Hello, a 14-year-old girl writes to you. I'm worried about my little cousin, who is 6 years old. He constantly yells at others that they are Justin Bieber or babies. He tells me to hit him or hit the others, shouting,, karate,,. He jumps out of bed and falls to the ground. Then he starts hitting his head on the ground, and hard. Sometimes he shouts incomprehensible things and declares war on my brother and his own brother. As he said this, I noticed that my cousin was sitting behind him. When he realized this, my little cousin called his brother a traitor and threw himself on top of him. Then he jumped to the ground and shouted. His father came and told him to get up. But the child refused and continued to roll on the floor. It's weird: to be so naughty, even though everyone in our family were meek children! Is there a problem and how to fix the boy? I ask the moderators to publish the story, because we are already desperate! Thanks to those who will comment without insults! One girl
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I'm sorry, but you can't fix your little cousin. This is not naughtiness, but hyper activity, ligatures and complete neglect of the child. What do parents think and do about it? Does the child go to kindergarten? How he behaves there, hardly anyone tolerates his ligatures. Although it can break their nerves there too. Does anyone communicate with this child or stand in front of the TV or tablet? How do you eat, what foods? As you can see, there are many things to consider. It is very good that you are concerned and responsible, but you are not his mother. At most, talk to your parents or grandparents to talk to their parents.
I do not know what I can advise you, 25 years old young man, I can only tell you that children are so naughty at this age, just talk to grandparents, uncle, uncle, they can handle the child just need your cousin to calm down, because his screams scare you and you are 14 and older and if necessary you talk to the child but do not stress him.
You do not have the right to fix the child, only his parents have those rights. The fact that you do not have such people in the family does not mean that the parents of the child can raise children. The only reason a child behaves like this is because he is rude. If they raised his older brother well, it means that either they received help from grandmothers (grandmothers raised his brother) or that they now neglect the upbringing of their younger son and their love makes them blind to his actions. As a cousin, you only have the right to defend your own dignity and personal space. Do not allow him to dig into your things without permission or to encroach on you, to grab his hands if he encroaches on a fight up to that point.
It may sound strange to you and the others, my girl, but here the question, as far as I can see, is spiritual. The boy needs the prayers of his relatives, and the prayers (not just one!) Of a priest. It is necessary to completely purify family life and religious life. I'm just saying - I'm not encouraging anyone to follow my advice. I know what ignorance reigns in Bulgaria at the moment on these issues. This was not the case with our ancestors, however.
Next time, slap him twice and see how he will tighten in no time! Such slimy children only fixes them otherwise, if he does not eat a fight at home with this behavior sooner or later he will get it outside. From where to where a little pamper will turn everyone on his little finger?
From the author: Number 1, his parents take action and think about it. He goes to kindergarten and has many friends there, obviously they are naughty children too, as long as they have no problem! Communicates with him, but loves to play video games. I don't know if he eats a lot, but I think so, because he's big. And thanks for the advice! Number 2, thanks for the advice! Number 4, his older brother is kind and meek. However, I think the little one is spoiled! And this 6-year-old child, do you know what nonsense he is watching: OKKO - to be heroes, the little titans and more stupid shows with bad messages (in one episode the little titans hit and laughed! What kind of message is this?!?!) !! Thanks for the comment! Number 5, thanks for the unusual but helpful tip! However, I don't think the boy will agree!
As I read, it sounds like hyperactivity to me, but even if it's not, it's imperative to start a consultation with a GOOD child psychotherapist and medication (IF it's hyperactivity) prescribed by a psychiatrist to control the condition, let the parents take action. Let them choose the psychotherapist carefully, it is important how the psychotherapy will be conducted, it must have a positive effect! And the most important thing is to give the child attention and care, I hope, as №1 mentioned, someone to communicate with the child and definitely movies with such a message have a bad effect on the fragile child's psyche and may come from them the problem, the child learns and copies the pattern of behavior in the movies. Good luck, things are fixable if timely therapy is started!
To the author from number 5: It is not necessary to attend the prayers. Prayers are beyond time and space, so it doesn't matter if it's there or not.
And, calm down, this is just a very relaxed child who has excess energy and somehow tries to be the center of attention. Of course, strangers can easily diagnose him, but if you have any concerns, go to a specialist and not read online. A child can be very violent, and if both parents were meek, this is not entirely hereditary. You are his cousin and you can't do much, you can only talk to him, try to calm him down and entertain him with games. His parents are responsible and ultimately they must decide for themselves how to deal with their child and how to calm him down. My brother was also a very naughty child. The situation has improved over the years, now he is as meek as a lamb. He had no mental problems, no hyperactivity or anything. We limited computers, we chose his children, we dealt with him more and he visited a speech therapist to work on the material from the preschool. In general, slowly and gloriously we all worked a little with him, took him to the playgrounds, wrote words at home and if we noticed that he was busy, we just let him rest, because otherwise he would start shouting and doing crazy things. That's it. You follow the child, take care of him and hope for the best. In case you have any concerns, consult a specialist. you take care of him and hope for the best. In case you have any concerns, consult a specialist. you take care of him and hope for the best. In case you have any concerns, consult a specialist.
People, she is the author. I want to admit that I am not 14 - I am 12. I don't know why I wrote this ... Maybe because I'm annoyed that I'm 12. I'm sorry, I had to be honest. Number 2 - when I wrote that I was 14 and blushed ... Well, that's it. Sorry for the lie, I just couldn't help myself! I promise I won't lie anymore ... and you'll know how old I am.