Hello! I will try not to go into details, because it will take quite a long time. We have been together for about three years, we are not married, we live together. We went through a lot of difficulties and survived thanks to my stupid love for him. We do not live in the country, we are emigrants and in the beginning it was difficult for me to adapt and find a good job. In fact, I started working when I came and to this day I work almost without a break. However, things are always bad with him. He gets a little better and then the same thing. He has personal problems at the moment and he spent all his money because he has me. I feel like a piggy bank sponsoring it. I don't want to believe that he doesn't love me, but sometimes I really want more. I think that everyone can get into trouble and we should help each other properly. I look at him as a family and there was no way this money would not come out of me. I told myself today, and tomorrow we will both save and have. I never wanted anything from him, I wanted respect and gratitude. Sometimes I think he is a small child who will never grow up. I wonder why I deserved it? And what did he deserve me for? His friends envy the ahmachka he found. I used to believe in love, but I see that only naked love, and only on my part, costs nothing. I don't even know why I'm writing all this, maybe it will be easier for me, but nothing will change. You probably know people like that. And by the way, I'm quite jealous, but all this is the result of distrust on my part. I think that if he had money he wouldn't look at me and I underestimate myself. And no I am not bad and for disposal.
Do you think if I talk to him openly for the last time and give him an ultimatum will things get better? I'm thinking of telling him that I'm here and that from now on he won't hope to save his buttocks when something happens. To tell him that I lost my respect for him as a man and my love and everything slowly passes. Take it in hand or I'm leaving. Despite everything, I love him, but I don't imagine all my life to be miserable just because I love him. In fact, no one but my family has ever done such things for me. Did you help your partner financially? Or is he to you? Maybe I'm wrong and that's normal? I get annoyed when you accuse women of being gold diggers, and you forget to talk about men because I think there are a lot of them. This is from me thanks for your time. that I'm here and that from now on he doesn't hope to save his buttocks when something happens. To tell him that I lost my respect for him as a man and my love and everything slowly passes. Take it in hand or I'm leaving.
Despite everything, I love him, but I don't imagine all my life to be miserable just because I love him. In fact, no one but my family has ever done such things for me. Did you help your partner financially? Or is he to you? Maybe I'm wrong and that's normal? I get annoyed when you accuse women of being gold diggers, and you forget to talk about men because I think there are a lot of them. This is from me thanks for your time. that I'm here and that from now on he doesn't hope to save his buttocks when something happens. To tell him that I lost my respect for him as a man and my love and everything slowly passes. Take it in hand or I'm leaving. Despite everything, I love him, but I don't imagine all my life to be miserable just because I love him. In fact, no one but my family has ever done such things for me. Did you help your partner financially? Or is he to you? Maybe I'm wrong and that's normal? I get annoyed when you accuse women of being gold diggers, and you forget to talk about men because I think there are a lot of them. This is from me thanks for your time. Take it in hand or I'm leaving.
Despite everything, I love him, but I don't imagine all my life to be miserable just because I love him. In fact, no one but my family has ever done such things for me. Did you help your partner financially? Or is he to you? Maybe I'm wrong and that's normal? I get annoyed when you accuse women of being gold diggers, and you forget to talk about men because I think there are a lot of them. This is from me thanks for your time. Take it in hand or I'm leaving. Despite everything, I love him, but I don't imagine all my life to be miserable just because I love him. In fact, no one but my family has ever done such things for me. Did you help your partner financially? Or is he to you? Maybe I'm wrong and that's normal? I get annoyed when you accuse women of being gold diggers, and you forget to talk about men because I think there are a lot of them. This is from me thanks for your time. and you forget to talk about men, too, because I think they're pretty much too. This is from me thanks for your time. and you forget to talk about men, too, because I think they're pretty much too. This is from me thanks for your time.
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If waiting for you is not normal, you should be able to handle the costs and do everything yourself.
Are you looking for a sponsor? You say you love him, don't you? How many times have you saved his ass and how much money have you been inside? It is not clear. Now you were going to leave him for the money. And tomorrow, when he starts making them, does he have the right to dump you due to lack of any physical data - assholes? Or in any case, as a woman you should always be in a winning position? And tell your age, because at one age some things are ok, while at another they are not.
That's why I first look at them to see if they are hardworking and promising, and then I allow myself a possible relationship.
At 2, at 28 he at 30. Many times and with a lot of money I can't understand what this aggression is. If I were a man and I had written this for a woman, you would have sung another song!
It's all in stages. My friend was unemployed for a long time and I supported us. He felt very bad about it and our relationship suffered a lot. At one point I couldn't stand it and left him, I even started another relationship. He got scared and started working, he developed a very good career. Things between me and the new man did not develop as I expected, we broke up and my ex reunited, and he began to take very good care of us. He offered me marriage, and when I found myself in a situation of losing my job, he gave money for everything without questioning it at all. This is love - you take care of the other without expecting anything in return. Yes, it weighs at times, but in the end, life is one wheel and spinning constantly. Today you are fine, tomorrow he will be fine, you will support each other. The important thing is to respect each other and to love each other.
So when he's 30, he has enough time to get back on his feet. And whether you sit on yours or stumble, no one cares ... Safe from lovers who in the first years of their relationship, for money, would do everything nasty What respect do you expect? From 2
From 2 And stop asking simple questions! AND IS A WOMAN WITHOUT MIND A WOMAN ??? When it comes to fucking, it doesn't mean she's a woman. It's the same with the man. If you're fucking a man - just don't complain on the forums about what's wrong with you and how old you are, right?
Drop that irresponsible mold! Chance is given once or twice, not 20 !!! People do not change!
First I will answer you specifically to the title. No, a man without money is not a man. The man cannot give birth and breastfeed. The man, even if he takes care of the child and the home, will still not be as effective in these activities as the woman. And these things take a woman years of time. If she works and supports the family * entirely *, the man's usefulness becomes negligibly low. Therefore, the man must be able to take at least half of the family support of the family, otherwise it becomes a burden for the household. As you have found out, this situation is intolerable. And no, yours won't change. He doesn't know how to be different. Collect your luggage without him understanding and disappear.
Be careful if he lies, if you have a child, you will completely take off your pink glasses. My ex started stealing from me, and when I caught him, we broke up. He hasn't looked for his child since.
Apparently you are looking for a woman to sponsor you, just stop spamming my topic! Moderators, why are you posting his aggressive and pointless comments?
As you have found out, you can't live with love alone. Yes, everyone has difficult periods, but in some periods they are a lifetime. I don't know if they just don't know how to do their math or if it's convenient for them to be like children, because someone still fixes their porridge, but such people can fix it if their faucet stops. Notice number 6, her boyfriend has changed, but after she dumped him. He was startled, took matters into his own hands and things got better. Otherwise, this stage would probably not have been reached. However, I am not saying that this will work for you. If you dump him, he can just find another woman to sponsor. Otherwise a conversation I don't know if it will help, but it doesn't stop you from trying. However, do not talk about the abstract future, but for example: every month I give edi = how much you are, you give one = how much you are. Find out how much your expenses, income are and make a decision in total. Don't start talking: but this month is an exception, the other - also, if it's been like this for 3 years, it's everyday for him. It may have an effect, although I'm not optimistic. Imagine having a child and only him working. How will you cope then? Will you hang on his head all your life and stalk him so he doesn't slap something?
Author, do you only see an ATM in a man? Does money make a man? It is clear that you do not want him if he does not bear you, what else are you looking for in him? I no longer want to enter this site, women are always whining, their men are not worth it and women are the best. Since you are so pretentious, why don't you live alone and whine like widows for x .., ie. for money!?
What do you mean by "money", how much money is money for you?
I can't understand what you are doing to the hit, in the 21st century the man is an ATM and the woman is an ass and tits, for 99% of the people it is like that, this is not a time when your grandparents lived in the village cottage all their lives . Why young women are obsessed with their appearance and wonder how to look sexier, why they constantly upload photos on Instagram, just to show the product and find as rich a buyer as possible. It's a problem for ugly women and poor men, because they stay dry and have no choice but to kill complexes on anonymous sites like this.
On May 14 and 15, you also recognized yourself in the image of my friend. It is clear that I am not looking for money, because I give it and pay for myself and for him. Has any woman done this for you to support you? Or are you the only ones messing with your pocket? I'm not looking for an ATM, but rather I'm an ATM. Are your heads chattering?
No one should feel like a piggy bank in a full-fledged relationship. If the person appreciates you, he will always find a way to help you, not to milk you. A man helped me in a relationship, we lived together, he worked, and my internship was paid 365 euros. His entire salary and my 365 euros went to our total budget, but I never allowed myself to ask for this money for myself, we lived modestly and pampered ourselves only with the food stamps we collected during the week to go to a restaurant on the weekend. . In our case, it didn't matter that he gave more, because we worked evenly, even his working day was until 5, and by the time I got home, he had already turned on the vacuum cleaner, bought it, started cooking it. In the next relationship I helped a man with money, he didn't consider the food stamps part of the salary and he managed to sell them, to buy things for himself. In this way, he was always in the red for urgent matters such as cigarettes. In general, the question is not whether the man is a man without money or the woman without money is a woman, but to what extent the person next to you is correct, responsible and conscientious. Now I remember one that I endured watching for about a month, still clutching, and at the same time buying a branded bag. Male muffin. Yours, author, I don't think I would tolerate it. I do not issue ultimatums separately, I do not force anyone to change, I just get out of the situation, trying to do it on time. which I lasted about a month, kept clutching, and at the same time bought a branded bag. Male muffin. Yours, author, I don't think I would tolerate it. I do not issue ultimatums separately, I do not force anyone to change, I just get out of the situation, trying to do it on time. which I endured watching for about a month, kept muffling, and at the same time bought some branded bag. Male muffin. Yours, author, I don't think I would tolerate it. I do not issue ultimatums separately, I do not force anyone to change, I just get out of the situation, trying to do it on time.
Girl, you really annoy and maneuver. He has personal problems, doesn't he ??? And you say that you love him ... Why are you given the right to study freely, to hold all kinds of positions, to do whatever you want ??? Why ?? Don't you understand that you are on an equal footing with the men in this world and when you want money you work, and when you are in partnership with someone you help him ??? Or you don't realize, because you're exactly the same as those feminists who want to have all the rights of a man plus to live in the 19th century and have their husband fuck them. No boyfriend has sponsored me, but unlike me, you would gladly hang yourself on your neck ...
14, here write mainly people with problems, ie. those in which things are out of the ordinary - for example, muffins waiting for men to spill all their earthly goods or vice versa, men hanging around their wives' necks. The truth is in the balance in the relationship, as in most things. In a relationship, they both have to give and receive in every aspect, otherwise there is an imbalance and things get bad. One of them will feel fucked up, like the author. Abstain from being a woman and imagine if you cover all the expenses and your wife snaps her fingers and her money is constantly sinking somewhere as you tighten your belt. And we are not talking about temporary difficulties, but for 3 years. I remember that money doesn't make a person, they don't, but he agreed that this person has a frivolous attitude towards them. And yes, there are women for whom men are ATMs,
Any man without money or someone specific? Because there is no way to answer such a general question unequivocally and correctly. F32
Thank you to everyone who understood the situation and understood me. I can wish the others who jumped to beat me with words to share my experience and find themselves in the same situation! Yes, so in words it is very easy, and really on someone else's back and a hundred sticks are few! You are just pathetic, find a hobby and stop jumping against people! If it was okay for me and things were acceptable, I wouldn't share it here, but it doesn't matter. The whole society is problematic and topics like cheating or catching them are always more spicy and interesting. You love to have spicy stories, mine stayed very rustic compared to everything else! Rot in your own complexes and prejudices! You are there today, but you may be here in my place tomorrow.
I'm younger than you, I'm 22. From the age of 18 I decided to earn my own money (not from mom and dad), although my mother was very sweaty (she wanted to focus only on learning). My ex-girlfriend and I were together for 4 years and we shared all the expenses. Since I didn't have it, she helped the other way around. Anyway, I think young and green in a relationship doesn't matter who has and who doesn't, who pays and who doesn't. You are together because of love, support and because you can't or don't want to be without each other. The question of whether a man without money is a man is absolutely stupid to me. The woman without breasts, is she a woman? Does the financial situation determine who is who? If it is so very sad. I can't understand, lastly the woman wants to be equal to the man or she wants to be equal to him only when there is a benefit. In my opinion, with this question and this topic, there is no point in wasting time together, but there is really no way to understand the whole picture. Rethink why you are with this person, whether it is because of love or you are just used to each other. Success!
Everyone has bad times in which the other can help him. But in your case, it is so convenient and profitable for him. Of course, this cannot go on any longer. You should have given him a clear ultimatum a long time ago. Because otherwise I will say that this month he is ill, he cannot find a job for 5 months and so on indefinitely.
No, she 's a woman.
Stop attacking the author, please! You have not been in her situation and you do not know how burdensome such a burden is and how tiring is the eternal uncertainty about how, with what and when the bills will be paid, where the next lev will come from, will there be money left for food, clothing, transport , for a dentist ... You lie with your eyes open at night and your head works like a calculator, and your well-fed, washed and well-groomed man snores blissfully next to you. And why not snore? There is someone to think of these "annoying household details"! This situation has been with me for seven years now. The great love brought us together - it was not a passion, it was not a miracle. We both divorced, ready if we had to live in a hut and eat crusts, but walk the road together. We left everything to our ex-partners and jumped into the deep. But this "deep" turned out to be bottomless. For a start, my newly acquired husband left his job to start a new one, but suddenly it turned out that he had to repay a loan of BGN 4,000 in the old place. Plus previously taken loans in the amount of BGN 20,000. I started working in two more places and in one summer we managed to repay the four thousand, and he continues to repay the remaining BGN 500 per month. He spends more or less the same on his daughter's first marriage. I told myself that he still had 1,000 of his salary left, and if we add my 1,500, we will still be able to do it. Yes, but for 7 years now I have been able to persuade him to leave a few levs for bills only with monstrous scandals, in which I feel terrible, because I was brought up in an environment where it was considered indecent for people to bargain like in the square, and for a man to force a woman to beg him for money was considered a complete fall. So in most cases, my dignity prevails and I pay for everything. Come to think of it, my husband doesn't have a single pair of socks he bought himself. When he needs something, he just says, "Darling, I'm out of deodorant. Darling, I need new shoes. Darling, my watch needs to be fixed. Darling, I want fresh carp, get theater tickets, buy a bottle of vodka," and so on. onwards. Sometimes I try to remind him that he has responsibilities too, but - as I mentioned - it ends with ugly scenes, after which he goes to sleep in the living room, and I roar all night from humiliation and helplessness. I have no idea where his money goes, because even outside the house (at gas stations, restaurants and shops) I still pay everywhere, even if we are together. Now, you will say: but love is important. That it is important, it is important, there is no dispute, that is why I tolerate this situation. But there is no way a 40-year-old man, smart, educated, etc., cannot get back on his feet for seven years, given that we live in my apartment and have a permanent job. Let's leave this as well: I could, I endured both of us. But what happened a few months ago? Suddenly I was laid off from one job, and the second company I worked for changed its subject of activity and they don't need me there either. And since I had been insured for years on a minimum wage, the National Social Security Institute granted me compensation of BGN 480 per month. Thank God, I receive a BGN 500 scholarship from the university as a full-time doctoral student, so I put together a budget of BGN 980. For a person who does not pay rent, this amount can be lived in anticipation of better times, but it is utterly insufficient to sustain two. Not to mention that this is also temporary - the benefit lasts 10 months, and at the end of the year the doctoral term expires. Then, if I don't find a job in the meantime, I am left with BGN 0.00 per month. However, in order for my happiness to be complete, I became very ill and after they barely saved me in the hospital, the doctors prescribed me a prescription for expensive medicines and an order for more rest and minimum workload. This situation is completely misunderstood by my husband, who continues to live older. He comes home from work and first asks what's for dinner. I don't care if I have money for electricity and water, what I shop with and how I take the bags out of the store, how much my medicines cost. So, I ask: well, doesn't it make sense to help each other? After all, one of them stumbles, the other one has to catch it? Why do I have to support a working, healthy and upright man with sickness and unemployment benefits? That's why I was irritated by the reproaches to the author of the topic. Of course you will worry, girl! This is not a day, not two. This is an established stereotype for them, as well as for us. And unfortunately, my experience shows that it will persist as circumstances change. These men are not stingy or crooks - no; they are just as comfortable and while the cow gives milk, they will milk it. If he stops giving, they will start taking care of themselves. I remember one day in one of those humiliating scandals, my husband said, "I'm going to rent an apartment," he says, "and move out!" I replied: "If you left those 500 BGN, with which you will only pay your rent, without the bills and the food, at home,
27 - I am the one who "attacked" the author the most! Your situation is different, at least with the fact that your husband is 40! You and yours have children, you are divorced ... The author does not give details about how much she works, how much she earns, what she studied, work plans ... And the fact that she is 30 years old, and their relationship is close to 3 annual, not fatal for the creation of children. She is 28 and can take another 2 years as she loves to see if things work out, right? You actually sponsor yours every month, and she said "many times" - how much and with how much money? You had a strong love and you broke your families, and now you complain that at night your eyes were open ... Who is to blame for you ??? One love to you! You don't say how old you are, and didn't you realize during that time that there is pain in life, is there suffering? You had the good, but now the bad has come. Do you think that you can live in this world only with good? No, there are both! And there is the beauty! ...
28 is the typical Bulgarian slut, who dreams of some bastard looking at him, because his mother's gold has not yet released the pacifier ...
I don't know why, but women's comments are published en masse without being censored! Up to 29 In all my comments, no matter how topical, there is a clear thought-opinion on the author's question, as I have argued, albeit briefly! In your comment, apart from a personal insult to me, an insult to the author, hinting that she is a "balachka", there is no argument for your opinion that I am "my mother's gold" and the author is a "balachka" - ONLY PERSONAL OFFENSES! And that's why I wonder why such meaningless, completely offensive comments are published without censorship?
30, apparently publish it because they share my opinion. Which speaks worse for you than for me.
He is a man because he has a cock and can flatter.
31, so my darling golden And when we men start to rudely express the attitude towards women writing in the forum, our comments are cut, even when the offensive qualifications are censored with asterisks! And if this is a site of free expression and protection of thoughts and views, it will not be allowed to tolerate some at the expense of others! It makes an impression that in some topics censorship of male opinion is necessary, but you women like that too! And again I will say something on the topic: Author, IT SAYS VERY BADLY ABOUT YOU, that in the first 3 years of your relationship you can't cope with the difficulties that are presented to you! Who will want you for a woman ??? Much harder things happen in life, and if you started a family then, what would you do? Do you jump directly into someone else's bed? This is very easy behavior! No man respects such a woman and now you understand why I am rude to you! And if you get sick one day and your THEN husband leaves you with your child to take care of yourself, and he went to look for "happiness" elsewhere, will you be happy? Otherwise, women, you are very open in your mouth ...
The author's most toxic thing in this world is women's expectations of men. If you become a slave to them, you are lost. And not only you, but the woman next to you, your children, your whole family will be lost. Money has nothing to do with being a man. There are men who are more men than some millionaires.
By the boy of 18, you will understand some things as you grow up. It is now very fashionable and widespread for men to be held by women. I wonder only in Bulgaria is it so? A man without money is a man if he has ambitions and goals. If one day he looks after his family. For many married men, the money is only for them and they lie that they are not paid and what not. To feed their mothers or lovers, while the wife and child, the children take care of themselves. Cunningly invented, but for a while. In one family the budget in total.
She leaves him without explaining. They do not understand the words. I've had three relationships with the same end, first love, hopes for the future and bang, bang, then when he feels financially stable he starts to feel sorry for himself, you also feel sorry for him and you start giving without making him want you until you feel you are already brutally obligated and guilty. It doesn't even cross his mind that you don't have to, he thinks it belongs to him, he'll never understand your words, and if you give him 50 ultimatums, he'll be indifferent, because you're not sure, he thinks is the only one and in the end you will hate yourself terribly. The bad thing is that there are many women like us and that the problem is right in us, because we just give and we don't want anything. However, those who want them are more than us and they will never understand you. I once wrote here like you, and a great slop was poured out on me, I have not met any opinion with understanding, I understand you and I very much hope that you have the next successful relationship with shared reciprocity. Good luck
It is not crazy who eats the pie, but who gives it to him. He did not take the money out of the author's pocket, she gave it to him. Now he will ask if he was a man? When she slept with him, then did she ask? What kind of people are you? You do all sorts of nonsense with the explanation I LOVE HIM. Well, when you love him, you tolerate his nonsense and do not grumble, because YOU chose him, or when you are not satisfied, you separate and who wants where. That is, there is no other way. It's not your commentators' fault that they have a different opinion than yours. It's your fault that you didn't think with your head, but with something else. I am also a woman, but I did not ask for money from a man, nor did I give it to him. When money interferes in friendship, relationship, kinship, in the end people make money, still someone feels spent, deceived at the expense of another.
Number 5 did not last, and even immediately a new relationship, a new love spun. And you see, things didn't work out when she saw that the old man started making good money. It's good that I believed you that you are in love with him ... Women find a new one so quickly, breaking with the old one, that it is clear how much love there was with both. Are ..
# 27 - What are you complaining about? This man is your choice, you wanted him. You were married, you stayed with him. And what do you care about bills, socks and pants, don't you have the great love? Didn't scare you when you were with your lover? Well, drive now with his loans, his daughter's support and don't grumble! You put up with it for seven years, so you can do more. Don't be angry, but if what is written is true, you are quite stupid. With such "love" I would not spend more than a month, nor would I reunite with a man with a child by another woman, if it were to be the best in every respect. Sorry, but I can't sympathize with the author or her peers, whoever has broken anything, itch.
If you are not happy in a relationship, you break up. Free men and women abound. Love, oh I wish he / she are empty words. When the fridge is empty and the bills are piling up, people reveal their true selves. Better alone than with an irresponsible person. Tuesday, if you don't have children, break up with the drone and start a new life. You will quickly find meaning in spending only for yourself. At 30 you are a young woman all over the world, only in Bulgaria you are old.
To number 39 from the author, for the first time I am writing to anyone, I have not said anything about the biting comments. What is your problem? You are happy, women like you, while there are men, will spit on us and have self-confidence. May I have your female solidarity! Women attack more than men! You're down!
27 Are you abroad? Why don't you say what you need to do, and everyone is something separate. My husband and I don't take much, but we haven't fought over money, you have to know how to spend.