which is becoming more and more common ... it has reached 4-5 liters of beer per day, which is unacceptable for me! Personally, I'm not a fan of alcohol, I drink only on occasion and 1-2 cups, I just do not like to drink anything ... but I'm very worried about it ... we are still young, 20 - 20 and we are something, but if we get married and he continues like this, if we have children in the future, what example will he set for our children? Do you think you can tell me what to do? Do you think he is addicted already? Is there really an effective way to get rid of the damn alcohol? I talked to theirs (unfortunately his father was the same at his age and it is almost certain that he inherited it from him), I talked to him, I begged him to stop drinking alcohol for me because I love him and not I want him to ruin his life ... be it with me or another woman ... I'm not sure why the hell is drinking ... Only if he didn't drink he would be the most perfect person for me ... At the moment I have tears in my eyes ... I'm in pain ... I'm in pain to see how the person who I love ruining ... how he has a wonderful family, home, friends, a woman next to him who loves him so much, and he should be deceived by alcohol ... He even told me after another drink, if I still feel that he drank to leave him, I told him so many times to stop him that he already sees how I am tormented because of him ... he realizes this very well ... not even to stop him completely, to drink 1-2-3 times in a week, it's still more acceptable than every day, isn't it? !! I forgave him for everything when sometimes he hurt me unintentionally, but I don't know how much more patience I will have to forgive ... and how much more I will love ... unfortunately nothing is eternal ... I'm not sure that I want advice
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There is only one truth, and that is to sit face to face and talk openly, as you wrote it here, tell him your worries, I'm sure he should make an effort for you and himself, in the worst case if he refuses or does nothing, leave him alone for a week, for example, without calling him and seeing each other, kind of startled a little by the thought that he might lose you, good luck!
I completely understand you, for me the picture is the same .. What can I tell you and talk is useless .. I don't know if your man is already addicted, it matters how often he drinks .. I have already given up talking .. One day I'll just leave and leave him a bottle in bed .. There seems to be no other way out ..
Honey, I didn't even read everything you wrote because I'm in the same situation, but at an advanced stage, if I may say so. Now I'll tell you what happened to me. At first it was like yours, then he stopped vomiting, he drank brandy or vodka from beer every night if I told him not to drink, he makes faces that have a problem with alcohol, ie the alcoholic can drink 1-2 beers that are enough. for the moment to satiate this alcoholic "hunger" that he feels Then ... this so far is nothing was born the child, he continues to drink at the same time began to have health problems, (nocturnal urination, delirium, loss of memories) advice from me is RUN !!!! as far as you can, I also thought I would give up but didn't
And to finish talking you will receive countless promises that he will keep maybe for today, but from tomorrow "the old song in a new voice" I know that you love him and you think that you will deal with the problem and everything will be fine, but you will not succeed because it requires a lot of nerves and treatment life, you will wonder why please please? I constantly live on my nerves, I cry, I dig for alcohol, I don't consume it and I have to leave my child without a father ...
My husband and I worked in the resorts, because he is a nice guy and very contactable, everyone knows him ... Besides, he was a "competitor" in drinking, the bartenders were very happy for him, because he was the only one who could not drink, and on The 2nd bottle of vodka ... And he, like yours, had all the positive qualities that a woman could wish for ... When things got worse between us, we talked ... We are already married, we have a wonderful baby, when the evening is not over. work sits constantly at home, not that he does not drink at all, but everything is within normal limits .. 1-2 times a week some concentrate and 50. 100 grams ... So try to talk to him .... Because it's serious to drink to the point of fainting ... This is done when you are a teenager, and you are already big people and thinking about children.
I have never heard of a hereditary alcoholic. Otherwise, if he drinks alone he is addicted, but if he drinks with friends he may not be, he is still 20. You can judge best. Beer is not typical for drunks, but if you overdo it and drink while you can, it's bad.
He is already an alcoholic! Let's depend! Get away from him! It is scary!
Alcoholics do not drift, do not have headaches, do not hangover, they begin to drink when they wake up; sober are worse than drinking. Alcoholics drink mainly concentrate. If he had drunk 4-5 liters of water, he would have drifted from the huge amount that his stomach could not hold at one point. I haven't heard of anyone becoming addicted to beer, but that's how it starts, and your man takes huge strides there. Apparently the alcohol content of his beer is low, so he emphasizes the amount. Expect it to go abruptly on vodka. You definitely have reason to worry. Tell him that if this beer party doesn't end, you don't want to have a family, because you can't count on such a person to take care of you and your children or protect you. Take a risk, say the beer or me! After all, it's for his own good, if you love it - you can't see before your eyes how it degrades and disintegrates ... Try it, if it starts to bargain - run! Success!
"... which is becoming more and more common ... it has reached 4-5 liters of beer per day, ..." 4 liters of beer per day is = 0, 5 liters of vodka per day Serious amount!
There is a hereditary predisposition to alcoholism, I have read it in the medical literature. It seems to be the most difficult to treat!
Of course there is a genetic predisposition! But from my personal observations, a large% of children of alcoholics avoid consuming alcohol. The reason is that these "nice" alcoholic pictures leave an imprint in the child's mind and give an example of what it should not be. And to the author: Take measures from now until he switches to solid fuel! Grandma Penny
Well, thank you for the helpful advice and information you gave me based on your personal experience. We couldn't get along and we broke up anyway, I hope this is the best decision I could make ... :))
And what kind of beer does he drink? Pouring in a restaurant, from plastic gallons or in glass bottles? It is important because glass bottles have 3-4 times higher alcohol content. If it is one of the first two types - OK, but one Zagorka, for example, in a bottle has 12% alcohol content and then 4-5 liters is the amount! And every day!
Author, thank goodness I do to such people who act. Thanks! Grandma Penny
Author: Until №14 I just had no other choice :)
Well done, you will not regret ... FORWARD AND UP ...
Author, I think you acted a little hasty when you broke up with him. Hopefully, after all, this move came to him sobering and you will reunite. Many boys at this age overdose on alcohol without considering it a serious problem or something wrong. You need to talk to him, but don't expect him to tell you right away: ok, I stop all alcohol. Because every person has a character and can accept that you have to. And apparently he himself had not realized until now that he was overdoing it with beer. He is not an alcoholic, after all. How can such a long relationship, even a good one, be thrown away with a light hand ... You loved it, you want to build a common future. Help him realize his vice and overcome it. I don't think you did the right thing, but everyone has different views ....
Um, of course, yes, I know this, why it's something known in advance. Maybe it was really good to back off. I hope he realizes. At this age, many boys overdo it with alcohol, drugs ... But why should you fail alongside him ?! Maybe you really did well for now, after talking to her many times but to no avail ..
Well done to the author! You need such a man! Don't regret your action! You should know that alcohol reduces the blood supply and leads to impotence!
Congratulations on your decision. I'm number 3 and I couldn't decide on this step, but you did it, thank you. Everything will pass, I hope you manage to overcome it and with me things are going there, but I do not have the courage that you because we have a child, but I pray one day to get rid of me and that these 5-6 years seem like a lifetime spent in hell (excluding / child)
I want to ask what is in a hurry, I support it. Who doesn't have it on his head, he doesn't know There have been cases in which he got drunk and fell unconscious, taking a picture of his head equal) fell into the toilet and stuck his head in the purrs for hot water, he broke and the water rushed, if there was hot it would disfigure him he reduced 4-5 cars / decided to drive drunk When the child is sick or I he is not interested "get up push me to eat "it's already like he's drunk and he's got a drunken hunger doesn't care how we are every mother knows what a child is and being a hospital and every father of course but not her interested in what it is.
Up to №20 by the author: Don't be so sweet, you suffer after that, BUT for a while, at some point you get sick and forget about the pain. Although I don't have a child by him, I fully understand you. It's just that someone who hasn't experienced this can't understand what the hell it is ... how many conversations we had, I even threatened him that he would lose me this way and I would leave him soon, he always knew his own and said: "" You now what, are you threatening me? "" ... So act on the issue, it's not scary to be with a child, it will be twice as scary for him to live with such a father ... think about him, about what an example his father will give it to him ... I am sure that you will find a person who will respect and love both you and your child :) Such people do not change, even less since he already has a child he has not realized - no and do it, or if you do, it will be too late ..!
For me, things are a little more complicated, darling, but this time will come. I still have a little left.
From the author: You will manage, I know it :) You just have to have a little patience and courage! It's a pity that we really can't leave our coordinates ... and I just want to chat like that ... :)
Yes it is! At least I can share everything with you without worries. I'm from V. I think it could be said but know man the world is not so big, maybe we'll see each other some day
Yes it is! At least I can share everything with you without worries. I'm from Varna, I think that could be said, but you know, the world is not so big, maybe we'll see each other some day
Author: We are far away, I am from Sofia, the world is really very small, we can even know each other, I will also be very happy if we see each other to share opinions and experiences :)
We haven't written to each other for 26 years, how things are going with you. I don't know why, but I think you've reunited.
a piece of advice from me as soon as he drinks alcohol so that he stays to the grave clean and just is not ea tep