Hello. It's a little strange for me to share such things with people I don't know, but the strange thing is that I wouldn't share them with my friends :) So, I'm a 19-year-old man in Varna and I'm in love with a colleague. She is really a girl that a man meets once in a lifetime :) Smart and funny, but also honest and noble. A person who knows how to listen and support, who is interested in your problems and understands them, a person who enjoys talking over beer. We have a lot of things in common, maybe we spend 3-4 hours a day together at the university, we sit next to each other, we study together and I love her company. We even go to sports together. I don't even attract her sexually as much as I like her character. The big problem is that he has a boyfriend. I even know him, a very cool person that I really respect, he's just a guy bigger than her, works and is not seen so often. And what blue eyes there are only! You can dive into them and swim. This girl is really a mistake. I'm just sorry we're in the same group with her now. In addition, we have common friends and interests and I can't help but see her. The worst thing is that she is friendly with me and I love her. I realize that we can't be together, but I can't forget her, and my friendship isn't enough. It's just that sometimes I want to hug her for no reason, to feel her, to hug her next to me and talk all night, or to go somewhere just the two of us. Of course, I didn't mean it seriously, because most likely everyone will hate me even if something happens between us. I don't know people, tell me how feelings are excluded: D. Not that I don't enjoy imagining it, I'm just constantly distracted and careful not to betray myself in any way. Not to mention that the other girls just seem very bad to me. Besides, my success is already super bad, and I need it the first year. It's just that no matter where you look at it, I'm redundant, but if we quarrel or admit to her, I'll lose her as a friend, and that's even worse. Thank you for your patience, I expect constructive comments on how to get my life back;)
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Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either. At the moment, it's exactly the same with me, with the difference that we are in a slightly higher course and I tried to do something, but when I look ... I don't think things will work out. And to be in love (for the first time, hellishly strong and also to have some hopes) during a session is just awful. There is no such state simply. I barely get 5-6 hours of sleep a day without commenting on how many times I wake up in the middle of the night, without even thinking about an intimate relationship, but only an emotional one. The situation is even worse during the day. People, experience these things earlier, in your teens, because I tell you honestly, if I wasn't a strong character, I would probably be depressed. You hardly understand what's on my mind, I explain it in such a joking tone, but the truth is that I'm so vulnerable, and by myself, I've never felt it before. It's awful as a feeling and at the same time ... so wonderful.
My advice is, no matter how hard it is for you to do nothing. Maintain a good relationship with you. If she experiences the same thing at some point you will feel it. If he doesn't feel it, you can't change him after he's with someone else. Don't fuck around. Just live like that and wait. Maybe they can separate :) Snow White
I'm sorry, but she accepts you as a friend, and only as a friend. And you are not sexually attracted to her, maybe she is looking for a brother in you. I had a lot of similar male friends, but I realized that there could be no such friendship, so I distanced myself from them. In the past, I made the mistake of letting a boy like you by my side. Otherwise, she has a thrill with her boyfriend. They may not meet often, but believe me - sex with him is great, they have things to say and do that are only between lovers. Don't interfere where you shouldn't. Stay away and look for a girl among the single. If she finds out about your feelings, she will do it herself. You can't understand, but girls rarely like men their age. If she liked the mature man, what do you think - are you her type?
To number 1, if you know that your girl does not have a friend, take the first step, if necessary, on Facebook or Skype, if you are very worried live. And to the author - try to ask her how she feels about her friend and decide how to proceed. I am a girl and I like a colleague. And it's not easier with us: D don't think that an average girl, without a huge self-confidence and opinion about herself, takes the first step like that, even less than a colleague. Not that you have to do it, but most girls feel safer if the boy goes first and thanks to all the prejudices do not fear for anything else. At least for me it is. I may have been very stupid, but my main idea is that it's always best to try - not because I do, but because I know that I'm wrong and I'm not happy after that and I really want to have at least cool happy people. Still, everyone lives their life and does what is in their heart, I wish everyone in the forum a lot of happiness and love in the New Year and I hope it is not our last: D, because many unfinished deeds have come together: D Good luck !!!
To 4 out of 1, for me things are rather on another level. I think I'm in the so-called friend zone, or in other words in the circle of "friends only". And it seems that some insecure nonsense I did strengthened me in this position ... or even brought me down even from it. So at the moment I'm trying to find out where I am, and then how I'm going to act, that without a gram of experience ... just driving on improvisation is not easy at all.
If the girl is looking for your eyes, invite her to the movies :)) If not - leave her to her boyfriend. Go to the gym, think about money. The women will come alone. Trust me.
I read and remember that I have been in several such situations, but as a student. Nothing happened then, and then at university, although there was a lot of "material", I never felt similar feelings towards anyone (and my university degree was 5 years and a few months) ... I have the feeling that these early disappointments crippled me emotionally to some extent. .. Now I have the feeling that I will enjoy even such unrequited love, no matter how stupid the situation is and no matter how much it hurts somewhere, the feeling is better than nothing ... I have become a nihilist robot :(