Hello! I want to tell you my story. I am 20 years old, but I think I have experienced many things that I can tell. I will start from the very beginning ... When I was 13 I was raped. It was a great tragedy for me, but I was too small. I didn't have the strength to share with anyone. I stood with a constricted and sick heart, alone without support ... This pain made me go on a very bad path. I started seeing dangerous people. At first they treated me well, but not for long. When they decided that I was bothering them more, they started threatening me. I was not allowed to leave the house. I began to hide from everyone and everything. The fear was greater than me ..... Until one day I met a boy. Our meeting was very ridiculous and we were already going on the same day. I had decided that this was another mistake of mine, but over time I realized how much I loved this man. He was the first to share what had happened to me. He understood me, he supported me. He never forced me to have sex if he saw I couldn't. The world turned upside down for me: from scary and gray it became irresistible. I have been with this man for 5 years and he has always made me feel like the most wanted woman in the world. I never thought I could cheat on him ... until one day it happened. A year ago I was accepted to a university and he and I moved to another city. Everything was arranged as I always dreamed. A few weeks ago, however, I was practically in the specialty. This practice changed my life. Something strange happened, but really exciting. I do not regret any of what I experienced. During the internship I had a holiday and had a party. My teacher also came to him (he is married and has two extremely sweet children). We were together all night. I felt a great desire, I wished it with all my heart and he wished me too. It was like a fairy tale. The perfect night for me ... for some it may sound scary, I was really happy. After a few days we slept again ... Now I remember every beautiful moment and I know that I was happy. He treated me like his little princess. I could see a spark in his eyes too. I knew he was happy too. I can't say it's love, but it was a dizzying attraction. Even now, when I see you, I still feel the same desire ... I don't stop loving my friend, I love him as much as before. I don't think I'm going to tell him what happened. I don't want to lose him because I think I've found the person I can share my life with. The other was a sincere passion and that's all, I can't want or expect anything more from him.
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Well, you better not tell him, nothing will change and even after you love him ... Good luck!
Don't be crazy! There are so many things that happened to you that hardly anyone can ask for you and finally you find a boy who forgets about everything that happened to you, of course he supports you and you go to fuck someone else and not anyone but the teacher Well, I'm sorry, but I don't understand that
Hello! I will not criticize the girl, because I have had similar experiences! I am writing only because of the comment (in my opinion extremely angry) on number 2. You, number 2, obviously suffer from some complexes! Such interesting and spontaneous things have never happened to you, and you will hardly ever experience them! You will be left with rigid thinking and no memories reminiscent of youth and madness, which is lived only once - like life itself! I'm tired of pseudo-moralists like you! The seat in front of the block will suit you a lot, so that you can gossip with the neighborhood grandmothers and "tc - tc - tc" - after the people, because they are young and live in a way that doesn't suit you! How is it possible to insult a girl like that? What is it to blame for its unhappy past? Do you know if this will not happen to you or your daughter tomorrow ??? I don't wish it on you, by any means, but don't allow yourself to hack people just because of their unfortunate fate! This is from me! Good luck to the girl!
Don't worry about sleeping with someone else. Just don't make the mistake of telling your friend because it will hurt him. And remember this other one with a smile, when it was just a moment of passion. I congratulate you for the strength you showed during the difficult moments and do not forget who was with you through them. Love yourself and be happy.
Never tell him about the infidelity, but NEVER repeat it again, because everything comes back and if you continue, you will eventually fall from the two chairs on the floor! Number two is right - how can you do that to someone you love and is mutual? Obviously you are very curious and immature - I guess it is normal to be like that, but this does not mean to TRANSMIT someone who trusts you and respects you !!! I don't want to judge you, but you should think about it.
Yes, I really don't understand it either, but I guess my friend is also to blame, and because he's too used to pleasing her, that's why she allows herself these things. Well, don't tell him, but sooner or later it is not known whether you will not cheat on him again once you are there and he will not learn. Why did you do that? Don't you have morals, scruples? As soon as I hear that a man is married, all such passionate feelings pass me by :) I don't want to be the wife of this one one day! I guess that's why I don't do it. In this case you have no excuse, but as I said, your friend is also to blame!
Don't ruin the life of a sweet boy. Ok you did it, but you better make sure it doesn't happen again. If you feel it will get better again, don't lie to him.
I think number 2 is terribly right !!! You almost found the "prince" man in your life. And to do so with him if he understands and in my opinion an infidelity is understood even after years he will infuriate you from the man who truly supported and loved you. And as far as I understand, everything went well between you, I can't understand why you cheated on him. Have time! Whatever you do.
Don't tell him. It can happen to anyone, no one is afraid that I will never do what you are. Good luck and head up. Take it as something you will remember after chatting with your best friend.
Don't tell him. You have already betrayed him. But don't do it again. How will you feel if he dumps you and your past comes back? You don't seem to have any good memories. And now you have secured the exams ...
FROM THE AUTHOR: I know that to someone my story sounds silly, the story of a naive and frivolous girl. Everyone has the right to believe and think what he wants, this is his world. I didn't want you to judge or advise me, I just wanted to share a story filled with a little pain, love and a lot of happiness. I do not regret anything. Even for the worst moments. And what would be the point of doing it, why suffer from the mistakes of others. Fear and pain are everywhere, you just have to know how to accept them in your heart. I love my boyfriend and my feelings for him will never change. And the other thing - why not, we were just happy, we didn't want to hurt anyone. Why, because of accepted morality, I must suffer forever. My life is only mine, I don't want anyone to tell me what and how to do it. If he is a moralist, he thinks this is right, WONDERFUL. But please keep it to yourself and your world. And about how his wife feels, AS RUDE AS IT SOUNDS, but she's fine. And why is it bad when neither he has changed his feelings for her, nor does he want anything more from me, nor do I want anything more from him. Everything is as before. Her world is based on the same expectations. I can't influence anything. I was just an outing, with feelings. I wanted to be happy about what I had done so badly. After all, everyone strives for happiness. Why do you blame me then ... WHY do you think I should feel guilty ...? Time heals, but time also opens new wounds from old guilt ... Well, I don't feel it, not because I'm a stone, but because I'm a happy person. And why do you make me suffer in advance ... Why do you want me to get depressed and wonder and wonder how someone can understand that I was happy ... HE WILL SUFFER! - Someone will say. He will suffer YES, but if he wants to ... For me, suffering is a feeling for weak people ... ISN'T IT MUCH EASIER TO SIT ALONE IN HOMELESSNESS AND SCREAMING BLIND HOW BAD A LIFE IS. .. But the truth is that life is as we make it ourselves ... and in our case WHAT ... we stand and wail .. and wait, do we wait ..... ????? THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY ... but it takes courage to look for it .... Be happy all of you ... life is now, not tomorrow or before ... imagine how many things you have lost today because of the fear of the past days. COME ON, MOVE YOUR ASSES, NOTHING IS MORE VALUABLE THAN TODAY. as we do it ourselves ... and in our case WHAT ... we stand and wail .. and wait, do we wait ..... ????? THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY ... but it takes courage to look for it .... Be happy all of you ... life is now, not tomorrow or before ... imagine how many things you have lost today because of the fear of the past days. COME ON, MOVE YOUR ASSES, NOTHING IS MORE VALUABLE THAN TODAY. as we do it ourselves ... and in our case WHAT ... we stand and wail .. and wait, do we wait ..... ????? THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY ... but it takes courage to look for it .... Be happy all of you ... life is now, not tomorrow or before ... imagine how many things you have lost today because of the fear of the past days. COME ON, MOVE YOUR ASSES, NOTHING IS MORE VALUABLE THAN TODAY.
Well, I can say that my life until the moment you met your friend is completely, but completely identical with yours. I also found the person who loves me for what I am, understands me and does not blame me for anything from before, because the past is left behind and there is no way back. I don't blame you for what you did. Honestly, I personally could not imagine cheating on my current friend, we have been together for 2 years. Yes, I have had previous relationships and, by the way, I have had many adventures with other men, but I can't afford to do this to him. If that's how you felt, that's how you did it. This is good, because we have to do what the heart, soul, body buy for ... But yes, in no case do not tell him about what you have done because you will crush him and it will hurt him terribly.
I can't understand how you can claim to love someone and at the same time be happy with the fact that you have been intimate with another person .. Really how can you split up and share like this without even thinking that if it understand I can complicate many things and create unnecessary stress .. I do not understand such people I do not blame anyone I just wonder because I am such a person who if I love someone or even just be close I would never allow myself to abuse trust and the honesty of the other person for the simple reason that it is super disrespectful to all the efforts and memories and the care you take for each other .. just the whole relationship goes to hell
I did not intend to write until I read the author's second post. AUTHOR, no one imposes your morals on you, on the contrary, you try to impose your own with your topic - if you hadn't written, no one would have attacked and reproached you, but obviously you are a masochist and you don't have enough slop that you ate so far and you want more and more. From your second post you exude arrogance and ruthlessness, not only did you behave meanly with your unhappy friend, but you also try to convince us that this is in order, that you invite others to follow you. If you love, keep your morals to yourself, live happily (as you understand happiness), do not impose your views on life on others, have respect for those who think differently! Last but not least, learn to write competently, yet you say you are a student.
After almost 10 years, I wonder how things developed? "I never thought I could cheat on him ... until one day it happened." - It just happened? "This practice changed my life." - How exactly did your life change? Did you unlock the whore? I'm sure that if by chance you're still with the decent one many more times: "It just happened to you!" And the second post - one conclusion that comes to my mind: Rape at the age of 13 - obviously helped a lot! As ugly as it is. Those who did it can say, "It just happened!"
The author hardly reads the topic after 10 years, but it is not difficult to guess how things developed. After a few more such simple incidents with her teacher or someone else, her friend understood and drove her away with a chamber of dramas, the roar of snot and the like on her part. Or she decided that this same friend was no longer interesting to her, bothered her to be happy or something, and she was a jerk to him. From other similar connections I can say that they hardly spent more than a few months after the "incident". The conclusion is especially for the younger ones around 20 years old - choose your partners carefully, because if you are correct with the person on the other side, you give in your relationship and give all your love to him, and on the other side stands a person like the author of the topic, in the end, the feeling of being fucked this way sucks.