Hello, I am a young girl of 26 years. I say that because I cannot be perceived as a woman. I never wanted to grow up. I have an unexperienced childhood, which I miss very much. Each person is different, unique in their own way. There are billions of ways of thinking. And everyone is evolving at a different pace. We choose how to live. I don't like smoking because I can't stand cigarette smoke. I don't drink alcohol because I can't stand the smell of it. I don't go to discos. This is not for me. I don't feel good in this place. I don't mind others doing that. Everyone decides what to do with their lives. I don't listen to chalga either. My desire is to be myself. In my free time I learn languages, I paint everything I like. I like to read different books. I like psychology, philosophy. I watch certain movies. I am listening to music. They have told me, that I am artistic. I love comedy, theater. I'm a little weird. I know no one is perfect, not even me.
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Just meet other artistic people. And avoid as much as possible any communication with chalga type people, and in general with people who you feel will be showered with criticism, or at least will certainly not accept you as you are - do not let anyone crush you mentally. Drinking and smoking have been around for centuries. They are not a sign of adulthood. They are forbidden for children because they are generally harmful to the human body, and in childhood the body is still developing and therefore it is dangerous to start from an early age with these things, but to be in the so-called adult age is still not safe, as you know yourself I guess, and absolutely everyone knows this and it is clear to him. But everyone who has reached the age set for adulthood has the right to drink and smoke as much as he wants. And the fact that you don't want to drink or smoke at all, but it doesn't make you any less developed at all - you're just lucky you don't like these things. Another thing - most people who look grown up aren't really grown up, they're just more confident, or at least they've found a way to look that way. Many people are also lagging behind for certain things / feel lagging behind for certain things just like you, but they just find ways not to notice them. Another thing that many people don't seem to think much about: each generation is different. A 26-year-old man today is very different from a 26-year-old 20, 30 or 50 years ago, not to mention a 26-year-old, a 19th or 18th or 17th century man, etc. As well as the one who will be 26 years old after 20-30, etc. years will be quite different from today. You sound like a completely normal 26-year-old from 2019.
There is nothing wrong with your activities. As far as I understand you like to do something useful in your free time.
What you do is great. Don't change you are unique. I'm the same way. It is not thought of as different, but as unique. Being different is not so bad, you stand out and stand out from the rest. Good luck and don't change!
In fact, you really want to be weird. But you are not. You are normal. At the age of 26, as far as I can remember, I ran the Society and Culture department at the largest news agency at the time, I had a university degree, I spoke two foreign languages, I read all the world classics, I knew the history of philosophy and fine arts perfectly. and I lived with my friend. Neither did I feel strange, nor did anyone perceive me that way. Most of my friends were moving at the same pace. We went to discos almost jokingly only on the sea, because there was nothing else to do late at night. The chalga made us laugh, we only listened to rock. Recently, my mother gathered at our cottage students she once had a class with. A colorful group of young people came, some with their wives or husbands, lit a barbecue, they cut their salads. It struck me that none of them smoked - I noticed because I offered ashtrays. Also, apart from the beer the boys poured on the grill, I didn't see any other alcohol being drunk. They listened to normal music, I didn't notice what, because they played it quietly so as not to bother the neighbors. After the party, they washed everything, cleaned it, got in the cars and left. I just changed my attitude towards this generation! I don't know in what environment you move, that you feel like a white crow there, but believe me, there are a lot of decent young people outside of it. And at 26, no one goes to discos - it's not just interesting. My husband, who is 37, for example, has not even been to a disco in his life. Learning-work, learning-work - when? !! And he says that somehow he was not attracted, he has loved classical music since he was a child, and there Mozart will be hard to hear. Your problem is not that you are "weird", but that at the age of 26 you are trying to attract attention with qualities that no one will be surprised by. I read your post twice, I was looking for something like "I go to sleep" or "I have a prophetic gift", but some such feature, but to make yourself original by reading books, I'm sorry ...
From a life point of view - yes. People are a herd, and they don't like different people. They all seem to be very individual, but so on. their "individuality" is limited to what kind of tattoo to put on, or what kind of alcohol / cigarettes they prefer. If you are really different - they will step on you, this is in their nature ... At least you are a woman, and men will look at you only in appearance and they do not care how strange you are. Unless you're going after the "popular guys" like another princess here had shared. Normal men won't care much. It's only worse if he was a man, because women are even more herd than men, and they hate different people the most. So be very careful with your "girlfriends". In my opinion, you will be better in the company of men, and without that men have more interests in some specific areas. Just a tip ...
I'm like you too, author! I am 36, I love valuable things - concerts, exhibitions! I am from Varna, I try to keep up with the cultural life of our Sea Capital! There is a Concert Studio in the building of Radio Varna, as well as an Art Salon, where cultural events are held - I recently met a woman who lives near us, we told each other stories, she asked me if I had friends, I told her I didn't, because they barely would you share my interests! And I'm fine, even at some events I am respected! They treat me, they appreciate that I respected them with my presence! Attention I would hardly get in a disco, as you mentioned above! I just go where the mass of people would hardly go! And since they don't understand anything about culture, they are on the right track! And you can also attend cultural events, no one will bring you back! This is from me!
Well, from what I've written, you know that it's not bad to be different. :) You read psychology - there everyone calls us to be ourselves. So I think you know the answers yourself. But since you are expecting a second opinion, I give it too - there is nothing better than being different, doing what you like and not neglecting what you are. All the best from me! :)
Strange, I thought I was a normal 22-year-old and I have the same values as you. Maybe we should meet?
I read and think how many such people exist ... you are no different! You are completely normal. At least for me. From what you say about yourself, I can tell you that I myself fall into the same category, only I am 21. I know other people who have the same way of thinking and living. My friend is exactly the same as you - he does not tolerate cigarettes, alcohol, has never drunk or smoked in his life, learns programming languages in his spare time, watches videos on YouTube about applicable psychology and the development of technology, loves to paint, dreams of become an actor. But for me he is not strange, on the contrary - I admire him and I am so happy that he is not like everyone else. I would think the same of you if I knew you. I don't know if these criteria are the things that make you feel "weird."