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Is He A Womanizer?

By nadyasoft November 02, 2020 20 answers Last updated November 02, 2020

Hello! I am a girl of 25 years. Last week I was on a date with a very cool and charming boy of the same age, but I have some concerns about him. Here is the situation in a little more detail: We met in Tinder (where some of the prejudices come from), exchanged Facebook and almost immediately agreed to come up with the idea that it is better to meet live than to write long vain novels on the net. And so it happened. Before we saw each other, I was a little skeptical and without any expectations, and it was my first and only meeting from this application. We met at the appointed day and time, but from the beginning something bothered me a little - as we crossed the street, he put his hand on my waist, which is probably nothing, but I find it strange that the first time I see him right. But let's ignore that. We sat in a restaurant and ordered a glass of wine. After the first slightly awkward 15-20 minutes, the conversation started quite pleasantly and naturally, until at one point it began to feel that some kind of bilateral chemistry was appearing and things escalated. By the end of our stay in the restaurant, his hand was already on mine. The second thing that seemed strange to me was the compliments he gave me - most were ok, but those addressed to my appearance sounded somehow exaggerated and unnatural (not that I don't like myself or something of the sort, but I'm certainly not more nice from the actress we discussed). When we left the restaurant, he urged us to go somewhere else. I was going to go home after that, but I was really happy in his company and I said to myself "what's so great" - and we went to a small and cozy bar. Everything went great there, it turned out that we were similar in some of our quirks and so on. But there was another yellow card - he told me that so far he has not been in a relationship in which he was in love with his partner - he fell in love 1-2 times, but only unshared and without development. I don't know for what reason I suppose this may not be a good sign. So ... things kept escalating, he was trying to make more and more physical contact - to warm my hands, to touch my knees. At one of the peaks of the conversation he tried to kiss me, but I turned delicately. He repeated this attempt several more times, but I kept pulling. At the end of the evening we were already hugging and caressing lightly, and everything was great. But he kissed me gently on the neck and I decided it was too much, so I insisted we leave, under the pretext that I should get up early. It was a red card, because I'm not just looking for a one-time dunk or a fleeting adventure, and a kiss on the neck usually says "I want you." As we walked to the taxis we held hands, finally hugged goodbye, told me to write to him when I got home, and so ended our 6-hour meeting. I was in such a high spirits that I could barely sleep. The next morning he wrote me that it was great, and in such a short time ... I answered him in the same spirit. Then all day, and the next day - no news, no bone, no written line. Whereupon I began to ask myself some questions - whether he was not looking for sex for one night and due to lack of development it was a farewell message, whether he gave up because I did not kiss him (on the first date is not it in a hurry ..), whether it's just a womanizer (there is a radiance of such), whether the chemistry was not only in my head, whether the hugs were not hasty and left a bad impression ... but in the end after 2 days he wrote to me, that you loved me ... we drew a few lines because I told him I was busy and I couldn't write and we agreed to make another appointment by coming back after Christmas. Again 2 days not a word. At Christmas I decided to write to him and congratulate him first, and we exchanged only wishes and that was ... the meeting - fireworks, the chat - there is no such thing. I really like it a lot, but I don't know if the idea is good, because I'm afraid of getting burned. I'm thinking about it too much, but I don't know what to interpret anymore, so I'll enjoy an unbiased side opinion. Thanks for everyone's attention and happy holidays :) whether the chemistry was not only in my head, whether the hugs were not hasty and left a bad impression ... but in the end after 2 days he wrote to me that you loved me .. we drew a few lines because he I said I was busy and could not write and we agreed to arrange a new meeting when we returned after Christmas. Again 2 days not a word. At Christmas I decided to write to him and congratulate him first, and we exchanged only wishes and that was ... the meeting - fireworks, the chat - there is no such thing. I really like it a lot, but I don't know if the idea is good, because I'm afraid of getting burned. I'm thinking about it too much, but I don't know what to interpret anymore, so I'll enjoy an unbiased side opinion. Thanks for everyone's attention and happy holidays :) whether the chemistry was not only in my head, whether the hugs were not hasty and left a bad impression ... but in the end after 2 days he wrote me that you loved me .. we drew a few lines because he I said I was busy and could not write and we agreed to arrange a new meeting when we returned after Christmas. Again 2 days not a word. At Christmas I decided to write to him and congratulate him first, and we exchanged only wishes and that was ... the meeting - fireworks, the chat - there is no such thing. I really like it a lot, but I don't know if the idea is good, because I'm afraid of getting burned. I'm thinking about it too much, but I don't know what to interpret anymore, so I'll enjoy an unbiased side opinion. Thanks for everyone's attention and happy holidays :) whether the hugs were not hasty and left a bad impression ... but in the end after 2 days he wrote me that you loved me .. we drew a few lines because I told him that I was busy and could not write and we agreed to arrange a new meeting by returning after Christmas. Again 2 days not a word. At Christmas I decided to write to him and congratulate him first, and we exchanged only wishes and that was ... the meeting - fireworks, the chat - there is no such thing. I really like it a lot, but I don't know if the idea is good, because I'm afraid of getting burned. I'm thinking about it too much, but I don't know what to interpret anymore, so I'll enjoy an unbiased side opinion. Thanks for everyone's attention and happy holidays :) whether the hugs were not hasty and left a bad impression ... but in the end after 2 days he wrote me that you loved me .. we drew a few lines because I told him that I was busy and could not write and we agreed to arrange a new meeting by returning after Christmas. Again 2 days not a word. At Christmas I decided to write to him and congratulate him first, and we exchanged only wishes and that was ... the meeting - fireworks, the chat - there is no such thing. I really like it a lot, but I don't know if the idea is good, because I'm afraid of getting burned. I'm thinking about it too much, but I don't know what to interpret anymore, so I'll enjoy an unbiased side opinion. Thanks for everyone's attention and happy holidays :) because I told him I was busy and couldn't write and we agreed to make another appointment when we got back after Christmas. Again 2 days not a word. At Christmas I decided to write to him and congratulate him first, and we exchanged only wishes and that was ... the meeting - fireworks, the chat - there is no such thing. I really like it a lot, but I don't know if the idea is good, because I'm afraid of getting burned. I'm thinking about it too much, but I don't know what to interpret anymore, so I'll enjoy an unbiased side opinion. Thanks for everyone's attention and happy holidays :) because I told him I was busy and couldn't write and we agreed to make another appointment when we got back after Christmas. Again 2 days not a word. At Christmas I decided to write to him and congratulate him first, and we exchanged only wishes and that was ... the meeting - fireworks, the chat - there is no such thing. I really like it a lot, but I don't know if the idea is good, because I'm afraid of getting burned. I'm thinking about it too much, but I don't know what to interpret anymore, so I'll enjoy an unbiased side opinion. Thanks for everyone's attention and happy holidays :) I really like it a lot, but I don't know if the idea is good, because I'm afraid of getting burned. I'm thinking about it too much, but I don't know what to interpret anymore, so I'll enjoy an unbiased side opinion. Thanks for everyone's attention and happy holidays :) I really like it a lot, but I don't know if the idea is good, because I'm afraid of getting burned. I'm thinking about it too much, but I don't know what to interpret anymore, so I'll enjoy an unbiased side opinion. Thanks for everyone's attention and happy holidays :)

Answers 20

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troydaniels30 answered · November 02, 2020

   The author: In addition to clarifying only that we have already agreed to go out on Saturday, I chose it to be at noon or early afternoon, and he agreed ... at least for now.

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mudapronovo answered · November 02, 2020

   He's really tanned for sex. Those who rushed to the first meeting so brazenly (after your refusal continued to insist on kisses, etc.) are just those who have nothing to offer, and tanned and two do not see. You have judged the person and the situation very correctly! To go and push villains to porn, and you keep looking. It is very important for the man to WANT to be known, to get to know the woman as well, to respect the distance while the time for getting to know lasts and also the woman's desire to kiss, etc. He was in a hurry to blow it under your nose because he has no other intentions, and most likely he has nothing to offer at all except the organ that ALL men have. But you're also looking for something more than a dick. Get rid of it!

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mylittlethings answered · November 02, 2020

   Being with women he didn't love can only show you that he is a user. :) Don't idealize him at all and don't attribute to him any imaginary qualities that he doesn't have, just because he looks good. He is looking for sex, some kind of adventure, a man, or a fish that will bite him longer so that he doesn't sit on dry land until he finds the cherished shared leboff. If he had fallen in love with you, you would have known first. The men hit them hard in minutes. There are no such movies, to go for 5 years and wait for him to fall in love. Either immediately or not at all. To the left. woman over 30.

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talkparenting answered · November 02, 2020

   From what I have written, it sounds like a well-learned womanizer, but it is not known ask him what he is looking for in his relationship with you, but without giving him an idea that you are looking for a serious one.

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sprinkee answered · November 02, 2020

   Honey, she just wants sex. However, do not forget where you met. I am always badly impressed by men who try to make any physical contact on the first date. I hate tensioners and I cut them.

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ladymoon21 answered · November 02, 2020

   Ask him these questions, not in plain text of course! Delicate! Don Juan

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violett_paulinn answered · November 02, 2020

   It is obvious from afar that he is a womanizer! Don't deal with it.

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bigcockcub76 answered · November 02, 2020

   Beat his jester and stop, such rushers are clear

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naty_lux19 answered · November 02, 2020

   Love is not a chat. This man wants straight by nature.

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xxxhaufxxx answered · November 02, 2020

   From what you write, I understand that you are an intelligent, smart and good girl. As described for the boy - just does not deserve you. You need a smarter man. F, 26

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hot11hot answered · November 02, 2020

   It is no coincidence that people have invented a joke about female logic. Special news about the author and other similar deluded girls - if a man is a "womanizer", you will find out after he fucks you and leaves you. Until then, he will speak to you and do what you want to hear. Such men "feel" women, at least because of their great experience. Sharing personal things such as never being in love or in a "serious" relationship says just the opposite - lack of special experience with women. But of course almost everyone who has been told something like this takes it the wrong way. Otherwise, in the second grade we must have kissed at "meetings". Nobody says to go to bed with him on a date when you don't feel it, but this pulling like a pinched girl is, to put it mildly, inadequate. From a male point of view, it can be perceived as a lack of interest on your part, or simply that you do not know what you want. Both are not in your favor. And lastly - from a lot of thinking there is no use. Which doesn't mean you don't think at all, but you better act on feelings.

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valeriesoul answered · November 02, 2020

   You can't act on sensations, it's debilitation, you have to act with reason, then with feeling. Otherwise there will be roar and snot. ;) The author has not found her heart, nerves and garbage time to deal with a frivolous person - looking for a partner, 12th! Look at yourself.

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wtfkissa answered · November 02, 2020

   Hello! It is quite possible that in the future he will express his feelings for you, but in reality it does not seem so, because if a man is looking for something real for a woman, then he will look for her not only to see each other, but at least to understand how is, what does she do, more about her. The fact that he is looking for you only to go out may mean that just sex, separately, and the fact that he was looking for physical contact with you on the first date shows that his intentions are not serious. In my opinion, if you like his company and you want to continue seeing each other, it's good to do so, but you have to keep one thing in mind.

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cremedelacrumb answered · November 03, 2020

   He looks like a pickup artist to me ... If he fascinated you a lot, he's probably like that. In principle, they teach them to seek physical contact early, because it is important for a woman to allow a man. Speaking a little ... Most really natural men (not what women take to be "natural"), however, would worry about being so aggressive on a first date. He is confident and obviously knew what he was doing. He is in a hurry, because there are others on the list ... So, no, he is not a womanizer, he is a professional ...

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kobieta21 answered · November 03, 2020

   I just can't believe what I'm reading: the boy took it that he touched the author on the first date and tried to kiss her, and you've already made him blacker than the Devil. Have we become part of Saudi Arabia? The girls I've been in a relationship with have told me that if the guy they're dating doesn't kiss them until the second date, they just cut him off and don't deal with him anymore, and they're valuable girls. There are some male haters gathered here, who now want to give it back to the men, fucking the possible connection of the author. The man had dated women he was not in love with and was therefore a user. Should he wait to fall in love first and then invite a girl on a date !? Number 3, aren't you dating a man if you're not already in love with him? Don't confuse liking with falling in love. The normal course of events is: liking -> going out, dating (possibly sex, we're not in the Middle Ages after all) -> falling in love. Look, author, you are facing an eternal female dilemma. You are probably a normal girl and you have more or less the same criteria for a man as most women. Therefore, if a man is attracted to you, he is most likely to be attracted to other women. This is a fact and cannot be avoided unless you lock it somewhere so that it does not come into contact with other women. "Womanizer" is a man who is liked by women and has success with them. You can also choose a man who is not a "womanizer". There are many of them, but most often they sit alone for years, because for women they are boring, there is no attraction and most of all to become friends. You can choose one, but then there will be no such "bilateral chemistry", this "uplifted mood that I barely fell asleep". It's not bad to hand out yellow and red cards left and right, but think that the other party is entitled to the same and most likely does. If a woman is too skeptical, it is felt. Would a man want to start a long-term relationship with a woman in whose presence I always have to weigh every word, feel like a lawsuit and never be able to relax, share intimate things? To some extent, you contradict yourself. You claim that you are looking for a serious relationship. You say that your doubts come in part from the fact that you met in Tinder. But you also registered with Tinder. What signals are you sending? If you yourself say that Tinder has such fame, and you want a serious relationship, then why do you have a profile there? Number 2, your anger flows straight from your comment. There are two possibilities: you are right and the boy is a womanizer or you are wrong. If he is a womanizer (ie a man who is successful with women), then he will not "go to push villains on porn". This is what men who do not attract women do. If you're wrong, the author misses a person with whom they have "bilateral chemistry." Yes, I am a man and my opinion is certainly not objective, but the same can be said for the other opinions here. However, it is good to look at things from the other side. Without this, there is no way to build a harmonious serious relationship. However, it is good to look at things from the other side. Without this, there is no way to build a harmonious serious relationship. However, it is good to look at things from the other side. Without this, there is no way to build a harmonious serious relationship.

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carmenyulincruz answered · November 03, 2020

   №18, read what the author wrote. The man never loved the women he had an affair with! What does this mean, analyze, please. In short, if you can. Don't stretch sweets like a woman. I'm number 3.

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ismailizzani_ answered · November 03, 2020

   № 3 (19), do you even know what the word "user" means? You don't seem to know, so it's best to check the dictionary. Being in a relationship with women he wasn't in love with doesn't make him a user. Neither you nor the author know exactly what the nature of these relationships was. And were the women in love in these relationships? If not, are they also users? Not to mention that love is something very relative. What is love to you may not be strong enough for him to be called that. Yes, he had sex with women he was not in love with. Well, and? So what? Mutual consent sex (with or without love) is something in which both parties both take and give. The same goes for a relationship where there is mutual love. As much as one is use, so is the other. The idea that in sex without love, you see, the woman was used, and the male user speaks of a very unhealthy attitude towards sex and is more suitable for a nun than for a modern woman. The boy with whom the author was dating does not seem to be a womanizer, even if he is thought of as such. Otherwise he would know what to say and what not to say, while he had naively sung his breast milk. Nothing, now that he's cut off, he might come to his senses and next time he'll know what not to say. But then people like you and the author should not roar on the forums that men lied. As for the "short" - no, you can't "short". Who is too lazy to read, not to go to the forums. he doesn't seem to be a womanizer, even if he thinks of one. Otherwise he would know what to say and what not to say, while he had naively sung his breast milk. Nothing, now that he's cut off, he might come to his senses and next time he'll know what not to say. But then people like you and the author should not roar on the forums that men lied. As for the "short" - no, you can not "short". Who is too lazy to read, not to go to the forums. he doesn't seem to be a womanizer, even if he thinks of one. Otherwise he would know what to say and what not to say, while he had naively sung his breast milk. Nothing, now that he's cut off, he might come to his senses and next time he'll know what not to say. But then people like you and the author should not roar on the forums that men lied. As for the "short" - no, you can not "short". Who is too lazy to read, not to go to the forums. As for the "short" - no, you can not "short". Who is too lazy to read, not to go to the forums. As for the "short" - no, you can not "short". Who is too lazy to read, not to go to the forums.

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julia_marsh answered · November 04, 2020

   Author, I read all the comments .... my advice is to read very well the comment on number 18 .. and I hope you understand it correctly. ... I am a woman. (not to think, someone, that I am a man and for that I am in solidarity with number 18)

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ko answered · November 04, 2020

   There are profound people, there are also superficial people. There are more experienced and inexperienced. The superficial man will talk and do what you want to hear to get you to bed quickly. He will let go of your hands and kiss you on the first or second date. The profound man will receive a signal from his heart when to kiss and hug you - maybe in 5 years. Obviously the boy is a superficial stripper, the girl is thorough, inexperienced and pure-hearted. The boy will break the girl's heart.

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nicol_wetxx answered · November 04, 2020

   Author of how things developed.