Hello, I start my story with the fact that I am 27 years old and I have been living abroad alone since I was 22 years old. I came and started to struggle with life on my own and try to make my way, I found a job and I am independent, I rely only on myself and I manage everything on my own. I have always wanted to have a person next to me who I will love and he will love me for who I am. I have never been in a relationship with a man for more than 8 months (this was my first friend when I was 16). All the guys I've dated I've been with them for 3-4 months, 5-6 at most, and then everything fails. It turns out that this is not the person I was looking for. Since living abroad, I have dated a few boys. First I went out with someone who deceived me and used me only for sex. We were together for 4 months, but I had no strong feelings for him, and when we parted I did not feel pain, on the contrary, I felt relief. Then I met another boy, but he lived very far away and we couldn't see each other often, so he didn't want to move to where I lived, and I ended our relationship because it just didn't make sense. Then I went out with another boy who cheated on me at 2 months because I hadn't slept with him yet. I didn't want to sleep with him from the beginning, I like to wait with these things. Here are all my relationships from 5 years since I've been abroad, and before that I had boyfriends, but nothing who knows how serious. This is my whole story until about 6 months ago when a boy wrote to me on the Internet. At first I didn't take it seriously, it's nothing I've ever looked for. Neither in appearance nor in character, but he was great with me and really looked honest. It turned out that he had been in prison several times for robberies and had his driver's license confiscated. I didn't take him seriously, I never thought I could have anything to do with such a person. But still, I wrote to him from time to time and got to know him and I don't know ... somehow I liked something in him. He was under house arrest at the time and we only talked on the internet for about a month, after which we saw each other. He didn't have a car, and he didn't have a job at the time. We started dating, and I fell in love with him, I don't know how it happened. I was so happy with him because my love was shared. He is nothing of what I imagined I wanted in a man. At 27, he was never single. But somehow I fell in love with him and that's how we became close, I spent several holidays in them with his family, including Christmas. My friends didn't like him, they kept telling me he wasn't for me, but I was blinded, he treated me like the most special person in the world, and I was in love. But then something happened, on my birthday he got terribly drunk, fell to the ground and exposed me to all my friends. Later, I also found out that he wrote to girls on the Internet. After I discovered him and asked him if he had cheated on me, he admitted without realizing that he had slept with a woman because she had bought him alcohol and weed ... However, I was still in love with him and I forgave him for everything, but over time these things weighed heavier. I remembered, and at the same time he remained the man who talked a lot but did little. So 1 week ago I decided to leave him permanently and end this relationship. Then he started crying like a child, telling me how much he suffered from my decision and that he would never love as much as he loved me. That he would have done everything for me in this world and that he loves me very much. He wanted to marry me and have children with me. He wanted us to have a family, but I told him I didn't think he was mature and ready to have a family. So he cried like a little child. The truth is that he has always treated me like a queen, every whim of mine has been pleased, but over time I realized that we are very different and some things in him began to irritate me and eat me from within. I imagined what it would be like if I wasn't with him and if I had a normal friend with whom we would have common interests. For the record, I have never lacked male attention, on the contrary. There have always been at least a few guys around me who have shown interest. Now I am tormented by a sense of guilt that I am making this man suffer like this. He says he will never be the same again and believe in love. I told him I wanted to break up for now to see if I felt the same way. Since I left him, he has been drinking, getting drunk and suffering all the time, and I feel terrible. Is he my great love He tells me how his life will not be the same without me and that I made him be a good person. He wanted to do good in his life for me, and now without me nothing makes sense. Help me, please! that he will never be the same again and believe in love. I told him I wanted to break up for now to see if I felt the same way. Since I left him, he has been drinking, getting drunk and suffering all the time, and I feel terrible. Is he my great love? He tells me how his life will not be the same without me and that I made him a good man. He wanted to do good in his life for me, and now without me nothing makes sense. Help me, please! that he will never be the same again and believe in love. I told him I wanted to break up for now to see if I felt the same way. Since I left him, he has been drinking, getting drunk and suffering all the time, and I feel terrible. Is he my great love? He tells me how his life will not be the same without me and that I made him be a good person. He wanted to do good in his life for me, and now without me nothing makes sense. Help me, please! and now without me nothing makes sense. Help me, please! and now without me nothing makes sense. Help me, please!
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"It turned out that he had been in prison several times for robberies and had his driver's license confiscated." I stopped reading here. I can't understand why Bulgarian women get involved abroad with the biggest freaks. You will find out if it is the "big" love that beats you or kills you drunk with his car, if not worse. For example, it is suitable for a white slave and what not, I do not believe that this one is local at all - again a Moroccan, an African of another kind, a Turk and a KO. And NO - this is not your great love.
To number 1, there is no Afro, Turk or whatever is listed there. He is Bulgarian, he may have been aggressive among other people, but he did not let a hair fall from my head towards me and even if we quarreled over something, I know that he will never touch me because I felt it. The fact that he had failed in this infidelity at first said that it was because he was not sure of his feelings and mine as well.
Hello Author! I am in the same situation right now! With the difference that I am the boy / man in the case. You can't imagine how disgusting it is for me and your boy to be abandoned ... And since I'm like him, I drink and smoke marijuana, I know that I will never fall in love with anyone again and I will be left alone. I haven't been to jail (yet). I did everything for this girl that I could only make her happy. I was deprived to see her smile. Finally, she dumped me after two years of relationship and infidelity after alcohol. And I know that She is not like that! She wasn't ready for such a serious relationship, it wasn't for me to have found a better one than her ... only that I know I won't find another one and love no one else in this way like this girl ... We liked it very much. I love her great and I still love her. I miss him terribly !!!
I don't think it's your big love. He seems to me extremely immature in behavior, and he is supposedly 27. He got drunk and exposed you. This is not normal for a person who seems to care about you. You obviously have a problem with the selection of men and your attitude in a relationship. I would recommend you to read more on the topic.
Well, after all the assurances that you have no common interests, that you don't like his character, that he commits crimes, writes to other women and doesn't make money ... you ask if it's your great love? !? You know, for women like you, I have no regrets. I keep hearing stories about beatings, infidelities and the use of various women, and I'm not sad, because you do it yourself so that you reproduce the genes of this garbage. You have male attention, ok. And did he choose of all? Are the others the same, because if so - change the environment. Is that why you worked and succeeded abroad - to end up as a white slave? Do you have self-esteem at all? First answer these questions, then think of the great love.
Well, cute when you say that he did everything for you and wants a future for both of you, why didn't he stop weed, alcohol, cigarettes, didn't find a job and didn't show you in any way (except with insevers) that he has serious intentions to you? The truth is, he doesn't sleep for you, and they use a woman's weaknesses to be in love with someone and make her a monkey without caring. You are weak, he has felt your weakness and is taking advantage of this situation. He was in jail for nonsense and because he deserved it, not because he was fucked. They took his book because he is a drunkard and is dangerous to society and does not deserve regret. If you want even more problems, pretend to be blind to the obvious and keep being with him until the male attention to you has evaporated.
Author, years ago an acquaintance of mine, like you, used to say: "At first I didn't take him seriously, he's nothing I've ever looked for. Neither in appearance nor in character." Their paths parted and nothing came of it. However, she caught one that looked just like a scarecrow. Apparently that's what she was looking for, I don't know her. He is afraid to stop in one place, not to be teased by the gargoyles. From many pretensions it finally became a laughing stock for the children with this miracle he took. And NO, he is not the love of your life, believe me.
,, I have never lacked male attention, on the contrary. There have always been at least a few guys around me who have shown interest. "This sentence shows that it's your fault. I understand you to say that the only ones who are interested in you are this failed guy and some other addict, that you have no choice but to be interested in you by other men and you just let them I think your attitudes, your choices (if you continue like this) will put you in a place you don't want to be. Then infidelity may seem like a bad thing to you. you have men who are still around you, tighten up and go out with one of those who are interested! Other people, especially with us men, find it difficult to attract anyone's attention at all and really have no choice, and here you are dealing with the lowest type .
At number 7, he stopped drinking, smoked weed and that's why we had quarrels, because he smokes a lot. Otherwise, he was always honest with me about absolutely everything, even about the fact that he wrote to girls on the Internet and admitted that he was upset that I was hurt, because I found out later, but he told me the truth, even things he didn't have. to find out, but he was honest with me and I appreciate it. At the beginning of our relationship he lied to me several times, that's right, but I don't know what his reasons were, he says it was because he didn't want me to get angry. And yes, he has been in prison 3 times, for a total of 7 years, but he has already learned a lesson and I know I see that he wants to change. At least he no longer reunites with his previous friends who failed him. There is no permanent job, but in his situation it is difficult to find even more that there is no car, and here the buses can't be relied on much, and yet he works and is given a job by the temporary employment office, but he makes almost no money. His mother buys him cigarettes and feeds him, and he lives with his parents. He has a good heart for people and makes me feel special, maybe that's why I fell in love with him, but I realize how complicated my life will be if I marry him and I'm afraid.
Girl, get out of this trap. He's going to sink, he's going to drag you. You only hold on with the feeling that if you leave it is over. You can't expect stability from a man like this. After 6 months of living together will become an animal - alcohol, drugs, women and aggression. Do you deserve this?
If you ask, then it is not. Or it may be, only you know we can not decide for you. If you really love him, go back to him, if not - don't. Maybe he loves you, but I think it's a mistake to be with him just so he doesn't suffer. Wait a minute, see how you feel and decide. ~ delirium ~
eh girl, where is your mind I do not know if I now start drinking and smoking because I want to be in solidarity with the grief of your loved one, does it make me unhappy in your eyes, will you allow me to suffer because of your decision to separate, will I become nice and kind to you for crying and speaking words without any cover? The real man he loves is above all responsible and caring, look around you and you will understand, the rest is empty talk.