Hello, This is about my friend, with whom we generally plan to start a family. However, I have some worries. I leave aside some other problems between us. I didn't know his father very well (his little finger died a year ago) because my friend was ashamed of him and avoided contact. I know from him that he was a drunkard. I don't call him an alcoholic because he was obviously unconscious. Ever since my friend was little, his father loved to pour (literally) alcohol. They quarreled with him a lot because of that, he was ashamed. His father exposed him more than once in front of his acquaintances and friends. He found him falling in front of the block drunk. They were drunk and fell. He became picky as he drank. He told me that he did not harass them physically, but mentally, that he could not stand it. This made my friend quite nervous. Otherwise he's smart, responsible and handsome man. What worries me is that despite his father's hatred of drunkenness, he likes to drink. Of course, we are young people, we like to have fun, we go out, I drink alcohol myself, but I know how much and when. And when he starts drinking and pours a lot. He starts to stagger, behaves dully. Not aggressive or anything like that, but you know a drunk person is not a nice sight. I have told him many times - sometimes more tactfully, sometimes directly, that there must be some measure, that it is ugly on the side ... But he is angry with me, he says that you knew what he was doing. No one else around us gets so drunk. Otherwise, getting drunk is still in his head. When I tell him to go out for a walk or to see someone just for coffee, he does not want and has no interest. But when it comes to going out somewhere where you can get drunk, he is the first. And he is already 30 years old. Sam bragged to me how in his village (where his father was born), when he went there and gathered with the villagers to drink until someone rejoiced? !! Isn't that some kind of pride? !! And I have to understand that he doesn't drink much. And there is such a mentality ... I don't know either. , in which he grew up, instead of giving him up alcohol, he made him a potential drunkard. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary? Isn't that some kind of pride? !! And I have to understand that he doesn't drink much. And there is such a mentality ... I don't know either. , in which he grew up, instead of giving him up alcohol, he made him a potential drunkard. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary? Isn't that some kind of pride? !! And I have to understand that he doesn't drink much. And there is such a mentality ... I don't know either. , in which he grew up, instead of giving him up alcohol, he made him a potential drunkard. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary? instead of giving him up, he made him a potential drunk. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary? instead of giving him up, he made him a potential drunk. What if after a year or two he gets drunk like his father? !! Do you think drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary?
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Your observations are correct - in part drunkenness is inherited ... or at least the predisposition is genetic. Yes, anyone can become an alcoholic, but some people are more likely. Scientists have been able to cross-breed alcoholic mice - they always pour alcohol under stress, which is not typical for mice otherwise. It is believed that such people cannot break down stress hormones quickly enough under stress and therefore resort to alcohol. This is genetically set. When your friend feels pressured or stressed, then he will mostly resort to the cup. In my father's family, everyone was a hidden alcoholic - that is, they go to work, have family, friends and are socially accepted, but they faint quite regularly. The family suffers, especially the children. I know that I am predisposed and do not drink any alcohol. I have a bottle of champagne at home for occasions and for guests, but so far. Talk to your friend and take him to a psychologist if necessary. If it doesn't stop pouring, be sure to dump it, because you will become the mother of another unfortunate child of an alcoholic. You can record him on camera when he is drunk and especially disgusting and show him the recording afterwards. If he is not disgusted with himself, if he does not want to stop and change, save himself! Some people (alcoholics) cannot be helped. He will become 100% like his father if he doesn't stop now. You can record him on camera when he is drunk and especially disgusting and show him the recording afterwards. If he is not disgusted with himself, if he does not want to stop and change, save himself! Some people (alcoholics) cannot be helped. He will become 100% like his father if he doesn't stop now. You can record him on camera when he is drunk and especially disgusting and show him the recording afterwards. If he is not disgusted with himself, if he does not want to stop and change, save himself! Some people (alcoholics) cannot be helped. He will become 100% like his father if he doesn't stop now.
I will tell you my opinion from experience. I have lived for 27 years with a man like yours. He was disgusted by the drunkenness of his father, a young man drinking. It's all up to you. Judge from now on whether it is worth the effort. Drunkenness is just as hereditary as eating radishes. From there, it's up to you how often you serve radishes in the salad for dinner. Know some rules! Only a sober man talks about drunkenness! About the amount of alcohol and his behavior, only with a sober man! You are the one who is able to sift his friends with a smile. And only those who like you should come to you. Do not be so afraid of alcohol and when he wants a drink offer him. Show him that there is a way to have fun without alcohol and the way to have fun, not discos and restaurants. We currently have over 25 liters of alcohol at home,
If you don't love him enough, leave him.
Number 2 - catch reading some literature on the subject. Drunkenness is not hereditary, but the predisposition to alcoholism is E. You make a big mistake by ignoring the seriousness of the problem. Comparing alcoholism to eating radishes is harmful ... to yourself. You run away from your problem and do not want to admit that you have been with a hidden alcoholic for 27 years. I tell you this because I am also the daughter of such an alcoholic and I feel it in myself. When I started drinking, I couldn't stop. Under stress, something inside always tempts me to drink. That's why I DON'T DRINK AT ALL. This is the only solution. In our society we tolerate alcoholism too much / especially such as number 2 /, but it is much more dangerous than all other addictions. It does not depend on the author whether the person will become an alcoholic, it depends on him. Until he realizes that he has to drink alcohol, he will not change. So it was with my great-grandfather, my grandfather, and my father, though each of them was disgusted with his father as a young man. My father was even beaten by his alcoholic father, which does not prevent him from drinking 1 alarm clock of vodka a day ... Children suffer from this. Tip - author, do not start a family with such a person. If he doesn't stop drinking, dump him. Be extreme. Don't compromise on this thing. Even if he is genetically predisposed, this does not mean that it does not depend on him whether he becomes an alcoholic or not. Will is the most important thing. For myself, I have decided to break this vicious circle in which countless generations of my father have been spinning. I don't drink alcohol and my husband doesn't drink. which does not prevent him from drinking 1 alarm clock of vodka a day ... Children suffer from this. Tip - author, do not start a family with such a person. If he doesn't stop drinking, dump him. Be extreme. Don't compromise on this thing. Even if he is genetically predisposed, this does not mean that it does not depend on him whether he becomes an alcoholic or not. Will is the most important thing. For myself, I have decided to break this vicious circle in which countless generations of my father have been spinning. I don't drink alcohol and my husband doesn't drink. which does not prevent him from drinking 1 alarm clock of vodka a day ... Children suffer from this. Tip - author, do not start a family with such a person. If he doesn't stop drinking, dump him. Be extreme. Don't compromise on this thing. Even if he is genetically predisposed, this does not mean that it does not depend on him whether he becomes an alcoholic or not. Will is the most important thing. For myself, I have decided to break this vicious circle in which countless generations of my father have been spinning. I don't drink alcohol and my husband doesn't drink. For myself, I have decided to break this vicious circle in which countless generations of my father have been spinning. I don't drink alcohol and my husband doesn't drink. For myself, I have decided to break this vicious circle in which countless generations of my father have been spinning. I don't drink alcohol and my husband doesn't drink.
From №2 №4 You are uninformed! If you can't drink at all with a drunken father, why do you think my husband isn't like you? It was my husband and I who drank when we were 22 when we were young, we couldn't unlock our home and the taxi driver came to unlock it for us. Now alcohol stays at home for 4-5 years without breaking even the excise label. We have no desire to drink any alcohol, and I was a drunkard without a drunken father. What you are saying about the PREDISPOSITION to alcoholism is complete nonsense, so if they had a person in Bulgaria to whom no relative should drink, then all Bulgarians are genetically predisposed, right? With such complete ultimatums that you offer the author, nothing is achieved with a ban. A donkey is not led with a whip, it is led with a carrot.
Yes, it is inherited. My father and grandfather and I get very drunk, I also have a craving for alcohol, I feel like drinking, but I protect myself because I don't want to do their performances.
Number 6 - I'm not talking about the individual case, but about the PROVEN science. Once upon a time, people like you were burned at the stake by Galileo Galilei because he claimed that the Earth was round and rotating, while they could clearly see that it was flat and not moving. Don't take offense, but read some honey. literature once you have such a problem in the family. I did not say that not everyone can become an alcoholic - this is a kind of drug, of course, EVERYONE and ABSOLUTELY anyone can become an alcoholic, but that was not the author's question. There are just genetically predisposed people and this has been PROVEN BY SCIENCE. Why do doctors need to deal with this? Because it is a big market. It is even expected that an anti-alcohol drug will be released in the next 10-15 years, but it will only help those who have the damaged gene. It's a damaged gene, which prevents these people from breaking down the stress hormone fast enough. The idea is that if this defect is regulated with medication, these people could be cured. And then you appear and tell me about your specific case - in science such cases do not matter. Thousands of animals are being tested first, then humans. The single case is not important here. And again I return to the author's question - YES, THERE IS A PREDISPOSITION TO ALCOHOL. Yes, it all depends on the will of the person, but as your friend left ... I don't see him being able to resist his attraction. People like me and 7 have found the only possible treatment to break the chain of alcohol dependence in the family - no alcohol. If I start drinking, I'm sure I can't stop, and that has nothing to do with my will.
№8 Prove to me through science that there are people who are not predisposed to alcohol. I claim that every Bulgarian is a traditional alcoholic, because there is no way not to have an alcoholic homeland. When we say that the whole society, without exception, has this talent in its gene, it is no longer a predisposition, but a tradition. True, not good, but tradition. And tradition is forcibly difficult to erase, the Turks have not been able to forcibly erase Christianity from our people for 500 years, you want the author to forcibly erase alcoholism from her friend in just one day. You say that if he promises, he will keep his promise for life. It is better for her to talk to him soberly, to change his thinking, for him not to consider it a boast to drink at village gatherings, but a shame, and this is achieved only by talking soberly. In the end, №8, if she abandons him, will she find a NOT predisposed Bulgarian man, who is never guaranteed to bite alcohol? My problem has long been solved, we do not drink, even on New Year's Eve we drink up to 50 g. Even my old father-in-law tells my husband that he is not a man if he does not drink, and he does not pay attention to him.
I don't know if it has anything to do with genetics or upbringing, but I will give you an example: My husband drinks and he not only drinks but gets drunk to oblivion. This has been going on for 40 years. At least once every 2 months. You may be wondering why I haven't divorced so far - but because he's the perfect father. He has never been violent, he trembles over me and our children. He always took care of us. It is true that when the drinking crisis came to him, no one teased him and 2-3 days went into oblivion. We both smoke - I smoke more. Our children are already big people and we are very close and help each other. My children, who have been chasing for 40 years, neither drink nor smoke. How do I understand it --- is it a genetic predisposition?
It may be hereditary because children of alcoholics are more prone to drinking alcohol. Looking around I see that often the children of alcoholics also become alcoholics or at least people who like to drink a piece, to put it mildly .... In my family there was no drinking and I have no inclination to drink, for example. But in the family of a neighbor, her father is an alcoholic (they are already divorced from the mother), the son is also like that and goes to some treatment, and the daughter likes to drink. And I see other examples with familiar people too. I admit, in addition to following the examples of their parents, ie the social environment in which they grew up, but also these children have some physiological predisposition to drinking. I assume, simply put, that they were conceived with physiological material / cells impregnated with alcohol and from there there is some "
"Do you think that drunkenness and alcoholism are hereditary?" - Yes, alcoholism is hereditary, rather, the attraction to alcohol is such (because not everyone who drinks is an alcoholic). It has been proven that such people build in larger amounts of enzymes that break down alcohol very easily, and it is energy for the body, as is food, and therefore easily addicted to it. I have an acquaintance who drinks a lot and I asked him if he has a headache from drinking, his answer is no and in the morning he quenches his thirst with beer. Just as a hungry person seeks food when he is hungry, so an alcoholic seeks alcohol when the body has accumulated an excess of this enzyme. It can also be compared to sex, when a lot of testosterone accumulates, the mind loses control of the urge. I don't like drinking and I don't know if abstinence is possible with these people, but I think that with any chemical agents (medicines or herbs) it is possible. Talk to a psychologist, he will give you advice on how to proceed.