This car may not be the only problem in our relationship, but it is the main one. My girlfriend and I are arguing over the vehicle that was transferred to her, but belonged to the former ?. We both avoid talking about him. She caught him abroad, she says it was for love. Now he proudly drives his car, a stable machine, and how expensive it is not to mention ... I don't think I've actually met any of them ... I'm annoyed for many reasons. I'll start with the fact that when we're both in this car, I constantly think about the ex ?, how were the two in this car and all the naughty scenes appear to me. Other: I've been working since I can remember (both at school and now). I managed to get a tolerable car recently, I saved about a year, I gave 8 vouchers. My friend is 21, has hardly touched a job in her life and drives a car that costs 10 times as much as mine. Then: tossing everything and everyone, that my boyfriend is "mutra", "zlatka", or lubricating my self-esteem. She herself has a great deal of credit for the latter. I once asked her, "Won't you lose this car?"
And she said, "Why, will you buy me a better one?", After which I was so surprised that I fell silent. She also paused and said, "I guess so." He said it, but in that sarcastic and nasty tone that terrifies me in women. In fact, this is the thing that affected me a lot. It's unpleasant to hear, but from the person you love it's just like a strong and unexpected kick. I can't help but think about how this car was "made". I have an acquaintance who falls smeared in the mouth of a simpleton. It was once about my girlfriend and he said "how many German sausages did she eat until she got it". I try to be over such tossing, but at one point it boils over you. I pretended to be shocked, but sometimes such thoughts come to me as well. Overall, these are my reasons for hating the car. There is a contradiction in my girlfriend. She says that she is not interested in the material and is above things, but I see the arrogant? behavior towards others, frequent purchases ... If I didn't love her so much, I would break up with her, but it's different. She is really important to me and I think she is with me because she is also experiencing something real.
It could be with someone much more than me, 100%. I don't know if I can put up with this situation and if it is normal. If I didn't love her so much, I would break up with her, but it's different. She is really important to me and I think she is with me because she is also experiencing something real. It could be with someone much more than me, 100%. I don't know if I can put up with this situation and if it is normal. If I didn't love her so much, I would break up with her, but it's different. She is really important to me and I think she is with me because she is also experiencing something real. It could be with someone much more than me, 100%. I don't know if I can put up with this situation and if it is normal.
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Don't take offense, but your girlfriend is a materialist, but she pretends not to be. Your acquaintance who is smeared in the mouth is probably right or was a prostitute or mistress of some bartender.
Dude, she'll be beating your jester soon to be sure. Success!
I once asked her, "Won't you lose this car?" And she said, "Why, will you buy me a better one?", After which I was so surprised that I fell silent. She also paused and said, "I guess so." He said it, but in that sarcastic and nasty tone. That's disgusting. Should your relationship be built on what kind of car you can buy? I don't know about you, but I personally wouldn't deal with such a materialist. But still I'm not with her, so you decide.
I'll tell you something that will probably hurt you. The car is not the problem and you know it perfectly well. Fuck the car, the shopping, etc., but the arrogant behavior, this "I guessed," which is a clear demonstration of her desire to humiliate you. Yes, for her you are a pathetic poor man, especially since she had the other, that she tried to ... pamper her with expensive gifts. You love her - she must be beautiful, well-groomed, arrogant, she looks hard somehow. But do you really love her? I don't think so - you're just fascinated by her. I'm sorry, I don't want to be a bad prophet, and I believe that anyone can grow spiritually, but they're more likely to dump you tomorrow because of someone with a lot of money to give her a life she thinks she deserves.
My friend, I don't know how dirty he is in the mouth, but the other half is certainly, to put it mildly, much more dirty. What an impudence to say such things demonstratively, given that he doesn't even work and thinks of something much more than you. I think you have a woman who neither appreciates you and your work, nor knows the value of money. I would seriously consider what future I can have with one.
By the time I read "so I guessed," I was trying to somehow understand her, even defend her if necessary. But even I was offended when I read this, and I don't want to imagine how you felt. I didn't even dare read any further. I was just shocked by this attitude.
I wonder what this chick is doing with a grumbler like you? Wouldn't he lose her? So why waste it? A new nice, modern car that drives and not hangs on the service stations with the old crumb passed through who knows how many people. It's like moving from the presidential suite to a straw hut. I understand her. This is not about materialism, but about reason. The girl is sensible and knows which is better. How many of you will give up a new car to sit in a dilapidated, dilapidated pigsty, a new import from Italy with one owner, real kilometers from Gorublyane? As you develop complexes, find another girl and that's it. The chick doesn't have to put up with your drooling.
Rarely does a man buy expensive gifts for a woman, obviously he had no problem. She answered you too rudely, and why should men buy her this and that, and did she want to buy it, or his initiative? It is possible that in time he will find someone else or live a little and see how the money is made!
You still have time to get rid of it ... and you won't regret it.
That she ate Berliner Wurst by the pound is more than clear. You can pretend to be "above these things" as much as you want, but the best thing is when you realize that you are not and the moment has come when your wings will be cut. As for the car, you're just drooling. No non-idiot would lose a valuable thing, especially a shallow blood like your "girlfriend" is. The fact that she enjoys taking someone's car speaks for itself what shameless saffron is capable of. No, I don't think you mean anything about blood other than another number, she'll cheat on you 100 percent (if she hasn't already). The way he treats others shows how he will treat you - so simple and logical. Stay arrogant over things, you will get very hot, however, when you warm up how much you are actually below them. If you were above them, you wouldn't be here or fussing over a car.
Well ... I think it's normal. Why not? !! There is an expensive and nice car, why should only you get rid of it and feel good. Instead of compromising, it will be easier for you to do so. If she went with you at all, she obviously appreciated other qualities in you. More interesting to me is the question of how to pay for maintenance and gasoline on such a car after "almost not working"?
I have not read the comments ... Author, in your story I see only malice, envy, jealousy. All bad "qualities" for a loving man, right? Don't act like a complex mold ... or maybe you're just like that? !! The fact that the Bulgarian has the Balkan mentality and if a young woman drives an expensive car, it is necessarily bloody and "Zlatka", does not mean that the person who gave her thought like you and your simpletons "friends" around you. . Your thinking is very limited. What kind of car she will drive is just her personal business, she answered you very correctly, I don't know why you were offended? !! In the end, do you refuel, do you pay for maintenance? No? In that case, stop being angry and jealous, because otherwise I don't give much life to your relationship ...
I agree with 6. What do you think will happen if this "expensive car" breaks down? It is unlikely that the repair will be very cheap. If you are expected to give her money to fix it or buy her a new car, what will you do? If you refuse, you can be sure that she will dump you and find a rich man who will fill her purse for certain services. Get rid of her now. I understand you love her, but it won't end well.
up to 7 the problem is not in the car but in the attitude
Number 7, what kind of car do you drive if it's no secret that you throw yourself like a check on wet sand and allow yourself such insulting epithets and addresses to the author? Bugatti Veyron, Maybach Accelero, Bentley Continental? Because for his "old crumb from Gorublyane" the boy counted BGN 8,000, which is not a small amount of money, for that you can theoretically buy a very decent car, for example a 10-year-old S-class, or a BMW E38, if such for you cars for crumbs at least do not write nonsense, because obviously you are not in class at all. There are also more expensive cars - there is no dispute, but whether it is worth buying a car for 100 vouchers and driving cheap almonds in them - I do not. Money is made, cars are bought, but literate women are not and have never been a commodity for sale and never behave like an auction box waiting for the highest bid.
Dude, I don't want to scare you, but you'll be replaced soon. Your girlfriend is with you right now, simply because there is no better on the horizon. If someone like her ex shows up, she'll dump you instantly. Be sensible and find a decent girl who does not bother to work and who will appreciate you as a person, not your car, which by the way for this money I guess is not bad at all. If you stay with this woman, you will hear only the word GIVE. You will take her on vacation in Greece, she will want to go to Italy. You will go to Italy, he will ask for Hawaii. You will buy a car for 20,000, she will need it for at least 100,000, etc. That guy obviously had a lot of money, he was fed up with it for a few months and because nothing happens, he went to the next one for variety. . As for the rumors that it was love, it is very clear that he will say so. I've never heard anyone say to themselves, that she is a materialist or something. It was all because of the feelings.
Brother ... I hope I'm not a bad prophet, but this thing won't be yours ... it's very bad when you're in love and you see more in a person than he sees in himself ... your friend with a "dirty mouth" "he told the truth quite directly ... And" I guessed so "he says everything briefly and clearly (I hope I'm wrong)
I just shared your story with my husband. His comment was: "And how does she pay for the maintenance. Most likely she is the mistress of a married rich man, and the one from the forum is only for the parliament."
This is super-hyper-mega humiliating, to rush to make money to buy a decent car for 8 bucks and at the same time some kind of nothing that doesn't even work to make you feel like you're some unworthy poor person? !! Sorry author, but I'm getting mad, honestly! I drive a car for 1000 leva and so far I knock on a tree such an attitude, or even a hint of something like that I have not seen from my wife. I understand that a woman should have an education, work 2-3 vouchers a month and be more important - go, come, but such a thing, no thanks. The people said, "God forbid he sees blindly."
Author, as a girl her age I can say that I personally would lose the car if it interferes with the relationship with my boyfriend. Not to mention that I would not accept or even receive such a gift at this stage of my life. The truth is that she is materialistic, but not in your eyes. A person who has not worked does not know the value of money. I live far from the country, I went abroad to study and work like many other Bulgarians and now I am more impressed by how people do not really understand that joy comes when you work hard to have something, and most of all, most The most important thing is a very sincere and pure relationship with everyone. Money ... you have it at one point, you don't have it at another, but they can't replace valuable people or good times. Unfortunately, many young people everywhere, not only in Bulgaria, are like that.
This is a big deal of yours. The girl is happy, but she is not for you. She needs someone as poisoned as she is.
I read the comments and I can't believe how stupid and angry you are. What's wrong with you, BULGARIAN brothers ?? !!! You immediately attacked the girl for answering him with such a bad line "so I guessed" - she did the right thing because she put it in place !!! I can only imagine him whining, grumbling, frowning and angry. Constantly drinking on her head .... Ugh, horror !! But wait, he was a little boy, what happened, did the complexes escalate? Haha! Well, accept that he drives a more expensive car than you, accept that he has it without much effort, accept that he does not work and wander all day, but rides in an expensive car. Hmmm ... Life isn't really fair at all, it's time to realize it. Your complexity (and the comments of the above) kills from everywhere. The girl decided to drive her car, why should he sell it because of you - can you give a logical reason to sell it ???? I will be happy for you to join the discussion and answer me. Because I find nothing but a reason - malice, complexes and jealousy. I hope this girl feels it and dumps you faster, because obviously you neither love nor respect her.
Familiar story ... you will suffer a lot! Fight your feelings and get rid of it in the fastest way! I've already experienced this movie super chick with big breasts, little ass expensive clothes and shoes that can load an entire store and behavior that can get rid of you at any moment and second, just seeing her, but the soul of these mercantile offspring is empty! She is just having fun with you and at the first convenient moment she will leave you without warning! I hope you read my comment and you are not totally blind, as I was that everything will come out through your nose!
Don't listen to the negative comments towards you, because they are from these mercantile offspring, just like your babe!
Young boy, sooner or later this muffin will cut you. Nobody gave her the car as a gift, she just can't tell you how she made that money, ehhh, but we men are so dumb. It sucks that you love her brother, you will suffer, it's just a matter of time, I'm very sorry to tell you, but it will be more than sure. Your luck is like that, but there is nothing right, you will learn something from this relationship, you are currently preparing for the real girl who is waiting for you somewhere.
yes, the issue of maintenance is not to be neglected. it is not enough to refuel and drive. who pays for her maintenance when she's not working? in fact, who sustains it in principle? people, why do you attack the author for being jealous and malicious? it is bad when people are not from one rug, as is the case. the chick is used to a different standard (deservedly or not, I will not comment) and she does not part with the car. she is obviously used to having things served to her in advance (the remark whether she will buy her a better car), unlike the author, who works hard to make money. author, you're right to be annoyed and the problem really isn't just in the car. obviously the material not only interests her, but is essential to her. maybe he really loves you, the problem is that you are quite different in terms of money, and this is an important element.
Wow! The moral court of complex men has gathered here, who will never be able to offer something to the woman next to them, but they are happy to spit on any woman who has an expensive car or something else. Even if they say for sure how she got it, it's as if they were there and saw with their own eyes who she was, what she was and what she was doing. To kill their complexes for the sake of men who can offer something, women spit. The grapes are sour one kind. And I don't understand what prevents the author from driving her car. If she likes it more, why not? Because the problem is not in the car, but in the mind of the author, who imagines how she drove with her ex, what they did and so on. And because he loves her very much, he is deceived by the tales of various "competent" jerks, who at all costs want to educate him how this car was obtained. Have they been there, have they seen them claim with such certainty? And to dump her, author, as those who understand, you will do her a favor. She does not need a man who, instead of living in the present with her and appreciating every moment, is busy digging into the past, grumbling and succumbing to the "wise" advice of anyone who thinks he knows everything and is necessarily right. He left her rather and did her a favor.
I will support the above comment ... There really are men who would not give anything to a woman and those who give a lot, the author gets into some stories of what she did, and women can do these things, and in return yes there is nothing,,, ... then this ex did not tell her do this and that and I will buy you a car to give a person such a thing means definitely has invested feelings and desire, opportunities and you, she can you do things, but you don't buy a car. He just wants and drives it, maybe most would respond to your proposal like that?
"My friend is 21, she has hardly touched a job in her life ..." tear up, friend. Up to 27 Apart from complex men, which I don't know why women like you see everywhere, I'm a 26-year-old woman and I've been working as an author for as long as I can remember. I don't have a car because I can't get enough for what I want. There are other things to pay for and my savings always go to the movies - things like bills, medicines, textbooks, food. My husband offered to buy it for me, but he either has a car and drives me when he has to. At the moment, it is an expense we cannot afford. And this is not about envy, malice and complexes at all, but about a completely different worldview. The author is one, his girlfriend is another - she doesn't work, she has money to maintain an expensive car (where we can only guess) Maybe her parents are wealthy and provide for her financially, but again the question remains that she is pampered by money, and the author is not. His car is the smallest problem. Yes, he is in love and imagining how the woman he loves has dirty with another literally where his ass is, is hardly pleasant. But the car is the smallest problem and the author knows it perfectly. He just senses where things are going and feels powerless to stop them or to look at reality as it is.
So, I think she bought a car thanks to ... and then she said it was only hers according to documents, and she bought someone who you are, so as not to admit what she did. That's why she doesn't want to lose the car - just because it's hers. But here the problem is in itself. to 27 - you know I can buy a woman if she wants a Ferrari, but if she's a gold digger like you and the one in history, I won't do it because I can't stand them. If you could at least understand it, I would do it to make you realize how cheap you are. But you are so spiritually poor that even then you will not understand it.
You envy her because you are poor. You also envy her ex for having money. On the one hand, what she said is a little rough, but on the other hand, if I have an expensive car, I will drive it: D That's why I don't like Bulgarian men, horrible and envious creatures. Small sticks: 3
№ 30, your judgments about people are very lame and complexes kill you. Were you there to see what she bought the car with? There is no way to know if a stranger is a gold digger or not, because you have not had a gram of contact with her. Just like you wrote most of the comments about what the woman was like and how she got the car. But Ganyo loves to stare at someone else's bowl and judge the others without looking at himself. Especially if they have something more than him or more expensive than his. There is no way, according to Ganyo, they have acquired it unless they have beaten someone or are prostitutes. What confuses your woman's car and what is your job to comment on it? He is spiritually poor who easily judges and points out others. PP From you and people like you, I would not ask for a Ferrari or anything else, because the complex is evident in such a thing. A man who wonders what he can buy, he is no man. I prefer the little Fiat my husband and I bought, which does a perfect job for us. But you can't know or understand that, because you're too busy spitting and pretending to be an internet psychologist.
From 27 to 30, no one has bought me something expensive, and if I want something I buy it myself, I prefer it to be so. give something they do it to get something in return ...
Abe hey, "faces", did you deviate a lot from the topic? !? Surely all of you who have allowed yourself to so delicately characterize my girlfriend know her? !? Have I asked somewhere "how did she get her car out" or "how do I dump her in 30 seconds?". No, I asked if it was normal to drive a car from that generous "dude". And you, 10, should you shut up? Do you know my girlfriend, have you met her? !? I guess not. I can doubt all sorts of other things, but not fidelity? 100 pro I'm sure, so keep your wise assumptions. That it is not just a guess, but "more than sure." Laugh! And don't call me "daddy", I don't have brothers. She was a prostitute and I don't know what, are you okay? Having said it almost doesn't work doesn't mean that he doesn't do it at all. On the contrary - he goes to work, but he stays on his nice ass all day and does nothing. She supports herself, she looks after the car. So far, nothing has had to be done on it, we hope it will continue to be so. No, if I explain myself as a first-grader, nothing will come out. Here, it is visible. Mass? you stuck a nickname because he drives his ex's car. This is what my acquaintances do, most likely other people do. THIS IS THE PROBLEM. Because I ? I believe she is kind to me (with a few exceptions), loving and genuine. When it comes to the car, however, she is ready to defend it with her teeth and nails. I hate this car, there is a reason and it is very good! I know what was going on inside him. I had accidentally dropped some things in the back seat and reached between the seats to get them out. Surprise, I found a package of condoms. I don't get into movies, ladies, but if you find, say, your ex's thongs in your boyfriend's car, you won't be cool. His sunglasses case is still in the glove compartment. More logical reasons where to get? Fuck the very competent ones who stick nicknames and whatnot, but to be followed by the "ghost" of that one is not easy. I can't believe that my girlfriend, while at the traffic lights, for example, didn't think for a moment about the moments she had with her. How he spent her as a princess here and there. How she had the bread, and now she is content with the crumbs. As much as she convinces me that she doesn't care, that she likes me and her current life - well, it's not easy. Especially when I just believe myself and she knocks me to the ground again with "so I guessed". Because I love her and it hurts, and let me look complex. Because she must have made me much more frequent and expensive surprises. But it's obviously really about the worldview, not the car. Stop arguing with each other and prove yourself in this topic. Things have gone very far, I said above. And whether I will dump it or not is my personal business and that's why I didn't ask for advice at all!
To the ladies who are so defending the attitude of the mercantile. Okay, let's look the other way. I'm with my wife, but I'm having sex with the previous one. And she tells me to dump her. Me: Yes, but she has amazing sex and she is not a tree like you. Will you offer me something better if I dump her? ... I thought so!!!
Either accept it as it is - or lose it, because it will not change. I don't think your relationship has a future, because you're obviously a jealous person and you create your own headaches by imagining what she did to her ex. Remember that everyone has a story and no one is sitting waiting for you - the special one. If you do not change your mentality, no woman will tolerate you, except perhaps a Muslim woman with a crushed by religion and self-confidence and psyche.
Abe "men" !! :)) How exactly did you judge it to be mercantile? By driving an expensive car? And if, say, your wife gives you an expensive car, will you return it? But it's different for sure, no problem. But it is definitely hollow and light. I understand the author to some extent, but his jealousy is unfounded. Sam says the girl shows him that she cares about him. Accept that everyone has a past. Apparently he enjoys the car - just like a nice thing. This does not necessarily mean that sentimental memories connect her with her ex. What if she had been with Opel for BGN 1,000 and had sex with an ex in it again, but you had saved him, would you have been calmer then? !! Stop insisting on the car or just directly and say as you did here what irritates you. I don't know how long you've been together, obviously not very long. Let things develop more seriously between you, then I guess she herself will prefer to sell the car and get something cheaper and suitable for urban conditions. It will weigh on her by having to buy tires, change her oil, pay her helmet and taxes, etc., etc. Something will have to be changed, and on these cars only the bulbs cost a mother you and your father ... Just stop discussing this topic and show that you are mature and love her without stupid jealousy.
№ 38, don't you feel that you are comparing a situation with an object with a situation with a person? Or is this a normal comparison?
I'm a woman of 25 and I can tell you that it's perfectly normal for her to drive the car she was given. If I were, I would drive it too. :) I never return or throw away gifts from exes - it's still not polite. And since the car is a beastly collar ... :)) You men are big complexes when it comes to money and measuring dicks. My former friend was a worm with money, he drove a very expensive car, he only went out to expensive restaurants - he loved me and pampered me like no one else. Yes, but my current friend still can't swallow this fact - how I drove in an expensive car, how I drank coffee in an expensive restaurant, simply because he is poorer, drives a car for BGN 2,000 and hardly goes out establishments. It doesn't make sense for him to be jealous and think so much, but he does it, so do you .. :)) Drive your car in good health and so on .., I don't know what confuses you so much, that he had fucked her in the back seat. He's with you, not with him, as long as you've looked in the past :)
Abe №38, where did you get her to finally compare the car to sex. By that logic, she would probably have to throw away half of her clothes and jewelry to please him. This jealous man left him, you see that he has the mentality of a Turk and still lives in the Middle Ages. What normal woman would suffer his jealous attacks. When you're with someone, you want to be nice to that person, not make your life black. I think she was very patient again.
Abe 38 big filmmakers and complexes are bent. She does NOT have sex with the car, do not take it so seriously. What are these crazy comparisons. The author control his jealousy or leave the girl.
Author, I have now read your comment under № 35. Well done for ordering all those who have allowed themselves to characterize your girlfriend. It is very unpleasant, rude and unfortunate, but unfortunately the mass of men are immediately ready to put the stamp and speak with unshakable confidence for a woman, without even having her eyes seen or exchanged a word with her. Very ugly, even more than the mercantilism they attack with such fervor. Think about something else - isn't she with you now? So you are with something more than the former, even though the car is from him. She's holding on to the car, because she's a jerk, I guess, not out of any feelings for her ex. Isn't that more important? Raise your self-esteem! And when she was with him, how did she know she would meet you and live with you? We can never know. Do not be irritated by nonsense and enjoy life,
But of course author, you are right and we are not in class, it is quite normal to drive your ex's car, it is quite normal to humiliate you and not give five bucks for your opinion, it is perfectly okay to find coats under the seats, maybe that's why the sentimental value is great .... Your girlfriend is a super moral and honest girl and she obviously cares about you. hahahahaha, I honestly regret that I wasted my time and keyboard giving you a mind, shake your head, I guess you don't deserve something readable. We accuse the mercantile cheap gold diggers who sell their jobs of giving them expensive carts, but the truth is that as long as there are cattle, there will be butchers! I'm just wondering which of you is behaving like a man and which of you is behaving like a woman in your relationship. Do not try to assimilate what you read, you do not have even 2 grams of basic masculine dignity, once you come to terms with this humiliation.
№ 49, you are obviously sorry that you do not have the capabilities of gold diggers. Yes, there are some - and they exist thanks to men. And guess now who's acting like a whore.
Number 48 I don't know who the author ordered, but how rude he ordered is not just true. He will suffer from the mind, that's where things go, but he will learn with which head to think.
Author, you want an opinion, and then when it doesn't get rid of you, you criticize. Some tell you it's not bad, others tell you it's not for you and it's better to dump it. From then on, you decide, but to criticize someone because he has expressed his opinion, and given that you yourself wanted it for them, is a bit rude, don't you think? People don't tell you what to do, they just tell you what they think. Will you tell them what to think or will you forbid them to think? If you can't stand the answers, you better not have posted the topic.
I'm not saying your girlfriend's or yours's behavior is bad. But I think that at different stages of development and on this occasion you have no future in my opinion. That is, you are both decent in your own way, but you are not for each other. This situation speaks to different priorities and value systems, author.
Author, I sympathize with you! If I were you, I would make her change the job between her legs. Imagine that every time you do it orally, it's like you make a candle to your ex and your friend, because his hero was there too.