Hello everyone, I'm a 28-year-old man, I'm in love with the most beautiful girl, who's 38. I look a little bigger, she's a lot smaller, and when we met, I expected to be her older. surprise :), I was really surprised, I decided that he was bothering me, but I also saw the ID card - it's true. It's terribly cool, sweet, beautiful and for me age was no problem, so I wouldn't want an opinion on it, however,,,,, the Other appeared here - her ex, who is her age, is looking for her, she says it's just friendly, but I feel something more. I am ready for a serious relationship with her IMMEDIATELY! As they say about her naked, I enter the bathroom :) / this is a joke, but I would really like a family with this wonderful creature .. / So I want an opinion from the ladies- Am I in danger and risk of being rejected because of the former ... and to return to him, whether this, that I'm a little younger bothers her? Let me clarify - I'm not bothered in the least, so I'm not looking for advice about me :) you still don't know us or me, but ... opinions will be useful to me :) Thank you!
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My opinion is that you are in love and lost and at the moment you are thinking with your head down. A 38-year-old woman not only has a rich past (exes of unknown number and quality that will bother you for life), but is practically at the end of her fertile phase - ie she is still 1-2 years old, to give birth to a child. I don't know now if she has a child, but it's possible that if she hasn't already decided to find someone just for this gall - why not you? The problem is that such a woman is far above your level in terms of calculation and intelligence. He will crush you and spit you out, and then you will have to roar on the forums and wonder how and when to see your children. She is 48 years old after 10 years, and you are 38 years old. What do we do if she fails to get pregnant now or in the coming years? After 20 years, the woman is 58 and you are 48, and in the prime of your life as a man, you will start looking at young women, but how to leave your wife - old and after 20 years of marriage? How old is your parents' marriage? Let's say 30 - you are now 28, after 30 you are 58, and she will be a pensioner for 10 years and a critical one for 20 years. No matter how we turn it - enjoy your love here and now, but do not imagine that with it you can make a normal family. If the man is older by 10, even 20, it is not a problem, but women age faster, get wiser faster and have something called "critical". In 7-8 years your wife will be critical, what do you do then? But not bad - if you love each other, you will overcome these problems. Still, I wonder why a 38-year-old woman has no family? What is the reason for dealing with a 28 year old pickle? Maybe he wants kids before? has expired and a young gentleman for the bed and kitchen, which he can manipulate and expel if he wishes and needs. Well done to such a girl - as a woman I am in solidarity and I keep my fingers crossed for her to achieve her goals, whatever they may be!
From the author: Excuse me, but after this opinion I just regretted that I posted this topic at all. I'm really ashamed of myself :), I'll tell you what she does with a pickle like me - we went out and we already had a relationship for about a month, before we asked how old we are, she thought I was older, and I I think about her that she is about 23-25- she looks so ... No, she has no children and has not started a family because she has been fighting cancer for 9 years ... In reality, her life stopped just when she was on my years now .. I hope you are ashamed of your inadequate opinion. She is a terribly strong-willed person, but she has not experienced many things, she even looks like a small child. And when you sort out the years - my grandmother is 12 years older than my grandfather, I don't know what they did when she was in the "critical", but here they are now at 83, he at 71, still sleeping on one bed! I am ready to have children of our own, adopted, as she requested. I earn well, I have a good job and I am ready to provide for a family. However, as far as I know, in the west they give birth after 40. But this is not so important for me. Happiness has other dimensions besides children or anything in itself does not make happiness. This is a much more complex feeling. My best friends look after two dogs :) The man works on Wall Street, the chick works from home, takes the dogs out. During his little free time they travel to all sorts of exotic places in the world and I convince them that they are happier than all the couples in Bulgaria that I know! They are both 37 years old. It's just that I'm like that - I can be happy with a child, I can be without a child, I'm glad she's alive and now she's healthy, I want to make her very happy, and to grow up, I think
Author, I gave birth to my first child a month before I turned 43! The second came when I was 44. I was born in London, where my husband and I live and look after our children. The difficulty of looking after children at a later age can be determined above all by the fact that sleep deprivation is more tiring. If the woman is healthy, leads a proper lifestyle, her cycle has not come too early, she has not started having sex too early, it is possible not only to look younger, but also to be younger and biologically than her peers. Everything is strictly individual. However, our father is also one year old - his first child at 49 and the worry that we are elderly parents is present at times, but we do not have the right to leave! We have to keep fit. So that she doesn't have time is nonsense though. Well, there is no time to unwind for another 10 years for sure. And women of all ages have difficulty conceiving. Everything is so individual. For me, everything went well, and the fact that I was the first pregnancy at 42 did not impress anyone in London. There was another woman with me with her first pregnancy at the age of 40. But in Bulgaria they might look at the situation in a special way - I know. Although while I went to the first 4 months of check-ups in Bulgaria, they normally looked at me, I can't complain. And yet in essence, about which you asked. Whether he has any attraction to his ex is hardly related to age. As you describe it, I see no problem being together. :) But in Bulgaria they might look at the situation in a special way - I know. Although while I went to the first 4 months of check-ups in Bulgaria, they normally looked at me, I can't complain. And yet in essence, about which you asked. Whether he has any attraction to his ex is hardly related to age. As you describe it, I see no problem being together. :) But in Bulgaria they might look at the situation in a special way - I know. Although while I went to the first 4 months of check-ups in Bulgaria, they normally looked at me, I can't complain. And yet in essence, about which you asked. Whether he has any attraction to his ex is hardly related to age. As you describe it, I see no problem being together. :)
Well, if we are going to look at it from the practical side - as the respected lady wrote in comment 1 - then knock and run! I know that you can't just crush the feelings and put them in the basket, but it's better for you like that .... before you sink more ... Why confuse your life? This poop will really become a lady in a few years ... Whether she will reject you or not and from whom exactly what she wants or expects - I am not convinced that it is clear to her and herself - typically feminine .. We can assume the classic option - the younger for sex, the older for security and income ... And if she can tie you both to play her whistle - six! And in the end, the mouth is not just for eating and whistling - talk to each other and understand - who wants and expects what!
I do not agree with number 1. How come there is no problem for a man to be 10-20 years older, and for a woman there is something about sexism? Was a grandfather the father of a 10-15 year old child not a problem? I had such a classmate, whose father was obviously much older, the child was ashamed of his father, whom all the children called "your grandfather." In 7th grade, his father died. (men live less) I'm 31 now and I have a friend at 31. Emmy, I'm tight, young, pretty, and he's relaxed, his hair is thinning and sometimes it irritates me and I find myself looking at younger people (and they in me)! Why should I always keep myself perfect, thin, tight, and he doesn't? If a woman may have a problem getting pregnant, then number one, I guess you know how many genetically transmitted diseases can be transmitted to the fetus by the sperm of a MAN OVER 40? Why are sperm donors limited to the age of 35 ?? Thousands of women over 40 get pregnant in vitro, but sperm donors can be either their husbands or strangers but UNTIL 35? Why? Age is an age for everyone, there is no such thing that women age faster. This is brainless nonsense and as a woman I don't believe it was written by a woman! At 31, I still dress like a teenager, have fun as a teenager and have the self-awareness of a young man who has been in front of me all my life! It seems to me that in 7 years I will be the same. And no, I couldn't be with a man more than 15 years older. What kind of father will he be ?? How would I want a drooping uncle? but sperm donors can be either their husbands or strangers but UNTIL 35? Why? Age is an age for everyone, there is no such thing that women age faster. This is brainless nonsense and as a woman I don't believe it was written by a woman! At 31, I still dress like a teenager, have fun as a teenager and have the self-awareness of a young man who has been in front of me all my life! It seems to me that in 7 years I will be the same. And no, I couldn't be with a man more than 15 years older. What kind of father will he be ?? How would I want a drooping uncle? but sperm donors can be either their husbands or strangers but UNTIL 35? Why? Age is an age for everyone, there is no such thing that women age faster. This is brainless nonsense and as a woman I don't believe it was written by a woman! At 31, I still dress like a teenager, have fun as a teenager and have the self-awareness of a young man who has been in front of me all my life! It seems to me that in 7 years I will be the same. And no, I couldn't be with a man more than 15 years older. What kind of father will he be ?? How would I want a drooping uncle? I'm having fun as a teenager and I have the self-awareness of a young man in front of me all my life! It seems to me that in 7 years I will be the same. And no, I couldn't be with a man more than 15 years older. What kind of father will he be ?? How would I want a drooping uncle? I'm having fun as a teenager and I have the self-awareness of a young man in front of me all my life! It seems to me that in 7 years I will be the same. And no, I couldn't be with a man more than 15 years older. What kind of father will he be ?? How would I want a drooping uncle?
From 1 to the Author - well done for your beliefs - I just wrote you what 90% of people who are close to you and friends will think, but will not have the courage to say it in your eyes - I just wanted to be sure, that you will know this BEFORE you start dancing. A light test, I admit, but I also wanted to tell you what you need to understand before you start such a relationship. I myself think more like the Author and I am married to a much older person with whom I am happy. I also welcome his opinion on children and the family and yet - we have over 7000 children who need a family and it is not bad to think about them before you decide to take a dog, and both could be combined . Don't bother a woman with a pregnancy if she doesn't want to when she has cancer - this disease can always come back, don't imagine, that it is cured and a pregnancy can trigger all sorts of processes. As for age - no? is a problem, at least not nowadays - we have all kinds of methods for diagnosing the fetus and if SHE WANTS a child from you, this will not be an obstacle, but I advise you not to push it for your own children, because it takes the risk as a woman in remission in this case, and such a risk is downright stupid given that there are so many children in the homes - in the West they give birth to 50 in different ways, but they have no other option for a child. Success and a long and happy life together. I hope you tell the truth and be clear about what you are doing, because what I wrote to you under my first comment - you will hear it 1000 times sharper in real life and, if you are not strong in your arguments and beliefs, this a woman will suffer with you. Unlike other men,
The first thing is why do you say "boy" and "girl" ??? I'm sorry, but do you consider yourself so young that you call yourself that? I think people have been completely confused lately, if a 38-year-old woman is a girl, are they 20 babies? !?
Even if women had more experience - there are some, I guess! I know a girl who married a virgin at 32 to a 27-year-old who had a much more solid experience. Now, 11 years later, they are a wonderful family with two children - neither she is an aunt, nor he looks at other women. I even dare to say that women married to younger men always look perfect, maintain their youth and take better care of their appearance than those married to older men, who often relax and look worse! We are still talking about numbers, which is very abstract, but let's see the specific people and instead of the expected aunt you see a cool chick who looks like a model or actress :), have you seen what kind of actresses there are at 30-40 years old, some modern women can afford such a standard and look stunning at this age. And to think what would happen in 10 years is madness. Well, anything can happen. And children are dying, and adults, and medicine is moving forward and people are getting younger. Today 35-year-olds are not what they were 20 years ago, tomorrow 45-year-olds will be like them, and in 30 years ... does anyone know? !! ... 10 years is not a stopping difference for physical compatibility in any direction - a bigger man or woman. As long as they have something to talk about, they are both mentally developed - then everything is wonderful. See differences of 20 years and up for me have no future, no matter who is bigger. these are different generations already, unless of course they are 60 and 80 :) Well, anything can happen. And children are dying, and adults, and medicine is moving forward and people are getting younger. Today 35-year-olds are not what they were 20 years ago, tomorrow 45-year-olds will be like them, and in 30 years ... does anyone know? !! ... 10 years is not a stopping difference for physical compatibility in any direction - a bigger man or woman. As long as they have something to talk about, they are both mentally developed - then everything is wonderful. See differences of 20 years and up for me have no future, no matter who is bigger. these are different generations already, unless of course they are 60 and 80 :) Well, anything can happen. And children are dying, and adults, and medicine is moving forward and people are getting younger. Today 35-year-olds are not what they were 20 years ago, tomorrow 45-year-olds will be like them, and in 30 years ... does anyone know? !! ... 10 years is not a stopping difference for physical compatibility in any direction - a bigger man or woman. As long as they have something to talk about, they are both mentally developed - then everything is wonderful. See differences of 20 years and up for me have no future, no matter who is bigger. these are different generations already, unless of course they are 60 and 80 :) 10 years is not a stopping difference for physical compatibility in any direction - a bigger man or woman. As long as they have something to talk about, they are both mentally developed - then everything is wonderful. See differences of 20 years and up for me have no future, no matter who is bigger. these are different generations already, unless of course they are 60 and 80 :) 10 years is not a stopping difference for physical compatibility in any direction - a bigger man or woman. As long as they have something to talk about, they are both mentally developed - then everything is wonderful. See differences of 20 years and up for me have no future, no matter who is bigger. these are different generations already, unless of course they are 60 and 80 :)
From the author: number 1, my friends and relatives will not think so, even 1% of them. My environment is radically different. I have educated people around me, not simpletons, even all of them already support me, and she liked her very much right away. She is more beautiful than the friends of most of my friends, they look at her on the streets a lot ... very modest, natural and a little shy :) My parents also approve of her and like her a lot. My father calls her a "sunny girl" ... and if you knew her, you would be fascinated, I'm sure. Just to keep her alive and healthy. And of course, I hope she doesn't betray me, I would never ...
And again from the author: thanks for the wishes, number one! :), unfortunately, I will no longer be able to enter here, for this I thank everyone who answered me and the topic may no longer be written, I will not be able to come - it was an incidental opportunity. Good luck to all and lots of love!
it's great to have such a woman, I also like more mature women. I like women from 25 years old. up
Why do you condemn them so much, from person to person the difference is huge. They may like each other and have a good relationship, but no one here can tell.
number 7 something is wrong, the guy nowhere calls himself a boy: "Hello everyone, I'm a man of 28 years, I'm in love with the most beautiful girl who is 38. I look a little older, she's a lot more small ... 'And it is normal to call her that - since she has not given birth and is not married, in general she probably means the man, and maybe some fat 20-year-old is a girl?! :) and there are aunts among them. the man told us that he won't write here anymore, you keep reading, you don't want to pick on me :) To be alive and healthy from me - I really enjoy such couples who really love each other, not her because of the money, he, because of ... net .. there is so ugly in the world and it is so difficult to find a truly "soul mate" that even one age stops you ... Good luck author and soon babies! :)
number 7 nowadays 20-year-olds are mutants and look 50 and compared to them there are young people - hey the Swedes are very young! I am a student at Sofia University and now a Swedish teacher came and everyone mistaken him for a student - but honestly more than 18-20 does not seem. turned out to be 39! Here in Bulgaria we get along faster :(. So number 7 age is not always a criterion who is an aunt and who is an uncle, this person can be a girl, maybe a 20-year-old can be an aunt, as number 10 was written by a person to man, the difference is enormous.
Number 1 you are one of the most pessimistic people with this site, what nonsense you say, you do not know her or him, there are women and women (as well as men). I can say to the author that she has a normal relationship and as he describes her I'm sure he's a great person, as far as whether to worry about her ex, but I don't know, talk, share your feelings with her and let her tell you what think, I sincerely wish you a great future and I would really be happy to know people like you because there are not many :) I wish you all the best m21
Why are you even looking for advice here? :) I don't see what your problem is! :) Experience your happiness! You don't need people's opinions, advice, views, etc. :) Just be happy!
Look, now that she's EX, she's done with him. I have a girlfriend who has the same cases, the boy is 24 and she is 35, and yet they get used to it. There are no limits to love.