I love my husband, but he cheated on me to hurt me, and because he wanted him, he wanted oral and anal sex. What should I do - leave him or forgive him?
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Forgive him! Give him another chance - he's still your husband, but if he continues in the same spirit, cut him off.
Think of his reasons for cheating on you? What can you and what can't you give him? What's wrong with you? Because in order to look for something outside, he probably didn't find it with you. It is not just a question of forgiveness. If things do not change between you, you have no guarantee that after this "once" by forgiving him, he will be faithful to you. If he has such needs that you are not inclined to satisfy, do not go against yourself, just make him promise you that whatever he does so that he does it so as not to hurt you.
Believe me, what you don't know can't hurt you. And whether to forgive him, only you can decide. Don't expect to forget it, though. With such a thing, you can only "learn to live with the pain" if you can. And if you can't - you better not tarnish your life and his life, well - everyone in their path. I wish you success no matter what you decide!
I had the same problem. I forgave him, but we became estranged. We live together now, but we have nothing more to say.
Listen to your heart, it will most correctly tell you what to do. The mind can deceive, but the feelings never!
You will never forgive in your heart and you will always feel bad. You may live together for decades more, but the trust is gone
Drop it when someone cheats on the pretext that you don't want to do something, it's not because you don't want to, but because he wants to do it with someone else. All men who want to cheat say something so stupid as an excuse. If you want to forgive him and live with him, but remember that this will happen again, but with a different excuse. When someone cheats, it is never once. If you have the strength to endure and always doubt, go on, but think about whether it's worth it? Isn't there someone out there who deserves and respects you more?
Such a thing should not be forgiven. To do so, then, does not respect you and appreciates you enough. Even if you forgive him, it will never be the same. Whenever you sleep with him, you will imagine that he was with another and ignored you.
I THINK YOU HAVE TO LEAVE HIM, BECAUSE IF HE ASKED FOR HIM ONCE, HE WILL ASK FOR HIM AGAIN. THIS IS THE FIRST OPTION. AND THE SECOND IS TO GIVE IT TO HIM, WITHOUT WARNING HIM. JUST SURPRISE HIM WITH A CANDLE DINNER, FOR EXAMPLE, AND SURPRISE HIM WITH SEXY Lingerie. BUY A PORN CASSETTE WITH THIS SEX IN ADVANCE AND OFFER HIM TO WATCH IT TOGETHER. THEN YOU CAN HINT TO HIM THAT YOU WANT TO REPEAT WHAT YOU WATCHED, ETC. GOOD LUCK!!!
MY HUSBAND CHEATED ME TWICE. LIVES IN GREECE. HE LIVES 8 MONTHS WITH THE SECOND. HE IS AN ARABIAN AND HE WANTS BOTH OF US. I CAN'T DO THAT - SHE'S POLISH AND CALLED ME ON THE PHONE TO BULLY ME. I HAVE A CHILD AND I LIVE IN AGONY, IT PAINS A LOT.
LEAVE IT!!!! Definitely not worth it!
It's easy to say leave him but he is a husband if you have a child then things are complicated why don't you think about what you want and whether you can continue with this person and if you have a child think about him.
I was in this situation a year ago. My husband cheated on me with another woman. He said he loved her and couldn't do without her. Then I chose not to live together and sent him to work for his mistress, but I suffered a lot. I felt indescribably ill, I was in almost physical pain from the betrayal. My whole life has been like a tape in front of my eyes. I blamed myself for everything. It was a nightmare. I wondered if I should divorce and decided, but I couldn't find the strength. We have a child. Now things have changed. He was obviously depressed and wanted a trouble-free and joy-filled life. He had already discovered that the other offered him nothing different. He wants marriage, a child, to make commitments, and he slowly began to slip out of the snare of the until recently good, smiling and unpretentious woman and wondering how to return home. But do you know what happened in the meantime? It turned out that a man has been in love with me for 5 years. I realized that, but I didn't think it was that serious. I am still married, but we have been in a relationship with this nice and in love man for several months. I think that now I have the right to experience romantic love without commitments, whims and dirty socks, which I did not allow myself to experience during these 5 years, because of the loyalty I thought I owed to my husband. Who knows, maybe I'll divorce because of my own new relationship, not someone else's. It is! wigs and dirty socks, which I did not allow myself to experience during these 5 years, because of the loyalty I thought I owed to my husband. Who knows, maybe I'll divorce because of my own new relationship, not someone else's. It is! wigs and dirty socks, which I did not allow myself to experience during these 5 years, because of the loyalty I thought I owed to my husband. Who knows, maybe I'll divorce because of my own new relationship, not someone else's. It is!
Infidelity is a nasty thing that can't be forgotten but there is a cure and against it you just let it rest and don't think about it, because I think everyone has the right to compare me with whoever they want, but since it's not cooler than me it comes back as a guilty dog, the other never has my merits she is the toy, the fun, and I am the woman that no bitch would replace even in sex I am better because she is with me again. And I advise you up head laugh when you walk with him on the streets and do not give a sign that you are humiliated because it is not true you are just a woman in place and what you hold caresses with your hands, and what you will not give to anyone is in your heart . Be proud, don't even hint to him that he hurt you with it, so he will be afraid to do it again because he doesn't know what his punishment will be. He will start to feel sorry for himself and be jealous of you because he has no idea what punishment you think of him. Proudly get out of the situation so that they don't play you anymore, think of something to surprise him with, but be positive and never mention the other one she just died already for him believe me because I experienced it and I was advised as I advised you and it turned out pretty well. Men love women very much and if she starts to be jealous of you and speaks badly about you, he immediately rejects her. Up your head, rule over the situation, it is in your hands, you will roar and give it to someone else, never, get a manicure, a hairstyle like never before, be more proud and beautiful day by day. but be positive and never mention the other she just died already for him believe me because I experienced it and I was advised as I advised you and it turned out pretty well. Men love women very much and if she starts to be jealous of you and speaks badly about you, he immediately rejects her. Up your head, rule over the situation, it is in your hands, you will roar and give it to someone else, never, get a manicure, a hairstyle like never before, be more proud and beautiful day by day. but be positive and never mention the other she just died already for him believe me because I experienced it and I was advised as I advised you and it turned out pretty well. Men love women very much and if she starts to be jealous of you and speaks badly about you, he immediately rejects her. Up your head, rule over the situation, it is in your hands, you will roar and give it to someone else, never, get a manicure, a hairstyle like never before, be more proud and beautiful day by day.
Thank you babe, and I think so! Well done!
Infidelity should not be forgiven. The person who did this to you SURELY doesn't love you. If one person loves you, he would not ask for another for a second. He wouldn't even think that he could experience even a moment of happiness / pleasure with anyone other than you. People who forgive infidelity are not respected enough and do not see how serious it is. Infidelity is a kind of murder - you kill a person's soul! Even if he doesn't cheat on you again, even if he's sorry, even if he doesn't look at someone else again ... that doesn't change what happened. He wanted someone who wasn't you. You must not consider yourself a human being at all to forgive. Or to be capable of infidelity :)
N9 get out of this movie - change your phone, if you need the city, start over. Rejoice that this Arab did not take your child, which is the worse option. Let him live with the Pole, and the men are not over.