Hello! I am a 16 year old girl. I'm terribly confused and I don't know what to do, what to do. I always thought my family was the most wonderful, and it really looked that way. But over time, and as I grew older, that notion disappeared. The bubble burst and I realized that many things are not what they seem. 2-3 days ago I found out that my mother has been cheating on my father secretly for a long time with ... my uncle. Yes, it sounds like a script from "Fates at the Crossroads", but it's true. Painful for me. I had suspicions of infidelity, but I closed my eyes and thought that "I got into the movie" and things are just fantasy in my head, teen nonsense, but my intuition turned out to be true. The only thing I thought was that my mother was cheating (but I didn't know who). My mother's phone was on the table, and she was taking a bath when my uncle called. I thought it was normal and picked it up because he called home often. The moment I picked it up (I couldn't even say "Hello"), he started saying things to me that I'm ashamed not only to write but also to say. I hung up immediately and just waited for my mother to come out of the bathroom to ask for an explanation. There was a big scandal, I didn't hear any insults about myself, but in anger that I picked up the phone, my mother admitted. I had the feeling that the floor under my feet was collapsing. It was as if I was in a black hole. I felt terrible and cried, I locked myself in my room and I haven't been on my own since. It hurts a lot, especially for Dad. He always loved us both and made sure we didn't miss anything. Because of us, he is gone for weeks to work and provide me with the most important things in life. He doesn't even suspect anything. Every time he came home he brought presents to my mother, and she treated him most hypocritically all the time, as if she had done nothing. I don't want to imagine how much pain he will feel when he learns. Double betrayal - by husband and brother. I also hated my uncle from the incident, although I felt like a stepfather. He has been divorced for a long time, he has no children and he accepted me as his child, they have a great relationship with my father, but for how long ... There really is no such hypocrisy and hypocrisy. So that you don't think I'm attacking my mother, I decided to put myself in her shoes. After calming down a bit, I barely found the strength to ask her about everything: since she had been doing it, had she only been with my uncle, and most of all why. It turned out that she had been doing it for almost 2 years, my uncle was attracted to her, and she was attracted to him. She was only with him because my father was away for a long time, in her words, he was no longer "like once" and did not feel anything for him, but otherwise she was grateful to him for the gifts she made. Every time she left me to visit my grandmother (my father's mother) and when my father was at work, she would get away and meet him. Maybe I started to see when I was 15, because she was deceiving me that she was dating friends, and she generally doesn't have many. The constant hiding of the phone from me and a bunch of other similar things further confirmed all this. When I found out, I started connecting some things and I wanted to kill her. After learning the whole truth, I really hated my mother. I don't want to sit with her under one roof. I try to go out with friends and when I come back to have dinner in my room. Her hypocrisy is killing me. Although he knows I discovered it, she treats me as usual and with all her impudence calls my father to ask him how she is, and the man enjoys her calls. He called me a while ago and you just don't know how I wanted to tell him everything. My father will be home soon (in 4 days). After much deliberation, I finally decided that I would tell him what was going to happen. I love him very much and I am grateful to him for everything I have and I do not think he should live in a lie. He raised me to always tell the truth, whatever it is, and that's why I will do it. I also explicitly threatened my mother that I would reveal her. There were some silences and tears, not to mention, I was going to ruin the whole family. But it's really broken ... Even my uncle called me and threatened me not to say. I am stubborn, I will say, but not out of pride, but out of a sense of justice. My father always believed me, I think he will believe me this time as well. I hope they divorce and no matter how hard it is, I have made my choice, I will stay with him, he deserves it. My mother does not exist for me, nor does my uncle. I'm in pain, but that's the reality. I'm sorry it took so long, thanks to the readers. I just wanted to share with you and if you were me, what would you do?
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Very difficult decision and congratulations on your courage! In your place, maybe I would do the same. Success!
Where you get confused in other people's relationships was a girl, it's between your mother and your 16-year-old father. Get down on the ground and start studying instead of following your mother, God I have no words!
Threatening your mother is a big mistake and you shouldn't have shared your intention at all, and now you may feel that you are not safe and it is good to move out as soon as possible. You confuse many accounts.
Hi, look, it's really better to tell your father the truth. Do not listen to various hypocritical people who will tell you how not to interfere in their relationship and how almost all this is normal. No one deserves to live in a lie, no matter how ugly the truth. And your father would hurt him even more if he found out you knew but didn't tell him. In this life, everyone must take responsibility for their actions. Good luck.
In similar situations, I always give advice to wait. For the simple reason that the child usually does not have the full information and sees things very one-sidedly. And here I was ready to give the same advice until I came to the point with the threat. Under no circumstances should you ever be blackmailed. If the blackmailer succeeds once, he will invariably try again. Next time he'll want to fuck you. If it is possible to record threats, each phone has such an option. Write down your mother's confessions. Expect a liar, a dreamer, and a blackmailer to be brought before your father. Grandpa Torbalan
Abe, what's wrong with you teenagers, why don't you love your mothers? Girl, if you're reading this - don't! You don't know how many fates you will break. Including his own. Do you have any idea what the scandal of infidelity would reach, and infidelity with your brother ...? Well, your father will suffer for life. It is not known how badly he will react ..., let's not read in the news later. Think about it. Why does your father want to know, infidelity is already a fact. It is better to persuade your mother to stop and forget about the incident than to ruin the poor man. Life is complicated, sometimes keeping quiet about something is better. For example, if my husband cheats on me with my sister, he will do things that will be written about in the press for a long time. The universe will explode. Think about it. In his anger a man works miracles.
You look like a smart girl. Calm down, a lot of emotions happen. Do you have a brother or sister? It would be good to discuss it with a family member - it is very clear why not with your father or mother. If by chance you don't think about everything again, gather courage and tell your father - he will hardly admit to your mother who told him this, because our mother can be very angry with you. He will say that he guessed / that his brother recognized him. Still, hint to your father that your mother wants love and caresses, and he is away from home for a long time. Let him put himself in her place. He must be like you - a good and intelligent man who will not raise a scandal. Heads up, everything will be fine! A sweet girl like you will get better and reap success in life, I wish you no hatred to read and write, and good luck! One girl
But people, calm down! I'm surprised you're attacking her! The girl is looking for advice, numbers 1 and 4 tell her to say, numbers 2 and 3 - not to say ... You are probably confusing her. Don't attack her, and without any WHY DO YOU HATE YOUR MOTHER? I quote the author: Double betrayal - by husband and brother. There really is no such hypocrisy and hypocrisy. Her hypocrisy is killing me. Although she is aware that I have revealed her, she treats me as usual and with all her impudence calls my father to ask him how she is, and the man enjoys her calls. I love him very much and I am grateful to him for everything I have and I do not think he should live in a lie. He raised me to always tell the truth, whatever it is, and that's why I will do it. AND HOW CAN THE GIRL NOT SCARE HER? YES, IT'S BAD, BUT SHE FEELS CONFUSED AND UNHAPPY, SUFFERING FOR HER DEAR FATHER! Author, tell your father, or you'll be guilty all your life. He will learn, and your mother will be punished - God slows down, but does not forget! They won't do anything to you - your father will protect you. Tell him to go ahead!
Of course you will tell your father that he is closest to you. Your father will work like an ox, will support the family. This is your family, you know what is most right !!!
From the author: Thanks for your understanding! To number 2: Even though I'm 16, I think I have every right to know how things are. As for my success, I finished this year with a score of 5. 67 so don't worry about my education. To all the others who have supported me, thank you from the bottom of my heart. There may be a sequel to the story soon, but I'm really going to say it all, there's very little time left until Dad gets home.
And I am of the opinion that you should be very careful with your father so that something does not happen to him or he does not do something to himself or your other relatives - your mother and uncle. You know it and you can judge, I hope, what the consequences will be. I don't know how you will present the news, but maybe it should be in parts - you should share the infidelity first, but let your mother explain to whom she is cheating on him. I don't even know how the little man will endure it. I am very sorry ...
Be sure to tell your father. No human being deserves such betrayal. I wouldn't forgive my children if they hid such a thing from me ... I would never forgive.
I wouldn't say. Not because I want to cover up my mother, but because I don't want to ruin my father. You say that he trains both her and his brother, and so with one blow you will deprive him of his closest whims. He will be ruined and betrayed by all. I would not like to see some of my parents in such a situation. I would try to persuade my Nike to stop and I will not betray them.
I have a family. I don't know if the author realizes how many things will happen after this truth is revealed. Well, she will say, her mother and father are divorcing, she stays with her father, mother and lives with her father's brother, they stop talking, divisions, court, gossip, salty human jokes, pointing fingers and what? Because a teen caught her mother in adultery and wanted to tell her father the truth? The truth must sometimes be withheld, but at her age it is very difficult to understand. She will understand it only when she has her own family, children and she understands that her husband is breaking or she is breaking. SUCCESS!
Author, Imagine that your mother lied to you about how long she has been and in fact you are a child of her "uncle". And what are prime?
I'm trying to put myself in the girl's shoes. To tell his uncle to leave the city, to leave his mother and their family alone, and then he can hide the truth. It all depends on the mother. If a mother wants a family and a husband, she must make her brother move far and away forever. God forbid, it is very difficult for such things to happen in a family. It's ugly, but how long does the uncle think of driving her like that, sleeping with his brother's wife and putting horns on him. It can get very scary, a lot. Unless your father has someone somewhere to be even. It's just awful. But even if a brother does so, it is hardly out of great love. It's more like envy to me, it's like something else.
Author, what is the outcome !!!
Until 17: The denouement read here: