according to my observations, he will not go down with a girl and try to make something happen. He falls for the nepukist. If a girl likes him, show it to him. And so it happened. In the beginning, this friend of mine tried in every way to reach him, she went where he went. He called her from time to time and she crossed half of Sofia because she knew there was no way he would come to her or call her again if she didn't. And all the same - he finally achieved his goal.
They are now officially together. I'm happy for her. And not that it comes into my work very much, but it's still my friend and I don't want to be used. When we go out somewhere in pairs or a lot of people, whenever she always pays 90 percent of the time. This is from the very beginning when they were not walking yet. And it's not about a coffee or a car, but about things for 10-15-20 euros. And let's have 1-2 times if he didn't have money to buy it. For example, he told her once - give me 20 euros that I need to buy something. And I shout once. But since then I notice it every time. The other day we were in a cafe and she goes to the bar (without him) and says 1 beer, 1 coffee and water for example.
As we enter and go, he buys and brings them to him. She paid him a tattoo in the range of 80-90 euros. I don't know. I have a feeling he's using her, but I don't want to tell her and argue. And I'm not sure. If they've been dating for a few months or a year like me and my boyfriend, fine. In the beginning, however, this was not the case. Every time we went somewhere, as soon as I started withdrawing my money, he took it back. Every time I offered it to him and every time he paid. And now he pays most, but it doesn't really matter anymore. He even told me recently - well, I don't know if we will be able to go to ......
And when I asked him why - well, because they will give me my salary later. I said I would pay no problem, but he was still not comfortable. Abe, I don't know at all. What do you think?
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Definitely use it, I had a friend to whom I constantly paid the bills and because he knew that I had money, he constantly asked me for a loan of euros 10-20, he promised to return them, while 1 of his friends told me that he had used me and he had no intention of returning my money, and then I quarreled with him, and he admitted that he had used me. And now I have a new friend with whom I love a lot and he never allows me to pay the bill. It happened that there was no money sometimes and I offered to pay, but he did not want to pay, I do not know how he is somehow uncomfortable. So tell your girlfriend to beware of him and use her. I know it will make her sick, but it's better to get rid of her in time, because then it will be hard for her.
Hmmm, I had a similar case .. But my eyes were blurred .. not at all .. the person in question came to me alone, I didn't run after him .. but still nothing. Well, let me tell you better and tell her if she is a real friend, save her from this thing, but before the conversation, try to think of enough examples to support yourself so that she understands you correctly! Honestly, after a while while we were together I thought I was buying his attention and it was awful I was paying his phone bills even for his household even though he lives with his parents and I was 16 he was 23 .. now I have a relationship of 1 year with a boy who would never allow me such a thing :) good luck!
A complete mold is your girlfriend's "boyfriend." And how can I not understand it, I wonder? !! Wouldn't he come to her or call her AGAIN? !! - Well, if so, WHAT is she doing with him at all! That she will buy it for him and bring it to him ... what you describe is funny and unfortunate. Tomorrow, if he takes her and hits her, he will "forgive" him again ... disgust, I am outraged, these women do not have dignity and self-respect for 5 stotinki, they deserve their fate. You really have nothing to tell her, she herself, if she doesn't see it, no one can tell her anything.
Yes, it is clear that he uses it .... but it is difficult to tell her .... But why is it normal for a man to pay 90% of a couple's bills, but when a woman does it, it is abnormal? I would say it's TYPICAL but I don't consider it normal ... as well as when it's the other way around.
Is this friend of yours so blind? Or is it just that her feelings are stronger than her mind and prevent her from seeing that she is being used for money?
What do you interfere in their relationship? If they are at a high level of their relationship, they support each other, and you can't know what he does for her ... it's easy to judge from the side ...
Show this topic without saying that you wrote it. Just "look what I found, aren't you interested?" Basically, I know from experience that such cases end badly for the girlfriend - ie. you, they make her envious and angry with her. So find a more delicate way not to sound like you're messing with. ~ Ramona ~
If your girlfriend feels good with him, if he is the nicest, the best for her (in life, in bed, in sharing), what's the problem, really? Maybe the boy is very good, but poorer? Maybe the two of them are meant to be together? Maybe one day he will and she will not? In this life, everything flows and everything changes. Let them live their lives. Apparently that's how they both like it. No wonder they are a family tomorrow.
So it's normal for a girl to use a boy for money, and it's absolutely abnormal for a boy to use a girl for money? How come we are roaring for equality? Well, here's your equality, whole target, then why are you roaring furiously?
Number 8, you're wrong. This is about bills in the range of 15-20 euros on his part, not a coffee for example. To me, this man is a mold. I understand that there is no money and it is from a poor family - okay, they will not go to the cafes all the time, she would certainly understand his problem (however, it is clear from my story that the girl does not look far from the financial situation, after always paying the bill and even gives him money like that). But some uncharacteristic guy who is waiting for everything to be ready - hey, she liked me, I won't bother if she wants to be with me so much, to do everything possible ... well, she obviously wants to be with me, she to see what I can get out of it ... Author, tell your girlfriend the things you wrote here, just as you think. And to argue, guess who she'll go back to when she realizes he's using her.
And what are you interfering with? Why don't you tell us about your cousin's uncle, your father's uncle's friend's uncle?
Girl, it seems to me that this is about you. Get rid of it - you don't deserve such a drone next to you.