Hello, I have been living in the Netherlands for 5 years… My idea was to study higher education but I found myself in the middle of prostitution, but not of my own free will. For a short time - 2 years I was forced to work as a prostitute, and on the third I somehow managed to get out and then I lived with my client. He constantly isolated me and was afraid of me. And so everything for 3 years and with him, during which again I had no normal life, no job, study, friends… A few months ago we broke up, but life met me with a long Dutchman who became nice to me and we exchanged phone numbers - I don't know whether it would ring, at least that's what he said. One thing worries me - I have no life. After coming to the Netherlands, I really have no life and no faith in myself. If we meet this man, I don't even know what to say. Before I came here, I used to decorate the windows of clothing stores, I studied, wrote blogs and poetry, went out with friends (whom I can no longer call that) - a normal life… And now - everything is empty. True, I learned a lot, but not everyone would accept me in their life. I am 24 years old. Now that I'm really free, I want to learn and develop, but I feel so old for everything. Please give me advice on what I can say about myself if I want to make new friends. I don't want to lie - it weighs, I don't want to get entangled - I just lose. Thank you! what could I say about myself if I want to make new friends. I don't want to lie - it weighs, I don't want to get entangled - I just lose. Thank you! what could I say about myself if I want to make new friends. I don't want to lie - it weighs, I don't want to get entangled - I just lose. Thank you!
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Nothing is lost, your life is yet to come. It is good that you have decided to stand on your own two feet, not to rely on men and things like that, and to live normally. It will be great to study - whether here or in the Netherlands - it doesn't matter, but you also have to work while studying to support yourself, I mean some normal job, no matter what - a waitress, a saleswoman, only while studying. And for the person in question - see him, but keep to yourself and keep your dignity. Don't let a man support you and make you dependent on him materially or emotionally. Try to enroll to study at all costs in order to be independent and self-sufficient.
You can only say what you want about yourself, not sharing a fact makes you a liar or an intriguer. You don't have to share with anyone facts from your life that you don't want to share. Nor are you obliged to give explanations for the reasons or events that happened to you when you arrived in the country. Forced prostitution - a past fact of life that you do not have to share even with loved ones. A relationship in which you did not feel good - a past fact of your life, you also do not need to share details. You had a 3-year relationship, it's over and that's it. People, even those close to you, do not need to know all the facts of your life. Know every shared dark fact of your life, it can and will be used against you at a suitable time for the interlocutor. In fact, even now, you will understand from the comments that it is so.
I will not reproach you for your past, but I will still note that this prostitute against her will for 2 years does not sound realistic to me, provided that your goal was education in the Netherlands, not the most ancient profession. But anyway, I will only note that you are young, young to move forward, to learn and to achieve your dreams. The fact that at the moment you do not have a friend and environment does not mean that it will always be so, I can assure you that by enrolling in higher education you will find an environment of young and ambitious people, it will lead you to a better future. Interestingly, if you feel old at the age of 24, how will you feel at the age of 64 when you enter a much more mature age? Considering that a large proportion of 64-year-olds are still very active, at least because they have not reached retirement age: ) But I'll tell you why you feel empty and old - this is a reflection of the base life you led for 2 years, you have amortized your psyche, do not expect to "cure" it here, especially without the right people around you, with whom to forget the past. I wish you success in this difficult struggle with yourself! M, 35
What's up? !! You probably want to say emotional ...? Because he's still a kid! I can't say that I fully understand you, I haven't been in your situation, but I know what it's like to get to the bottom. Well, from there the way out is only up :) Whatever it is! Nobody enters or leaves him! Start your work, whatever it may be at first, because of the social environment, contacts ... with the time when you start breathing normally again, like any free person, you will decide where you are and what exactly you want to learn / study. If you see this person, it is what, be you, such and such. There is no need to talk about your past, be a nice girl at 24. Your life is YOUR life, others have taken advantage, they have taken away your right to choose for that. Don't let this reflect on your future! I understand your insecurities, your worries, but it's up to you, to dump the past into .... the past. You are very young, obviously creative, use this to your advantage. What does a young, creative, eager for friendship and laughter girl at 24 want? Good luck darling, I wish you a lot of happiness professionally and personally!
You're not old for anything, don't worry. A friend of mine was in a situation very similar to yours, but in England. And she went there to study and support herself, but she fell into the net of some black people from Jamaica who forced her to work as a prostitute. For two years no one had heard of her and everyone thought the worst was that she was either dead or had been sold by some Albanians as a sex slave in an Arab country, and things like that are still heard. She barely managed to escape and now she is back in Bulgaria and studying. So, as you can see, nothing is lost and it is never too late to learn and succeed in life. Head up and good luck!
That's right, go to college and become a prostitute right away. This number - But I didn't want it - we've known it for years and we've heard it a million times. Because of people like you, normal Bulgarian girls with intelligence have almost no chance to realize themselves abroad. Everyone considers them prostitutes, thanks to people like you. You (poor prostitutes) are one of the biggest problems in Bulgaria. Because of you, tens of thousands of Bulgarian men are left without women or are forced to leave the country and look for a partner in life outside Bulgaria. In 1989 we were almost 9,000,000 in Bulgaria, of which only about 500,000 were Turks and Gypsies. At the moment we are a little over 4,000,000 Bulgarians - everything else is gypsies, Karakachan Turks, etc. They have more than 5 children, and we are melting thanks to people like YOU. You may not be the biggest problem in the country, but you are definitely in the top 3. There is no country (autonomous or not) on the planet that has lost half its population in less than 30 years, even in civil cases, interstate or world wars, including natural disasters. Who was killed, who died in an accident - the Bulgarians are leaving as a nation at a speed never seen before by any other country - Fact. I do not want to sound radical or discriminatory, but given that this is happening in Bulgaria, and you and those like you to write to me on forums about your small and insignificant problems - you just take me out of my skin. including natural disasters. Who was killed, who died in an accident - the Bulgarians are leaving as a nation at a speed never seen before by any other country - Fact. I do not want to sound radical or discriminatory, but given that this is happening in Bulgaria, and you and those like you to write to me on forums about your small and insignificant problems - you just take me out of my skin. including natural disasters. Who was killed, who died in an accident - the Bulgarians are leaving as a nation at a speed never seen before by any other country - Fact. I do not want to sound radical or discriminatory, but given that this is happening in Bulgaria, and you and those like you to write to me on forums about your small and insignificant problems - you just take me out of my skin.
Eh-eh, n 7, did the brandy come to you more or did you fall on your head .... many times. Exactly the girl or a handful like her are guilty that you were left without a wife;))) And I'm out, I have NOT been with this prostitute, but I am not with a Bulgarian. Come on, until you turn over 2 cups, let me say two words to the girl on the topic. Cliché - life is in front of you! You were ambitious, creative, with dreams and goals ... You continue according to the plan, for what you left or for what you think at the moment that you want to satisfy you. With the boy ... what's really bothering you, let him talk to you at the beginning until you relax, but if you call, get out! at least, because you need to communicate, and to convince yourself that you are just a 24-year-old girl ... for him, for the world. Besides, it can introduce you to other young people, Wednesday, an opportunity for company ... laughter. In no case do not rush to throw yourself into a relationship, you are emotionally weak in the moment, until you regain self-control, self-confidence, confidence, you will not be aware of yourself and you can "confuse" the pleasant love. Imagine that now you wake up from a long sleep, a coma for example .... what would you like to do? !! Do it! Your life is yours, from now on let every choice be yours! Good luck darling, everything will be ok!