Hello friends! I want to share my story with you, if I may describe it at all, because it is quite long and tiring. My mother and father have been divorced for 10 years and I live with my father. We understood each other perfectly, I love him as much as he loves me, but we are constantly in conflict with my mother, I don't understand, I have a sister with whom we also fight. My family is undermined by lies and intrigue I feel terribly depressed the only thing that makes me happy is the sport I practice. My father has a relationship with a woman who uses it only for benefits. All material gains are impersonal to me, nothing makes me really happy anymore. Even today, my father told me that I was mean and that he would fuck me, this is a small part of our conflicting conversations. I know he loves me very much, but it's all the other woman's fault, which I'm sure affects him in a very bad way. I have many friends when I go out I get drunk to atheism almost forever. I know it's ugly, but I think the only consolation is in the cup, there was even a period when I got drunk secretly in my room every night. I go out often in company, I am radically different, I do not show my problems. At home, at dinner, no one talks to anyone. We hardly see each other only in the evening and at dinner everyone stays in their own room. Even at Christmas, the situation was so tragic that I envied my girlfriend who has a great family - a family in which they love, understand and mostly talk. I don't know if the problem is not in me, I think a lot, why to blame the other as the problem itself may be in me. And I don't like self-pity, I hate loneliness, I hate quarrels, I'm a very cheerful person, but I think only when I think of myself in front of other people when I am alone with the saddest and most soulless person. I would exchange all the money and material gains to live in a family with love and understanding where the problems are discussed, not silenced and covered up with another purchased item. Thank you to everyone who put up with me, even I don't know how to help myself, the only thing I'm very angry about is that we love each other at home, but we can't say it to ourselves, our words are as empty as our souls. My father and I were advised to talk, but I didn't try, and you know how the conversation ends, it's all about the damn money again, and I've never been a materialist. I just don't know what to do, whether to run away, whether to continue to commit suicide, whether I don't know, I can't stand TIRED of this damn impersonal person,
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Listen girl, I can tell you you don't have that many friends when they do their show with you getting drunk every time and no one sitting down to talk to you once. The situation with you is bad, but right now is the time to show character. Drinking can certainly only get you to the bottom. But if you get out of trouble and succeed in this life? With drinking, this will certainly not happen. My advice: / I am 40 years old and I have seen two and two hundred / Abstain from the situation at home. It sucks, but if you stop being annoyed by what is happening you will be able to look at it more impartially and calmly. Choose your friends and company first. Try to get together with people who are cheerful, but when necessary, serious, not watchmakers. Stop drinking alcohol immediately and be sure to decide what the valuable things in life are. I see that in the meantime you have learned the first and perhaps most important lesson - MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING !!! Learn the following and share read 100 opinions and choose what you decide, but not under the influence of emotions or alcohol. And with love: It is always a series of many disappointments and few joys, but if a person knows what he wants and is not in a hurry, the end is always good. I wish you success
Hey, as long as she tortures herself :) Up her head !!! And no thoughts of suicide - that's not the way. I understand that it is difficult for you, but do not self-blame, believe that everything will be fine and that maybe this is a test that will make you stronger in the future. It's good that sports distract you, why don't you start practicing other things that make you happy and distract you from the problems. And as for the cup of alcohol - does it make sense? Is it better for you to get drunk, and the next day everything is the same and has not changed? Don't make your life even more bitter. Maybe it's good to take the first step and talk to your family, to solve the problem, it will be difficult, but it's worth a try - still take a risk to win! I wish you success and think positively about things, although it will be difficult for you, but at least try :)))
Darling, I was in a similar situation to yours, although ours are not divorced. On the other hand, they didn't understand each other at all, they drank a lot, swore (and me too) and it was a nightmare at home. As a cover, they were not interested in me at all - only in my notebook. Harassment of all kinds, both physical and mental, all kinds of restrictions. But I never thought about alcohol and suicide. When I was 12 years old, I told my father that his kingdom would also end - he slapped me so hard that I did not fall to the floor just out of malice and powerless anger. I decided I wouldn't be like them; that I could do without their support, I gathered with friends who were close to me and understood me. I waited all the time to grow up and take my life into my own hands. I planned my things as much as I could, I studied a lot and diligently, knowing that this was the only way out for me - to build a future, which they can ruin. I succeeded. True, I don't know what it's like to share with your mother and have her help you with advice, I don't know what it's like to rely on your father - but it's not my fault. But I know one thing - you can't change them, you can just ignore them, not attach yourself to them and try to secure your future through education and meaningful activities. I wish you success with all my heart! P.S. Do not be angry, they will always be your parents and will love you in their own way. And for boyfriends, you will have a lot of them, and for most of you you will think that they are true love. They will not be. So enjoy your relationships and don't get too caught up in thoughts of love. She always comes when you are mature and ready for her. And according to my calculations, this time will come for you in about ten years! :) I don't know what it's like to share with your mother and have her help you with advice, I don't know what it's like to rely on your father - but it's not my fault. But I know one thing - you can't change them, you can just ignore them, not attach yourself to them and try to secure your future through education and meaningful activities. I wish you success with all my heart! P.S. Do not be angry, they will always be your parents and will love you in their own way. And for boyfriends, you will have a lot of them, and for most of you you will think that they are true love. They will not be. So enjoy your relationships and don't get too caught up in thoughts of love. She always comes when you are mature and ready for her. And according to my calculations, this time will come for you in about ten years! :) I don't know what it's like to share with your mother and have her help you with advice, I don't know what it's like to rely on your father - but it's not my fault. But I know one thing - you can't change them, you can just ignore them, not attach yourself to them and try to secure your future through education and meaningful activities. I wish you success with all my heart! P.S. Do not be angry, they will always be your parents and will love you in their own way. And for boyfriends, you will have a lot of them, and for most of you you will think that they are true love. They will not be. So enjoy your relationships and don't get too caught up in thoughts of love. She always comes when you are mature and ready for her. And according to my calculations, this time will come for you in about ten years! :) not to be attached to them and to try to secure your future through education and meaningful activities. I wish you success with all my heart! P.S. Do not be angry, they will always be your parents and will love you in their own way. And for boyfriends, you will have a lot of them, and for most of you you will think that they are true love. They will not be. So enjoy your relationships and don't get too caught up in thoughts of love. She always comes when you are mature and ready for her. And according to my calculations, this time will come for you in about ten years! :) not to be attached to them and to try to secure your future through education and meaningful activities. I wish you success with all my heart! P.S. Do not be angry, they will always be your parents and will love you in their own way. And for boyfriends, you will have a lot of them, and for most of you you will think that they are true love. They will not be. So enjoy your relationships and don't get too caught up in thoughts of love. She always comes when you are mature and ready for her. And according to my calculations, this time will come for you in about ten years! :) So enjoy your relationships and don't get too caught up in thoughts of love. She always comes when you are mature and ready for her. And according to my calculations, this time will come for you in about ten years! :) So enjoy your relationships and don't get too caught up in thoughts of love. She always comes when you are mature and ready for her. And according to my calculations, this time will come for you in about ten years! :)
When you kill yourself, everyone will gather, eat, drink (this is what is done at a funeral, if you don't know) and then life will go on, but you will be bitten by worms. Take matters into your own hands, don't drink, study, find a decent friend if you don't have one. Don't think it was different for me. My mother gave up on me because of the man I love, and he is a decent and educated man.
In principle, I am in a very different situation from yours, but there is also a similarity in this situation if you do not find a reason to continue to fight and live who knows what will happen to you. If you started arguing with mothers and sisters after your parents' divorce, it is because you subconsciously blame mothers for the divorce, and sisters, either because it did not help you prevent the divorce, or because she decided to separate as she was. remained with the mothers. You are angry and disappointed with your father because he has moved on with another woman, not with mothers, and now he pays less attention to you because he is with her. You're just jealous, you're not used to having an outsider in your family. And for conversations with fathers about the fact that you always get to the word money, be calm, all parents are like that.
In principle, I am in a very different situation from yours, but there is also a similarity in this situation if you do not find a reason to continue to fight and live who knows what will happen to you. If you started arguing with mothers and sisters after your parents' divorce, it is because you subconsciously blame mothers for the divorce, and sisters, either because it did not help you prevent the divorce, or because she decided to separate as she was. remained with the mothers. You are angry and disappointed with your father because he has moved on with another woman, not with mothers, and now he pays less attention to you because he is with her. You're just jealous, you're not used to having an outsider in your family. And for conversations with fathers about the fact that you always get to the word money, be calm, all parents are like that.