Hello! A few days ago I met a new colleague at work. The feeling I felt the first seconds after seeing him was simply indescribable. It was as if an electric shock had struck me, my throat was dry, my legs were sagging, my stomach was shrinking, I was inadequate. It has never happened to me to be so physically attracted to anyone. I had to talk to him briefly and out of excitement I don't even remember exactly what I said ... I get paralyzed when he's around. It's super weird and new to me, even though I'm a big person. I have almost no information about him, as he does not have a profile on social networks, and I am uncomfortable asking questions. It may be that he is married with children, for example, or that I am not his type. And I wonder, in general, when we feel chemistry with someone, is it reciprocal in most cases? Even as a student, in my first love thrills, I didn't feel so stupid and excited at the same time. Is it possible for me to feel something so strong and the person on the other side not? In my case, I'll find out, but I'm curious what you think.
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This is a temporary thrill at first glance, but it has nothing to do with love!
When a woman gets married, the earth shakes, brother ...
You ask us if, if you like someone, will he necessarily like you just because you liked him? No.
Abe, boy, why if you're into someone and he has to die for you? If he's so cool, he probably hasn't been left alone and he's already busy. Handsome men know how you tremble for them and how easily you let them go. You won't surprise him with anything, he played this theater. Most of all, to knock you like that, for a change, and for you to get into a TV series yourself and suffer.
This happens between colleagues. You are together all day and it is no wonder that it arouses interest in you. What do you care if he is married and not his type, if you like him so much, he will understand. Then the circumstances will not prevent him from hitting you with a dick. It costs him nothing to take advantage of you by making so much money. Then you think of him. The consequences are always for the woman.
More than familiar ... A few years ago, I met a man at work. He turned out to be married with children, so I stopped all feelings, tremors, desires and emotions towards him. Obviously, however, when the chemistry is mutual and is felt even by those around, the situation heats up even more and sexual contact is inevitable! You have to be made of iron to withstand something like that! I remember the first time I gave in we just kissed ... I still didn't want to ruin anyone's family, and just having an affair with a married man in general was more than wrong and wrong for me. And it was because of this kiss that I got burned after a few days! In a year and a half, our relationship went through a lot of phases ... first it was a "mistake", then it went into "sex only". Somewhere out there, I fell in love with him, and when I confessed to him, he said, "I have feelings too, but this, what you need I can't give it to you. " Then I came out of the movie and realized, I decided to end contact, but every look, touch, smile, even his presence only made me feel weak, and I gave in again. These attempts of mine were repeated many times and unsuccessfully dozens of times. Then came "jealousy on his part", one kind is not mine, but you will not be of another. He went wild when someone else tried to flirt with me, always trying to break everything in its infancy without showing that he cared. And every time after that he interrogated me, he wanted to hear that he was the only one for me, that I missed him and so on. I realized that this was actually his wounded male ego! Apparently, after I confessed my feelings to him, he was proud, and here we pay attention to the difference between feelings and animal attraction between people! If I only knew that everything will escalate like this on my part ... Shortly after that we broke off contact for a month at my request. Then we continued to see each other for work, but he totally ignored me. Ah, that ego! Apparently, however, the sexual attraction was still there, and he came to me alone. Of course, I didn't take him back right away, I already knew how things were between us in his eyes. I let him get nervous, we had sex for the last time, and I closed the window. Neither his prayers, nor his explanations, nor his promises after that helped. I cannot say that I am proud of my action or that I emerged victorious after this relationship, but I can safely say that I already know the difference between "attraction" and "feelings" and what are the red flags for which I have to be careful. What can I tell you, maybe things will be different for you, I share my experience simply. After all, this man left a mark on me and opened my eyes to many things! What is life? A string of elections ...
I'm a man ... and I thought so. We humans somehow communicate non-verbally, through body language. And when there is a desire in our eyes and in the other eye this desire is the same - this outburst of hormones is happening, which you are talking about, at least I think so. Otherwise, I have noticed that very often, when a person is disinterested, it is immediately apparent and somehow this chemistry cannot be obtained. I am like that at the moment with a woman with whom we are colleagues, but I know that she has a husband and children and that is what stops me. I can say to myself "she shouldn't because she is married", she can think the same, but when there is attraction between two people, any barriers remain only in our thoughts. Body language says otherwise.
He may not feel so attracted to you at all. I hope this answers your question. For example, this has happened to me twice. The first time, like you, I met a boy who just sucked my legs and everything. I started to undress him, to sit around him and he felt this and one day at work I was in front of the mirror and I put on lipstick and he came in deliberately and stood tightly behind me and told me in his ear that he knew I wanted him and he we left work and I went to them, we had sex, he fell asleep and I never saw him again. He liked sex a lot, but he just disappeared where, how, and why. The second case was with another boy, a mutual friend introduced us and we went out and I told him that I had just lost my mind when I saw him and his energy captivated me and he thanked me for being direct and then told me, that I am sweet and would have a relationship with me, but he did not feel the same as he saw me, and with another girl years ago he felt it. This offended me and maybe I suffered from it for 2-3 months and finally gave up. My advice to you is to pay attention to your appearance, to go to work with heels, dresses, skirts, to be sexy, but not too naked. Talk more to him, try to make him laugh, see his smile, win him a look. Then say that as a new colleague you want to get to know him so that you can work together more easily, ask him what he has done so far, what he has studied and then take up the topic of whether he has a wife and children. If he tells you he's free, smile and tell him ... emies we become two then ... and if he smiles then there's an attraction. Try to revolve around him, to touch him as if by accident, some such female numbers. Ask for his number, ostensibly because you have it for all your colleagues, and ask him if he needs anything for work. Invite him to a bar or something one night, and when you go there and drink one or two and he becomes freer, you will see if he will start letting you go or not. You can already imagine the whole situation. Act!
In principle, it is quite possible that it is not mutual, but according to what I have heard as stories and experienced personally, in most cases it is bilateral.
# 10 - Do you put pressure on men like that? That he must be foolish not to decipher these flat banal numbers. And to conclude how easy and dashing a woman has in front of her. And accordingly to treat as such, to pull her file and lose it.
8, I can tell you that you are a lowly, disgraceful woman. Are you so crazy that you can't find unattached partners! Idiots ...
What are these misogynists here. "When a woman is accepted and the earth shakes" Why, because women have no right to like someone at first sight, right? It is normal for you to get used to it, to fall for one at first sight is normal, but for women, you see, it is not normal. Author, Ami try. However, if he has a serious relationship or is married, it is better not to do anything with him! Still, try to get closer. And don't listen to those here who try to "land" you right away, saying that it's as if you never fall hard on someone at first glance.
Please, no offense, but because of poisonous, male individuals like the local commentators, Bulgarian women stopped dealing with Bulgarian men. And how to deal with you after you are soaked in whore, malice, cynicism, selfishness and other filth? Just look at yourself ... I feel bad every time I read your comments. You yourself are man-hating factories and you are doing more than great. You are even better at dealing with the final migration of Bulgarian women abroad and the creation of families with foreigners. And, no, it's not about money, it's about ATTITUDE! What woman is so stupid as to associate with such pseudo-men, full of malice and idiotic "thinkers"? Then don't wonder why you are alone and nobody wants you? It's your fault. As women are so bad, find men.
Number 15, there are a lot of good guys who can't find girlfriends because women get along with people like the commenters ... almost all my acquaintances and friends are like that. And you are not a flower and you show it.
Number 15 called again to tell us how bad the Bulgarian men were. I don't understand - since we don't cost that much, why do you constantly spam here, instead of finding a nigger and smelling like all other women dreaming of a foreigner…?