Hello :) I have written stories on this site quite often, I decided to write again. I have similar recent stories in which I talk about myself and want advice on something. This time I plan to ask something similar, because I wonder if there are others like me. I am 16 years old - a boy. Today I went out with a friend (he is also 16 years old) to take a walk and have fun, as we do, from time to time. We had talked about who exactly I liked, and I sympathized with a girl from another country (I know that nothing will happen, but what prevents me from liking her still, except that it will get worse over time). Our conversation turned to the topic that I sit in us too much (more or less so, I go out, from time to time) and not play sports (I went to dances, but for health reasons I gave up). He told me that I would find no one, and that I would be left alone, because most girls like guys with a slim figure (most girls where I live are bloody, which doesn't give me much hope of training to make someone like me). I came home now and thought about our conversation and why I am, who I like and why I am not liked ... As I said - I am a 16-year-old boy, I am thin, I have shoulder-length hair (which almost everyone my age I know , they don't like (not that I care about their opinion, I like myself more with the debt, maybe even longer)). (Soon I can start going with a bowler hat, I'm also considering taking something like a pirate raincoat, because I like it a lot) I'm excellent and in general, I have some general culture, I go in Russian (I like it I study), I generally like books like "Fantasy" (not that I read a lot, but it's not like I don't read anything). I also go out with friends (not very often, most of the time they go out with a large company, and I don't like that when I'm with 2 or 3 people, it's the most pleasant for me). I don't like the music that most people listen to - and Serbian, I HATE HER! I listen mainly to Celtic, Viking, metal, instrumental ... I'm not a party-goer (I don't like parties), I also don't drink, I just don't like it. Mainly, when I play something on the computer, I play alone, I generally do not play games for more than 1 person. I never had a girlfriend. I haven't liked a girl from my city for a year or so, now I like another one from Ukraine (a Bulgarian woman who lives there with her parents), but apparently she doesn't feel anything for me (no matter how much I feel sympathy for her It does not matter). Needless to say, no girl likes me right now, but I don't care at all (I've never had a boyfriend, I did not go looking for one now). As I started my topic, so I will continue. I haven't trained so far. Honestly, I don't see much point in training unless it's for health. I would start training (not much, but a little to start just for fun, not for the ultimate goal, because I just don't care so much, I'd rather spend time with friends training).
My choice for girls I like is pretty weird. I don't care so much about the lady's body, but rather her brain. Basically, I like girls first on the face (not always, this is like a first impression), then whether she is good, kind, polite (mainly on her upbringing I judge and fall in love). Almost everyone finds it strange, they even made fun of me because I like it in my mind mainly, and not in appearance (in a previous class I liked the most unattractive girl of all) (big, very tall and fat), mainly because she was nice, good, smart). Basically I like the weak, but the body is one, you can change it, the already built character, very difficult. Going back to the conversation with the boy - he told me that girls mainly like boys with a nice body, the opposite too. Personally for me it is not so, I would like some to like me, for myself, not for my body (which I am sure is impossible, at least for these 16 years I have accepted that I will be alone :)), I prefer it to be a bonus for the girl;), because I'm sure this is not the most important thing you can judge by 1 person. I plan (and I'm good at calculating;)) to start training with friends (mainly because I will spend more time with them), but no, so that I can like one of the many types of blood (I apologize if you are offended by this, just most of the girls in town are like that and behave like that). I would like to ask the reading audience, is it normal at my age to have such interests and preferences (about girls and to like them mentally mainly and not in appearance (from so many repetitions you will think I'm lonely, I'm not, I'm fine and I don't need a girlfriend, I'm just curious to know your opinion about it), don't look for someone at all (the girl from Ukraine is different, she has only temporary sympathies, I think I'm talking about a girl from your own city and not falling in love with anyone.) I also want to know what kind of boys/girls you like (mainly to find out if the boy I was out with was right or wrong). Thank you in advance!:
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I also look at the mind and intelligence in a man. He may be an unearthly handsome man, but if he was dumb, I just wouldn't look at him. Maybe it's some kind of sapiosexuality. As for appearance, I like tall men with wider shoulders, but as you say, it doesn't really matter, because just as I've met men with such a figure who haven't attracted me to anything, there have been more short and weak, which grabs me at first sight. I also like long hair or zero - number one. You are 16 years old and life is ahead of you. You will not be left alone, you just did not come across the girl who will love you as you are. Black Sabbath
Everyone is right for themselves. Be yourself and do what you like, don't be influenced by anyone. Somewhere there awaits the Great Love;)
Man, calm down! To know that when you reach the age of 23-24, there will be queues of girls after you. At this age it is good that you have seen the hollow light chalgarki (do not start with such!) There are decent girls, but there is time for everything (fate) So do not despair and it is not true that all Bulgarian women are whores. Have faith! At a certain age, girls (already grown up) are looking for men with intelligence who will be able to support the future family and they do not care how ugly, weak or short he is, but how smart and creative he is. Then you should know that stupid idiots will fight for you, but it is important for you to choose the right one (you have to be very careful). To know that women are the same everywhere - as there are hollow and light, so there are decent - so it is abroad! The fact that you don't look like a mass of illiterates can only make you happy! You are not the only one, there are others like you.
I don't think your friend was particularly right. Yes, a lot of girls like guys who train and who merge with the table. Personally, I am not attracted to them. For example, I have always preferred long hair to short, thinner hair, but only for appearance. Character is more important. F, 17
Of course, it's normal to like chicks in their intellect, especially if you love to learn and have plans for it. Unfortunately, the people went completely crazy and the normal liking of beauty turned into a schizophrenic attempt to become from beautiful to beautiful at any cost and by all means. And the end result is sometimes deplorable. By the way, because love is madness, there are all kinds of couples - thin with weak, smart with empty-headed cuckoos, young with old. The last few cases in the public sphere have been very striking. I will not quote them, I do not care who is with whom, I just give them as an example. There is something else - one thing is what you like, quite another - what you can get your hands on. Well, things usually fall into place.
Yes, it's bad. People won't understand you and will avoid you. But girls may like you.
Number 6, how come people will avoid it, but girls will like it? Are the girls aliens?
It is not bad to be different, in fact there are no equal people in the world, more or less people are different. And you are not much different. I understand that most teenagers your age are in a hurry to gain sexual experience, that's why your girls in the city behave this way. Don't think that all girls are whores, they behave like that in order to be courted by boys your age. Just as boys want to be liked, girls want to be liked twice as much. The difference is that for most girls the goal is not sex, but simple courtship.
"There are passengers for every train," as people have said. :) Your boyfriend was right, but only for the mass of girls of THIS age. They still do not have established preferences and see what is imposed as a standard. Over time, however, one feels that one lives not only with one's appearance, but also with one's character. Appearance can attract a person, but the fit of the characters will keep him. Not to mention that women develop different preferences for appearance over time: some like muscular, others - plump with a belly, others - thin and slender. That's why we are all different, not molded. It's just that you've already realized what you're looking for in a person and you're not guided by the "herd". The others will catch up with you one day, but for now it will be difficult for them to understand you. F29
I don't know what kind of friend is saying such things to you. Is he really your friend? You are completely normal. You are no different. You are intelligent and that is why you like intelligent girls. You don't have to play sports if you don't like it. Communicate with girls you enjoy and at some point love will come .... Good luck!
Author, everything in this life is normal. There are no written rules on what criteria to like someone and why. For example, I love literature very much, I can explain to you why I like it, but I don't know why I prefer it to history, for example. Is it normal? Why not? Train for personal pleasure. Make a connection with a girl you really like yourself. If you listen to an instrumental, listen to it. You don't have a real problem, you're just different, which is no reason to worry.
There is nothing wrong with being different! I am a girl and from what I have read I have great respect for you, because nowadays no one looks at a person's intellect. I admire you very much. Don't change, they will always have a girl who will like you for what you are, as well as people with the same way of thinking.
You are now 16, until you turn 18, all sorts of ideas will come to your mind about your image. However, not every one of them will be good, and as you grow up and change your mind you may regret a purchase. Now you have long hair after a while you may decide to make yourself a bare head. In my opinion, the bomb and the pirate raincoat are a bit extreme. It's nice to be different, but sometimes it's better to blend in with the crowd. What I mean is that now you think it will be cool to walk like that, but in time you will change your thinking and say to yourself "What a man I was." It is not every day that a young man with shoulder-length hair, a bowler hat and a pirate raincoat is seen wandering the city streets. Think about it.