Hello. I am a boy, this year I will be a first year student. So far I have not reached a serious relationship, but this may happen soon. However, I am worried whether I can have free land for my boyfriend. There are two problems at home - we are many people. (mother, father, grandmother, grandfather). I'm a little embarrassed to invite her home because we're in an apartment and the rooms are next to each other. Come on, my mother and father go to work and other places, but my grandparents are always at home. Also, I do not know if the wallpaper is not in the best condition (although their shortcomings are visible only if you look closely), old curtains, whether it should not be repaired and then invite people. So far I haven't called my friends to us, nor have they, we gather in restaurants, go to Vitosha, etc. But for a boyfriend, I don't think it can just go on like this (it's not about sex, I do not approve of sex before marriage and I do not think that it is the most important thing in a relationship, but this is another topic). I'm not comfortable telling my parents about this, and I'm thinking of hinting to them that they can figure it out for themselves. And at least this year I don't want to go out and pay rent, because I have to find a part-time job first, and I don't know if that won't have a bad effect on my studies. At least the first year to get used to the situation at the university. I ask the moderators to approve my story, I need opinions and advice. and I do not know whether this will not adversely affect my learning. At least the first year to get used to the situation at the university. I ask the moderators to approve my story, I need opinions and advice. and I do not know whether this will not adversely affect my learning. At least the first year to get used to the situation at the university. I ask the moderators to approve my story, I need opinions and advice.
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This is absurd about sex before marriage - it is obvious that you live with your grandparents. I wouldn't drive a girl home not because of the conditions, but because of them. To cram everything together, you are most likely from a Toy family. Your mother and grandmother will start harassing her and she will leave on her own if you let her. What's wrong with the apartment? Did your relatives dissuade you from moving out?
If you don't approve of sex before marriage, your job is broken. Or do they attract the fat ones?
God does not approve of sex before marriage either, leave the "modern" of which I was, they will understand the truth before the abyss, unfortunately, when it is too late and the promise will come true.
If you are not looking for a place for sex, but just to spend a pleasant time with a boyfriend, I see no problem to invite her to your house. You will not lift the block on your head, it is a problem that there are people around. You will probably watch movies, drink coffee / tea and talk. What can happen to be a hindrance to your grandparents? Laugh and chase? It would only be bad if one of your relatives attacked the girl, if she made her uncomfortable, if she showed that she was unwanted. They will certainly pay attention to her in the beginning, because she will be a new person and they will want to meet her, but talking to your grandmother for 30 minutes is not the end of the world. My friend came to us and only once became a problem because my grandmother was a guest and somehow decided that the situation was very difficult and I would soon become pregnant. The door was open, even my brother was with us watching TV, but the woman got worried and then started a scandal. If you think that there is no risk of such unpleasant events, then you can easily invite the girl as a guest. Otherwise, the wallpaper is changed and the walls are painted and the furniture can be renovated or replaced, so do not bother.
5, brother, you are a few centuries late to be born ...
Number 5, since I was particularly interested in the topic, but there are many different versions, can you explain whether you speak from the point of view of Eastern Orthodoxy and if so, what exactly did you find in this regard? And to the author - if things get more serious, you can only once, for example, invite her to your home for a while, to meet relatives, but also explain that in principle you will not be comfortable spending time there, because you prefer to be talk and enjoy her peace of mind. In this way you will both show respect and there will be no reason to be angry with you. Otherwise, in the winter you can take walks in a mall, just like that, more space and be warm, play bowling, cinema, etc., good luck!
The boy wants advice, and here you are all caught like drowning men for a straw about sex ........
I understand the author about the part with the invitation (I will not comment on sex before marriage), because at his age we were very poor and I also did not want to invite anyone home because it was not in good condition inside. Author, tell yours to make at least a refreshing repair such as changing wallpaper and curtains. If they don't agree, you can just go out for a start, if necessary, and explain that you don't have many guests, it's better than hiding the reason and making her think of other things. And if things get a little more serious over time, just find a job, rent an apartment and keep it clean and tidy, it's not said to be super luxurious.
I used to have the same problem. I remember that a boyfriend was very resourceful and had thought of accidentally carrying the key to his grandmother's empty apartment :) After the first sex, the key was always in her - obviously she liked it! Then we fell in love and I didn't care about the atmosphere at home, neither did she.
9, normally what century do we live, this is obsolete! It is not normal and his main problem is that because he is a man, he is not a woman, so much so that he should be careful, and this with God, even until marriage, is a complete absurdity that will hinder him a lot in life. People are too loose and will take it for granted. Which is definitely a problem for him, he will be repulsed without realizing the cause / problem. It will definitely not work well for him in relationships if he does not find a strong believing girl from such a family. I do not attack and I do not know why they did not publish my comment in such nonsense. My advice is exactly this, to look for a strong believer, a meek girl like you with your understandings, the others will make fun of you because it is really too much. It's one thing to believe, to follow a custom, not to do evil, but it's really obsolete. Plus, it proves that a woman is honest, not to expose the family - that's how it was. I don't know why you think so, but everyone has the right to live as he wants. As for this - for you - some new curtains, old wallpapers if they are already quite worn, remove them and paint the walls, with small things you can create a pleasant atmosphere, but your mother and grandmother so many people around you will somehow be embarrassing / uncomfortable. Take them to the cinema, a walk in the park, huts, cafes, etc. There are many options :) If you do not live in a two-storey house, think about how to move out soon, for now do not rush, let this year pass if necessary, the other, but then think about it, because one day children, etc., there is no way for your mother and grandmother, it will be very narrow. Just awkward work, and the cake is not important, but your understandings are quite old-fashioned and I think it will hinder you a lot in life, but you're still young I know :) but everyone has the right to live as he wishes. As for this - for you - some new curtains, old wallpapers if they are already quite worn, remove them and paint the walls, with small things you can create a pleasant atmosphere, but your mother and grandmother so many people around you will somehow be embarrassing / uncomfortable. Take them to the cinema, a walk in the park, huts, cafes, etc. There are many options :) If you do not live in a two-storey house, think about how to move out sooner, for now do not rush, let this year pass if you need another, but then think about it, because one day children, etc., there is no way for your mother and grandmother, it will be very narrow. Just awkward work, and the cake is not important, but your understandings are quite old-fashioned and I think it will hinder you a lot in life, but you're still young I know :) but everyone has the right to live as he wishes. As for this - for you - some new curtains, old wallpapers if they are already quite worn, remove them and paint the walls, with small things you can create a pleasant atmosphere, but your mother and grandmother so many people around you will somehow be embarrassing / uncomfortable. Take them to the cinema, a walk in the park, huts, cafes, etc. There are many options :) If you do not live in a two-storey house, think about how to move out sooner, for now do not rush, let this year pass if you need another, but then think about it, because one day children, etc., there is no way for your mother and grandmother, it will be very narrow. Just awkward work, and the cake is not important, but your understandings are quite old-fashioned and I think it will hinder you a lot in life, but you're still young I know :) if the old wallpapers are already worn out a lot, remove them and paint the walls, with small things you can create a pleasant atmosphere, but your mother and grandmother so many people around you will somehow be embarrassed / uncomfortable. Take them to the cinema, a walk in the park, huts, cafes, etc. There are many options :) If you do not live in a two-storey house, think about how to move out sooner, for now do not rush, let this year pass if you need another, but then think about it, because one day children, etc., there is no way for your mother and grandmother, it will be very narrow. Just awkward work, and the cake is not important, but your understandings are quite old-fashioned and I think it will hinder you a lot in life, but you're still young I know :) if the old wallpapers are already worn out a lot, remove them and paint the walls, with small things you can create a pleasant atmosphere, but your mother and grandmother so many people around you will somehow be embarrassed / uncomfortable. Take them to the cinema, a walk in the park, huts, cafes, etc. There are many options :) If you do not live in a two-storey house, think about how to move out sooner, for now do not rush, let this year pass if you need another, but then think about it, because one day children, etc., there is no way for your mother and grandmother, it will be very narrow. Just awkward work, and the cake is not important, but your understandings are quite old-fashioned and I think it will hinder you a lot in life, but you're still young I know :) but your mother and grandmother so many people around you will somehow be embarrassed / uncomfortable. Take them to the cinema, a walk in the park, huts, cafes, etc. There are many options :) If you do not live in a two-storey house, think about how to move out sooner, for now do not rush, let this year pass if you need another, but then think about it, because one day children, etc., there is no way for your mother and grandmother, it will be very narrow. Just awkward work, and the cake is not important, but your understandings are quite old-fashioned and I think it will hinder you a lot in life, but you're still young I know :) but your mother and grandmother so many people around you will somehow be embarrassed / uncomfortable. Take them to the cinema, a walk in the park, huts, cafes, etc. There are many options :) If you do not live in a two-storey house, think about how to move out sooner, for now do not rush, let this year pass if you need another, but then think about it, because one day children, etc., there is no way for your mother and grandmother, it will be very narrow. Just awkward work, and the cake is not important, but your understandings are quite old-fashioned and I think it will hinder you a lot in life, but you're still young I know :) there is no way with your mother and grandmother, it will be very narrow. Just awkward work, and the cake is not important, but your understandings are quite old-fashioned and I think it will hinder you a lot in life, but you're still young I know :) there is no way with your mother and grandmother, it will be very narrow. Just awkward work, and the cake is not important, but your understandings are quite old-fashioned and I think it will hinder you a lot in life, but you're still young I know :)
Number 9 I would be happy to explain why I wrote the comment and where my opinion came from, but the last time I wrote two comments on "Should I be baptized" they decided not to publish them, there was no "hate", but I had turned to certain comments in order to present a different point of view. But apparently my "patriarchy" has embarrassed someone. I am really sorry that we have come to the point that when someone presents a different point of view, if it is more Christian, there is a danger that it will not even be reflected. While against Christian, postmodernist "theories" derived from theology are allowed. I wish all the best to the moderators nonetheless.