I am writing this topic with the clear knowledge that I will probably take hatred, but I blame myself to some extent. I always suspected that money made me happy, but I didn't want to admit it to myself. The last 2-3 years, however, I got a little richer and felt it with full force. I don't know if it's because more money is something new to me and I'm not tired yet, but now I feel calm and relatively safe. Of course, I do not underestimate the harsh word of fate. You know, we've all read various Buddhist wisdoms about how our happiness should not depend on external factors and even less on money, but as unpleasant as it is for me to admit, without money I don't feel happy and out of place. And not for anything else, but I just do not like to calculate and plan how much I have to spend, what to deprive myself of, to have food, how much I have to save, that after 50 years. to have housing and not worry about having money for medicine if I get sick and I get sick often. Just some security to feel. And if I don't travel at least 1-2 times abroad, I don't feel very well. I have no obsession with houses, clothes and the like. I dress in normal clothes, I have a normal home, not the cheapest, but not something luxurious. My only obsessions are to travel and have nice cars. And when I say cars, I don't mean to be the typical BMW dude, and that's my hobby. Something like collecting stamps. I am interested in technical things and I am interested in how the car is manufactured, what features are provided, how it is promoted and I want to feel as a consumer what solutions they have invented and what innovations they have introduced. I am a big fan and I am a fan of calm driving. But I will not hide, that with a nice car I feel more confident and more comfortable. It's as if my happiness hormones are rising dramatically as I climb. It's like a drug to me. I emphasize that I do it entirely for my pleasure and I don't want anyone to notice me at all. Otherwise, my parents in the 90's (when I was a child) were rich for a short time, but because of my father's stupidity, we suddenly became very poor and it was like that until recently. I took this impoverishment very seriously. My confidence dropped dramatically, and until recently I still didn't let go of this lack of self-confidence. In the meantime, I studied, I started a family, happy with that. I had a good job and generally lacked nothing but money. That's why I started thinking about business. But it didn't happen and it didn't happen for 10 years. I was getting more and more depressed, it had become a fixed idea for me. At one point, this began to affect my marriage and I was about to divorce. Thank God my wife is decent and gave me a chance to make amends. After a few years, I started getting a decent salary, but I was still missing something. I'm just a perfectionist and there's only one thing wrong with me and I'm staring at it instead of rejoicing over the other 10 things that are wrong. I couldn't accept the fact that the thing I really wanted to do was still failing. I gave up a few times and then tried again, simply because nothing else made sense to me and made me happy. I just wanted to give up on my dream, but it didn't work out. I even went to psychotherapists, but they didn't help me either. By the way, psychotherapists in Bulgaria are in complete grief. They looked at me with a look of ridicule - a kind of flying in the clouds and where I went. My dreams were very brave. Yes, it was, but even if I wanted to, I couldn't give up. And only now, about 3 years ago, things started suddenly, because I changed the philosophy of my ideas a bit. But even to my surprise, things went very fast, which can only make me happy. And from these 3 years. so far i feel very happy. Obviously, money is a factor in human happiness. I was once taught that we should not think of money as a source of happiness, that happiness is a state of mind, and that we should learn to be happy despite the absence of certain external factors, but how to feel happy if I have to squeeze to make a salary? Maybe my father justified his failure, I don't know. And it's not about the money itself, it's about the freedom they give you to do the things you like. Also the convenience, the security they give you. And yes, last but not least, I like to feel that I have achieved something more in business than the average person. Not the money itself, but the very fact that you have built something in your life. I know it's not right, but I have to admit, it's true. I know we're all equal in front of the one above, but still. I wish I could be happy without money, but alas, I can't.
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There is nothing shameful about feeling happy about having money. The poison is in the quantity, however. Once you don't parade, you don't have a fixed idea and you're not greedy for more and more, there's no reason to worry. Money is one of the ways to feel secure, independent, somewhat free. Whether they are a vice or just a useful tool is up to you. Many times when I wanted to donate or help financially, but I didn't have the opportunity, I felt very bad. At times like this, I wish I had hundreds of billions. Not for Ferrari and Guchita, but for something completely different. Of course, there is no way to know what we will become if we suddenly get rich, but these are my thoughts as a representative of the middle class for Bulgaria.
Money is a bargaining chip for things that make you happy. They do not bring happiness in the bank by themselves, but by using them you can make your life a much more pleasant experience. I wouldn't say that it's bad for money to make you happy, but it doesn't have to be the only factor for happiness. If you suddenly become poor, you should not get depressed. Focus on the things you have, such as family, and not just making money. Spend wisely and don't throw yourself away, no matter how rich you become. Only when you appreciate the value of money can you find happiness in the world around you. And I live much better with enough money and with them I can afford things that bring me happiness. In the end, I don't see anything wrong with money if you make it yourself and with honest work.
Good story. You have nothing to blame yourself for. Just stay human on the ground. And you spend them with pleasure, you have spent them. :)
Calm down, it's not just you. I worked for a high salary and quit my job to do business. The money is the same plus or minus a little but my security is greater and I feel happier
author, in fact money buys happiness, but to a certain level. As the annual income increases, the chart of happiness (satisfaction, satisfaction as you like) rises steeply, but to a certain level. For the United States, that level may have been $ 70-80,000, but the data may be old, say about 100,000. After that, the curve hardly rises. That is, whether you will have 50 million or 48 is not so important, but between 10,000 and 100,000 the difference is significant. There is even a scientific explanation for this: if you look at Maslow's pyramid, at the bottom are basic elements that have a price tag, in the middle - not exactly, but money undoubtedly helps to achieve them, while at the top are abstract concepts that there is no way to buy. So, author, this is a completely normal and natural state, rejoice, that you managed to move up the curve. Just don't get obsessed and don't go to extremes, enjoy life, success and your family :-)
I'm not bad, but always keep in mind that the most valuable things in this world you can't buy with money (friendship, love, health, respect ...). You can buy some of their imitations, but you would hardly like that as a human being ... And also the skill of how to spend your money is very important, because if you don't know how, you will most likely lose or waste it without you got almost nothing significant against them ...
It's not bad for money to make you happy. It is bad if ONLY money makes you happy.
'that I would probably take hate,' - You would have taken hate if you had said you did not want a family life. Or if she was a woman. And in both cases - then the site would be pierced by hate comments in your topic. Now, not that there won't be people who really want to make fun of you with some 'sublime' camps and clichés, but they just don't have anything to hold on to;;) (well, now they'll see my comment and have a good time) the worm on it ;-)) Spend your money and have fun. Everyone has the right to live as he likes, and whoever inflicts some form of hatred on you - well, just learn to swallow and that's it :)
Enjoy what you have, but try to maintain a modest, average standard of living. I am so and I am happy. We were very poor when I was little, but since I took my life into my own hands, I have developed very well. I have a good education and a great, lucrative job. And although I can afford to visit exotic destinations every weekend, I don't. I save money and every month I buy food for a family digging in the buckets around my block and for a few other people in the area. You must not forget that one day the money will go away and you will be the same person. It's not good to fall from above :) I'm not saying to live in fear of loss, but just to relax and think about your personal development and human side, maintaining a modest standard of living.
Happiness is not in the money, it is in their absence. The worst thing about poverty is that one can succumb to envy, and this dries up the soul.
Super story ,. Well done to you and I hope you are in this position for a long time. Just about your wife. Don't blindly believe she gave you a second chance because of you. She saw that things were going well, and she had been with you before because of your desire to get rich. This attracts a woman. The ambition. If you say I lost everything tomorrow, the scandals will start soon. So keep that in mind.)
Of course, money is a factor in life and happiness. I don't think there are people who deny it. Those who have renounced money, almost all material things in life, live as ascetics and monks. For the rest they are a necessity. When they are few, there is a lack of security from impoverishment. From there there is a legal social development in which a person feels secure, and from there happy! When there is a lot of money, or at least insatiability and looking for it as a mania, then it is already a failure and lack of real life, dependence on extremes. These are passions that degrade the personality. Money is then not really used for values and life, or even for security. Security is then lost. It is certain that the lives of millionaires and billionaires are no more secure than for ordinary people. On the contrary. And statistically, millionaires do not live better, more meaningfully and happier.
Not at all! It is bad, rather dangerous and sickly, to be unhappy and to think that money would change that.
Money is the material equivalent of your abilities. In my opinion, it is not you, but the fact that you are successful that brings you happiness. And the fact that you have surpassed your parents is also very satisfying. I come from a wealthy family, as does my husband, and I can tell you that money alone is not happiness when it has nothing to do with your personal success and qualities.
It depends on what the money is, dirty money brings false happiness, and pure money is hard to earn.
It struck me that people who have money say that money is not important. They are important, of course, because of the opportunities they offer you. Maybe your happiness is still tied to gratitude and joy of your development, and money is the result.
If a person does not eat his money, the money goes to him - a folk saying, proven in life!