I am 50 years old, married for 20 years with two daughters. I have been in a relationship with a colleague for half a year and our relationship is great, even unexpectedly good. It makes me happy. And before you judge me, I will tell you what led me to cheat. The lack of attention from my husband. He doesn't even notice me. Is it normal in recent years to have sex in the family twice a year? And always on my initiative. I don't think there is any thrill between us. Sex is boring and uninteresting, which makes it meaningless. We are just roommates raising their children together. Is it almost normal not to talk? To justify his work delays forever? Otherwise, my husband is a great father. Take care of the family and children. There is no dispute. But where do I stay? I don't want the rest of my life to be without love, without thrill, without sex, if you will. So how many years do we have left? I have not neglected my appearance. On the contrary. I look 10 years old. younger. I train, I take care of myself. I tried to talk to my husband. He says that's not true. This is his regular answer. He just refuses to talk. Sometimes I think he has a mistress. But, I feel guilty. Guilty of cheating. Although my relationship makes me happy, it fills the lack of love, attention. If I was single / my colleague is divorced /, by now we would have gathered to live together. I don't know where this will lead. I am afraid of the future. And because of the children. I don't want to make them unhappy. But, I feel guilty. Guilty of cheating. Although my relationship makes me happy, it fills the lack of love, attention. If I was single / my colleague is divorced /, by now we would have gathered to live together. I don't know where this will lead. I am afraid of the future. And because of the children. I don't want to make them unhappy. But, I feel guilty. Guilty of cheating. Although my relationship makes me happy, it fills the lack of love, attention. If I was single / my colleague is divorced /, by now we would have gathered to live together. I don't know where this will lead. I am afraid of the future. And because of the children. I don't want to make them unhappy.
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I understand you, we have been married for 4 years, and I feel a lack of attention. Maybe it happens often. It is possible to have a mistress, your husband. Just if you want the other I do not see obstacles, but whether it will not be something short, with each beginning is passion and good, but maybe things are normal. I don't know if I would reach the lover, but everyone needs love. After all, you've been together for a long time, think, anyway, if it's just sex, it won't be long, and how would your husband react?
Ah, ah ... women love to justify their infidelities with lack of attention, tenderness, sex, etc. on the part of their husbands .... After your relationship is not going well and you can't save it, DIVIDE EVERYONE ON ITS WAY
Well chick does not have complete happiness. Your children are big, don't make excuses. Divorce and live with your colleague and then you will see his real image. My ex is just like you. I didn't even pay attention. We had two student daughters in Denmark. I was not at all aware of how two students supported themselves abroad and how much money and effort they cost me. She was just a princess. And in gratitude he caught a lover. I understood and I would joke right away. I was extremely disgusted. As difficult as it was, the children accepted it. They graduated, settled down and have a life of their own. I am already free from commitments and with my new girlfriend, we travel around the country and enjoy life. My wife lived with her lover and the idyll ended very quickly. Now she looks after his sick parents and hers. There is no money for a ticket to see his children. This is not the first time the children have come for Christmas. Last month I was with them for a week. I'm happy for them. I am proud of them. What was required of the former - just to show a little patience and understanding of the situation, I really worked hard, but there was a reason. My current girlfriend is divorced with one child, an older daughter married to a Bulgarian in Germany. She took care of her for years and invested everything in her education. She was abandoned by her husband because of another woman when her child was 5 years old. She did not go looking for a husband and lived without sex for years, now and what is missed compensates for it. Last year she gave birth to a daughter and she invited her to go and look after her child. My friend refused. She also said that she was in love with me and for the first time she met a man who truly loved her and would not leave him. That's enough for her. Her daughter felt it and came to apologize to her in person. I'm very happy with this woman, I love her endlessly. And my ex-princess put a cinderella. One-hour sex and rosy talk while cheating have nothing to do with reality when you live together.
Your husband has a mistress. Get together with your colleague or live with yourself so that you don't regret it.
3 Did you pay attention or did you just make money?
№2, when you have children it is complicated. You can't just take your luggage and everyone in their path. The author
And when does your husband find out about the extramarital affair? Do you have a backup option?
If your husband also has a mistress, you can get along in an open marriage: D
Author, do you think of cheating all your life? It will be even more complicated when your husband finds out. Take matters into your own hands and organize your future. The more you stand in a spread position, the worse.