I'm almost desperate. Why do men avoid so many free women who have a child? I'm 30, great looking and I don't save money and time to keep in the best shape, but I can't find my soul mate. I married early, a little fast, and for the wrong person. The child is a boy, 5 years old. I am divorced and my ex-husband does not play any role in our lives, yes, including the child's and his choice. However, I can't find a serious man. I am writing because of the last case. I met a great man, turned my head, a little older than me, free. We went out a few times, everything was great. I mentioned to him that I had a child and everything changed. He immediately withdrew, literally, it was obvious that he could hardly wait for the end of our meeting. I asked him why and he said to himself - I do not want to deal with women with children and commitments. He even said that he would not want sex with an engaged woman, he was free, he deserved a woman without commitment. He did not want to deceive me, etc., he had no intention of taking responsibility for other people's mistakes and children, who had children to look after them and thought he should look after my child instead of looking for connections? !! At least he told me everything that several others before him had not dared. So, is it that scary to have a child?
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Rejoice that at least he was honest. The truth is that men cannot look after a child who is not theirs, they will never love him. There are only a handful of men in the world who look at other people's children as their own and love them. Even if you find a man who will come to terms with this when you give birth to his child, he will share them. To his more, to another less. They do not have this "fatherly instinct", like women, to jump out for nothing. The other thing, a lot of men in their 30s, want more fun and not a "mom" who comes back from fun and is looking for a stable man and father for his child, and as I said if he wants a family he wants to be ONLY HIS and not to deal with others fathers, children, etc. My advice to you is not to wait for months or weeks to say that you have a child because you may have wasted them and missed another person. You say on the first date,
I know a woman with two children who has found a new husband. Most do not want to because they do not want to give money to other people's children. I have a girlfriend who found another, the man is looking after the child and they are waiting for a second. Say from the beginning that you have a way to avoid men who are not worth it. Most seek sex and run away.
Without reading the topic. Only by title. One child means investing a resource. Money, time, effort, education. I prefer to invest this resource in my own children than in other people's. For example, if I can't study my child well in order to look at someone else's, it won't be OK for me. I have to be brutally in love with this woman to do such a thing to my own child. I can invest a lot in my child without seeing him as a victim, because I love him and you are mine, he is a part of me, of my flesh, but to do it for someone else will weigh on me. And that's why I prefer not to get involved in such stories, because no child deserves such treatment. If I know I won't be truly committed to it, I'd better not commit.
Watch your zenith with pride. He will have a few years of childhood, then grow up and be a mature person. You will find a man to love you with him, a man who will not tell you about his right to an unmarried man and non-committal relationships. You didn't fall for this guy. never quarrel with such people who will make you ashamed of the fact that you are the mother of a child, even if you are alone, you are not a criminal, that at the moment you have no one next to you.
Dirty Daddy liked the topic and he will be happy to join: As a preface: I hang out on a well-known dating site and dare to say that a huge part of the ladies looking for a partner there are exactly in your category - divorced / separated, with a child / children, aged between 30 and 38. This in itself is indicative of how scary it is to have a small child, at least in the context of a new relationship. In my opinion, there are two types of men who want to commit to a woman who has a ready child: - "single fathers", ie fathers with a child, so that the so-called patchwork family is formed, ie both partners bring their own children from a previous relationship in the new one. - "lonely hunters" who are so crazy that no woman without children binds them. A normal and sensible man does not need to cause such a relationship. Unfortunately, many women in Bulgaria are in your situation and this will not change soon. As we know, children are a priority in a woman's life, and a man is the means of acquiring them. Naturally, many women see the whole job (marriage, child, etc.) as the only opportunity to lead a normal life that they would not otherwise have, because they have neither studied anything decent nor have any decent profession. That is, without the help of a man they will only move through life. And that is why they marry and give birth in a hurry, without judging the person well. Then they are left without it and fall into your category. And they are looking for a "deputy father". Put yourself in the place of the man you mentioned now: he is aware that your child will always be more important to you than himself. If he becomes committed to you, he will have to invest time, effort and energy in raising your child. Which, at any moment, can fend off any attempts at upbringing with the words "you are not my father." Romantic vacation at sea for two - forget it! What about the child? Candlelight dinner in a nice restaurant and then furious sex - forget it! And the child? Lying in bed on Sunday with champagne and salmon sandwiches and sex to the point of fainting - forget it! The little one wants care and attention. Bar until late at night - and who will look after the child? These are just a few brief examples of how a woman with a small child is far more limited in her actions than a woman without ... So how do you imagine if you want your first sex? With him, as the child is only with you, or with you when the child is sleeping? !! But quietly, so as not to wake up ... When will you walk hand in hand in the park just the two of you? Never, and the child will be there. He'll scream, he'll pee, he'll want ice cream, he'll want fun, will get tired of walking, etc. and mom will run after him all the time .... and what will the gentleman in question be there for then? Maybe to pay the bills? And if it wasn't his child, come and go, he wanted it, I'll be fine ... but it's not even his. I am convinced that if you had thought about it, you would have come to the above conclusions on your own. I myself have tried many times to imagine what my potential relationship with a woman who has a small child would look like, and so far I have not found any acceptable solution. There is simply no such thing. you would reach the above conclusions on your own. I myself have tried many times to imagine what my potential relationship with a woman who has a small child would look like, and so far I have not found any acceptable solution. There is simply no such thing. you would reach the above conclusions on your own. I myself have tried many times to imagine what my potential relationship with a woman who has a small child would look like, and so far I have not found any acceptable solution. There is simply no such thing.
I would also act like him, there is no way a child can not affect the relationship and everyday life. I am bound to a child!
Apparently only I differ from the comments. I can also have a woman without a child. But I don't see how bad it is to have a wife with a child. I would even adopt another and make a third, mine. Now that I have a dog, is it mine? But that doesn't stop me from loving him. I even love my dog more than some people. Love has no boundaries, the boundaries are set by limited people. After all, life is temporary. Just a trip. If a woman is cool in character, supports me and makes me feel good, I have a good time with her, I would rather let her into my life.
Don't worry! I have 2 children and I found a friend again. Just ... Breathe! :) Yes, not everyone who would otherwise like to be with you will be with you when you have a child / children, but ... you wouldn't be with everyone either, right? :) Just do not force, but live your life and everything will be fine! :) I wish you courage, smiles and love!
Oh, I forgot to mention that I have acquaintances whose configuration is very interesting. He is younger than her and has no children, and she has 3 children! Yes 3! And no, we're not talking about a man who has no choice. We are talking about a tall, athletic, handsome and smart young man. They have been living together for more than 2 years and are planning their child. Yes, these are exceptions. But when you find the man for you, you will know that he is quality! :) Good luck!
My friend also has a child who lives with his mother. But tell about the child at the very beginning of the acquaintance! (from the previous 2 comments)
I recently read this: I overheard a conversation in a cafe. Someone tells his friend, "I took her with a child." No, you idiot. A woman with a child - this is a family. And you, alone, have been accepted into this family. And you didn't take it. Another phrase "Lonely Mother" irritates me a lot. There is no single mother. There is a "woman with a child." And a woman with a child is a family! So that an author who can't stand being exported. Wouldn't you take responsibility for other people's mistakes? Does your child call it a "mistake"? I would get up, slap him, and leave. You will find someone who will ask you and your child to become a part of his life! Many men adopt their spouses' children and look at them as their own, and proudly say "my daughter", "my son". You just haven't met him yet.
I have a neighbor break up with her first husband a few months after their son was born because he was getting drunk and harassing her. 2 years later he remarried and gave birth to another son. Her second husband never shared the children, it can even be said that he is more of a father's father than his biological one.
I am a man of 27 from Sofia. Since the comment on number 6 included everything I wanted to say, we will not repeat ourselves, I will only say that I support everything said with both hands. The child of another man is a big problem and no man will ignore it, but I still prefer to tell you a solution to the problem of each comment explaining how fucked up you are. Two main things. In order to keep a man by your side, the first and most important thing is that you have to give birth to his child. It may be years from now, but it's a must. You will not pass without another birth. Just accept it. The second is that in sex you have to be a goddess and there is nothing to refuse. And that can't change over time. For example, he wants to watch you on the beach on your tits to bake - "Well, no problem, even I would offer it to you" and so on. I tell you from experience. I have acquaintances of my mother's friends with whom I have talked on this topic who have been watching all their lives besides their and other people's children. There it is a constant. My friends around my age went out with women with children - they told me the same thing. Several of my friends were in serious relationships, which fell apart simply because they did not agree on raising the future child. For example, the man wanted a private school for the two children, she had extra money and so on. So show them that you are great in bed and ready to make any fantasy come true that you are open to their child and in no time you will be with a serious man next to you. which fell apart simply because they did not agree on the upbringing of the future child. For example, the man wanted a private school for the two children, she had extra money and so on. So show them that you are great in bed and you are ready to make any fantasy come true that you are open to their child and in no time you will be with a serious man next to you. which fell apart simply because they did not agree on the upbringing of the future child. For example, the man wanted a private school for the two children, she had extra money and so on. So show them that you are great in bed and ready to make any fantasy come true that you are open to their child and in no time you will be with a serious man next to you.
No, not a problem for the right man. It won't be that easy, but don't think about it. Just load up with patience. Life is colorful, everyone has a destiny. Do not generalize. For some it is a problem, for others it is not. I know that if I love a man, I will accept him with his 99-year-old grandmother, let alone a child. The same goes for men. For real men. The child was a resource, an investment, and they are our scoundrels. Okay, let me ask: what guarantees you the "right ones" that you will not be single fathers tomorrow? Then what song will you sing?
It is unnatural for a man to look after his child. That means he failed as a man. From a biological point of view, a man has an interest in having as many children as possible for one or different women, not the other way around. How many male kindergarten teachers do you know? What about primary teachers? Why do you think so?
I am a man with a child, but we were not married to the mother. I will express my opinion from my point of view. While we were together and living as a family, I literally felt lonely, even though I was not alone. She paid all her attention to our child. No matter what happened, I was always in the background. No time for me, a drastic change in our daily lives. We almost didn't have sex anymore, and the walks were reduced to taking the child to the playground while she was going out with friends in restaurants. I felt like a wallet, not the man I had loved before. A few years later, it happened that my mother and I broke up because she became an alcoholic and a scandalmonger to a very serious degree and the situation was inescapable. He dumped me and the child. Then I tried a few relationships with women, but - surprise - and they ran away like scalded, hearing, that I am a father with a child. I also had two relationships with single mothers. At first they tried not to make me feel like a surrogate father to their children (in the first meetings they left their children with their grandparents and we supposedly had some normal walks and restaurants), but over time everything got even worse than it was. with the mother of my child. The second one day suddenly came out of nowhere that she wanted sex more than just living as a family. Not that before that sex managed to replace and counteract the painful feeling that I was looking after another's child without paying attention to myself, but without him things went completely bad. For example, the four of us go for a walk together. She takes care of her daughter all the time, and I stand by my son by the side, as if we don't exist for them, and we wait for them to talk and outplay each other. Even if I want to get involved in words, she pretends not to hear me. And while she was trying to please me in the beginning, she was radically different and she always heard me and paid attention to me. I'm alone now, but I'm definitely in no hurry for another relationship with a single mother. Of course, I do not draw complete conclusions about all these from only three experiences in my personal life, but I still have the daily feeling that all three women visibly put me far behind and were mainly interested in themselves and the child they gave birth to. . There was supposed to be reciprocity, but it wouldn't ... I wish the author success and hopefully find a suitable man. The fact that, according to her, she is beautiful helps, but a man above all craves attention. I'm alone now, but I'm definitely in no hurry for another relationship with a single mother. Of course, I do not draw complete conclusions about all these from only three experiences in my personal life, but I still have the daily feeling that all three women visibly put me far behind and were mainly interested in themselves and the child they gave birth to. . There was supposed to be reciprocity, but it wouldn't ... I wish the author success and hopefully find a suitable man. The fact that, according to her, she is beautiful helps, but a man above all craves attention. I'm alone now, but I'm definitely in no hurry for another relationship with a single mother. Of course, I do not draw complete conclusions about all these from only three experiences in my personal life, but I still have the daily feeling that all three women visibly put me far behind and were mainly interested in themselves and the child they gave birth to. . There was supposed to be reciprocity, but it wouldn't ... I wish the author success and hopefully find a suitable man. The fact that, according to her, she is beautiful helps, but a man above all craves attention. There was supposed to be reciprocity, but it wouldn't ... I wish the author success and hopefully find a suitable man. According to her, being beautiful helps, but a man above all craves attention. There was supposed to be reciprocity, but it wouldn't ... I wish the author success and hopefully find a suitable man. The fact that, according to her, she is beautiful helps, but a man above all craves attention.
No, it's not that scary to have a child, but for those who comment above with salmon and champagne, obviously yes. Even with a white mouth, his fantasies have no end. I hope he finds the master and salmon and champagne and he will have sex. Anyway, on the subject ... You are young, a lot of men, but don't throw yourself at young people who don't know what they want. Examples of how many people like you have created happy relationships in the future. If you find someone who accepts you with the child, then he will be the person with the main Ch. The Bulgarian men were just killed by the system and they are not responsible for the time, money and upbringing of other people's children, so one day they will have their own children. it's hard to watch, so they "run away." But not everyone wags their tails, calm down! I am a 33 year old man and I will tell you from my point of view how things are. I would be with a woman like you, you say beautiful, hopefully good, but if you didn't expect me to replace your child's father in every way, I'd be his friend, but that's it. Many women like you eventually start abusing the man next to you and he withdraws. So my advice is not to be like that. And you will find a man, if not a bachelor, at least with a situation like yours, which would be best for both of you.
They think you're looking for your child's father. If I were, I would say at the beginning that I have a child and that I do not want him to become his father and give him money. That I can look after him and I want him as a boyfriend and I don't want him to have anything to do with my child.
Number 6, is a divorced woman with a child a leper? Are the two types of men he described the only characters capable of associating themselves with what you call "spoiled goods"? Straight comment and the competence that gushes from it breaks! And now, author, I would like to give you some hope, because there is such a hope. I am 32 years old, with a daughter of 10, 5 years ago I met my current husband, to whom I explained the circumstances at the beginning, so as not to waste his and my time if things get worse and he would not be willing to commit to a man in my position. He didn't mind the child, we weren't in a hurry, I didn't force it on him or him. I even kept them at a distance from each other because I didn't want the child to get used to it and then if nothing came of it to suffer. And yet I give an example. So almost 2 years have passed, in which we met when we were free, we loved each other a lot, we made plans for the future and only then I slowly introduced the child to the picture. We have been living together for 3 years, we have a daughter who is a baby, he behaves great with my first child, he loves her, protects her, looks after her like his own daughter. What they lack as a relationship is that he took us, so to speak, when she was already growing up, and there are many valuable moments in building human father-daughter relationships. Here is the moment to say that I have a very good relationship with my ex-husband, he loves the child, looks for him, pays maintenance, takes her to the sea and have a free regime of visits without my supervision. My current husband is a stable young gentleman, with a profession, with an education, he is no aunt, nor has he ever been. He was single when we met, with a lot of experience behind him with women. I won it with loyalty. I didn't ask him for anything, nor did I look for a man to look after me with the child. It is not a burden, but happiness and the meaning of life. If the man in question does not understand it, he is free to leave. For me, children come first. It has never been a problem for me to find a mate because of the child. I have had offers from other men before my current husband, some of them were highly financially capable, so it is not impossible to meet the right one. While in a relationship (not cohabitation) with a man, you will often find yourself choosing a child or a man, for example, if a child is ill, but if the person loves you, he will not need a choice, he will support you and understand. The man exists for you, I wish you to meet him soon. Congratulations and good luck! but happiness and the meaning of life. If the man in question does not understand it, he is free to leave. For me, children come first. It has never been a problem for me to find a mate because of the child. I have had offers from other men before my current husband, some of them were highly financially capable, so it is not impossible to meet the right one. While in a relationship (not cohabitation) with a man, you will often find yourself choosing a child or a man, for example, if a child is ill, but if the person loves you, he will not need a choice, he will support you and understand. The man exists for you, I wish you to meet him soon. Congratulations and good luck! but happiness and the meaning of life. If the man in question does not understand it, he is free to leave. For me, children come first. It has never been a problem for me to find a mate because of the child. I have had offers from other men before my current husband, some of them were highly financially capable, so it is not impossible to meet the right one. While in a relationship (not cohabitation) with a man, you will often find yourself choosing a child or a man, for example, if a child is ill, but if the person loves you, he will not need a choice, he will support you and understand. The man exists for you, I wish you to meet him soon. Congratulations and good luck! some of them had high financial resources, so it is not impossible to meet the right one. While in a relationship (not cohabitation) with a man, you will often find yourself choosing a child or a man, for example, if a child is ill, but if the person loves you, he will not need a choice, he will support you and understand. The man exists for you, I wish you to meet him soon. Congratulations and good luck! some of them had high financial resources, so it is not impossible to meet the right one. While in a relationship (not cohabitation) with a man, you will often find yourself choosing a child or a man, for example, if a child is ill, but if the person loves you, he will not need a choice, he will support you and understand. The man exists for you, I wish you to meet him soon. Congratulations and good luck!
You make children of bad boys, and then you want the good ones to look after you. "Well, it won't happen."
I am a woman without children and I would take a man if he has children and looks after them alone. Why not?
Hi, why don't you find a divorced man, I think he's the best fit. Somehow others want to start fresh, and have the right to follow in the footsteps of the experience for the first time, as it should be. I was divorced with a child and met a man with the same status, plus his children are big and independent. Take care of my child perfectly, and the child adores him. We both have children, and we don't want any more. We have been together for 9 years, we are married, we are waiting for the child to finish and so on.
I have a friend who was single and married a woman with two children and now they have their own. It is certainly not easy for them, but good health. I am happy for them and they look happy too.
If I love a woman, I don't care if she has a child or not.
I have a relative who married a woman with a child from a previous relationship. Their marriage lasted about 10 years, but for other reasons not because of the child. They had theirs too. From the very beginning, he accepted the child as his own. To this day, he has two children for him. I have a friend who will soon marry a woman with a child from a previous marriage, which lasted only 2-3 years. Her daughter calls him dad, and after about a year with this woman, he accepts both as his responsibility. He calls them family. There are also men who drink women with their children. Both of these are attractive men. One earns a lot, the other an average. They do not lack female attention. It's just how can I tell you next to the man. But there is, I've seen them with my own eyes!
For me as a man it is an extremely undesirable situation to get involved with a divorced / separated woman with a child. It's just that the situation, wherever you look at it, has only negatives, no positives. Men who commented above explained why. I know that women have spoken and insulted men who were sincere, that they were not real men and such nonsense, but the opinion of these women does not matter, because they come from a selfish, feminist point of view in which a woman can make whatever she wants, she is always right for herself and men must always be somewhere waiting for her to meet her needs. This is, of course, an absurd point of view that leads to catastrophic results in the face of reality. So, now a realistic answer for the author - because a relationship with a woman separated from a child for a single man has a terrible, an awful lot of negatives or as they said above you are looking for a single dad or a man with very low self-esteem who is happy with the deal and happy. The second option is to offer you much, much more than an unattached and childless woman with whom to compensate for the negatives. For example, I would bond with a separated woman with a child only if she: puts me first over the child, has a stable income and can take care of him without needing me, pleases me in any way especially sexual and me makes me feel happy and satisfied that I am with her, does not look at me as a provider and deputy father for the child but as a person with whom to share my life and happy moments. In this way, she will be able to offer positives that the majority of single women usually do not have - they are narcissistic, they want a provider and are fixed on their own and not on my needs and desires. However, if the separated woman is just a burdened version of the typical feminized user, I run at 200 km per hour. This is a sincere position from a man's point of view. It is clear to me that various ladies and girls will jump to say that every woman is unique, deserves and should get everything she wants and such nonsense, but they are simply washed away by feminist propaganda in magazines, television, the Internet, etc. . brains and do not want to see reality, prefer to impose their candied point of view style "little pony" over reality, but they do not succeed and so mislead other women to wait for something to happen by itself, to wait for something better until their waiting time is over. However, if the separated woman is just a burdened version of the typical feminized user, I run at 200 km per hour. This is a sincere position from a man's point of view. It is clear to me that various ladies and girls will jump to say that every woman is unique, deserves and should get everything she wants and such nonsense, but they are simply washed away by feminist propaganda in magazines, television, the Internet, etc. . brains and do not want to see reality, prefer to impose their candied point of view style "little pony" over reality, but they do not succeed and so mislead other women to wait for something to happen by itself, to wait for something better until their waiting time is over. However, if the separated woman is just a burdened version of the typical feminized user, I run at 200 km per hour. This is a sincere position from a man's point of view. It is clear to me that various ladies and girls will jump to say that every woman is unique, deserves and should get everything she wants and such nonsense, but they are simply washed away by feminist propaganda in magazines, television, the Internet, etc. . brains and do not want to see reality, prefer to impose their candied point of view style "little pony" over reality, but they do not succeed and so mislead other women to wait for something to happen by itself, to wait for something better until their waiting time is over. It is clear to me that various ladies and girls will jump to say that every woman is unique, deserves and should get everything she wants and such nonsense, but they are simply washed away by feminist propaganda in magazines, television, the Internet, etc. . brains and do not want to see reality, prefer to impose their candied point of view style "little pony" over reality, but they do not succeed and so mislead other women to wait for something to happen by itself, to wait for something better until their waiting time is over. It is clear to me that various ladies and girls will jump to say how every woman is unique, deserves and should get everything she wants and such nonsense, but they are just washed away by feminist propaganda in magazines, television, internet, etc. . brains and do not want to see reality, prefer to impose their candied point of view style "little pony" over reality, but they do not succeed and so mislead other women to wait for something to happen by itself, to wait for something better until their waiting time is over.
Number 16, don't talk about the biological point of view, because you don't know biology at all, but you don't know it at all. There are many configurations in animals, including monogamous pairs, and this is beneficial for the survival of the species, so from a biological point of view it is quite, but quite natural, and in nature there is even adoption. So just don't talk about things that you perceive superficially and inaccurately.
My friend has a child, I am 25 and so far I have not experienced such love, and we have only been together for 2 years. It's strange at first, but over time, even with the little one, we became great friends, we go out, we have fun. Maybe because I love children, it was not a problem for me that the person next to me has a son. The important thing is to love and respect each other and be friends. We are even trying to have a baby :) rejoice that he "ran away" and did not use you only for sex, there are some. Many men will still shine on you
There are several reasons, although according to some commenters it is an advantage to have a woman with a child. First, the child will always come first for her, which is completely natural and right, but for an unattached man without a child it would be a little unpleasant to tolerate restrictions and be put in the background. Second, the child is a great commitment, requires a lot of care, financial resources, time, energy for his upbringing, separately if he does not accept his new father would bring a lot of problems. And finally, after a while, if things dry up with the mother, this child leaves with her and all the above things remain at the expense of the husband. There is also the moment that many men would become attached to the child and after breaking up the relationship you lose him as well, while the same things do not apply to your own, even when separated from the mother. Third, in many cases, a woman to be abandoned with a child means there are many reasons in it, the wrong choice of partner, inability to maintain a normal relationship with a man, naughty nature and more. I am especially pleased with n.8 with its extremely good comparison between a child and a dog. Surely you can look after a child in the same way, you will feed him 1-2 times a day, you will take him for a walk in the morning for a quick before work, in the evening again for half an hour, you will play with him a bit if you are happy and the rest time will be locked at home, and all the costs are 1-2 bags of pellets and a few cans of food. Good luck dude, take such a woman and come and write here again, isn't it? In any case, a woman with a child is a prerequisite for problems and most men would not want to get involved for the reasons listed above. The author,
Well, it turns out according to number 30 that the author and everyone like her should stay alone until they die. A young bachelor can't, a divorced can't, an old bachelor - he has something. Iron logic. I didn't have any left. Hahahahahahahaha, complete nonsense. In life, no one is guaranteed anything, especially nowadays a stable family is just a myth ... either they are together for material reasons as roommates, or they cheat on each other, but yes, they are together. Happy end.
At 31 I am a man alone. I have had many relationships and many of the women around me as some described above in another comment I also feel like a walking wallet. Separately, 90% of the wives of my friends and acquaintances took their children and lost their husbands for good and bad, etc., as everything was littered with dramas and intrigues and "miracles". I was also married and watching only my wife who shortened my life for 5 years of marriage was a nightmare, I never want to experience such relationships again. And if up to 35-37 years. Things are the same I will resort to "Surrogate Mother" naturally in a country that is legal. I am not a misogynist or something absurd, but from such women I will look like her because of one birth and she will shorten my life with her constant claims, requirements, etc. Absurd. Not only do I not want a mother with another's child, but I don't want a mother herself, if it will be of this type of women. When I'm in a relationship / marriage, I can't see the money because of the woman next to me, there are bonuses, infidelity, etc., and if I have children and "5" things, I won't have enough for her and the children, and on top of everything if whine can take them to condemn me and see them twice a week! Life has changed people have changed, everything with me and around me is a family disaster either because of men or women! Personally, I prefer to look after my child and life. As for the author, I hope you find a soulmate, but even if you don't, you have the most important thing for you and that is your child! things won't be enough for her and the children, and on top of everything, if she wants to, she can take them to condemn me and see them twice a week! Life has changed people have changed, everything with me and around me is a family disaster either because of men or women! Personally, I prefer to look after my child and life. As for the author, I hope you find a soulmate, but even if you don't, you have the most important thing for you and that is your child! things won't be enough for her and the children, and on top of everything, if she wants to, she can take them to condemn me and see them twice a week! Life has changed people have changed, everything with me and around me is a family disaster either because of men or women! Personally, I prefer to look after my child and life. As for the author, I hope you find a soulmate, but even if you don't, you have the most important thing for you and that is your child!
I hope the candied tips are over. No one is obliged to look after, support and tolerate other people's children. This man has been honest with you and you have to appreciate him. No one wants to waste time, money and nerves on a child who has nothing to do with it.
I know one who is forty plus years old, fat, annoying, with claims that do not correspond to the content. He has a very nice child :) He remarried two or three years ago. Once she succeeds, there are no impossible things.
The most important thing is not to give up being happy, you will always find a man who will understand you, like you and want you as you are, do not feel sorry for those who just feared the fact that you are with a child just did not deserve you and you better understand it before you commit to such people. M at 34 years old.
Author, don't listen to the forum virgin pishman-alphas. The fact that no normal man would take you with a child is complete nonsense. People are different. For some, the child is a problem, for others it is not. There are 3.5 billion men in the world, there are enough of both types. And whether you have a child has nothing to do with the quality of men you would attract. I'm not a bachelor at 32, I'm not complaining about female attention. I met a single mother, we went out on several dates. The lady made me very happy and I was ready to give her a chance. It did not happen for reasons that have nothing to do with the child. I will not lie to you, if the woman can not balance between me and the child, it would be a problem. But it's not insurmountable if I fall in love with her. I love children, I will probably be easily attached and even if I don't have a father I would adopt him. A colleague, 36, good looking, good, polite, smart and with a lucrative profession. He met his wife when he was 31, alone. She had a 13-year-old son. They fell in love, got married, had a second child and are a wonderful family of four. So don't despair, there are enough quality men with whom you have a chance. However, I will allow myself a few tips: 1. It must be difficult alone with a child, but find a way to take time for yourself. Take care of your appearance, your health, your interests and your social life. A woman who is supported is much more attractive. And a mother desperate for life, neglected and obsessed with the problems around her children, would find it harder to attract male interest. 2. Find a place in your heart for both the child and the man. Don't get into situations where you have to choose. Love both. And be with a man because you love him, not because you are looking for a husband and a father for the child. He needs to know that you want him as a man, sexual partner and friend. If a man feels used and decides you are desperate, he will back off. Find a way to spend time just the two of you, to have sex, to talk. 3. Don't compromise with yourself, especially with the attitude you get. Don't think in your head that you are a second hand woman or something like that. Don't let a man treat you like that. Accept only a good attitude Success, love and happiness!
Apparently people write without their own experience and have no idea what it is about. You cannot love and accept another 's child "as your own" because he has a father and you are not an authority for him, at the slightest remark he will tell you "You are not my father". There are second marriages, with the following types of men: 1. Permanently unemployed - there is nothing to use it for anyway. 2. Divorced with children - other women don't want him 3, Old bachelor, pressured by mom to commit at all costs. But you are looking for something else. If there is a person in the world who wants a perpetually messy and dirty home, to give his money to feed strangers, and not to have 5 levs to smile, in the evening after work there should be no 5 minutes of peace from the ligatures and claims of the stranger's child. , not to be able to harm their own computer and TV, to eat only what the child loves, to have sex only if the child is asleep or not, not to have his own child "because there is a danger of loving him more than someone else", then this is your man. Personally, I know several people who have tried the "mother with child" potpourri and got rid of it and the child in the first month, because it is not tolerated. Regarding "a woman with a child is a family, and I don't know what you are alone ..." Precisely because this is not a full-fledged family, you are accepted alone to pay the bills of another's family. Come on, no need!
I am a man and I will be completely honest, to the point of pain. I would take a woman with a child only in 2 cases - the father of her child (or children) has died; the father of her child (or children) is in prison with a sentence of at least 15 years. That's it. All other cases are unacceptable. Do you know what male lions do with foreign lions by conquering a pride? THEY IS PUBLISHING THEM! I would bear the sight of seeing alien semen growing before my eyes only if I knew that the creature's father was dead or could never reappear in his / her life. And I would like to say the following to the ladies: think a lot before you give birth to someone, because then it becomes complicated if you separate.
The author of the topic asked a specific question, to which I answered as I see things. The fact that some of the commenters do not like the answers is not my problem. H.31, I don't know what my logic is, but you will be with the man you find and manage to win. No one condemns, categorizes, or it depends on my opinion how these women will live, but when it comes to my life, choosing my partner is entirely my job. I don't understand why I have to feel obligated to accept and correct other people's mistakes. Whatever we talk about here, whatever you want in this part of the commenters, for a man in his 30s there is a much greater choice than potential partners in women in their 20s and 30s who are single, while for a woman in 30 choices is now much smaller, though, that it is popular lately for a woman to be with a man younger than her, however, this remains exotic and rarely leads to more serious relationships. In this situation, for a young man, a bachelor, attractive enough and well-groomed, who does not lack female attention to choose a woman with a child, she must have much more qualities than other free and single women. I can still write a lot on the subject, but for now I will refrain. True, everyone deserves to be happy, they deserve a second chance, but no one owes anyone in this life. If you want to win a decent man, work on your personal qualities, and do not expect that someone is obliged to accept you as you want. to choose a woman with a child, she must have far more qualities than other single and unmarried women. I can still write a lot on the subject, but for now I will refrain. True, everyone deserves to be happy, they deserve a second chance, but no one owes anyone in this life. If you want to win a decent man, work on your personal qualities, and do not expect that someone is obliged to accept you as you want. to choose a woman with a child, she must have far more qualities than other single and unmarried women. I can still write a lot on the subject, but for now I will refrain. True, everyone deserves to be happy, they deserve a second chance, but no one owes anyone in this life. If you want to win a decent man, work on your personal qualities, and do not expect that someone is obliged to accept you as you want.
Okay, I'm divorced with a child. At 35 I have a 24-year-old girlfriend without a child, not that I'm bragging, but she's beautiful, smart and super good. If she liked me hardly because of the salary, 1500 BGN is not much, because of my car of 4000 BGN hardly, to be a beautiful absurdity, because of my job, absurdity is not great ... Otherwise I am understood, dedicated, I hold on to her, I love her. .. Here is written all sorts of nonsense about the woman, as she had a child was not a party, just did not come across the right, that is.,. And boys, if they don't want such a woman, don't force anyone to force you, even though you have a 50:50 chance to become the author with a child, then I will ask you
Number 44, you probably happened to meet one of those units of decent young women. But !!! Read carefully. If your salary was like most working Bulgarians (600-800 leva), believe me, things of 99.9% would be different for your girlfriend. And if there was no car, you remember how different your everyday life would be. And not only that. :) Even if you asked her and she told you now that there would be no difference, there would definitely be one. When a man has a car for a woman to drive back and forth, she looks at him in a much different way. And let me remind you that it's one thing to wonder how to spend 600-800 leva for the whole month, it's another to have 700-900 leva on top and to have money left for going out with her, for better food, for clothes , gifts and so on. I'm just expressing an opinion.
Number 45, who only looks at money and bills, will live with them. One can with two and two hundred. The material is important, but it is not everything. You forgot the good attitude, the understanding, the warmth ... or this is no longer fashionable, but only who "invests" how much and whether the investment will pay off ... OK, who does not want not to take a woman / man with a child - no one don't force it, but to claim that these people should stand alone because they chose the wrong partner at the time is just absurd. Any partner can become the wrong one at any time, can your beautiful young woman, who gave birth to a child only to you, cheat on you? And what do you do then? Or he gets drunk ... you take your child, but you are a man with a child. And no one wants you? And that's OK? Divorced with a child - a sentence of one hundred years of loneliness, without the right to appeal. Nonsense !!! It is not easy for the author,
Number 45, when we met 3 years ago. My salary was below BGN 1,000, and another thing - her car is a 2016 model, hardly because of one car she is with me. Anyway, it is clear to me that not everyone would start such a relationship, but there are exceptions. Again, this does not determine whether a relationship will be her or not. For men it is different, it is clear to them that her child will be 26 days a month close to her, and therefore him. And the fact that her child would be an obstacle to having undisturbed sex, amiiiii does hers or yours matter haha, will you in front of your own child ....
I will tell you a comic story. When I was younger, I was very much in love with a girl. But for years, how could I not revolve around her, no and no. It was as if he was cutting me on purpose. She had liked a poseur full of mold. She married him and bore him a child. Apparently he decided to tie it. Yes but no. The circus lasted 1 year. She started writing to me again, but she was already persistent, very persistent. Explanations, roars, confessions of mistakes. Of course - complete lies. I kicked her like a dirty kitten, and many other men didn't even want to approach her - with the reputation of a chevron and a child. Otherwise she was very beautiful. But 2-3 years of loneliness and now she is 30 years old and she looks like at least 45 years old, I can't recognize her, shabby and with a big ass. And she is still alone, and still chasing men, no one would believe that they once ran after her lol. Therefore, advice to the male part - NO NO NO and again NO, a free woman with a child - RUN, there will be no smoke. Foreign children - NO. Before you wrap up that job in it, ask yourself one thing - who is this man who ran away from her so that he left even the child just to save himself. Ask yourself this and you will come to the conclusion that not only will you not touch a woman with a child, but even a divorced woman without a child will not touch her :). If it is abandoned - there is a reason, therefore - through the head to free, uncommitted to past and present burden (child) women. As for the author - why don't you look after your child? Dam, you're looking at your child and using a vibrator, not knowing whose fuck to sit on, that's the situation. to save himself. Ask yourself this and you will come to the conclusion that not only will you not touch a woman with a child, but even a divorced woman without a child will not touch her :). If it is abandoned - there is a reason, therefore - through the head to free, uncommitted to past and present burden (child) women. As for the author - why don't you look after your child? Dam, you're looking at your child and using a vibrator, not knowing whose fuck to sit on, that's the situation. to save himself. Ask yourself this and you will come to the conclusion that not only will you not touch a woman with a child, but even a divorced woman without a child will not touch her :). If it is abandoned - there is a reason, therefore - through the head to free, uncommitted to past and present burden (child) women. As for the author - why don't you look after your child? Dam, you're looking at your child and using a vibrator, not knowing whose fuck to sit on, that's the situation.
Up to 44 - She's smart because she doesn't go to a single dad with a miserable salary of BGN 500-600, without a car or a place to stay, you remember. So, don't praise your 24-year-old poop. :) After a year or so, he may dump you because of a more promising man. And, now you're going to say I'm jealous of you, I hate it, but it's not because I'm a girl. ;) My friend doesn't have a car, but I've been with him for 3 years, he takes three times more than you, but I haven't taken a penny from him, we even share the bills. He has health problems, but I continue to be with him until many women give up. Tip-Do not brag so much that happiness does not fly away. ;) F, 20
Oh, how much malice in number 49, and that's because someone once cut it off, and now a woman with a child never writes laws. With this idiotic attitude towards women, I recommend a sex doll because I'm sure you're alone as a dog.
This huge number of single mothers and far fewer fathers with children are some of the fatal, irreparable consequences of idiotic emancipation and destructive feminism. These two phenomena are the plague of modern times, more terrible than the atomic bomb and have taken more lives than the bombs over Hiroshima and Nagasaki. When lions chase a male away from a female, their first job is to kill her children from the previous male. We are not beasts, but the laws by which our psyche operates are the same. The foreign child will never become his own, culture may obscure these antagonistic contradictions, but they will remain. Women always have a tendency to twist and hide their heads in the sand in front of the truth and problems, to fantasize about some consoling illusions because they are cowardly and stupid by nature, but this is not the way out of the situation.
I am interested in the forum "lions". Let's make a comparison with chimpanzees. There, the female deliberately has sex with several males, so as not to know exactly who the child belongs to. And the whole herd takes care of and protects the young. It is quite possible to love another's child. Adoption also occurs in nature.
Boy, number 50, I'm not bragging, that's exactly what I'm writing, that I'm neither rich, nor have an expensive car, nor am I a mannequin. My friend (soon my wife) doesn't use me because she has enough and always takes out her purse before me and we even fight at the checkout who will pay. Just because I've come across a person who loves and respects me doesn't mean she's a user. The fact that I am with a child does not confuse her, for her the important thing is respect, love, not money. Point!
Number 46, I'm numbers 17 and 45. Before you rush to guess who exactly "looks only at money and bills", I advise you to carefully read my opinion number 17. There I have described well who looked at money and bills. And these are not isolated cases, but a mass phenomenon in Bulgaria. Otherwise, you have well formed your indignation "Material is important, but not everything. You forgot the good attitude, understanding, warmth ...", but you had to address it to the majority of women, for whom the man is above all a source of money, housing and a driver, and only then a Man with a soul and feelings.